In the first seven comments, 5 of them were not only helpful but did not mention anything about a past loss or making an intro first....Coming over to police our board then making a separate post about it, bored much? Not everyone's comments were great or deserved but we don't need a bunch of people running over here to tell us so.
Ok. I went through this thread yesterday and titted a few things but did not comment. I apologize OP for not saying something when you clearly needed something said.
I've now also read through TTGP's thread and I find myself agreeing with many of them, but also with the ladies that I have formed friendships with here. I can see both sides as I've been in the thick of it here with the losses and the scary a/ss, but I can also see where the OP is coming from and that she genuinely needs some support. I think many offered good advice, but I stayed out of the bickering and pain Olympics....when I should have stood up and said something. For that I am really sorry.
To OP. It is 100% ok to feel the way you do about your pregnancy. My first pregnancy was an accident while I was on birth control and on a relationship break from my now DH. I was scared shitless when I got that BFP. I didn't know if I was going to get back together with DH and for a week he and I even discussed and cried over possibly terminating or adoption. The way it did turn out...marriage and a second baby on the way... and having gotten so close to so many great women here that have experienced losses... I am very hesitant to share this truth, but I want you to know that it's ok to feel the way you do.
I really believe therapy would be good for you at this point in your life. ((Hugs)) to you.
In the first seven comments, 5 of them were not only helpful but did not mention anything about a past loss or making an intro first....Coming over to police our board then making a separate post about it, bored much? Not everyone's comments were great or deserved but we don't need a bunch of people running over here to tell us so.
Actually, the separate post came first. I posted it because I wanted to discuss what I was feeling after I read it. It has nothing to do with boredom, but good jab.
Then why post a direct link to this post if you only wanted to discuss how you were feeling after reading it?
In the first seven comments, 5 of them were not only helpful but did not mention anything about a past loss or making an intro first....Coming over to police our board then making a separate post about it, bored much? Not everyone's comments were great or deserved but we don't need a bunch of people running over here to tell us so.
Oh, well 5 out of 7, that makes it ok.
Except #4 is where the loss was thrown in her face and the first two were total asshole comments. So 3 of the first 4 were dickhead comments.
Try again.
I never said it was ok. I was just pointing out that there was some good advice along with the others.
I'm pretty sure that whenever someone on TTGP has come to us at the end of their rope because of divorce, cheating or suspected cheating, job loss, health issues, family problems, or any devastating news- they've been met with compassionate, thoughts and prayers.
All of the above =\= flaming a newbie for complaining that she's not pregnant after two cycles. Don't even pull the "TTGP is so insensitive" card.
In the first seven comments, 5 of them were not only helpful but did not mention anything about a past loss or making an intro first....Coming over to police our board then making a separate post about it, bored much? Not everyone's comments were great or deserved but we don't need a bunch of people running over here to tell us so.
Yes, you clearly do need a bunch of people to tell you how much you all failed in this thread. Instead of making excuses maybe try recognizing the extreme douchebaggery which took place and make an attempt to do better next time.
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
Why is it unacceptable for a woman who has a fresh wound to tell someone, "this was a bad time, this hurts me and others." If something rubs you the wrong way or hurts you and other people...you can't state that? People are going to say how they feel, if it hurts it hurts, just because you say it shouldn't doesn't mean it doesn't,
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
Why is it unacceptable for a woman who has a fresh wound to tell someone, "this was a bad time, this hurts me and others." If something rubs you the wrong way or hurts you and other people...you can't state that? People are going to say how they feel, if it hurts it hurts, just because you say it shouldn't doesn't mean it doesn't,
Oh FFS.
There is no hope for you and several others on this board for removing your heads from your asses, is there?
@NellyBluth I would have too. Usually that happens when you make a post talking about a separate post.
You're right, but is it a crime to talk about something that happened on another board?
Nope, never said it was!
Your passive aggressive comment about being bored suggests otherwise.
I said you must be bored because instead of making a new thread about this thread to talk about your feelings, you gave a direct link to this thread knowing damn well what would happen.
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
Why is it unacceptable for a woman who has a fresh wound to tell someone, "this was a bad time, this hurts me and others." If something rubs you the wrong way or hurts you and other people...you can't state that? People are going to say how they feel, if it hurts it hurts, just because you say it shouldn't doesn't mean it doesn't,
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Really? How about don't freakin open a post entitled "Not Excited About Baby" if you have a fresh wound and can't empathize with someone else's pain. It really isn't that hard. It isn't like the content of the post wasn't pretty damn obvious in the title.
WCIBN is kind of a big deal...
Either way there are a lot of people from this BMB that owe the OP an apology.
Yes, silly @reverey Please be sure that while you're practicing your best behavior and NOT having a mob mentality, that you also take notice as to who the 'cool kids' are on other boards that are irrelevant to you.
Give me a fucking break, people.
I also love that we are getting chastised for making this post about ourselves rather than the OP while other boards have come in to do exactly that.
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WCIBN is kind of a big deal...
Either way there are a lot of people from this BMB that owe the OP an apology.
Including all of you who have taken it upon yourself to come over from your group to hijack her thread. Y'all should try offering advice to the OP instead of berating an entire group over a few comments.
Either way there are a lot of people from this BMB that owe the OP an apology.
Including all of you who have taken it upon yourself to come over from your group to hijack her thread. Y'all should try offering advice to the OP instead of berating an entire group over a few comments.
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We are defending the OP while letting certain people know what Twatwaffle Douchebags they are. If that isn't valuable then I don't know what is.
Either way there are a lot of people from this BMB that owe the OP an apology.
Including all of you who have taken it upon yourself to come over from your group to hijack her thread. Y'all should try offering advice to the OP instead of berating an entire group over a few comments.
Um, excuse you? I offered my advice & well wishes to OP already. If some posters wouldn't have acted like tools there would be no reason in the first place. As it stands, I'll gladly offer my apologies to OP for hijacking the thread. Then again, my head is not wedged up my own butthole & I can do that. :-??
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
I think some of these responses were a little bit harsh. Yes, there are many who have suffered losses or difficult pregnancies on this board, and therefore are incredibly grateful about this pregnancy. But you're going through something difficult too, and frankly, I Think it is brave for you to admit how you feel, as it isn't a feeling that is widely acknowledged, even though I suspect many women feel that way at times.
Getting ready for a baby is a HUGE change emotionally and financially and everything else. If your marriage is on the rocks I am assuming this wasn't planned. That is difficult too.
I would recommend that you spend some time here and intro yourself in another way and get to know the vibe of the board, but your feelings are legit and I recommend you look for some professional help if you can -- both for your marriage and for you as an individual.
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
Except none of you said anything about it. Nobody said "hey guys, lay off this is shitty."
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
Except none of you said anything about it. Nobody said "hey guys, lay off this is shitty."
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
So making her feel guilty for emotions that she probably is already having trouble understanding is not shitty?
People gave her great advice, some people said they found her comments insensitive, but she got the advice anyone would have given.
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
Except none of you said anything about it. Nobody said "hey guys, lay off this is shitty."
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
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If you sincerely believe that, then I don't know what to say. You need to re evaluate what you've said. If you can't do that, then no amount of people trying to teach you empathy is going to do the trick.
I don't need to be taught empathy, I've see People be massive bitches to random newbs asking a question or making a post, and I've said something, but sorry this just isn't one of those times that someone has been treated like shit. If you can't see that maybe you need to be less sensitive on a public forum where ppl disagree and tell you your post is kind of offensive.
That was the response of a couple people. Not everyone on this board. It's nice to know we're being grouped together even though we all have very different opinions. I'm sure everyone who has come over here to voice their opinions have really opened the eyes of those who were insensitive in their responses to OP.
That was the response of a couple people. Not everyone on this board. It's nice to know we're being grouped together even though we all have very different opinions. I'm sure everyone who has come over here to voice their opinions have really opened the eyes of those who were insensitive in their responses to OP.
FFS. If that was only the opinion of one person then why did no one speak out?
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
Except none of you said anything about it. Nobody said "hey guys, lay off this is shitty."
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
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If you sincerely believe that, then I don't know what to say. You need to re evaluate what you've said. If you can't do that, then no amount of people trying to teach you empathy is going to do the trick.
I don't need to be taught empathy, I've see People be massive bitches to random newbs asking a question or making a post, and I've said something, but sorry this just isn't one of those times that someone has been treated like shit. If you can't see that maybe you need to be less sensitive on a public forum where ppl disagree and tell you your post is kind of offensive.
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If you can't empathize with someone who has a real problem without playing the pain Olympics, then who is sensitive in this situation? Again a drive by isn't a real problem.
The responses to op, for the most part, were shitty. Take your own advice. If you can't be less sensitive and defensive over people telling you it was shitty, maybe you need to re evaluate what you're doing.
Idk I'm not offended by people having different feelings and opinions. If I say something that hit a sore spot for someone, I don't start calling them haters and what not, getting defensive, I'd just say well I didn't know. I'm ok with people disagreeing sometimes...we don't all have to have a circle jerk all the time. We are going to have to agree to disagree.
@NellyBluth my point was that the thread wasn't made to talk about your feelings or else you wouldn't have put a direct link.
JFC I asked her to link it so I could see what douchbaggery was going on over here.
I can't believe you all. Defending what you did, then blaming us for being assholes because we had the decency to stand up for the op. Do you really not get that you're all acting like huge assholes?
Edit: and it isn't the whole board. Just a select few special snowflakes
Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
Except none of you said anything about it. Nobody said "hey guys, lay off this is shitty."
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
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If you sincerely believe that, then I don't know what to say. You need to re evaluate what you've said. If you can't do that, then no amount of people trying to teach you empathy is going to do the trick.
I don't need to be taught empathy, I've see People be massive bitches to random newbs asking a question or making a post, and I've said something, but sorry this just isn't one of those times that someone has been treated like shit. If you can't see that maybe you need to be less sensitive on a public forum where ppl disagree and tell you your post is kind of offensive.
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If you can't empathize with someone who has a real problem without playing the pain Olympics, then who is sensitive in this situation? Again a drive by isn't a real problem.
The responses to op, for the most part, were shitty. Take your own advice. If you can't be less sensitive and defensive over people telling you it was shitty, maybe you need to re evaluate what you're doing.
Idk I'm not offended by people having different feelings and opinions. If I say something that hit a sore spot for someone, I don't start calling them haters and what not, getting defensive, I'd just say well I didn't know. We are going to have to agree to disagree.
Jesus. Can you act more dense? If you were treated the way op was, you would say "oh ok, we disagree" ? I can't even wrap my head around your logic here. She had nothing to apologize or be called out for. She got shit on because people wanted to play the pain Olympics.
I meant you and I are going to have to agree to disagree, I'm sorry I still don't think anyone treated her badly, it was all very tame IMO. I just don't find it appalling when people disagree online,
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
I don't think anybody was trying to diminish her pain. Using their own problems to illustrate that her problems still may have a solution, is very different. I don't agree with everybody bashing the opinions of people who tried to give her a different perspective. And to be honest is very common! I remember being in a car crash and my mum saying, hey, at least you didn't end up in the hospital!
Is not the advise you would have given? great! you must have a different view, that doesn't mean that people were trying to be shitty.
A million times THIS. It's called trying to relate. Some women were more open about their experiences than others; but the point was they were trying to offer perspective through personal stories.
You bashing ppl for sharing their painful experiences to help another person is beyond shitty; THAT'S diminishing someone's pain.
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Sadly, I actually did need some support and comfort, two days ago, and I got three pages worth, and I'm not even a frequent poster.
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And how would you have felt if the first 4 reactions to your thread were to tell you to get the fuck over it and that you weren't allowed to post here?
That's what you are supporting. Good for you. Hypocrite.
I would have wondered what I said that offended people so much, and maybe read a little more about the group of people I'm seeking comfort from.
This little two page thread got very dramatic and very self righteous.
By the members of this board, yes.
Sorry you have so many people on this board with no sense or empathy. That will be lots of fun if you actually need support.
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I will agree that this thread was handled completely wrong...for reasons already stated....and also completely inexcusable. I've already apologized to OP back on page 3 for staying silent when I should have shared the empathy I did feel for her. That was a shitty move on my part.
I do thank you TTGP for giving us a needed slap in the face....we have been mired in our own pain and dealing with some nasty trolls of late....so we jumped too hard on this thread. It's definitely a lesson I'm taking to heart on stepping back from myself and putting myself in someone else's shoes.
I would like to say, that though this thread has not shown our best side by far the ladies of S14 are very supportive and empathetic and I'm very happy to have them.
Am I the only person who doesn't think OP got flamed at all? Do we all have the same definition of flaming? I think she got decent advice, she rubbed some people the wrong way but no one tore her ass apart..
It is totally unacceptable for women here to use their losses as a means of diminishing the pain that another woman might be experiencing. It is, as they say, a classic case of the pain olympics or pain martyrdom. The diminishing that went on in this thread is no less as bad as an ass tearing.
I don't think anybody was trying to diminish her pain. Using their own problems to illustrate that her problems still may have a solution, is very different. I don't agree with everybody bashing the opinions of people who tried to give her a different perspective. And to be honest is very common! I remember being in a car crash and my mum saying, hey, at least you didn't end up in the hospital!
Is not the advise you would have given? great! you must have a different view, that doesn't mean that people were trying to be shitty.
A million times THIS. It's called trying to relate. Some women were more open about their experiences than others; but the point was they were trying to offer perspective through personal stories.
You bashing ppl for sharing their painful experiences to help another person is beyond shitty; THAT'S diminishing someone's pain.
No. Telling someone to get over it because someone has been through something completely different is diminishing.
Would you tell someone that lost a parent to get over it because someone else lost both parents or a child? Of course not. Same fucking concept that you people cannot wrap your damn brains around.
1) Wasn't there something mentioned on here about going through different things does not mean different pain? Pain is pain m'dear. Whether it's a loss or being unable to get pregnant or your marriage falling apart or losing your job or all of the above. You come in and bash our board for the "Pain Olympics", but here, you're saying that pain is different and one is worse than the other? Hmm.
2) So, telling someone to please get help and talk to a professional is telling them to get over it? Yeah, no.
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And how would you have felt if the first 4 reactions to your thread were to tell you to get the fuck over it and that you weren't allowed to post here?
That's what you are supporting. Good for you. Hypocrite.
I would have wondered what I said that offended people so much, and maybe read a little more about the group of people I'm seeking comfort from.
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Wow...you are a piece of work. The OP didn't say anything that would offend anyone other than a bunch of self absorbed women who didn't need to click on the damn thread if they didn't have the balls to look past their own issues and help someone else with their pain. The title clearly states what the thread was about...if you can't handled it then pass it by. Don't click on it as an opportunity to make someone else feel like shit by using your own tragedies to diminish what they are going through. If you are really too stupid to get this concept then I would avoid any and all social situations.
Sadly, I actually did need some support and comfort, two days ago, and I got three pages worth, and I'm not even a frequent poster.
@WhoCanItBeNow
And how would you have felt if the first 4 reactions to your thread were to tell you to get the fuck over it and that you weren't allowed to post here?
That's what you are supporting. Good for you. Hypocrite.
I would have wondered what I said that offended people so much, and maybe read a little more about the group of people I'm seeking comfort from.
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Wow...you are a piece of work. The OP didn't say anything that would offend anyone other than a bunch of self absorbed women who didn't need to click on the damn thread if they didn't have the balls to look past their own issues and help someone else with their pain. The title clearly states what the thread was about...if you can't handled it then pass it by. Don't click on it as an opportunity to make someone else feel like shit by using your own tragedies to diminish what they are going through. If you are really too stupid to get this concept then I would avoid any and all social situations.
You're right, they didn't need to read the thread but they did, no one told her to get the fuck over it, they said how her post made them feel, was it right, no they could have ignored it but they said how they felt. Just like op said how she felt. You're going to get a lot of different opinions on these boards and ppl who feel differently than you, it happens, not everyone likes what everyone has to say. Idk what kind of lala candy land you're living in.
Re: Not excited about baby
I've now also read through TTGP's thread and I find myself agreeing with many of them, but also with the ladies that I have formed friendships with here. I can see both sides as I've been in the thick of it here with the losses and the scary a/ss, but I can also see where the OP is coming from and that she genuinely needs some support. I think many offered good advice, but I stayed out of the bickering and pain Olympics....when I should have stood up and said something. For that I am really sorry.
To OP. It is 100% ok to feel the way you do about your pregnancy. My first pregnancy was an accident while I was on birth control and on a relationship break from my now DH. I was scared shitless when I got that BFP. I didn't know if I was going to get back together with DH and for a week he and I even discussed and cried over possibly terminating or adoption. The way it did turn out...marriage and a second baby on the way... and having gotten so close to so many great women here that have experienced losses... I am very hesitant to share this truth, but I want you to know that it's ok to feel the way you do.
I really believe therapy would be good for you at this point in your life. ((Hugs)) to you.
Then why post a direct link to this post if you only wanted to discuss how you were feeling after reading it?
I never said it was ok. I was just pointing out that there was some good advice along with the others.
All of the above =\= flaming a newbie for complaining that she's not pregnant after two cycles. Don't even pull the "TTGP is so insensitive" card.
You're right, but is it a crime to talk about something that happened on another board?
Nope, never said it was!
Why is it unacceptable for a woman who has a fresh wound to tell someone, "this was a bad time, this hurts me and others." If something rubs you the wrong way or hurts you and other people...you can't state that? People are going to say how they feel, if it hurts it hurts, just because you say it shouldn't doesn't mean it doesn't,
No none at all, it was a valiant effort though.
Your passive aggressive comment about being bored suggests otherwise.
I said you must be bored because instead of making a new thread about this thread to talk about your feelings, you gave a direct link to this thread knowing damn well what would happen.
Is she serious!!??
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Why is it unacceptable for a woman who has a fresh wound to tell someone, "this was a bad time, this hurts me and others." If something rubs you the wrong way or hurts you and other people...you can't state that? People are going to say how they feel, if it hurts it hurts, just because you say it shouldn't doesn't mean it doesn't,
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Really? How about don't freakin open a post entitled "Not Excited About Baby" if you have a fresh wound and can't empathize with someone else's pain. It really isn't that hard. It isn't like the content of the post wasn't pretty damn obvious in the title.
Either way there are a lot of people from this BMB that owe the OP an apology.
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Yes, silly @reverey Please be sure that while you're practicing your best behavior and NOT having a mob mentality, that you also take notice as to who the 'cool kids' are on other boards that are irrelevant to you.
Give me a fucking break, people.
I also love that we are getting chastised for making this post about ourselves rather than the OP while other boards have come in to do exactly that.
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We are defending the OP while letting certain people know what Twatwaffle Douchebags they are. If that isn't valuable then I don't know what is.
Um, excuse you? I offered my advice & well wishes to OP already. If some posters wouldn't have acted like tools there would be no reason in the first place. As it stands, I'll gladly offer my apologies to OP for hijacking the thread. Then again, my head is not wedged up my own butthole & I can do that. :-??
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Exactly what happens and pretty sure this isn't news to a regular poster. Yes a couple people didn't respond well but our board does fine without others coming over from another board to police it.
No one said hey stop guys this is shitty, because no one was being shitty.
People gave her great advice, some people said they found her comments insensitive, but she got the advice anyone would have given.
Even worse that you're blaming us.
I don't need to be taught empathy, I've see People be massive bitches to random newbs asking a question or making a post, and I've said something, but sorry this just isn't one of those times that someone has been treated like shit. If you can't see that maybe you need to be less sensitive on a public forum where ppl disagree and tell you your post is kind of offensive.
Idk I'm not offended by people having different feelings and opinions. If I say something that hit a sore spot for someone, I don't start calling them haters and what not, getting defensive, I'd just say well I didn't know. I'm ok with people disagreeing sometimes...we don't all have to have a circle jerk all the time. We are going to have to agree to disagree.
I meant you and I are going to have to agree to disagree, I'm sorry I still don't think anyone treated her badly, it was all very tame IMO. I just don't find it appalling when people disagree online,
I would have wondered what I said that offended people so much, and maybe read a little more about the group of people I'm seeking comfort from.
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I will agree that this thread was handled completely wrong...for reasons already stated....and also completely inexcusable. I've already apologized to OP back on page 3 for staying silent when I should have shared the empathy I did feel for her. That was a shitty move on my part.
I do thank you TTGP for giving us a needed slap in the face....we have been mired in our own pain and dealing with some nasty trolls of late....so we jumped too hard on this thread. It's definitely a lesson I'm taking to heart on stepping back from myself and putting myself in someone else's shoes.
I would like to say, that though this thread has not shown our best side by far the ladies of S14 are very supportive and empathetic and I'm very happy to have them.
I would have wondered what I said that offended people so much, and maybe read a little more about the group of people I'm seeking comfort from.
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Wow...you are a piece of work. The OP didn't say anything that would offend anyone other than a bunch of self absorbed women who didn't need to click on the damn thread if they didn't have the balls to look past their own issues and help someone else with their pain. The title clearly states what the thread was about...if you can't handled it then pass it by. Don't click on it as an opportunity to make someone else feel like shit by using your own tragedies to diminish what they are going through. If you are really too stupid to get this concept then I would avoid any and all social situations.
You're right, they didn't need to read the thread but they did, no one told her to get the fuck over it, they said how her post made them feel, was it right, no they could have ignored it but they said how they felt. Just like op said how she felt. You're going to get a lot of different opinions on these boards and ppl who feel differently than you, it happens, not everyone likes what everyone has to say. Idk what kind of lala candy land you're living in.