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sking72 · April 2014

I don't know, I hated going to work some days and especially the overnight shifts, but I didn't quit that. And it's not like I'm sitting there sobbing and cursing my baby because I'm miserable, it's just my least favorite part.

And on top of that, in sure I'd find something I hated about getting up to mix formula too.

chirico3 · April 2014

This can seem a little smug on my part... But I hate when people say - oh, you didn't gain weight at all! It's not a badge of honor, it's just that I can't feel the hunger stimulus anymore since baby has her butt in my stomach. I eat b/c it's lunch (or dinner) time, not because I am hungry. And I even know some days, when husband is at work, I don't eat enough. I am not proud of this - I need strength and I need the baby to have all her nutrients.
Besides, at this point (41+1) I am much more concerned about other issues: is she ok? Why isn't she moving this morning? How is the amniotic fluid, is it enough? Will I have problems breastfeeding? I don't give a crap about my weight, and that's all people tell me.

Sorry, I had to vent, I can't rant in front of people, because in Italy this seems such a huge deal (doctors insist on a healthy gain of weight), but it's just crap to me.

Rogue237 · April 2014

Rrrrrachel said:
If you hate breastfeeding why not quit?

Simple, it's best for baby and in my mind, I can quantify that this first month or so will be the worst and then it'll get easier. However, I will be doing a BF and pumping mix in the next few weeks now that LO has caught up to her birth weight (she was small to begin with) and doesn't need to eat every 2 hours anymore.

That said, I'm not in a dark place about it, I just don't like it and I get a "no sleep for longer than 90 minutes at a time frustration cry" occasionally. If it was causing real depression, I'd make more drastic changes sooner.

Rrrrrachel · April 2014

That part does get a lot easier. Eventually they eat less often and on more of a schedule and the ass shaped indentation on the couch starts to fade.

MamaFantastic · April 2014

I love breastfeeding. I will dearly miss it when I wean her next year. I'm really sorry so many of you are feeling stressed, guilty or resentful about the process. I wish that wasn't the case. I hope it gets much better very quickly.

I can't relate to hating BFing, but there are plenty of times as a mother when, in the crux of the worst moments, I have felt so utterly sick of a phase or behavior or symptom that I have been willing to break all my personal rules to change the situation ASAP. I totally understand and sympathize with the immediacy and intensity of those moments. They are real and valid, and it sucks to go through it.

Teresa1896 · April 2014

BFing can be frustrating, for sure. It's hard to feel like you are constantly attached to your LO.

But on the flip side, it's so rewarding to see your baby grow and know that they're only doing that because of you and the milk your body makes for them. That helped alleviate some of the annoyance for me. I was really proud every day that my kiddo grew and flourished, knowing that I was the reason why! It's something only you can do for your kiddo, and that's a pretty cool gift, for however long you're willing and able to do it.

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