I have a dark FFFC. I am terrified that something will happen to LO, and I will experience a late loss. I have no history of anything wrong, but I am so worried! I know it's probably unfounded, but still...
Unfortunately I am right there with you
These other FFFC's are making my night! You ladies are hilarious.
This is me as well. I started posting on the Bump message boards on the Loss board, and I still post there regularly. We get new members way too often, and I'm just terrified to start seeing people from the BMB show up there. And I'm also terrified that it's going to be me again, especially with the additional complications that keep emerging with this pregnancy.
I have a dark FFFC. I am terrified that something will happen to LO, and I will experience a late loss. I have no history of anything wrong, but I am so worried! I know it's probably unfounded, but still...
Unfortunately I am right there with you
These other FFFC's are making my night! You ladies are hilarious.
Yes. I keep thinking of all the random things that could happen between now and May (car accident, listeria, etc.)
FFFC: I just cleaned out my fridge (at 9 pm on a Friday, yeah, nesting) and I had a bunch of jars and bottles of expired pickles and sauces to throw away. I only emptied and cleaned 5 out of the 9 containers for recycling, the rest I just chucked in the garbage.
I'm sorry planet, but emptying and washing an expired mustard bottle and jar jars? I'm not even going to attempt that mess. I did the pickle and salad dressing ones though, that's something, right?
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I have a dark FFFC. I am terrified that something will happen to LO, and I will experience a late loss. I have no history of anything wrong, but I am so worried! I know it's probably unfounded, but still...
Unfortunately I am right there with you
These other FFFC's are making my night! You ladies are hilarious.
Yes. I keep thinking of all the random things that could happen between now and May (car accident, listeria, etc.)
FFFC: I just cleaned out my fridge (at 9 pm on a Friday, yeah, nesting) and I had a bunch of jars and bottles of expired pickles and sauces to throw away. I only emptied and cleaned 5 out of the 9 containers for recycling, the rest I just chucked in the garbage.
I'm sorry planet, but emptying and washing an expired mustard bottle and jar jars? I'm not even going to attempt that mess. I did the pickle and salad dressing ones though, that's something, right?
FFFC: I don't buy good tupperware anymore. I get the cheap "gladware" take and toss type containers. In general, I try to be decent to the environment. We recycle, compost, cloth diaper, etc. But I hate dealing with refrigerator science experiments and with the cheap containers I don't feel bad about throwing the particularly gross ones away.
FFFC: there is a chick on the June board whose FFFC was an offensive blanket statement about bipolar disorder. My FFFC is that though I found her statement disgusting and offensive, I was excited by the shitstorm flaming that was to follow.
My other FFFC is that I don't buy Tupperware because I am cheap. Empty plastic butter tubs, glass pasta jars, and glass snapper bottles are pretty much all I ever need. Though one day I did realize in horror that I had packed an actual tub of butter for lunch.
FFFC: there is a chick on the June board whose FFFC was an offensive blanket statement about bipolar disorder. My FFFC is that though I found her statement disgusting and offensive, I was excited by the shitstorm flaming that was to follow.
You cannot tease us with a shitstorm brewing somewhere on TB and not provide a link!
FFFC: I was dreading the fact that DD1 was out if school for a whole week because she's had a major 'tude lately, surprisingly it was one of the best weeks we've had and her and her sister barely fought.
Now I feel like an asshole for dreading it.
On the toddlers are assholes debate: All kids can be assholes at times. I personally think the toddler phase is much easier than the tween phase, but I also have an overly dramatic tween.
I have an awesome toddler too. But when we go visit grandma and grandpa (they live 10 hours away) Shorty becomes a spoiled PITA! I blame it on bad grandparent training, not parenting. When Shorty is home with me, she is an excellent kid. But leave her with my mom for a day and she's a bear!
FFFC: I'm a small town kinda girl and the thought of a highway being more than 3 lanes wide gives me anxiety. Someone on here mentioned that they were in 6 lanes of traffic one day and I couldn't believe it. Do those roads really exist?? The thought of that many crazy drivers all going in one direction makes me hyperventilate.
Whoa. Whoa. WHOA. I never said my kid doesn't rule. Because she does, but that doesn't mean she doesn't on occasion make me want to pull my hair out.
Example--
Beb started saying Mommy instead of Mama and it was adorable so I told her so. For an entire day she followed me around saying mommy, mommy, mommy. It might have been the most annoying thing ever.
I told a Facebook friend from college that he might be "loathed" by the locals because he needs to work on his interpersonal skills. As an example I pointed out that he asked how things were and I replied that I finally got my toddler to sleep after 4 hours, but other than that things are good. He replied good and didn't offer any sympathy. So then he offers the excuse of being sleep deprived for weeks because of a noisy neighbor as the reason for his response. Then I realized that I had been too kind. I told him that my toddler is up 1-3 times a night and I'm 3rd tri pregnant so I'm sleep deprived too.
I earned that root beer float I made myself. And I want to yell at him in person "This is why you don't have friends, jerk!"
I have an awesome toddler too. But when we go visit grandma and grandpa (they live 10 hours away) Shorty becomes a spoiled PITA! I blame it on bad grandparent training, not parenting. When Shorty is home with me, she is an excellent kid. But leave her with my mom for a day and she's a bear!
Ugh I know this is going to be my life. My dad is a widower and lives alone, so he's beyond excited about having a "little princess" to spoil rotten. I'm basically gonna be an evil mama. DH and my dad are going to ruin her. She's so gonna love the men in her life. I'm just gonna be the mean lady who says "no".
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
@fatbarbie0226 yes 6 lanes each way exists all over so cal. And guess what constantly busy at all times of day. I have been in standstill traffic jams at midnight here.
@fatbarbie0226 yes 6 lanes each way exists all over so cal. And guess what constantly busy at all times of day. I have been in standstill traffic jams at midnight here.
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
You do understand that people can have different circumstances and different ways of approaching things than you do, right? Other ladies here have lots of appointments too. Everybody does what they need to do and feel is best for themselves. They're not judging you for going alone, why waste energy judging them? Especially when you don't really know what their situations are? Empathy is a good thing.
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
Well aren't you just special? I'm sure nobody else has had to have multiple appointments per week like you so that must be the difference. Oh wait! With DS we (yes we) were going twice a week in first tri because I was bleeding massively. Then again towards the end I was going twice a week and DH still came. Guess I'm pathetic for wanting support from my spouse during my appointments and somebody to keep me company. Oh well, I'd rather be pathetic than heartless.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
I told a Facebook friend from college that he might be "loathed" by the locals because he needs to work on his interpersonal skills. As an example I pointed out that he asked how things were and I replied that I finally got my toddler to sleep after 4 hours, but other than that things are good. He replied good and didn't offer any sympathy. So then he offers the excuse of being sleep deprived for weeks because of a noisy neighbor as the reason for his response. Then I realized that I had been too kind. I told him that my toddler is up 1-3 times a night and I'm 3rd tri pregnant so I'm sleep deprived too.
I earned that root beer float I made myself. And I want to yell at him in person "This is why you don't have friends, jerk!"
It's still Friday here!
I told a Facebook friend from college that he might be "loathed" by the locals because he needs to work on his interpersonal skills.
As an example I pointed out that he asked how things were and I replied that I finally got my toddler to sleep after 4 hours, but other than that things are good. He replied good and didn't offer any sympathy. So then he offers the excuse of being sleep deprived for weeks because of a noisy neighbor as the reason for his response. Then I realized that I had been too kind. I told him that my toddler is up 1-3 times a night and I'm 3rd tri pregnant so I'm sleep deprived too.
I earned that root beer float I made myself. And I want to yell at him in person "This is why you don't have friends, jerk!"
One-uppers don't make friends easily, either.
Nor do people who think they win the "most tired" contest solely by virtue of having young children. Girrrrrl, we all tired.
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
Well aren't you just special? I'm sure nobody else has had to have multiple appointments per week like you so that must be the difference. Oh wait! With DS we (yes we) were going twice a week in first tri because I was bleeding massively. Then again towards the end I was going twice a week and DH still came. Guess I'm pathetic for wanting support from my spouse during my appointments and somebody to keep me company. Oh well, I'd rather be pathetic than heartless.
Are you angry? I thought this was a confession about how we felt not about how others feel? I don't think your pathetic or weird I think you can do what you want with your pregnancy and your baby, relax lady it is not that deep:)
My new FFFC and I guess UO, I thought the point of these were to express things you know are sort of irrational and the wrong way to feel about you just feel that way at the moment. I don't know pregnancy brain sometimes gives me knee jerk reactions or feelings that aren't really the way I rationally feel
My FFFC is I totally side eye woman who bring their SO or H to every single baby related appointment. I mean my H comes to some and tries especially for ultrasound appointments but their are women that go to my practice who bring their mates to non stress appointments to just sit there etc, plus every single pre natel appointment when half the time all you do is pee in a cup and get weighed
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
Well aren't you just special? I'm sure nobody else has had to have multiple appointments per week like you so that must be the difference. Oh wait! With DS we (yes we) were going twice a week in first tri because I was bleeding massively. Then again towards the end I was going twice a week and DH still came. Guess I'm pathetic for wanting support from my spouse during my appointments and somebody to keep me company. Oh well, I'd rather be pathetic than heartless.
Are you angry? I thought this was a confession about how we felt not about how others feel? I don't think your pathetic or weird I think you can do what you want with your pregnancy and your baby, relax lady it is not that deep:)
Nope not angry. I just feel a little empathy towards others could go a long way for you. You said you side eye people who do this. I side eye you for being judgemental. Especially after others have shown examples of why the spouse may be there. I'm quite relaxed thank you very much. I just happen to think it's bitchy to judge others over something that does not effect you.
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
My new FFFC and I guess UO, I thought the point of these were to express things you know are sort of irrational and the wrong way to feel about you just feel that way at the moment. I don't know pregnancy brain sometimes gives me knee jerk reactions or feelings that aren't really the way I rationally feel
Don't even. You've been here long enough to know that "Flame Free" =/= flame free. You post stupid shit, no matter what thread it's on, you'll get flamed. Buck-up and take it like a big girl.
My new FFFC and I guess UO, I thought the point of these were to express things you know are sort of irrational and the wrong way to feel about you just feel that way at the moment. I don't know pregnancy brain sometimes gives me knee jerk reactions or feelings that aren't really the way I rationally feel
Don't even. You've been here long enough to know that "Flame Free" =/= flame free. You post stupid shit, no matter what thread it's on, you'll get flamed. Buck-up and take it like a big girl.
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Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
My new FFFC and I guess UO, I thought the point of these were to express things you know are sort of irrational and the wrong way to feel about you just feel that way at the moment. I don't know pregnancy brain sometimes gives me knee jerk reactions or feelings that aren't really the way I rationally feel
Don't even. You've been here long enough to know that "Flame Free" =/= flame free. You post stupid shit, no matter what thread it's on, you'll get flamed. Buck-up and take it like a big girl.
My new FFFC and I guess UO, I thought the point of these were to express things you know are sort of irrational and the wrong way to feel about you just feel that way at the moment. I don't know pregnancy brain sometimes gives me knee jerk reactions or feelings that aren't really the way I rationally feel
Don't even. You've been here long enough to know that "Flame Free" =/= flame free. You post stupid shit, no matter what thread it's on, you'll get flamed. Buck-up and take it like a big girl.
Besides that, there is kind of an unspoken understanding that there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed. Anything that is insensitive/hurtful to loss moms, for example, and things that are insensitive to women who are having truly difficult pregnancies are better left unsaid here. It boggles my mind that someone who has experienced those things herself wouldn't get that.
FFFC: I'm a small town kinda girl and the thought of a highway being more than 3 lanes wide gives me an. ety. Someone on here mentioned that they were in 6 lanes of traffic one day and I couldn't believe it. Do those roads really exist?? The thought of that many crazy drivers all going in one direction makes me hyperventilate.
What??? 6 lanes is nothing. I think the road by my neighborhood is 5 and it is not a major road. I think major highways are more akin to 16-20 lanes. At least 6-8 on both sides plus an HOV lane and then 2 lane access roads on each side...so i guess that is about 16-21 lanes?
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
FFFC: I'm a small town kinda girl and the thought of a highway being more than 3 lanes wide gives me an. ety. Someone on here mentioned that they were in 6 lanes of traffic one day and I couldn't believe it. Do those roads really exist?? The thought of that many crazy drivers all going in one direction makes me hyperventilate.
What??? 6 lanes is nothing. I think the road by my neighborhood is 5 and it is not a major road. I think major highways are more akin to 16-20 lanes. At least 6-8 on both sides plus an HOV lane and then 2 lane access roads on each side...so i guess that is about 16-21 lanes?
And I hate our 4 lane (2 each way) during rush hour....... Small towner right here!
Congrats to my GP Sister from another mister Bruinsbabe!!
Re: FFFC
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
Well then side eye the shit out of me. This time not so much but with my sin my husband was there for every appointment he could make it to. If he weren't 12+ hours away he would be this time too. Then again once you've had a miscarriage and then a really rough start on both pregnancies, it kinda changes your perspective on things a bit.
This is so true. DH was on a 48 hour shift when I miscarried. He likes coming to the appointments with me and getting to hear LO's heartbeat.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Now I feel like an asshole for dreading it.
On the toddlers are assholes debate: All kids can be assholes at times. I personally think the toddler phase is much easier than the tween phase, but I also have an overly dramatic tween.
FFFC: I'm a small town kinda girl and the thought of a highway being more than 3 lanes wide gives me anxiety. Someone on here mentioned that they were in 6 lanes of traffic one day and I couldn't believe it. Do those roads really exist?? The thought of that many crazy drivers all going in one direction makes me hyperventilate.
Beb started saying Mommy instead of Mama and it was adorable so I told her so. For an entire day she followed me around saying mommy, mommy, mommy. It might have been the most annoying thing ever.
I told a Facebook friend from college that he might be "loathed" by the locals because he needs to work on his interpersonal skills.
As an example I pointed out that he asked how things were and I replied that I finally got my toddler to sleep after 4 hours, but other than that things are good. He replied good and didn't offer any sympathy. So then he offers the excuse of being sleep deprived for weeks because of a noisy neighbor as the reason for his response. Then I realized that I had been too kind. I told him that my toddler is up 1-3 times a night and I'm 3rd tri pregnant so I'm sleep deprived too.
I earned that root beer float I made myself. And I want to yell at him in person "This is why you don't have friends, jerk!"
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
I've had 2 miscarriages, I understand all this I am just literally on 4 appointments a week at this point between stress tests, ultrasound s and prenatal if DH came to them all he would probably get fired , I call him when Im done we discuss, I think it is more calming for me to go alone at times
Well aren't you just special? I'm sure nobody else has had to have multiple appointments per week like you so that must be the difference. Oh wait! With DS we (yes we) were going twice a week in first tri because I was bleeding massively. Then again towards the end I was going twice a week and DH still came. Guess I'm pathetic for wanting support from my spouse during my appointments and somebody to keep me company. Oh well, I'd rather be pathetic than heartless.
Are you angry? I thought this was a confession about how we felt not about how others feel? I don't think your pathetic or weird I think you can do what you want with your pregnancy and your baby, relax lady it is not that deep:)
Nope not angry. I just feel a little empathy towards others could go a long way for you. You said you side eye people who do this. I side eye you for being judgemental. Especially after others have shown examples of why the spouse may be there. I'm quite relaxed thank you very much. I just happen to think it's bitchy to judge others over something that does not effect you.
Don't even. You've been here long enough to know that "Flame Free" =/= flame free. You post stupid shit, no matter what thread it's on, you'll get flamed. Buck-up and take it like a big girl.
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Besides that, there is kind of an unspoken understanding that there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed. Anything that is insensitive/hurtful to loss moms, for example, and things that are insensitive to women who are having truly difficult pregnancies are better left unsaid here. It boggles my mind that someone who has experienced those things herself wouldn't get that.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
And I hate our 4 lane (2 each way) during rush hour....... Small towner right here!