I just read a disturbing article about the safety of the UV lights used for gel manicure and now I feel like I should give them up and I"m probably way more sad about it than I should be.
I just read a disturbing article about the safety of the UV lights used for gel manicure and now I feel like I should give them up and I"m probably way more sad about it than I should be.
I just read a disturbing article about the safety of the UV lights used for gel manicure and now I feel like I should give them up and I"m probably way more sad about it than I should be.
My lady (the same one who gives me cosmos) puts these special gloves and sunblock on my hands when I get the gel nails. @phill027 Sorry dear, i'm sure you can't use it right now. I checked last time with my OB.
@mrandmrsk91011 Would you like to put a special hit out of him? I can come over and jack his office up as a warning if you don't want him to be harmed yet.
MH is being a butt again today so I took E out to lunch up in Ann Arbor. The place I wanted to go had a 25 min wait and E was hungry so I took her to the place next door. Turns out it was a fancier bistro...I was wearing a baseball hat and sweatshirt...so they sat us in a corner, lol. But if I hadn't found some amazing looking cod at the grocery store, I would be tempted to take E to dinner as well since MH "is not home today" (according to the note he left on the office door. He's hiding in there). I will, though, not tell him when dinner is ready or tell him when E and I are going to bed. If he's gonna act like he's 5, I'm not going to egg him on.
I didn't know you had two children!
Oh, wait.
Guys are painfully childish sometimes. Creeper hugs.
MH is being a butt again today so I took E out to lunch up in Ann Arbor. The place I wanted to go had a 25 min wait and E was hungry so I took her to the place next door. Turns out it was a fancier bistro...I was wearing a baseball hat and sweatshirt...so they sat us in a corner, lol.
But if I hadn't found some amazing looking cod at the grocery store, I would be tempted to take E to dinner as well since MH "is not home today" (according to the note he left on the office door. He's hiding in there). I will, though, not tell him when dinner is ready or tell him when E and I are going to bed. If he's gonna act like he's 5, I'm not going to egg him on.
Well how could you tell him if he isn't home!? ;-)
We should def start a support group. My family calls me the "Sugar Queen"
This leads me to my confession: I bought a Lindt Chocolate bar from this kid selling candy outside the store to support his organization. I know damn well I don't like chocolate but i'm sitting at my desk eating it. Why am I eating it you ask? This is because "Pissy Hands" asked me if she could have some and I said hell no. She keeps looking in my office like a little puppy dog and I take great pleasure in that. I'm such an ass!!!!
1. The first time I left LO overnight was for 2 nights and he was only 6 weeks old. Although I missed him like crazy DH and I had an amazing one year anniversary weekend. Plus, being on maternity leave meant I was able to go home and spend another several hundred hours with him straight before going back to work.
2. I think it's entirely unhealthy for mom and baby to never have apart time. Such a disservice to the individual you are and the individual they baby is supposed to be becoming.
3. I ate spaghetti sauce today that I left out overnight on accident. Yep it was gross in theory, but it was homemade delicious sauce that I really didn't want to waste. Still tasted amazing.
4. I use my husband's beard trimmer as my winter and pregnancy "bush" maintenance. Takes less than 5 minutes, it trims it super short and no ingrown hairs. In my defense my husband has never actually used it for his beard (or lack of beard).
"As soon as I saw you I knew an adventure was going to happen." ~Winnie the Pooh
Not a confession but I don't think there is anything wrong with not leaving your baby yet if you don't want to. I don't think it's "unhealthy" for either of you. Your baby will still learn how to be independent. But also on the flip side I don't think there is anything wrong with spending time away either. Do what you wanna.
The only time I think it is unhealthy is if mom is unhappy, or partner isn't supportive of letting mom leave. If everybody's happy, no issues!
We are trying for #2, we aren't pregnant yet (although I think it's a possibility). I confess that I have totally, already, slipped into pregnant mode. I totally feel like a bit of a weirdo for being this way and I also have to find myself to stop talking about being pregnant in the present tense around other people because I am not pregnant yet... Will be taking the test in a week, fingers crossed that it's positive so I can feel a little less crazy
**edit** not that this justifies my behavior.. but we do get pregnant ridiculously easy and I've been off the pill for a few months.
@bibliophileemily I totally have a bush, too! Whatever... I clean the house, cook meals, work full-time, and, of course, mother. I don't have time to be bothered with trimming the hedge. If H has a problem with it, he doesn't have to see it!
I will, however, get a wax before I lay out by the pool this summer and I will maintain it over the summer. I am a decent human, haha.
MH is being a butt again today so I took E out to lunch up in Ann Arbor. The place I wanted to go had a 25 min wait and E was hungry so I took her to the place next door. Turns out it was a fancier bistro...I was wearing a baseball hat and sweatshirt...so they sat us in a corner, lol.
But if I hadn't found some amazing looking cod at the grocery store, I would be tempted to take E to dinner as well since MH "is not home today" (according to the note he left on the office door. He's hiding in there). I will, though, not tell him when dinner is ready or tell him when E and I are going to bed. If he's gonna act like he's 5, I'm not going to egg him on.
You must elaborate on this note situation, I'm dying to know
Edit**I know some of the story. I just didn't hear about this note
Not a confession but I don't think there is anything wrong with not leaving your baby yet if you don't want to. I don't think it's "unhealthy" for either of you. Your baby will still learn how to be independent. But also on the flip side I don't think there is anything wrong with spending time away either. Do what you wanna.
The only time I think it is unhealthy is if mom is unhappy, or partner isn't supportive of letting mom leave. If everybody's happy, no issues!
Maybe unhealthy was a poor choice of words. Maybe using the words that it is healthy to get away, would be more appropriate. So many people lose themselves as an individual and as a couple after children come along because of this. And a few years down the road when the child goes to kindergarten many women find themselves VERY depressed or relationships falling apart because while they fostered the relationship so much with their child, inevitably their relationship with their SO, friends and self suffer (Luckey4, totally not saying this is the case with you, however just speaking from sitting in on many therapy sessions, this happens A LOT!)
Not only is it good for the adult but the child greatly benefits too. When young people have the opportunity to develop strong bonds with people other than their parents, they become more well rounded, better able to adapt to new situations and they’re exposed to new ways of thinking and new ways of doing things. While this can be achieved if you're still present, leaving for small periods of time can teach your child trust (both for other adults knowing that even if mom or dad are gone they'll be taken care of and loved and because they'll learn that you'll always be back), autonomy and a sense that the world does not completely revolve around them.
Obviously at 1 year old this isn't all a huge deal but if a lot of anxiety surrounds it, it won't do much for either of you. It will only be beneficial to both parent and child once the anxieties ease... Which probably will only happen with practice.
"As soon as I saw you I knew an adventure was going to happen." ~Winnie the Pooh
@arschm02 that was a much better way to express your opinion. I was going to say that I do not think it is unhealthy at all for a mom and child to not be separated, even for short periods if neither wants that. But the way you explained yourself there made a lot of sense and hit home with me . While I think my husband and I have a good relationship, he made a comment the other day that made me upset. I was giving him instructions on what to feed baby while I was away at work for a few hours. He hates when I give him instructions but I do it anyways. So he said okaaaaay, just go, everything will be fine ( with a tone). He ended up telling me that I have lost myself and that all I talk about is the baby. He quickly apologized but it def got me thinking. And I'll admit, we haven't been on one single date night alone, which I really want to do soon.
Anyways, I appreciate your insight and I think it's something we as women need to keep in check, because as well all know, being a mommy is an all consuming task.
I do not think there is anything wrong with not leaving LO yet, as long as everyone is happy, like jss said.
I remember my hubby and friends telling me, go out, get out of the house and it annoyed me. I was perfectly happy at home with my sweet boy, enjoying every single second and I still am. I don't need that time away to maintain my sanity, but that doesn't mean I haven't made time for girlfriends and some me time. I'm totally rambling. Sorry guys!
That's how I always felt at first too -- I'm totally happy, stop suggesting that I leave! And sometimes, if we're having an easy fun day, I feel that way still.
Until I get out with my friends,and it is SO nice to have a meal without having to worry about how/what/if anybody else is eating, have a full conversation, not clean up after everybody... and I come home feeling so much better, even though I didn't think I was burned out to begin with.
DH and I moved about 30 minutes outside of Mpls, wheras most of my girlfriends live in the city still (or closer by), so we try to plan these once a month dinners, and I get frustrated with trying to make it work... I commute into the city to work, and nobody wants to have dinner at 5 or 6, so I end up coming home, putting J to bed, and then coming BACK To the city, which means I've driven like 80 miles in a day, which is not fun for me.. so i"m often tempted to bail, but when I go, i am always very happy I did.
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
Mpls = Minneapolis (MN)
"As soon as I saw you I knew an adventure was going to happen." ~Winnie the Pooh
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
I don't know mlps, but MPLS is Minneapolis :-)
Oops, must have transposed the letters (that's what I get for not copying and pasting). Good to know.
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
I don't know mlps, but MPLS is Minneapolis :-)
Oops, must have transposed the letters (that's what I get for not copying and pasting). Good to know.
I wasn't trying to be snarky, I just wasn't sure if you actually meant Mpls or if you were seeing something else that I didn't know about (mlps).
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
I don't know mlps, but MPLS is Minneapolis :-)
Oops, must have transposed the letters (that's what I get for not copying and pasting). Good to know.
I wasn't trying to be snarky, I just wasn't sure if you actually meant Mpls or if you were seeing something else that I didn't know about (mlps).
Oh, I know; I didn't think you were being snarky. I feel like I've been using too many exclamation points lately, which is why my "Good to know." probably read more serious and possibly rude than the "Good to know!" I was going to use.
While we're on the subject of abbreviations, what the hecks is "Mlps"? Is this some sort of Midwestern shorthand for something, or is it a city name curiously lacking in vowels? Curious Californian wants to know!
I don't know mlps, but MPLS is Minneapolis :-)
Oops, must have transposed the letters (that's what I get for not copying and pasting). Good to know.
I wasn't trying to be snarky, I just wasn't sure if you actually meant Mpls or if you were seeing something else that I didn't know about (mlps).
Oh, I know; I didn't think you were being snarky. I feel like I've been using too many exclamation points lately, which is why my "Good to know." probably read more serious and possibly rude than the "Good to know!" I was going to use.
Haha ,sometimes I joke that I've used up all the exclamation points in the world. :-)
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016
Oh...Ok. I always put SPF 70 on my hands before I go under those lights. Still, good info. I'll probably limit them from now on.
Oh, wait.
Guys are painfully childish sometimes. Creeper hugs.
Maybe unhealthy was a poor choice of words. Maybe using the words that it is healthy to get away, would be more appropriate. So many people lose themselves as an individual and as a couple after children come along because of this. And a few years down the road when the child goes to kindergarten many women find themselves VERY depressed or relationships falling apart because while they fostered the relationship so much with their child, inevitably their relationship with their SO, friends and self suffer (Luckey4, totally not saying this is the case with you, however just speaking from sitting in on many therapy sessions, this happens A LOT!)
Until I get out with my friends,and it is SO nice to have a meal without having to worry about how/what/if anybody else is eating, have a full conversation, not clean up after everybody... and I come home feeling so much better, even though I didn't think I was burned out to begin with.
Mpls = Minneapolis (MN)
Good to know.