Monday Bitchfest

jay3907 · May 2014

I'm 2 days past due date, getting more and more uncomfortable everyday. And getting really tired of all the comments from people who see me saying " Omg that baby still hasn't come out yet!" and the texts from people asking "Baby here yet?" or "any news". It was nice at first, but now I am absolutely sick of it. I want my son out more then anyone and the constant reminders that he isn't, aren't helping.

Esbi25 · May 2014

My mom is absolutely convinced that getting an epidural is such a terrible decision that will cause permanent back damage. She did not get one with my sister or I and my sister did not get one with her 3 children (though she begged during her last one, she progressed too quickly).

I ended up getting one with my first son once pitocin was mentioned, as I heard enough stories about the intensity of pitocin contractions.

I've explained to my mom that I've read a TON of birth stories on these message boards and I have yet to read someone having permanent back damage from an epidural. I know that doesn't make me a medical professional by any means, but I do think it gives me a pretty realistic perspective on things.

She, on the other hand, thinks she is a pro because she was a nurse some THIRTY years ago. And she has ONE friend who claims to have some back pain ever since she gave birth 30 years ago. I asked her to send me an article with statistics showing the likelihood of having long term back issues from an epidural and she just gets all huffy and says I was a NURSE. That's her justification. She doesn't need scientific evidence because she was a NURSE so she is always right. Yeah. Sure. She drives me absolutely insane.

End rant.

skyrockets · May 2014

Two things that are causing me more anxiety than thinking about contractions, water breaking, labour, delivery, epidural?

1. Catheter

2. Breastfeeding (specifically, nipple pain).

Maybe not a bitchfest, but not worthy of a new thread either.

pistolpackinmomma · May 2014

jenb_99 said:
I just remembered another...

We haven't settled on a name for this baby yet, and people are really starting to act offended over it, as if we're intentionally being coy or withholding important information. My mom is the worst. She's convinced we're pulling some kind of control-freak power play by trying to keep everyone out of the loop. Why would we do that? What does someone gain by holding out on revealing a baby name?

We honestly just haven't found anything we absolutely love or can imagine for our baby. When we do know, we'll share. Before then, butt out.

We're team green. My MIL still thinks that we know and is still waiting for us to do a reveal. We also don't do names until after they are born. We had family last time upset that we wouldn't just tell them the name, the one that we didn't know yet.

pistolpackinmomma · May 2014

Carpenter627 said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

mary97 said:
Another one about my SIL - She's being so courteous by driving my MIL down for Mother's Day so I don't have to worry about driving up there. (sarcasm) No idea what time, they mentioned everything from brunch to dinner. I really don't want them there. Even though Jane isn't an outside baby yet I still feel like I want to celebrate my first mother's day alone with my husband. Not entertaining his mom and sister because since no one on that side plans anything, we won't have any reservations anywhere and other restaurants will be extremely crowded and they won't want to wait. Also, what about my mom?
My first MD was ruined by having dinner with my MIL where she informed me that my new hair cut/color looked hideous. Thanks bitch.

@pistolpackinmomma Your MIL stories just get better and better! I can't believe you put up with her!

Haha good news is I don't know if she's coming over this week (probably) but we won't be seeing them this weekend at all because DH won't even be home for 24 hours this weekend and he said he'd rather spend that little time at home with me. I told him that was the best MD present ever. And next week I'm going to request she not come over so I can have some quiet relaxing time before all hell breaks loose since it's the day before my RCS. Then the following week DH will be here to buffer if she comes over. Oh and I got DH to agree she doesn't need to stay over night when it's her turn to "help".

spinsoffresonance · May 2014

Jennyinheaven said:

busterbeagle said:
One week PP and I've lost 8 lbs. the baby alone was almost 7. Wtf, body?
Two weeks PP here I lost 20, but now I am stuck, swore I would eat only healthy foods while breastfeeding instead had ice cream for lunch today....

When I had DD she was over 8lbs. I left te hospital at 5 days PP heavier than I went in!

DH just sent me to the store to buy him ice cream...

ho11yday · May 2014

Esbi25 said:
I asked her to send me an article with statistics showing the likelihood of having long term back issues from an epidural and she just gets all huffy and says I was a NURSE. That's her justification. She doesn't need scientific evidence because she was a NURSE so she is always right. Yeah. Sure.

I love this, as it is the default answer from anyone who is, was, or is thinking about being a nurse (or worked in a doctors office for that matter) when asked any question about medication or the general field of medicine. (Okay, vast oversimplification. )

lavendergiraffes · May 2014

I'm 38 weeks and people who say these things can go to hell;

1. How do you feel?
2. You look like you've dropped. (or) You've definitely dropped. (I've been low the whole time, I'm not sure there is room to drop)
3. I hope that baby comes in the next few days! (Um, no. Still not ready.)
4. You look miserable. (Thanks Asshole)
5. Are you excited? (I seriously hate that question
6. Are you feeling contractions/are you dilated or effaced/anything that has to do with my bodily functions.

I know there's more that I've been getting but this is why Friday is my last day. Most of the people who say this are at work so I can avoid that when I get closer and if I go over my due date. Any calls, texts and Facebook anything can hopefully be ignored.

At least I haven't been asked about my mucus plug!! Haha

Snikle512 · May 2014

I have been up since 2:30 am with contractions every ten mins and I feel like I am making no progress. Its now 12 hours in and I'm thinking a stork should just drop me the baby. This is baby #5 and has been the hardest pregnancy. I'm due in 3 days and I'm ready to have this baby!!!!

lrmrtn · May 2014

I have a couple more -

My car needs brake repairs that we can't afford.

DH seems way too nonchalant about our financial situation. I'm not sure what he's actually doing about it now that as of Friday we'll have no income. And a baby soon after that...

jenb_99 · May 2014

ltay1982 said:

Two things that are causing me more anxiety than thinking about contractions, water breaking, labour, delivery, epidural?

1. Catheter
2. Breastfeeding (specifically, nipple pain).

Maybe not a bitchfest, but not worthy of a new thread either.

Dude. Mark this one off your list immediately. The catheter is AMAZING. It's the best part of being in the hospital. Not painful to insert or remove, can't feel it while it's in there, and you can pee lying in bed. It doesn't get any better than that. Srsly. I wish I had one right now, actually.

The IV I could do without, but I seriously love the catheter, even as sick and twisted as that sounds.

ksyknelvr73 · May 2014

ltay1982 said:
Two things that are causing me more anxiety than thinking about contractions, water breaking, labour, delivery, epidural?

1. Catheter
2. Breastfeeding (specifically, nipple pain).

Maybe not a bitchfest, but not worthy of a new thread either.

I was irrationally nervous about a catheter and let me tell you, it wasn't bad at all. I hope that helps ease your mind a bit.

The nipple pain, however....sorry.

Sdufort1216 · May 2014

yaaa the whole how are you feeling question is getting so old . obviously I feel like crap! who at 38 wks doesn't!? then there's the people who ask again after ten minutes because they can't think of anything else to say. my new answer has been " done" for the past 2 weeks

Esbi25 · May 2014

ho11yday said:

Esbi25 said:
I asked her to send me an article with statistics showing the likelihood of having long term back issues from an epidural and she just gets all huffy and says I was a NURSE. That's her justification. She doesn't need scientific evidence because she was a NURSE so she is always right. Yeah. Sure.
I love this, as it is the default answer from anyone who is, was, or is thinking about being a nurse (or worked in a doctors office for that matter) when asked any question about medication or the general field of medicine. (Okay, vast oversimplification. )

Haha it's my mom's favorite. Last time my son was sick, she took him to the doc for me while I was at work. She tried to convince me that the only reason they caved and gave him an antibiotic was because she casually mentioned that she used to be a nurse... Not because it was his second visit in a week and be was running a fever and clearly miserable... No, mom, I'm sure it was the nurse comment. Thank God she was one - I can't imagine how normal people get any proper medical care :-p

RedInLove · May 2014

Jennyinheaven said:
Two weeks PP here I lost 20, but now I am stuck, swore I would eat only healthy foods while breastfeeding instead had ice cream for lunch today....

^^I'm meeting a friend for ice cream on Wednesday. We're also getting lunch. LOL, that's exactly how I put it to her today too!

jenb_99 said:

We haven't settled on a name for this baby yet, and people are really starting to act offended over it, as if we're intentionally being coy or withholding important information. My mom is the worst. She's convinced we're pulling some kind of control-freak power play by trying to keep everyone out of the loop. Why would we do that? What does someone gain by holding out on revealing a baby name?

^^We have a first name picked (still finalizing middle name), but are also not telling family yet. We do have a back-up name in case we see LO and our first choice doesn't seem to fit. So just in case we do change our mind, we decided not to tell our name choices at all because we don't want to deal with any comments before or after LO arrives. They will know only one name for LO and that's it. And I have no guilt over it.

mrspopsicle · May 2014

It's Nurses' Week - show the nurses some love!

In all seriousness, I'm a nurse and I hate when other (current or otherwise) nurses act like they know it all because they are/were a nurse. Nursing is pretty specialized and I would never pretend to be an expert beyond my own speciality (pediatric critical care and congenital heart defects). Even then, I learn something everyday I work.

I generally prefer other medical professionals not to know I'm a nurse when treating me or my family. They skip over a lot of information and teaching assuming I should know it.

ns1 · May 2014

Ooh. Another! I have my GBS test Wednesday so I have to actually shave. Bleh

Ezilia · May 2014

May 5th = due date and I am still pregnant. B****

Helmink0804 · May 2014

I wanted to tell my two Aunts to fuck off last night! We were over at my moms visiting with some of my Aunts and Uncles- while I was changing a diaper my two Aunts looked over and noticed the clapper on her cord and boy did they think that was odd and that it shouldn't be there and something just wasn't right. They went on and on about this for about a half hour. Telling me how I really need to ask the pedi about it and that the cord will never fall off with it on there.
I was getting so pissed at them- I kept telling them I'll ask when I call the pedi tomorrow- but I'm sure it's ok or one of the nurse that were in and out of our room would of said something or one of the in house pedis would of said something about it.
My one Aunt was so taken back by this that she had to text her DIL (who's only a teacher) to see what she thought and to make sure it was ok- just bc she was the last recent one to have a baby! Which she said was fine that that's how they do it now- which BTW was my Aunts GRANDDAUGHTER- so obviously she didn't pay attention to her OWN granddaughters belly!
I was so PISSED I was shaking with anger and almost in tears when they left- my cousin and her wife looked at me and said if looks could kill daggers would of been shooting out of my eyes.

momthatlifts · May 2014

Also, what is it about a pregnant woman at 9 months that makes people want to stare? I even had someone take a double glance at me. Wtf? I felt like it was so rude. I didn't even want to be out shopping anymore

whitneymarie003 · May 2014

I don't even know where to begin I have so much I feel like complaining about.

My MIL calls daily to see if I've gone into labor. As if we wouldn't call them when it happens. I stopped answering so she calls DH now. I also don't understand why she asks if I've dilated more between appointments... I can't check myself.

Ran into a woman at the bank today and she was AWing about our nursery (DH spent almost a year painting a full room mural of the 100 acre wood) and she literally told me that having him paint the nursery was the equivalent to me carrying / delivering the baby.

A woman at Church came up behind me and pinched my sides and said "You've completely lost your waist!" ... after I spent that entire morning crying because most of my maternity clothes don't fit. DH heard her and lost it.

I'm just entirely done going in public and answering "You ain't had that baby yet?"

I'm so ready for him to be here!

ho11yday · May 2014

Silly, but my SIL3 and MIL are driving me nuts. DH hot a text from his mother saying that his sister is dilated to a 2 and that it means she can go early. First of all, she is only 34 weeks (almost 35); second of all, she has attention whored her entire pregnancy - I feel this is just one of those instances.

awc1986 · May 2014

I know it's tues, but I have a 3 day old baby so time means nothing to me right now.

Anyway my bitch is how disorganised the midwives were on the postpartum ward. DD didn't get her newborn check until she was 40 hours old, but she was supposed to get it within 6 hours. They kept making me wait for help and told me to wait for the drug trolley to come round when I asked for pain relief for cramps. I was waiting an hour.
They also didn't teach me how to FF
from scratch. They just gave me a pre-made bottle and roughly showed DH how to feed/wind because I had to eat my dinner at that moment. I ended up breaking down in tears infront of a midwife at 6am and she was amazed nobody had explained the process to me.
I was also kept waiting hours and hours for the dr to see me before I could be discharged. I lost count of how many women came and went while I was there, but I just kept getting overlooked because I didn't breast feed. DD was FFing fine, but because she wasn't BFing, I wasn't an easy case for them. I ended up staying over 48 hours, but could have got away much sooner if they had their act together and given DD her newborn checks within 6 hours. Everyone else on the ward had them done within that time, but they kept missing me.
At least I'm home now with my beautiful daughter. She's just perfect.

Jennyinheaven · May 2014

@awc1986‌ love the daughter part, hate to hear you had such a PITA experience with your midwives. but congratulations!!!!!

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