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I got the TRO

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I woke up at 6 am with a terrible horrible feeling. My intuition was spot on.
Came to do my first pick up ever. STBXH was verbally abusing me in front of the kids with very nasty things to say. Pushed me and pulled a bag out of my hand and punched a dent in my car. Also yelled horrific things at my mom and she didn't even come into the house. Then his mom pushed me while joining in on the verbal assault again all in front of the kids. It's like living a nightmare and I feel so bad for the kids. I'm allowed to stay in our home, have full custody and a no contact and no visitation order until we see the judge.
I feel sick. And sad. Why couldn't they let me come get the kids and just go? It went so smooth on Friday when he picked up. Why didn't he do the same?
Fucked up. No other words. And no idea what happens from here.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    Im so sorry this happened, hugs for you. Hugs for your mom, and hugs for your kids. Im sure your in shock and youll go through a vast array of emotions about this in the next few months.

    I dont know if he will get to plead his case in court, thats what happened when i filed for a restraining order against my ex. But youll get a letter in the mail about that
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  • tig594tig594 member
    He is clearly unstable.  You now have witnesses.  He should not have unsupervised visitation with your kids until he gets a lot of counseling, anger management classes and help for his substance abuse issues. Hopefully you filed domestic violence charges against him.
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    And assult charges on his mother for shoving you. What is wrong with her? Does she have no self control
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  • jellybean529jellybean529 member
    I'm so sorry. What a horrible thing to have happen, especially in the presence of your children! I am proud of you for getting the TRO. You did the right thing!
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    beccaga16 said:


    MrsLynnyD said:

    I woke up at 6 am with a terrible horrible feeling. My intuition was spot on.
    Came to do my first pick up ever. STBXH was verbally abusing me in front of the kids with very nasty things to say. Pushed me and pulled a bag out of my hand and punched a dent in my car. Also yelled horrific things at my mom and she didn't even come into the house. Then his mom pushed me while joining in on the verbal assault again all in front of the kids. It's like living a nightmare and I feel so bad for the kids. I'm allowed to stay in our home, have full custody and a no contact and no visitation order until we see the judge.
    I feel sick. And sad. Why couldn't they let me come get the kids and just go? It went so smooth on Friday when he picked up. Why didn't he do the same?
    Fucked up. No other words. And no idea what happens from here.

    I apologize in advance cause I am just having one of those days where I can't follow! 

    Is the highlighted just going off of state law or do you have a temp order that says you can refuse visitation? Either way you are in the right, but I would file charges and go for a PO and temp court order if you have not/if possible.

    ((hugs))


    Youll have to correct me if im wrong, but i believe the bolded is saying that her xh isnt allowed visitation until they see the judge.

    Probably because physical violence occured in front of the children. It might be the possibility for child endangerment. But i could be wrong.
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    Ohhhh well dont i just feel silly i totally missed that
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    edited March 2014
    I have no brain today either. I only got about 3 hours of sleep due to beating the shit out of my boyfriend at mortal kombat vs DC universe. So I've been hesitant to comment on posts.

    However, good to hear mslynnyd. And I hope you files charges against his mother for assault.
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  • MinnesotaMomma91MinnesotaMomma91 member
    This is how i feel about thinking today
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    Me too. I'm about to bite the bullet and have some of the coffee at work. It's so bad and acidic, but it's coffee and my eyes are having trouble staying open. The gym will be interesting tonight...
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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    I have a temporary restraining order and in it the judge ordered him out of the house with no visitation. They put that he harassed me and the police are also filing criminal mischief for my car. My lawyer is reading over the temp restraining order and amending it if needed.
    I filed a complaint against my mil too. That supposedly has to go to mediation first?!? But in the next breath the court admin came outside to tell me face to face that she knows my in laws well so I hope there is no favoritism.
    My in laws are a wealthy and well known family in these parts.
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    beccaga16 said:


    MinnesotaMomma91 said:

    beccaga16 said:


    MrsLynnyD said:

    I woke up at 6 am with a terrible horrible feeling. My intuition was spot on.
    Came to do my first pick up ever. STBXH was verbally abusing me in front of the kids with very nasty things to say. Pushed me and pulled a bag out of my hand and punched a dent in my car. Also yelled horrific things at my mom and she didn't even come into the house. Then his mom pushed me while joining in on the verbal assault again all in front of the kids. It's like living a nightmare and I feel so bad for the kids. I'm allowed to stay in our home, have full custody and a no contact and no visitation order until we see the judge.
    I feel sick. And sad. Why couldn't they let me come get the kids and just go? It went so smooth on Friday when he picked up. Why didn't he do the same?
    Fucked up. No other words. And no idea what happens from here.

    I apologize in advance cause I am just having one of those days where I can't follow! 

    Is the highlighted just going off of state law or do you have a temp order that says you can refuse visitation? Either way you are in the right, but I would file charges and go for a PO and temp court order if you have not/if possible.

    ((hugs))
    Youll have to correct me if im wrong, but i believe the bolded is saying that her xh isnt allowed visitation until they see the judge.

    Probably because physical violence occured in front of the children. It might be the possibility for child endangerment. But i could be wrong.

    I am just trying to decipher if this means she filed a report with police or if she got  temp order from the courts? Or both.  
    It was a Sunday so I had to go through the police and speak to the judge on the phone from the police station.
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    MrsLynnyD said:
    I have a temporary restraining order and in it the judge ordered him out of the house with no visitation. They put that he harassed me and the police are also filing criminal mischief for my car. My lawyer is reading over the temp restraining order and amending it if needed. I filed a complaint against my mil too. That supposedly has to go to mediation first?!? But in the next breath the court admin came outside to tell me face to face that she knows my in laws well so I hope there is no favoritism. My in laws are a wealthy and well known family in these parts.

    Ugh, gross. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Sometimes people with well renowned reputations turn out to be the nastiest and skeeviest of them all. I am glad you got the temporary restraining order, at least. ((hugs))  Hang in there.



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