FFFC

nonoemily

Melissa2216 said:

Jess&Dusty said:

Cool, if you'd rather hide behind your keyboards & be hateful & judge people as if you're better than anyone else like cowards, fine with me. It's not worth poisoning my soul to attack someone just because I disagree with a comment they made.

Whoa, I was with you up until "poisoning my soul." Dramatic, much?

I am just now catching up on my bumping for the day, but @flutterbuggie, I just wanted to add that I get where you're coming from and I didn't take your post as you casually tossing your dog aside because it is an inconvenience. I totally understand being overwhelmed by the stress of a new baby + stress of financial problems. Hopefully you can keep your dog, but if not, I hope you can find him a loving home.

And while I know everyone meant well by suggesting what she should cut back on, we have no idea what she's already done. The assumption seems to be that @flutterbuggie would just dump her dog
at a skeezy shelter. What if she took the time to find a loving home for
the dog?

I know it's not the same thing as a dog, but I have a desert tortoise that I adopted from a friend almost 20 years ago. When I lived with my parents, the tortoise lived in the backyard and had an amazing yard to graze on. Now I live in a condo and she has a concrete patio. I have more than once considered giving her to a friend of mine that also has a tortoise because she has a yard. Would that make me a horrible pet-abandoner? I don't know. She would miss me and I would miss her, but she would have a nice life.




You have a desert tortoise as a pet? That's sounds awesome. How big is it? For some reason I am picturing a massive sea turtle sized creature living on your condo balcony and it's cracking me up.

abbyful

RedBirdFly said:

@abbyful‌ Colostrum, like...what breasts make before milk?

Yep. They sell bovine colostrum as a supplement.

missnacholover

My soul is too poisoned to respond.

RedBirdFly

abbyful said:

RedBirdFly said:

@abbyful‌ Colostrum, like...what breasts make before milk?

Yep. They sell bovine colostrum as a supplement.

Hmm. I wonder if it has lactose in it? He's lactose intolerant as well, but its definitely worth looking into! Thanks!

mamatohne

People have to get rid of their pets all the time when life circumstances change. She isn't going to throw her dog out, she is (maybe) going to have to re-home it. I am a huge dog lover, (and as I admitted be for my dog now lives with my mom) this is a hard decision. But if it's between dog and baby, Baby wins. She doesn't need anyone making her feel worst. That being said my sister has adopted three dogs over the past 3 years and has none of them. She re homes them after about a month. If you are getting rid of a dog for certain circumstances it's wrong to get another one until that circumstance has changed. (If my dig is still alive when we buy a house, hopefully next year, we will get him back, if not maybe get a puppy) Don't judge someone's circumstance until you walk in their shoes!

kjmommy1214

JKVogt said:

I have eaten half of a frozen pizza. Part of it for dinner and part for a snack.

I don't understand. What happened to the other half??? Why didn't you eat that too?

I had to feed the kids. Responsibilities.

sunflwra

Aaren91011 said:

Jess&Dusty said:

Hey ladies, it's supposed to be Flame Free Friday. Be happy, it's the weekend & you're growing a miracle. Save the hating for Not FFF.

Just FYI - "Flame Free" is a misnomer. FFFC is never actually flame free. Because, the internet, and free speech, and stuff. 

Also, just because I'm "growing a miracle" does not mean I can't have opinions and be snarky.

Aaren91011 
:x

sunflwra

Jess&Dusty said:

Cool, if you'd rather hide behind your keyboards & be hateful & judge people as if you're better than anyone else like cowards, fine with me. It's not worth poisoning my soul to attack someone just because I disagree with a comment they made.

WOW- who's judging now?
:-?

sAAmFam

flutterbuggie said:

abbyful said:

flutterbuggie said:

Aaren91011 said:

flutterbuggie said:

I find great satisfaction from cleaning my fingernails with a paper clip.

Also I have seriously been thinking finding our dog another home when this baby comes. I just know I'm going to be so much more stressed than I need to be if we keep her. Plus dog food gets expensive and we won't have that much income after baby comes.

That's kind of messed up. Maybe you should have thuoght about that before you got a dog??

I don't think it's messed up. Would I be ashamed if I gave her up? Absolutely, I would feel terrible. But on the other hand she would deserve a family that has the time and resources to properly take care of her. Maybe we just shouldn't have gotten her but that was a long time ago and we had no idea where life would take us and how we would be financially in the future.

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This really pisses me off. You get a pet for LIFE, not just until you get bored of it or it is inconvenient.

People like you are the reason shelters are overrun. "No single raindrop believes it is responsible for the flood."

Plenty of people have both pets & babies and manage just fine. I have THREE dogs and this will be kiddo #2 for us.

I don't think that's fair to say. We got her from a shelter and she would have been killed if we didn't adopt her. I understand why you feel pets are for life however you have no idea what situation you will be in down the line. Some people can handle animals and kids together just fine, I am just not sure if that is me. Maybe that means we shouldn't have got a dog in the first place but we saved her and love her now. Just because we find her another home doesn't mean she will end up in a shelter. Would you rather her not get proper care (food,vet visits etc) than the possibility of potentially going into a shelter at some time down the line? If we end up having to give her up it will be for her best interest.

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I have a dog I've been trying to regime for over 6 months. I've called everywhere and tried everything. She got pushed on is less than a year ago. She is 90 lbs Doberman and 9 yrs old. She has knocked my kids down and ran them over to get to me. She cares about no one but me. I was trying to get rid of her before I got pregnant. There is no way she can be here when baby comes it will not work. Oh and did I mention she has seizures and has been growling at my husband. I guess it's different for everyone. I feel awful about it. No one wants her. She probly won't live much longer but she's not trampling over my baby.

Seneca0325

My FFC is that it really grinds my gears as to how many ppl feel the need to hound the SAME person for a decision that they already are admitting is unpopular and something they are not proud of. I am a firm believer of not judging others as we will never fully understand another's situation. Instead of tearing others down because it's not a decision that YOU would have made, why don't you offer encouragement or offer up ideas that the person may not have thought of that would aid in their decisions. Comments such as "if you cannot afford dog food, so how are you going to provide for a child?" are absolutely uncalled for. Many people have babies who may not be in an ideal financial situation, but manage to make it work. My parents for example, and guess what? my father worked his ass off to provide for us and did. Maybe we didn't have everything, but we had enough and turned out more than fine.

One thing is for sure, life is uncertain and you *never* know what your situation is going to be like 5 minutes from now much less 5 years from now....so you might want to think about that when you see someone else struggling with tough decisions...could be you in the future.

That is all.