So...I'm having a hard time getting my partner to understand how I feel physically right now. According to my LMP, Im 10 weeks along, but my periods are so irregular that this could be totally off. According to my SO, who likes to throw it in my face that there's no way I could be more than 5 weeks, Im just milking my pregnancy symptoms. I'm tired, I'm dealing with hypoglycemia, and no matter how much I try, I usually can't sleep. Plus, I have no energy and really don't want to spend all my time cleaning the house by myself. If I try to nap, and never have I ever needed naps before, Im lazy in his eyes. The few bouts of energy I have, I want to spend with him in the bedroom, to which he acts totally uninterested anymore. I just want to tell him in a way he'll understand how I feel physically and he'll quit comparing my pregnancy to his ex wives' pregnancies (he has 7 kids, so he thinks he knows it all when it comes to being pregnant and having babies). Just a note, this is my first pregnancy and he's 13 years older than me, so that's why he has 7 kids to my one. Please be kind in answering, because I am not looking for judgment, just on advice to talk to him about how all pregnancies are not the same and how I'm seriously not milking my symptoms. I just have to go with how my body feels and I understand these changes even less than he thinks he does.
Re: Partner doesn't understand prego symptoms.
DS Grayson (3yrs) (Emergency Csec)
DS Camden (1yr) (All natural Vbac)
DD Isabella due 8/2/2014
I would tell him it feels like the flu/hangover that doesn't go away.
Given his attitude, it doesn't surprise me that he has more than one ex-wife.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Here are appropriate responses to I feel sick/ tired/ nauseated :
How can I help?
What can I get you?
Go lay down and relax
Would you like a massage ?
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Could the rest of us get the same promise? Because you are going downhill fast, "honey".
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
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@excitedpreggo12 : you don't sound excited at all. You sound like you need to take a Prozac, some chocolate & a good dump. Slow your roll there. You've taken the one-way train to BSC-Ville "honey"...
Holy shit.
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Also, hey @excitedpreggo12 , why not use some of that piss & vinegar to stand up for yourself IRL? You sure can tell internet strangers off but you can't get the lady-balls to strap a 2x4 to your spine with the people who are supposed to love you. How fucked up is that. So, before you go all Rambo Style up in this bitch with posters that I like why don't you get a clue. Kthnxbai. :-L
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Me: 30 dx w/PCOS 7/13
DH: 31
TTC 11/12
started Metformin 9/13
HSG, tubes open but narrow uterus... f/u with RE 3d u/s everything 'normal'
2/14: hopefully 1st IUI... timing off before trip, waiting until 4/14
3/27: POAS= BFP!!!
3/28: beta#1: 108
4/2: beta#2: 799
4/11: u/s 6w1d EDD 12/4, 1 little penguin!
7/7: We're having a girl!
12/11: after lots of labor/delivery/nicu excitment baby Piper Mae born 1859 @ 8lbs, 21.5"
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I don't know if this is real because I can't imagine what woman in her right mind would put up with this.
And besides all of that... Children learn from their parents. Your S/O is teaching your future daughters how to expect to be treated and your sons how to treat their wives. Is this the kind if influence you want to signal is okay to your child?
Personally, I'd take this as a red flag and get out. Especially considering how many children he has. No man should be this disrespectful to the woman carrying his child. Even IF you were "milking" it.
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2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
Those with PCOS get told to lose weight to improve their chances, not that they are sterile until they do. And overweight =/= PCOS. And those with PCOS very often get pregnant without intervention. The main time it causes issues is when they don't cycle regularly.
Except I never said or implied have of the things you stated in your first paragraph. All I stated was that people with PCOS (if that's even what she has or another underlying condition) are told to lose weight to regulate cycles if they're overweight as she said she was and maybe that's why the doctor suggested to lose weight. Not they are sterile or that being overweight automatically means you have it. Lol. Really unsure where you pulled any of that out of my initial response. also I'm well aware people get pregnant without intervention but just as they do many also don't. But regardless I'm happy for her. Congrats girl on your BFP! Happy and healthy pregnancy.