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May 2014 Moms
UO
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Re: UO
I can be wrong , I just don't get it also I said I don't think not I know it is not depression.
I'm not trashy, I'm just indecisive. I wanted to be a lemming and get a tattoo when I was an exchange student and a bunch of us were getting things pierced and tattooed, but figured if I couldn't decide what to get or where to put it, it meant I should just be moral support.
...but he did win. ? I mean, that's how I remember this year's Oscar show. I have a vivid memory of a somewhat odd, sentimental acceptance speech with way less listing-of-names than usual.
ETA I'm just confused by this, basically. What is the unpopular opinion here?
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
The "so I don't think it's depression" reads as very matter of fact to me. As in if someone is living the high life on FB you cannot believe that they could possibly be struggling with anything in the privacy of their own home. I went to college with a kid who was constantly surrounded by friends, partying, and always seemed to be having fun. He shot himself. Turns out he had some pretty bad depression. FB life and real life are hardly ever the same. Trust me.
@Jennyinheaven, if you have kids already, clearly you're much better at it than I am because you apparently don't think a mom needs a break, nor should she have time to herself. Or you're a robot. If you are, I appologize. I didn't mean to out you to the internet.
I've heard there was some backlash/grumbling among gay and trans people that the actors weren't gay or trans... but that might've been for Jared Leto's role.
Before I saw the Oscars, I actually thought Dallas Buyer's Club was a movie about real estate tycoons in Texas, an opinion formed from what I saw with the crappy reception I get here under my rock. Your UO just made me stop and wonder about the trustworthiness of my memory is all.
2. Every parent needs to find the sweet spot between being with her kids and having room to breathe and then do what he or she can to make that balance happen. What you're saying seems directly self-contradictory, because you agree that moms need a break but then say this particular woman has too much time to herself and should've never had kids in the first place. By that reasoning, the families where both parents work not because they must but because both of them enjoy their jobs should not have had children either. Upper class Victorians should've died out, because their kids were turned over first to a nurse in the early years and then eventually to boarding schools and governesses. People who work full time shouldn't have dogs either, then, because they leave the dog either with someone else or alone a lot of the time.
I mostly just want you to see the inconsistencies of what you're saying.
It's my favourite movie of this year and I agree that both actors deserved their oscars. However, IMO Jared Leto totally stole that movie. He was amazing. Without spoiling it for those who haven't seen it, I got genuinely emotional towards the end. I've not been that invested in a character in a long time.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Some people think a private company should be able to have whatever policies they want, including total jackass policies, and then let the public either support or shun the company instead of making laws. I'm on the fence about that, but it is interesting to try and think out the consequences and repercussions of such a system.
Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014
Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
Dum spiro, spero.
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Fez from that 70s show. First and last thing he did. Thing is, whenever I see him I just hear Fez.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
The business of babies is so unpredictable. If my doctor is running late or at a delivery during my scheduled appt, the nurses will call and see if I still want to come in or reschedule.
I just can't understand why people get irritated about this.
I agree. I sort of expect to have to wait around when I have medical appointments. I like to think that if I had a problem that needed seeing to immediately, people would be understanding and not sit there bitching about it.
I had to go in for bloods a couple of months back, but it took 4 hours because 2 women came in and went straight to l&d. I didn't mind because I hope I'll be treated the same way when it's my turn to drop this critter.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
My friend's OB is always on time. But when she was having heavy cramping and period like bleeding they took an hour to call her back and told her to go to the ER because they didn't have any openings. No they couldn't have stopped her m/c but it would have been reassuring to have a familiar face instead of whoever was in the ER take care of you. I had some first tri bleeding, called and they told me to come in immediately. As soon as I walked in I was next on the list. They took me back for an u/s then I saw the dr to get an explanation and what to expect from there on out. I had probably 15-20 minutes with the sonographer and probably 30 minutes with the dr. Now you tell me which experience you'd rather have. I'll wait for 30-45 minutes in the waiting room beyond my appointment time and give him the benefit of the doubt. Especially since I'm also the asshole with a huge list of questions a lot of times.
I also understand that there are other mothers there who have legit concerns and questions and might be going through something pretty shitty, so I'll gladly wait 30+ minutes beyond my appt time so they can get their questions or fears addressed. I know I'd want the same respect.
Also, at my particular place of work, we run our own internal programs in addition to funding many other programs at other non-profits. When deciding who to fund, we have a requirement that they must have less than 25% of their budget be spent on management fees. If a company is only spending 2% on actual programming, that is pretty bad!
Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014
Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
Dum spiro, spero.
I'm with @ThereBeDragons. My time is very valuable, too... BUT I have done this enough to know there are just things that can't be controlled for. If I have a doctor's appointment--especially an OB appointment--I pretty well plan on blocking out half a day. I play on my phone and relax or take work with me and get something accomplished.
The only thing that really gets me irritated is when I ask, "How long will it be?" and the staff tells me a time, I make decisions off of that and it is ridiculously underestimated. I had this happen with a pedi appointment a couple of weeks ago. They told me when I checked in that the doctor was running 15 minutes behind. This was important because the appointment was a non-urgent appointment for DS (just a follow-up to have his ears checked to see if his infection had cleared) and he was in a horrible mood and I knew he would not tolerate waiting for hours. Literally, 2 hours and 5 tantrums later, I still had not been seen. But that was a little different situation. Waiting in the OB's office is different, though, than waiting with a screaming toddler.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I get why you'd want a call in any other circumstance or profession, I just don't think this is one where you should expect it.