Girl shaved head, got suspended

CinemaGoddess · March 2014

If we're going to do the "what if" game.

How do we know this is the first time this student has broken the rules?

colliebabe · March 2014

I agree about the rules and not making an exception, but can't see how a shaved head would be a distraction - especially a teacher. We have a female teacher with cancer who shaved her head, a male teacher who is balding on top and shaves the rest of his head.

We also have two female students who chose to shave their heads ala Debra in Empire Records. I've never seen any of these things cause a distraction.

theseaword · March 2014

My argument is that there are special snowflakes and that common sense should always apply. Like, the speed limit is 65 for everyone, but a cop would likely give you a pass for a medical emergency or a good excuse. Exceptions are at the officer's discretion. And that's the muthafuckin' law and not some school handbook.

Yes, the parents should have asked in advance, but more than likely they didn't even think of it right away. They were probably thinking "what a brave thing my daughter is doing for her friend" and only later realized "oh shit, the stupid dress code".

theseaword · March 2014

wife07mom09 said:
I think it really doesn't matter why the rule is what it is but what are the parents trying to teach their child? That rules don't apply to their child because her reasoning was special or good? Or would a better thing to teach this child be " honey we made a mistake. We broke a rule. The handbook says we can't shave your head. Yes this was a loving and compassionate gesture you did for your friend but sometimes /most of the time/ all of the time you have to follow the rules. Wear the wig at school. Apologize for making a big deal. Get back to work. That's what your dad and I do at work"
That would teach this teen a lot more than telling her how special she is to break a rule. It would make her a better employee one day.

This bums me out. Is that what we strive to teach our children? To be better employees someday and not question the rules? I'm not a "no rules" person, but I don't think "question the rules" or "stand up for what's right" are bad lessons either. And I certainly question things at work. That's how I got consistently promoted.

angelashly · March 2014

There is a difference between questioning rules and blatantly not following them. While I will teach DD to have her own opinion and to stand up for her beliefs I will also teach her that there is a way to question those rules correctly.

Also not all work places/bosses are ok with being questioned on their procedures trust me I know.

fancynewbeesly · March 2014

In my eyes, I think that suspension was a harsh punishment. But I think in 99% of cases, suspension shouldn't be a punishment in elementary school anyway. I DO think that there should be consequences for breaking the rules; after school detention, going to a different classroom to do work during a fun activity/party (non-academic of course) lunch detention, staying in for recess, etc. Consequences that could be utilized so that a child isn't missing a day of instruction.

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