Girl vs. Boy

jenjenriano040910 · April 2014

My brother has 3 boys and they are pregnant with a fourth. My sister in-law and I are only a week and a half apart with our pregnancies. Everyone is praying that one of us has a girl, but my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for years and I would honestly be happy with a healthy baby. This is stressing my sister in-law out soooo much, she's thinking about not finding out the gender so that she doesn't feel any disappointment

missnacholover · April 2014

I want a girl only because we cannot agree on a boy's name for shit. DH veto's all of my suggestions. So, I know it's going to end up being a boy, haha.

Really though, I don't care.

PandaCon · April 2014

I feel like everyone thinks I should want a girl. My first is a boy. I think that people just assume you want "one of each".

Secretly I would love a girl. (like @superfreakedfirsttimer tutus) But I will be happt with either. I can't imagine DS being a girl now so I know that I will love this baby no matter what it turns out to be!

abbyful · April 2014

missnacholover said:
I want a girl only because we cannot agree on a boy's name for shit. DH veto's all of my suggestions. So, I know it's going to end up being a boy, haha.

Really though, I don't care.

Haha, this is us to. I just sent DH the list of boy names I've written down so far, asked what his 3 favorite were, and he replied that he didn't like any of them. (And he can't come up with any he DOES like either.)

Boy names are hard, IMO. We have lots of ideas for girl names that we both like.

missnacholover · April 2014

abbyful said:

I want a girl only because we cannot agree on a boy's name for shit. DH veto's all of my suggestions. So, I know it's going to end up being a boy, haha.

Really though, I don't care.
Haha, this is us to. I just sent DH the list of boy names I've written down so far, asked what his 3 favorite were, and he replied that he didn't like any of them. (And he can't come up with any he DOES like either.) Boy names are hard, IMO. We have lots of ideas for girl names that we both like.

YES. He'll be "That's OK!" or he'll like something for a week or two and then change his mind. Grrrr. We've been set on our girl name for years so that's a no brainer but boy names are HARD. He says he'll get more serious about it if needed, haha.

Singingmama10 · April 2014

I am such a girly girl so of course I want a girl, but I am pretty sure it's going to be a boy. I have feared since before I became pregnant that I would find out it was a boy and feel such guilt because I would be disappointed. So to combat this, I have been referring to my little baby as a boy the whole time and I think it has worked, Now I really think that either way there will be NO disappointment. At least I hope not anyways.

mockingjay1 · April 2014

Everyone obviously wants a healthy baby above all, but I'd really love a girl. DH wants a boy. I think we'll both be slightly disappointed temporarily if we find out we're having the opposite of what we want, but we will love this baby no matter what. I'm sure once it's born the boy/girl preference will be long gone.

Kristy774 · April 2014

lissydee said:
We have two boys already and would love a girl. But if we had another boy, we'd also be thrilled--we know how to handle them! LOL

but what bothers me is when people found out we were pregnant with a third, a lot asked "were you trying for a girl?" No. We were trying for a BABY, a-holes.

This exactly. This is our 3rd too (we have 2 boys) and everyone assumes we are doing it to have a girl. Um no, I'd be fine either way. We wanted abother child!

smboswell1 · April 2014

I will be happy with either! Everyone thinks it's a girl, so I say boy. Deep down I think it's a girl and I am really hoping for a girl.... Shhh! I'm so girly and would love to buy pink, tutus, bows, glitter.. Lol. But I love boys! They are so sweet and I actually like the boys a lot better than the girls at the daycare! Either way, I will be happy!

mynameisjen · April 2014

This is our first. I am really hoping for a girl, and DH is really hoping for a boy. I'm sure that regardless of the baby's sex, we will love it plenty, lol, but I just feel more comfortable about the idea of raising a girl, and vice versa for DH.

That said, I really feel like this is a girl. We have a girl name picked out, and when we started talking boy names, I felt like it was a total waste of time because the baby is a girl. I also have a good friend who somehow always seems to guess the sex of an unborn baby correctly. I guess it's probably just luck, but she said she thinks it's a girl. I think I will be more shocked than anything if it turns out to be a boy, but I'll come around quick enough.

mamameg11 · April 2014

I have a boy and girl already, so for #3, it really doesn't matter what baby is. Part of me is hoping its another girl, but I'll be happy either way. My FIL, however, is ticking me off. We just told them about the pregnancy last week when we visited them and he has made it clear he pretty much only cares about the gender scan in 10 weeks so we can find out what it is. He wants us to have another boy to carry on his last name because apparently our one son is not enough. I hate that kind of crap. Just be happy we are having another baby, who cares what it is! I am tempted to be team green this time just to draw it out.

missnacholover · April 2014

mamameg11 said:

I have a boy and girl already, so for #3, it really doesn't matter what baby is. Part of me is hoping its another girl, but I'll be happy either way. My FIL, however, is ticking me off. We just told them about the pregnancy last week when we visited them and he has made it clear he pretty much only cares about the gender scan in 10 weeks so we can find out what it is. He wants us to have another boy to carry on his last name because apparently our one son is not enough. I hate that kind of crap. Just be happy we are having another baby, who cares what it is! I am tempted to be team green this time just to draw it out.

That shit pisses me off. This isn't the fucking dark ages.

My MIL has said in the past that she can't wait to have a grandSON, however she hasn't said anything like that since finding out I'm pregnant. I don't know if DH told her not to or what, but if she does, I'll likely rage.

ShelleyElla22 · April 2014

I have wanted a little girl FOREVER!! I so want to bring pink, tutus, bows, dresses, and pigtails into my life

I love my 2 sons to death and wouldn't change them for anything though so if this baby is a boy I will be completely ok with that (although I will have a moment of disappointment because I swear up and down that it's a girl!). My sister told me that everyone in my family is hoping that it will be a girl so we can be done having kids...that really ticked me off. I think we will choose to be done having kids when WE are ready!

tinkerbell1658 · April 2014

Ive always wanted a boy first because its me and my sister and i always wanted an older brother. Then as soon as i got pregnant i wanted a girl! Lol, i cant picture ds as a girl. I love having boy. That said, even though itd be easier to have another boy, i still want my girl

Nfranco973 · April 2014

It makes no difference to me what sex the baby is. I have a boy and a girl so either way I'm ok.

luvalways77 · April 2014

After having so much experience now with all the boys in my family, I really would love to have a girl. My mom is very certain it's a girl. I'll be happy either way because I really want a healthy happy baby most of all. Just too many boys. I'm the only female in the house.(husband already has two boys) and a girl would be a breath of fresh air

luvalways77 · April 2014

missnacholover said:

abbyful said:

I want a girl only because we cannot agree on a boy's name for shit. DH veto's all of my suggestions. So, I know it's going to end up being a boy, haha.

Really though, I don't care.
Haha, this is us to. I just sent DH the list of boy names I've written down so far, asked what his 3 favorite were, and he replied that he didn't like any of them. (And he can't come up with any he DOES like either.) Boy names are hard, IMO. We have lots of ideas for girl names that we both like.

YES. He'll be "That's OK!" or he'll like something for a week or two and then change his mind. Grrrr. We've been set on our girl name for years so that's a no brainer but boy names are HARD. He says he'll get more serious about it if needed, haha.

I've had girls names and boy names picked out for a long time. My husband has not liked any of the boy names, but he is ok with the girl names I picked out (they are too pretty to change anyways.) It really is a challenge now thinking of boy names, but if I find out I'm having a boy, we are going to be very very busy.

minniemom112 · April 2014

I'm so glad I posted this discussion. It's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like this

but now that it's out in the open, I'm ready to give into the idea of tutus and bows and pink everything even if it only turns out to be a fantasy until we find out what we're having in a few months

so glad I have you girls to share and identify with!!

mussalynn · April 2014

MeganMullikin said:

Yep! This is our first so we are just excited about a "baby". I don't have a preference but find myself getting very defensive when my mom says she is dying for it to be a girl, blah, blah, blah, girl, girl, girl. I immediately react as if I'm very offended for my baby because what if it's a boy? Of course she'll still love him but calm down a bit woman. I think it also might have something to do with the fact that I've had an overwhelming feeling this entire time that this baby is a boy. Have any of you moms felt like you just knew what baby was and you turned out to be correct?

Both DH and I had gut feelings the first time that it was a boy and it was. We both have the same gut feelings that this one is a girl, so we'll see how accurate our "guts" are...!

mamameg11 · April 2014

I know!! He had two sons of his own, he should be happy enough about that! And what if the grandson(s) never marry or have children to pass the name on to?! Then the name ends there and who cares! Not me! Oh and this is also the man who got upset that we chose my father's name as my son's middle name, apparently having the last name wasn't even enough last time!

meeshybee · April 2014

On one hand, I really hope it's a boy so that we can have a chance at a "normal" son. My DS is great, but the ASD makes some of they typical "boy" things, like sports, almost impossible. I'd love to have another son so that DH can do all the manly stuff with him that he can't do with DS.

On the other hand, we're at higher risk for ASD since we already have one child with it. And boys are much more likely to have it than girls, so if it is a boy that's an even higher chance.

Obviously no matter what - boy or girl, ASD or Neurotypical - "healthy" is all I truly hope for in the end.

alysonmh · April 2014

I really want a girl as well. I'm trying to become more comfortable with the idea of a boy so that I won't be disappointed if I found out that's what we are having. In the end I know it won't matter and I will love them equally but I won't lie and say I won't be disappointed at first if it's a boy. My daughter is 10 and girls are all I know so a boy would just be so foreign to me. I also know that I won't be able to share all the experiences I've shared with my daughter, with a son. If it's a boy it will just take some getting used to.

MrsDL · April 2014

This is number 2 for us as well, and our last. We have a wonderful son. Truth be told I thought this would be a girl (and we also got that guess from people). I was daydreaming a bit on doing the girly stuff, noticing cute little dresses while shopping for my son. Well got my M21 results back and it's a boy. I'm thrilled that he's healthy (so far). We're blessed that we didn't have any issues TTC (I'm 39). I had a m/c in the fall and so this baby is a blessing and I'm relieved to have made it way past my loss point......but.......when the doctor told me over the phone, I'll admit I was a bit - not upset or even disappointed, but more "oh" - just not as excited as I suspect I would have been if we were having a girl, just because a girl would be something new to us.

I expressed this to DH (he just wanted another boy because we have one so we was psyched) and he was a little ticked at me for admitted that I was feeling a bit down. This made me feel sooo guilty. I asked him how he'd feel if DS was a girl, and instead of the house blown out with construction stuff, and Dinosaurs, and sports stuff (our boy is "all boy" right now), we had dolls and tea sets and girly stuff, and then we were having another girl - I told him he'd never experience the boy stuff he does now. Then he got it. That said, I grew up in a house of 4 girls, drama happened. I don't know if boys will be like that but I'm still thrilled, my little guy is awesome (I do love sports) and he's a compete cuddly mommy's boy even though he likes to play in the dirt and I don't know which toy is the T-rex LOL. So OP, I think it's OK to be a little disappointed if you don't get the girl you imagine, but a healthy baby boy will squash any disappointment in about 5 second. You have a boy as well, so you know how great they are. Plus, not all daughters are close to their mothers, not all girls love girly things. Same for boys of course, you'll adore whatever sex you get.

MrsAdventure · April 2014

Looking at the big picture, I wanted a healthy, take home baby. Sex wasn't an issue either way. However, there is one glaring problem. My FIL is awful. He thinks anything the men in his family touch is gold (he has hoarding issues, big surprise) and because he raised DH alone, and he's 'perfect in every way' (not!), he would be full of unsolicited advise 24/7 and he's always rude about it.. He looks for opportunities to point out how I am doing something 'wrong', aka: a way that is different from his own. So my wanting a girl was kicked into overdrive because I just didn't want to listen to him. I probably would have been a little disappointed at first, not because I'd rather have a girl, but FIL is incorrigible and I lack the patients for him. DH was momentarily disappointed as he wanted a boy, but is now thrilled.

dr_pr · April 2014

Like many of you, we're 2 and through. And to my family and friends' eternal credit, not one of them has asked if we're hoping for a boy this time. I've been asked if I'm hoping for a specific sex, but that's as close as it's gotten.

I'm really and truly 50/50 on sex. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have one of both, and other times I think how cool it would be to have sisters!

As far as my gut--with DD, H and I were both positive she was a boy! We both had dreams about boy babies (as did our friend), and were we sure shocked at the a/s when the tech said girl! There was maybe a second of "oh, OK" but then we were over the moon happy. And now I definitely wouldn't trade her!

kimberly_ann81 · April 2014

This one is our third and possibly last. I have two boys and really want this one to be a girl; as does all the grandma's. The first thing DH's grandmother said when we told her was "I hope it's a girl".

staugustinewedding · April 2014

I have a feeling that it is a girl, but my hubby really thinks its a boy. Most of our friends think it's a girl too. I honestly don't have a clue what I think, so we will just have to wait! We do have a cute boy and girl name picked out, so I guess that helps.

yess0311 · April 2014

DH has 4 nieces and I have 1 niece so both families are hoping for boys..It would be nice to have a boy and a girl but of course I would be overjoyed with two boys or two girls just as much! I think the main reason I'm secretly hoping for boys is because we can't decide on a girl name..let alone two!! Lol

Sarahc0613 · May 2014

I know exactly how you feel I'm in the same boat. I have a 2.5 year old son, and everyone's saying this last baby is a girl. I will be happy as long as baby is healthy but I find myself more excited at the thought of having a DD than another boy. I feel guilty I'm not equally excited. This pregnancy is the complete opposite as my first so I am hoping it's a girl but trying not to get excited about it cause I'm afraid at my AS they will say "boy." God will give us what he feels is best I believe and has a plan for our children. Good luck and fingers crossed for our girls. Congratulations either way. How far are you?

minniemom112 · May 2014

@Sarahc0613‌ I absolutely agree with you

I'm 12 weeks +1
How about you?

absolutelymaybe · May 2014

It makes me laugh a little when people ask if I'm hoping for a boy and a girl from this twin pregnancy so "you can be done with it." Like I have to have one of each sex or else I'm not done?

No, sorry. This shit costs us a lot of money to go through and we only have four bedrooms (one of which we'd like we keep as an office). We are two and through, no matter if they're boys, girls or a combination.

With that said, I would like a girl and DH would like a boy, but that's just dreaming. We will be thrilled with two happy healthy babies.

SweetMelissa5 · May 2014

luvalways77 said:

missnacholover said:

abbyful said:

I want a girl only because we cannot agree on a boy's name for shit. DH veto's all of my suggestions. So, I know it's going to end up being a boy, haha.

Really though, I don't care.
Haha, this is us to. I just sent DH the list of boy names I've written down so far, asked what his 3 favorite were, and he replied that he didn't like any of them. (And he can't come up with any he DOES like either.) Boy names are hard, IMO. We have lots of ideas for girl names that we both like.

YES. He'll be "That's OK!" or he'll like something for a week or two and then change his mind. Grrrr. We've been set on our girl name for years so that's a no brainer but boy names are HARD. He says he'll get more serious about it if needed, haha.

I've had girls names and boy names picked out for a long time. My husband has not liked any of the boy names, but he is ok with the girl names I picked out (they are too pretty to change anyways.) It really is a challenge now thinking of boy names, but if I find out I'm having a boy, we are going to be very very busy.

My husband and I are having the exact opposite problem; we've got a boy's name all picked out (it's the same name we would have given our two daughters if they had been boys), but we just can't agree on a girl's name. We like to have both names ready by the anatomy scan so we've got about 8 weeks to figure this out.

Soonergirl131 · May 2014

This is baby number for DH and I. I never get asked the "what if it's a girl?" Question that he does(we want a boy first) but what do people expect him to say to this? "I'll ask for another"? Of course he'll be happy and love our child. It's an insensitive question to ask really.

kimberly_ann81 · May 2014

We have two boys already who's pregnancies were pretty much the exact same for me. Felt sick at the same time and it lasted the same amount of time. This time around I've been feeling sick more often and have SOOO much gas already. This pregnancy is very different so we are really hoping it means a girl this time.

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