Circumcision

rustyeyedgirl · March 2014

My husband and I don't know the sex of our baby, but I'm curious about those having boys. Are you circumcising him? Why or why not? I'm on the fence and my husband wants to circumcise.

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Do your research and make your own choice. Your choice and reasons have nothing to do with anyone else's choice or reasons. This is a hot topic and almost always starts an argument.

ncbelle · March 2014

I agree - read the research and make the choice that's right for you. We don't circ as we see it as an unnecessary cosmetic procedure. My oldest son is 5 and has never had an issue. My DH is 39 and has never had an issue

Valie18 · March 2014

Pretty much what everyone above said about reading the research and making the best choice you can.

DH and I were also on the fence. It was decided when I asked DH, if he could go back and tell his parents what decision to make for him, what he would tell them to do. He said he would tell them to make the same decision they did. And so it will be like father like son.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

No, because if don't think any potential medical benefit is clear enough or large enough to justify the procedure. Basically I don't think there's any point.

rustyeyedgirl · March 2014

Thanks for the responses so far. Let me clarify. I have done research, my husband has not. The only reason I'm on the fence is because my husband wants our son (if we have one) to 'look like him.' It's really easy to tell someone to 'do the research,' but since his copy of the 'Dad's guide through pregnancy' is gathering dust and wasting space on the bookshelf, I know he's not going to start Googling circumcision because I asked him to. I was hoping for more advice on how to get my husband to think about it differently, like Valie18 gave me. Sorry for the unclear question! It was late....

pdilly2b · March 2014

For me, the pros outweighed the cons, so we did and are happy with our decision. I talked for a long time with the doctor who did it about the method he was trained on and was comfortable with it.

bpatrick0809 · March 2014

If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

I find the quickest way to get my husband to actually do research is to say since I've done it no he hasn't my opinion trumps his.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

bpatrick0809 said:

If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

That's total nonsense. You know what will cut back on stds? Teaching your son to use condoms.

naflmj · March 2014

bpatrick0809 said:
If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

This actually isn't true, especially in developed countries.
We circumcised our first but did more research and didn't our next 2 nor will we this baby.

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

rustyeyedgirl said:
Thanks for the responses so far. Let me clarify. I have done research, my husband has not. The only reason I'm on the fence is because my husband wants our son (if we have one) to 'look like him.' It's really easy to tell someone to 'do the research,' but since his copy of the 'Dad's guide through pregnancy' is gathering dust and wasting space on the bookshelf, I know he's not going to start Googling circumcision because I asked him to. I was hoping for more advice on how to get my husband to think about it differently, like Valie18 gave me. Sorry for the unclear question! It was late....

The "look like daddy" excuse is not a good enough reason.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

And even if they did, a little boy's penis isn't going to look like a grown man's, no matter what.

Andrewsgal · March 2014

bpatrick0809 said:

If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

This is ridiculous and such an uneducated view. Anyway we do not circ our boys as we feel there is no evidence to do so. We feel it is a cosmetic procedure that he can choose one day when he is old enough.

rustyeyedgirl · March 2014

I don't understand it either! It is just what I was given as a reason (excuse?) from him.

Thanks so much for the feedback from everyone! And because I did research before posting this, I did already know that there is no correlation between circumcision and lower std rates. Thankd to everyone else for pointing that out so I didn't have to be the person who poses a question and then argues with the responders

Mrs_D_in_KY · March 2014

We have a 4 year old that is circumcised and our next little guy will be as well. DH is also circumcised. It's whatever works for you and your family.

pigtails1031777 · March 2014

It's a personal choice. People get their panties in a bunch about it.
We chose to do because I've had males in the family with issues and had to do later on and was absolutely so painful.
I'm comfortable with my son getting procedure done while to young to remember.

fsumom · March 2014

We are not going to for a variety of reasons, some mentioned in this thread. Do you own research and make your own educated decision. GL.

fsumom · March 2014

bpatrick0809 said:

If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

Oy. I'm not even going to bother.

PrimRoseMama · March 2014

Someone stop the madness.

cMichelle0423 · March 2014

Oh god, another one of these threads?

OP, just do your research. Look up the pros and cons to both choices and see which one appeals to you and your SO more.

allrightmeow · March 2014

Im leaving my boy, if that's what's in here, intact. If he decides to do it later in life we'll take him out for a nice lunch or something...idk. It's not my dick so imma leave it how I found it.

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WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Natalie78W said:
Im leaving my boy, if that's what's in here, intact. If he decides to do it later in life we'll take him out for a nice lunch or something...idk. It's not my dick so imma leave it how I found it.

) :-bd

momofmanyinthemitten · March 2014

My grandpa had to have his circ done in his early 20's and said he wished that his mother had done it when he was a baby. We had DS circ'd, but are going to have to have it revised in June because the doc didn't take enough skin off. His urologist said that infants bounce back much more quickly than adults. That said, do what seems right for your family.

RebeccaY1 · March 2014

We're circumcising for religious reasons.

Empireceo · March 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

Thanks for the responses so far. Let me clarify. I have done research, my husband has not. The only reason I'm on the fence is because my husband wants our son (if we have one) to 'look like him.' It's really easy to tell someone to 'do the research,' but since his copy of the 'Dad's guide through pregnancy' is gathering dust and wasting space on the bookshelf, I know he's not going to start Googling circumcision because I asked him to. I was hoping for more advice on how to get my husband to think about it differently, like Valie18 gave me. Sorry for the unclear question! It was late....
The "look like daddy" excuse is not a good enough reason.

Why? Since there's no compelling evidence that favors either side (unlike, say, the vaccine debate) then this seems like just as legit a reason as anything else.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

That's a good enough reason to put your child through a painful procedure? So painful that you routinely hear people talk about grown men who were traumatized by it? Really?

Empireceo · March 2014

Babies aren't traumatized by it. They don't even remember it.

Rrrrrachel said:

That's a good enough reason to put your child through a painful procedure? So painful that you routinely hear people talk about grown men who were traumatized by it? Really?

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

Whether or not they're permanently impacted by it isn't clear. Either way it's painful, and that's enough for me to need a darned good reason to do it, and matching daddy isn't one.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

Are you actually claiming it's not painful? Seriously?

Empireceo · March 2014

Rrrrrachel said:

Whether or not they're permanently impacted by it isn't clear. Either way it's painful, and that's enough for me to need a darned good reason to do it, and matching daddy isn't one.

Well that's certainly your choice. I just think that since there's no clear benefit either way, it's kind of weird that you deem some reasons acceptable and some not. *shrug*

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

Of course I do. That's called having an opinion. If I didn't deem some reasons acceptable and some not I would never be able to make a decision about anything.

Empireceo · March 2014

Rrrrrachel said:

Of course I do. That's called having an opinion. If I didn't deem some reasons acceptable and some not I would never be able to make a decision about anything.

Right. For yourself. I don't get why you care why someone would or wouldn't do it, again, since there's no conclusive evidence either way.

Rrrrrachel · March 2014

I don't actually care about anyone else's kids penis.

azaretsky · March 2014

We are Jewish, so this was supposed to be a no-brainer, but once my son was born, I looked at him and said that nobody is coming close to him with anything sharp

Thus, no circumcision... over 50% of American baby boys are not circumcized now because there are simply no good medical reasons for this any more. So, I think the choice is completely up to you and your husband. Why does he want to do it?

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Empireceo said:

WashingtonQueen said:

rustyeyedgirl said:
Thanks for the responses so far. Let me clarify. I have done research, my husband has not. The only reason I'm on the fence is because my husband wants our son (if we have one) to 'look like him.' It's really easy to tell someone to 'do the research,' but since his copy of the 'Dad's guide through pregnancy' is gathering dust and wasting space on the bookshelf, I know he's not going to start Googling circumcision because I asked him to. I was hoping for more advice on how to get my husband to think about it differently, like Valie18 gave me. Sorry for the unclear question! It was late....
The "look like daddy" excuse is not a good enough reason.

Why? Since there's no compelling evidence that favors either side (unlike, say, the vaccine debate) then this seems like just as legit a reason as anything else.
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FriendsFanatic · April 2014

bpatrick0809 said:
If more people would circumcise it would cut back on STDs bc they get under that extra skin and the male doesn't know he has it and keeps passing it along.

FriendsFanatic · April 2014

This is actually untrue.

jaime363 · April 2014

Don't forget there are also religious / personal value reasons for circumcision! I am a Bible-believing Christian who will circumcise her son because it is a family tradition - basically, to us it is an outward symbol of the covenant God made with Abraham in the Old Testament as a symbol to set apart His people from the other nations around them and pledge their love and obedience to God. I don't believe it brings salvation, any special favor with God, or anything "magical" like that, but it is simply an outward symbol of a decision to set yourself and your family apart for God as His people, much like baptism is an outward symbol of deciding to follow Jesus as your personal Savior.

I totally respect anyone's decision to not circumcise, but just want to remind others that some choose to circumcise for personal reasons. There are medical pros and cons to circumcision; no hard medical evidence or statistics that points to circumcision as dangerous or unsafe. Most medical communities or societies neither condemn nor promote the practice since it has pros and cons, and no blatant medical reason to endorse or condemn circumcision.

It is a personal decision - you have to make the right choice for your family and your son.

Rrrrrachel · April 2014

It's not a very biblical position to circumcise as a Christian. you're doing it out of family tradition, not any actual biblical teaching. But sure, whatever reason works for you. Your baby.

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