I think that if someone passes away their facebook should be deactivated. My husband's uncle has access to my deceased grandmother-in-law's facebook and sends out game requests from her.
I honestly and truly don't give a crap what someone thinks of how I feed my kid and whether the wording they use intentionally or unintentionally implies a judgement. If someone wants to come at me with a direct judgement, bring it :-p
Flying directly in the face of not giving a shit about THAT, (and this is way more of a FFFC than a UO), I feel intense judgement as a working mother by my SIL who does all she can to avoid daycare for her kids (to her and their detriment). My nephew is speech delayed and is approaching preschool age. There's a program that's two days, two hours each and they chose that one over the two day five hour a day option because she feels that's "too long" for him to be there.
THIS IS MY NEIGHBOR!! Both her kids are within weeks of my kids ages (that was a difficult sentence). And neither are anywhere near as developed as mine. Like, noticeable so...but she has actually said the words that "she cares more about her kids" than I do because she stays home with them...
The difference in her son and mine (when he was that age) is amazing. He's never been away from her in any kind of group setting so I tried (in vain) to explain that being dropped off in that kind of environment for ONLY two hours at a time is actually likely to be harder for him because it's a lot of transitions in a short amount of time. I think he'd do amazingly well in the 5 hour program because he'd get to really settle down and have fun and learn without it being time to leave practically the minute he starts enjoying himself. He's literally afraid of other children but he finally warms up to my son after a while and they have so much fun together.
I love my Canadian accent but hate that people think I say aboot, I do not say aboot!!! And I think the Newfie accent is kind of our equivalent to the Southern accent and some people don't like the sound of it but I always had a thing for Newfie men!
We're 8, 9, 10 months in at this point - I side-eye a parent that still hasn't left their baby for more than an hour. I'm sorry but don't you need "you" time? Isn't it good for your baby to experience other people?
I peace out on the regular lol What I wish was that DH had more reasons to take the boys out of the house. I miss being alone in the house lol
@kelly422 We have the signs, patients don't always observe them. And when they don't? The doctor walks out of the room when they answer their phone in the middle of an exam.
But that said, we are ALWAYS on time. We do not over schedule or overbook appointments. So if we have the decency to give you our attention and time, on time, please do the same for us. That's how we treat it.
Most of the time I try to play nice and just ignore it, but maybe I should nicely say something to them when they do things like that. I don't have problems with very many people answering phones - once in awhile they'll answer just to tell the person who is calling that they're at the dr and will call them back. But the texting is ridiculous!
We're 8, 9, 10 months in at this point - I side-eye a parent that still hasn't left their baby for more than an hour. I'm sorry but don't you need "you" time? Isn't it good for your baby to experience other people?
While I completely agree with you, the longest I have ever been away from my LO is 2 hours when he was 6 months old to go shooting. Other than that I'm always with him. I would kill for some me time but being away from family and people I trust to watch my kids makes it hard to get out kid free. You better believe when I go visit my family in June though I'm taking advantage it and going to get lots of me time in
We're 8, 9, 10 months in at this point - I side-eye a parent that still hasn't left their baby for more than an hour. I'm sorry but don't you need "you" time? Isn't it good for your baby to experience other people?
While I completely agree with you, the longest I have ever been away from my LO is 2 hours when he was 6 months old to go shooting. Other than that I'm always with him. I would kill for some me time but being away from family and people I trust to watch my kids makes it hard to get out kid free. You better believe when I go visit my family in June though I'm taking advantage it and going to get lots of me time in
Could you work on finding a babysitter that you could have watch him while you do things at home to build up that trust? Get some you time, lady!
We're 8, 9, 10 months in at this point - I side-eye a parent that still hasn't left their baby for more than an hour. I'm sorry but don't you need "you" time? Isn't it good for your baby to experience other people?
I peace out on the regular lol What I wish was that DH had more reasons to take the boys out of the house. I miss being alone in the house lol
Right? I'm just itching for a long shower and naked time followed by eating crap food in bed and watching tv all while my husband takes Lilly out to buy me presents. Too much?
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My husband is out of town, but my mom took the baby for the day and ds1 was in school. It was fabulous! I walked around naked eating a sandwich and actually took a legit shower where I shaved my legs.
You know you're a mom when... that ^ sounds wonderful.
Um, FFTC is EBF really no bottles? I always thought it was that baby gets only BM.
You are correct. It should mean that the baby only gets breastmilk. Ellie was "EBF" but it was 100% from a bottle because she couldn't nurse due to her heart defect.
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I also thought EBF meant bottles too?? Doesn't it? Also no way is it 'snotty'. When people say 'EFF' does that mean they look down on 'EBF"? I never took it that way. Badge away people!
Also all accents rule since us Canadians don't have one and it's boring! Ha ha ha! Except the Newfie's.
I also think the more people reading the better. Read whatever you want!
And lastly because I've done it myself (and swiftly kicked my own ass) I judge hard when people judge hard for saying "My LO will never do this at 18 months or 2 or 3 etc" WHEN THEY HAVE NEVER HAD A LO THAT AGE!
I love my Canadian accent but hate that people think I say aboot, I do not say aboot!!! And I think the Newfie accent is kind of our equivalent to the Southern accent and some people don't like the sound of it but I always had a thing for Newfie men!
In a huge Great Big Sea fan and one of my favorite things about tier shows is listening to them tell stories in their adorable accents!
@steamboat1679 I could write on and on about my neighbor. She recently told me that they would never spend money the way we do because they value family over material things...this was after we bought a new washer and dryer to replace our existing, 14 year old set (which we sold on craigslist for $500)...she test the limits of my bitch slap reflex on the regular
I think that if someone passes away their facebook should be deactivated. My husband's uncle has access to my deceased grandmother-in-law's facebook and sends out game requests from her.
Yeah, creepy and inappropriate on your husband's uncle's part.
However, I'm happy that they don't deactivate accounts when someone dies. My best friend died suddenly from a blood clot a few years ago, and oddly one of my anxieties after she died was what would happen to her Facebook account. It sounds ridiculous, but it's one of my last connections to her. Even now, a few years out from her death, I'm pretty sure I'd be upset if they shut down her account. I should probably work through that...
But yeah, tell your husband's uncle to cut it out.
First, I'm Canadian and I don't say eh, aboot or talk in any such manner. That's a Newfie thing. But they have some sexy men, so bring on the Newfie when I was in Vegas a couple years ago, EVERYONE knew we were from Canada without us saying we were. I guess that means we must have an accent.
Second, I LOVE frozen. I have the collectors edition, yo!
Third. Daycare. I know two little boys, very close in age (3) and one goes to day care while the other does not. The one that does go to daycare can speak better, can share and is just all around better socially. The boy that doesn't, well you can't understand a word he says, he doesn't share (he constantly rips Tali's toys out of her hands and screams "MINE") and is always having tantrums. The mom won't put him in preschool for both years because 'kids should be kids' but man does this kid need some social interaction. To be fair, she didn't have a car until very recently and never left (still doesn't) the house. Now, I'm a SAHM so DD won't go to daycare but you can bet I will do everything in my power to develop her social skills. Those moms that are telling you ladies that they 'love their children more' can seriously take a flying leap off a bridge. I bet one day they will be coming to YOU for advice because their child isn't as far along as yours.
Forth, I'm pregnant and about to eat a big ol' lunch meat sandwich! Oh yeah!!!
@steamboat1679 I could write on and on about my neighbor. She recently told me that they would never spend money the way we do because they value family over material things...this was after we bought a new washer and dryer to replace our existing, 14 year old set (which we sold on craigslist for $500)...she test the limits of my bitch slap reflex on the regular
Wow. Why on Earth would anyone feel the need to say that? Your bitch slap reflex limit is impressive.
@steamboat1679 I could write on and on about my neighbor. She recently told me that they would never spend money the way we do because they value family over material things...this was after we bought a new washer and dryer to replace our existing, 14 year old set (which we sold on craigslist for $500)...she test the limits of my bitch slap reflex on the regular
Wow. Why on Earth would anyone feel the need to say that? Your bitch slap reflex limit is impressive.
I used to get really pissed about it and it would really affect me, but when the developmental differences between our oldests really became evident I started to realize that everything she says is meant to make herself feel better. If it does, that's great, I'm happy she has that. Ultimately I know that it is not a competition
On the EBF thing I guess I just don't get the assumptions around it. If I say my child is breastfed without the Exclusive would one assume I'm supplementing? Same for Exclusive formula fed. I feel like if people want to expand on what they are, they say they are breastfeeding but supplementing or something like that. But why does anyone need that kind of detail? Also I EBF DS1 and I definitely used that term. I was really proud of it (and it's hard, I totally understand wanting that E and working like hell to keep it). But then I had DS2 and now he gets 2-4 oz of formula a week (a pathetically small amount, which tells you where I'm at with fitting in more time for pumping!) and so that means he's just BF. I was upset at first I had to supplement but now I'm like, what is the flipping difference between BF and EBF when my baby is still getting 28oz a day of breastmilk? It just seems crazy to make that distinction. This is kind of an "in retrospect" thing for me because I look back at myself 3 years ago throwing around "exclusively breastfed" and "exclusively cloth diapered" and I kinda want to punch myself.
@steamboat1679 I could write on and on about my neighbor. She recently told me that they would never spend money the way we do because they value family over material things...this was after we bought a new washer and dryer to replace our existing, 14 year old set (which we sold on craigslist for $500)...she test the limits of my bitch slap reflex on the regular
Wow. Why on Earth would anyone feel the need to say that? Your bitch slap reflex limit is impressive.
I used to get really pissed about it and it would really affect me, but when the developmental differences between our oldests really became evident I started to realize that everything she says is meant to make herself feel better. If it does, that's great, I'm happy she has that. Ultimately I know that it is not a competition
It's really mature of you to look at it that way, it shows a lot of self control and empathy.
I am a BFing Momma who only uses the E when discussing with A's doctor and dcp. Or when asked. There are sanctimommies who would continue using the E (some here, some elsewhere) for the sole sake of being showy. I still don't care how people feed their babies if their babies are healthy and growing and the parent is doing what is best for their family. Also EBF/BF should still count if a baby gets bottles of bm whether the mom is EPer or only PTP
I forgot who said it but thank you for making Northerners look bad. I am of the opinion that TV and Movies over-emphasize everything for dramatic effect, that there are the smart and the stupid EVERYWHERE and of EVERY type. I guess you're actually proof of that! (PS. They send newscasters to CT to learn how to talk without an accent, therefore I HA
Sleep- A goes to "bed" late for a baby, but we follow her cues. We work- and I'm not going to force her down to sleep at a certain time because some chart or whatever says so. We WILL spend time with our daughter during the week- whether it's an hour a day awake or 12. And if that means I have to get up earlier or something, I will.
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
And something new to discuss, I would rather just have regular sex on my period, if I absolutely HAD to have sex. Honestly though, if you need it that bad just take care of it yourself.
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However, I'm happy that they don't deactivate accounts when someone dies. My best friend died suddenly from a blood clot a few years ago, and oddly one of my anxieties after she died was what would happen to her Facebook account. It sounds ridiculous, but it's one of my last connections to her. Even now, a few years out from her death, I'm pretty sure I'd be upset if they shut down her account. I should probably work through that...
But yeah, tell your husband's uncle to cut it out.
First, I'm Canadian and I don't say eh, aboot or talk in any such manner. That's a Newfie thing. But they have some sexy men, so bring on the Newfie
Second, I LOVE frozen. I have the collectors edition, yo!
Third. Daycare. I know two little boys, very close in age (3) and one goes to day care while the other does not. The one that does go to daycare can speak better, can share and is just all around better socially. The boy that doesn't, well you can't understand a word he says, he doesn't share (he constantly rips Tali's toys out of her hands and screams "MINE") and is always having tantrums. The mom won't put him in preschool for both years because 'kids should be kids' but man does this kid need some social interaction. To be fair, she didn't have a car until very recently and never left (still doesn't) the house. Now, I'm a SAHM so DD won't go to daycare but you can bet I will do everything in my power to develop her social skills. Those moms that are telling you ladies that they 'love their children more' can seriously take a flying leap off a bridge. I bet one day they will be coming to YOU for advice because their child isn't as far along as yours.
Forth, I'm pregnant and about to eat a big ol' lunch meat sandwich! Oh yeah!!!
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This is kind of an "in retrospect" thing for me because I look back at myself 3 years ago throwing around "exclusively breastfed" and "exclusively cloth diapered" and I kinda want to punch myself.
I am a BFing Momma who only uses the E when discussing with A's doctor and dcp. Or when asked. There are sanctimommies who would continue using the E (some here, some elsewhere) for the sole sake of being showy. I still don't care how people feed their babies if their babies are healthy and growing and the parent is doing what is best for their family. Also EBF/BF should still count if a baby gets bottles of bm whether the mom is EPer or only PTP
I forgot who said it but thank you for making Northerners look bad. I am of the opinion that TV and Movies over-emphasize everything for dramatic effect, that there are the smart and the stupid EVERYWHERE and of EVERY type. I guess you're actually proof of that!
(PS. They send newscasters to CT to learn how to talk without an accent, therefore I HA
Sleep- A goes to "bed" late for a baby, but we follow her cues. We work- and I'm not going to force her down to sleep at a certain time because some chart or whatever says so. We WILL spend time with our daughter during the week- whether it's an hour a day awake or 12. And if that means I have to get up earlier or something, I will.
Our lil' diva: late like her Momma: 40 weeks 5 days!
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
Seriously voming in my mouth right now
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
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:-&
And something new to discuss, I would rather just have regular sex on my period, if I absolutely HAD to have sex. Honestly though, if you need it that bad just take care of it yourself.