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hullabalou · April 2014

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hullabalou · April 2014

I worry a lot about how my dogs will feel about me bringing a baby home. I keep thinking they'll feel betrayed and loving on them more than usual.

abbyful · April 2014

I sometimes hide from my toddler when I'm eating certain things so I don't have to share.

MmmPopcorn · April 2014

mrskbuck said:

I worry a lot about how my dogs will feel about me bringing a baby home. I keep thinking they'll feel betrayed and loving on them more than usual.

I used to be one of those people who thought, "Get a grip, folks, a pet is not a child, and you shouldn't care so much about an animal." But then I adopted a cat that I sincerely care about, and I have the same fear you do. He has been exceedingly affectionate lately, and it makes me a little sad because I won't be able to give him the same attention that I give him now once LO is here.

SweetMelissa5 · April 2014

abbyful said:

I sometimes hide from my toddler when I'm eating certain things so I don't have to share.

I frequently wait until the kids go to bed and then eat all the things I don't want to share.

KMW08 · April 2014

I'm on vaginal progesterone supps. I make dh insert them twice daily, once in the morning once in the evening.

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In my defense I have short fingers & he's able to push them in further. I feel like they're more effective when he puts them in.

RedBirdFly · April 2014

My husband was tummy-sick last night because of something he ate and he was so miserable and pathetic that it took all I had not to make fun of him, since I have been throwing up most food since Sunday. He wasn't even puking, just laying on the couch and complaining about nausea.

ETA: Karma must have paid off, I only threw up ONCE yesterday!

meeshybee · April 2014

SweetMelissa5 said:

abbyful said:

I sometimes hide from my toddler when I'm eating certain things so I don't have to share.

I frequently wait until the kids go to bed and then eat all the things I don't want to share.

My IL's frequently give my kids candy or other treats to bring home. I eat them while my kids are at school.

nonoemily · April 2014

SweetMelissa5 said:

abbyful said:

I sometimes hide from my toddler when I'm eating certain things so I don't have to share.

I frequently wait until the kids go to bed and then eat all the things I don't want to share.

I are DS's leftovers yesterday while he was watching cartoons. Pineapple fried rice, yum!

It was two-fold selfishness. First, I wanted it, and second, I didn't want to clean up the mess from letting him eat it.

musgral8 · April 2014

I automatically think less of a person as a professional if they send me a business email and it has multiple exclamation points at the end of a sentence or a smiley face.

Also, I shamelessly rock out to blink-182 and no doubt while I clean.

mander82 · April 2014

My mom asked me last night if DH and I made any "progress" yet....with our TTC process. (right in front of my dad) I said "nope" ! So far I have now straight out lied to my brother in law and my parents about being knocked up.

I WANT TO TELL EVERYONE NOW!!!!!!!!!!!

jf198400 · April 2014

My dog doesn't get very much attention from me anymore, but he gets loved on by my 2 and 3 yr olds all the time. I think he's pretty happy. Especially with the amount of food that falls on the floor these days. I get mad at the dog when he doesn't eat all the pieces of food on the floor and I have to actually sweep it up. He's supposed to be my vacuum cleaner.

pennyandandy · April 2014

I just trimmed my knuckle hair while sitting at my desk at work. Glad nobody walked in.

jaminjeff · April 2014

I'd totally have sex with Jake and Maggie Gyllenhaal. I find them both incredibly sexy.

wallygirl · April 2014

My 18 month old has watched a ton of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse this week. Between the nausea and having no energy it has been the easiest way to occupy her. On the plus side I've actually gotten some snuggle time from my always on the go toddler.

amberhoothoot · April 2014

I think it's the hormones.... But I resent my mother soooo much.
She is is primary care-giver because I work full-time. She refuses to MAKE DS do things he is supposed to be doing (or not doing). She is absolutely the reason that he still uses a pacey and hasn't been consistently peeing on the potty. But I feel like I'm between a rock and a hardplace. My mom needs the money we pay her and we would be struggling if we had to pay for daycare and miss all those sick days. Plus if we fire her it would really really mess up our relationship. But no matter how often, or how nicely I ask her, she won't discipline him the way I want her to. She is making him into this terrible child. I don't know what to do.

Thanks I feel better now.

hullabalou · April 2014

amberhoothoot said:
I think it's the hormones.... But I resent my mother soooo much.
She is is primary care-giver because I work full-time. She refuses to MAKE DS do things he is supposed to be doing (or not doing). She is absolutely the reason that he still uses a pacey and hasn't been consistently peeing on the potty. But I feel like I'm between a rock and a hardplace. My mom needs the money we pay her and we would be struggling if we had to pay for daycare and miss all those sick days. Plus if we fire her it would really really mess up our relationship. But no matter how often, or how nicely I ask her, she won't discipline him the way I want her to. She is making him into this terrible child. I don't know what to do.

Thanks I feel better now.

This is my fear about ever letting family babysit. My family is full of pushovers (especially my mom) who either don't discipline at all or wait until it is a huge issue and then spank. I have lots of feelings about this but mostly I think I will just avoid asking them to babysit whenever possible.

SuperFreakedFirstTimer · April 2014

mrskbuck said:

I worry a lot about how my dogs will feel about me bringing a baby home. I keep thinking they'll feel betrayed and loving on them more than usual.

YEP!

My dog is my baby. I'm ready to be this responsible adult that my mini human will demand of me, but I've always been a dog person..........not so much a kid person lol. Of course, my thinking is changing a little, but I'm fairly certain I'm going to be a zombie. I can't NOT give my dog the same attention, which means i'll be up 24/7 pleasing everyone. Oh joy

Maelara · April 2014

mrskbuck said:
I worry a lot about how my dogs will feel about me bringing a baby home. I keep thinking they'll feel betrayed and loving on them more than usual.

My dogs are my fur babies. It was incredibly difficult when I brought DD home because I couldn't give them any attention (I also had a csection and my dogs like to jump on me so I had to lock them away).

I felt terrible and constantly told them things would get better. My dogs rebelled big time. BIG time! There wasn't a day for a long time that I wasn't cleaning up piss or shit. It felt like I was giving them shit more than loves. Try clean up stuff off the floor after that type of surgery! It was so hard.

Things haven't gotten back to normal even now as the little dog is jealous of DD and nips.

It's such a shame as DD LOVES the dogs! Her first word was puppies!

We are working with the little dog and she no longer nips which is awesome. She still gets nervous around DD so we are very careful with her training.

renbee · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip. Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

That's kind of messed up. Maybe you should have thuoght about that before you got a dog??

mamatohne · April 2014

My dog rebelled when DS was born too. We live in an apartment and it was impossible for me to take him out as often as he needed. My fffc is my dog has lived with my mom for about 8 months now, and I don't know if I want him to come home.

SuperFreakedFirstTimer · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip. Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

That's kind of messed up. Maybe you should have thuoght about that before you got a dog??
I don't think it's messed up. Would I be ashamed if I gave her up? Absolutely, I would feel terrible. But on the other hand she would deserve a family that has the time and resources to properly take care of her. Maybe we just shouldn't have gotten her but that was a long time ago and we had no idea where life would take us and how we would be financially in the future.

I understand that everyone has a different situation. You'll have to do what you think is best, but if you got this dog a long time ago I'm assuming it's been with you for years and now it's going to be shipped off to someone else. Personally, I would die thinking of the possible separation anxiety that could follow.

Start a "fund me" account. We'll GIVE you money for dog food lol

venussapphire · April 2014

I get that being a SAHM means I should be doing the majority of the cleaning, I have a hard time being treated like a maid though. DH still needs to pick up after himself and help out,

Normally I get on DH and then once every couple of months I get to the point that I'm crying and then he "realizes" how he should help. He'll do one big clean and then think its enough until the next freak out. It just makes me feel so unappreciated.

I get up this morning and the house is a disaster.DH's friend and latest gf are coming for dinner tonight. A small part of me wants to not clean anything and make DH do it when he gets home. I won't, but I really want to.

hullabalou · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip. Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

This makes me very sad for your dog. I volunteer in rescue and you have no idea how many sad, anxious dogs come in because of situations like this. Once you rehome them, they may be anxious and act out, no matter how well behaved they are now, and once they've left your home you really have no idea where they will end up.

abbyful · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

Aaren91011 said:

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip.

Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

That's kind of messed up. Maybe you should have thuoght about that before you got a dog??

I don't think it's messed up. Would I be ashamed if I gave her up? Absolutely, I would feel terrible. But on the other hand she would deserve a family that has the time and resources to properly take care of her. Maybe we just shouldn't have gotten her but that was a long time ago and we had no idea where life would take us and how we would be financially in the future.

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This really pisses me off. You get a pet for LIFE, not just until you get bored of it or it is inconvenient.

People like you are the reason shelters are overrun. "No single raindrop believes it is responsible for the flood."

Plenty of people have both pets & babies and manage just fine. I have THREE dogs and this will be kiddo #2 for us.

wendyld · April 2014

I think I'd judge starting a fund me to pay for dog food at least as much as I would rehoming. If you can't afford food, how can you possibly afford vet care, flea/tick/heartworm prevention, etc.

Maelara · April 2014

abbyful said:

flutterbuggie said:

Aaren91011 said:

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip.

Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

That's kind of messed up. Maybe you should have thuoght about that before you got a dog??
I don't think it's messed up. Would I be ashamed if I gave her up? Absolutely, I would feel terrible. But on the other hand she would deserve a family that has the time and resources to properly take care of her. Maybe we just shouldn't have gotten her but that was a long time ago and we had no idea where life would take us and how we would be financially in the future.

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This really pisses me off. You get a pet for LIFE, not just until you get bored of it or it is inconvenient.

People like you are the reason shelters are overrun. "No single raindrop believes it is responsible for the flood."

Plenty of people have both pets & babies and manage just fine. I have THREE dogs and this will be kiddo #2 for us.

PREACH!

MommaKb710 · April 2014

I'm considering giving DS an early lunch to try and get him to nap earlier today. I'm exhausted and need a nap ASAP!!!

CTri17 · April 2014

Sometimes when my dh gets home I take an extended bathroom break and take my kindle to just be alone for 5 min. Even though I don't have to go. No one bothering me for 5 min is blissful

LoR2010 · April 2014

We have 3 dogs and it's stressful and terrible sometimes and I'm sure it will be overwhelming when baby gets here, but I would never get rid of them. It's our fault we have three dogs and we refuse to take the easy way out by getting rid of them.

suzyrenee · April 2014

CTri17 said:
Sometimes when my dh gets home I take an extended bathroom break and take my kindle to just be alone for 5 min. Even though I don't have to go.

No one bothering me for 5 min is blissful

Yes! I definitely do the same thing sometimes.

LadyBird9 · April 2014

Don't dump your dog. Please.

Preparing Your Dog for a New Baby

Introduce Your Dog to Your Baby

Introducing Your Pet and New Baby

abbyful · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

I don't think that's fair to say. We got her from a shelter and she would have been killed if we didn't adopt her. I understand why you feel pets are for life however you have no idea what situation you will be in down the line. Some people can handle animals and kids together just fine, I am just not sure if that is me. Maybe that means we shouldn't have got a dog in the first place but we saved her and love her now. Just because we find her another home doesn't mean she will end up in a shelter. Would you rather her not get proper care (food,vet visits etc) than the possibility of potentially going into a shelter at some time down the line? If we end up having to give her up it will be for her best interest.

Edit- words

You are just making the same excuses every other pet-abandoner makes.

Living things get priority in our house. Humans first, then pets. If we were hurting financially, there are other things to cut. Cancel cable, switch our phones to phone only no data plan, eat out less, carpool to work, shop for clothes at the thrift store, quit buying alcohol, cook more frugal meals, sell stuff on eBay/Craigslist you don't need, etc. The pets would only go as an absolute last resort, and even then I would find a friend or family member to care for them temporarily until we got back on our feet, then we'd take them back.

Where there's a will there's a way. You just don't have any will.

hullabalou · April 2014

abbyful said:

flutterbuggie said:

I don't think that's fair to say. We got her from a shelter and she would have been killed if we didn't adopt her. I understand why you feel pets are for life however you have no idea what situation you will be in down the line. Some people can handle animals and kids together just fine, I am just not sure if that is me. Maybe that means we shouldn't have got a dog in the first place but we saved her and love her now. Just because we find her another home doesn't mean she will end up in a shelter. Would you rather her not get proper care (food,vet visits etc) than the possibility of potentially going into a shelter at some time down the line? If we end up having to give her up it will be for her best interest.

Edit- words

You are just making the same excuses every other pet-abandoner makes.

Living things get priority in our house. Humans first, then pets. If we were hurting financially, there are other things to cut. Cancel cable, switch our phones to phone only no data plan, eat out less, carpool to work, shop for clothes at the thrift store, quit buying alcohol, cook more frugal meals, sell stuff on eBay/Craigslist you don't need, etc. The pets would only go as an absolute last resort, and even then I would find a friend or family member to care for them temporarily until we got back on our feet, then we'd take them back.

Where there's a will there's a way. You just don't have any will.

All of this.

mockingjay1 · April 2014

abbyful said:

I don't think that's fair to say. We got her from a shelter and she would have been killed if we didn't adopt her. I understand why you feel pets are for life however you have no idea what situation you will be in down the line. Some people can handle animals and kids together just fine, I am just not sure if that is me. Maybe that means we shouldn't have got a dog in the first place but we saved her and love her now. Just because we find her another home doesn't mean she will end up in a shelter. Would you rather her not get proper care (food,vet visits etc) than the possibility of potentially going into a shelter at some time down the line? If we end up having to give her up it will be for her best interest. Edit- words
You are just making the same excuses every other pet-abandoner makes. Living things get priority in our house. Humans first, then pets. If we were hurting financially, there are other things to cut. Cancel cable, switch our phones to phone only no data plan, eat out less, carpool to work, shop for clothes at the thrift store, quit buying alcohol, cook more frugal meals, sell stuff on eBay/Craigslist you don't need, etc. The pets would only go as an absolute last resort, and even then I would find a friend or family member to care for them temporarily until we got back on our feet, then we'd take them back. Where there's a will there's a way. You just don't have any will.

This. I am a hard core pet lover, and I was more upset when my cat died last year than I was when my grandpa died (we weren't close, and that might be a FFFC in itself). I don't understand how you think it is better for your dog to give him/her up.

There are ways to cut your expenses that don't include giving up your dog. I have two cats, and I'm a little worried how one of them will deal with having a baby, but I am in no way going to give him up. Cats and dogs don't need that much. Going to the vet once a year, vaccines, food, water, a couple toys. In the grand scheme of things they aren't that expensive. Just cutting your cable/internet bill out would probably more than pay for your dog. You or your SO could also get a part time job (10 hours a week even) that could pay for your dog.

I have a friend who I look at as my big sister I never had who got rid of her dog when she had her third baby. I still think a little less of her because of it.

I'm sure you've been flamed enough, but I will never get this mind set and it obviously makes me extremely angry. So if you get pregnant in two years will you get rid of your first baby to pay for your second? I'm guessing no. I don't see why it's any different with pets.

ETA more info.

Allisonville · April 2014

jf198400 said:
My dog doesn't get very much attention from me anymore, but he gets loved on by my 2 and 3 yr olds all the time. I think he's pretty happy. Especially with the amount of food that falls on the floor these days. I get mad at the dog when he doesn't eat all the pieces of food on the floor and I have to actually sweep it up. He's supposed to be my vacuum cleaner.

Totally! I get annoyed when my dog isn't paying attention and getting the dropped food. You have one job, dog, do your part!

And my dog is seriously the most wired dog I've ever met. He's a total spaz. I was a little worried about him with a baby. But from the day she came home, he has been amazing with her. I understand that having a dog and a baby/toddler can be a scary dynamic but at least give them a chance.

renbee · April 2014

flutterbuggie said:

We have 3 dogs and it's stressful and terrible sometimes and I'm sure it will be overwhelming when baby gets here, but I would never get rid of them. It's our fault we have three dogs and we refuse to take the easy way out by getting rid of them.
That's great! I'm glad you are that convicted about it! For me, if I feel like having a dog will affect me being able to care for my child in any way, then I'm sorry but my baby will come first.

FFS, it doesn't have to be a situation of choosing between the dog and the baby. If the dog was having some severe behavioral issues and it affected the safety of you or the baby, then that would be one thing. But it just sounds like the dog is now an inconvenience for you so you want to get rid of it.

MeghanCF · April 2014

Pets are family too.

icaughtfire · April 2014

If you really feel that buying dog food will be a struggle, I really have to question how you can be financially ready for a baby..

jlove253 · April 2014

And this is why we don't have a dog/pet yet. I have a good friend with 3 LOs and a dog they had before the kids. That dog has the worst tail- it's like a whip! And it's pretty tall so it's constantly whacking small children. I really want a terrier some day, but after seeing that dog, and how much they love him, I knew we'd need to wait.

My very first FCC- everytime someone tells me they have/had HG I always wonder if they're exaggerating. With 1-3% of pregnant women having HG, it just seems like the amount of women I've heard say they've had it is disproportionate. A good friend of mine had HG in both of her pregnancies and after seeing what she went through, if someone sounds too flippant I doubt them. If they really had it, then all my sympathy is for them, but if they are self-diagnosing to try to justify how crappy they felt, I wish they'd just say it like it is. I'd have tons of sympathy for them even without the HG label.

The End.

MrsAdventure · April 2014

My husband and I live with my grandmother to care for her because she has dementia (and is generally batsh*t crazy). Most of the time she doesn't remember that we live with her, she thinks we are just house guests. I love her, and I know none of her antics are her fault, but sometimes I just want to grab her and shake her and say "what the hell is wrong with you?!" Like the time she threw all of my shoes in the trash can because they weren't hers. Or the time she walked into the hubs and mine bedroom at 4am looking for her glasses (we've since gotten a locking door). Or when she puts our mail in the curb side recycling for every creeper to dig out, because she doesn't know why she has it. Or when she gets mad and goes off about how we never go home. Like she's the only one inconvenienced. I know she's not in her right mind, and I would never go off on her, but when she's in one of her moods, she goes out of her way to make me and my hubby feel like we're imposing, I just want to say 'Listen Looney Tunes, it's either this, or a home. Take your pick.' I love my grandma, but she is a handful somedays.

Edit: spelling and more ranting >>> she also keeps the house 900 degrees and gets mad because I am sick and should go home and get better instead of letting her catch what I have. I get morning sickness because she keeps the house so effing warm!!!

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