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  • eyriseyris member
    My UO (at least around here):  I think the whole "Food before one is just for fun" thing is kinda BS.

    If your baby never learns to eat a significant amount of food before one, you're going to be breastfeeding and/or formula feeding for a while.  Of course, if you were planning on extended BFing it probably doesn't matter to you, but I don't want to be buying formula for my 1 1/2 year old.
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    I disagree about the books instead of cards. A registry is just a list of suggestions, whereas the book instead of cards thing is pretty much a request/demand.

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    I think everyone complaining about the social groups is being a little ridiculous. If you don't like it, don't join. Who cares what TB spends their money on? And I'm in a group I really like, and I hope they don't get rid of it after the test.
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    I STILL love Juan Pablo...he was honest and didn't want to say I love you or propose to someone he barely knew...
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    Joi922 said:

    I have one I have one!!!

     

    I think joint FB accounts for husband and wife are silly.  You never know who is posting or commenting and it makes it seem like you can't trust each other.

    Maybe there are reasons I don't know of but it's just confusing... 

    I didn't even know this was a thing. I find it annoying enough when someone uses someone else's account to post. My husband's cousin does this all the time. The response will be from his wife's account but it will say "this is Cousin". You have an account, just use it. My UO: I don't understand having female - only baby or bridal showers. We not invite everyone to celebrate the couple/parents to be?
    I would have liked to do this but DH and I both come from big families.  We had 50 people at my shower as it was (I think we invited 60+) with just women.  If we would have invited all of the spouses/single guys it would have been easily over 100 people.  

    My mom and MIL threw it as a joint venture, so the only way it would work would probably be to have two showers and MIL isn't really an "event" planner and my mom and I live for these things, so I probably would have ended up planning my own 2nd shower.
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    AbbyMMM said:
    My UO (at least around here):  I think the whole "Food before one is just for fun" thing is kinda BS.

    If your baby never learns to eat a significant amount of food before one, you're going to be breastfeeding and/or formula feeding for a while.  Of course, if you were planning on extended BFing it probably doesn't matter to you, but I don't want to be buying formula for my 1 1/2 year old.
    Oh no, @eyris! I usually agree with you 100%! Lol I believe "food before 1 is just for fun" because parents shouldn't stress about how many solids a baby is consuming if they are slow to catch on. The "fun" is important - it's about learning how to eat new things - taste, texture, chew, swallow. Some babies get this immediately. Some don't. But the interaction with food is still important. I see where the phrase can sound like earlier food doesn't "count" or that everyone has to feed their baby BM or formula for over 1 year, but every baby is different. I think people say it so that parents don't freak out about how much a baby is eating - not to mandate a weaning date.
    Hahaha, sorry @AbbyMMM!  I guess there's a first time for everything. ;)

    I agree that parents shouldn't stress if their baby is slow to catch on.  I guess I usually see this in terms of BLW where the baby is only eating what they can get into their mouth, leading me to believe if you really did only BLW and took the phrase to heart, you baby would not be eating very much by age one.
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    munchkinsmama said:
    my UO, I don't want a big house. I love smaller homes. I get really offended when people tell me my current home is a great starter home. I like the closeness that my home offers. I know there will be times when we will wish it was bigger, but I just think of all the financial freedom my smaller home offers and it's worth the trade off.
    I'm totally with you.  I have no desire to have a huge house.  My house is 1,500 sq ft. and I don't think I would go for a house any bigger than that.  My only complaint would be that it was built in the 1970's, so it could have some better features like walk-in closets and a nice soaker tub, but you can totally do that with the same or less square footage.
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    @eyris do you have a basement? We are having an extra closet for each room built in the basement when we renovate it to allow for more storage.
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    munchkinsmama said:
    @eyris do you have a basement? We are having an extra closet for each room built in the basement when we renovate it to allow for more storage.
    Yeah, we actually have a huge unfinished basement.  Basically it's full of storage boxes right now.  It will be a huge asset once we finally finish it someday.  I'd like to turn a big chunk of it into a playroom so that big toys don't live in the family room once DS is older.

    When we remodeled one of the bedrooms to be Everett's nursery I put in a really nice closet organizer (Martha Stewart stuff from Home Depot) that really really utilized the space.  I think if I did that same thing in our bedroom we'd be fine, but I worry a little about once we have another baby because the 3rd bedroom is the smallest and has a closet half the size.

    It's like those awesome "apartment" set-ups they have at Ikea that are like 500 sq ft - it's all about proper organization and editing out clutter.
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    jojo1112 said:
    my UO, I don't want a big house. I love smaller homes. I get really offended when people tell me my current home is a great starter home. I like the closeness that my home offers. I know there will be times when we will wish it was bigger, but I just think of all the financial freedom my smaller home offers and it's worth the trade off.
    I agree with this completely. We have a 1700 sqft house plus a finished basement. It's perfectly sized. Sometimes I wish the bedrooms were larger as the house was built in the 50's but I wouldn't want a much bigger house. I grew up in a small house and it never seemed like a small space. My BIL just moved into a 3500 sqft house and MIL is always telling DH and I how jealous we are going to be of his house when we visit and will want to get one too. BIL lives out of state in a area with way lower cost of living then DH and I plus that's just twice as much house to clean. No thanks.
    I would hate to have a 3,500 sq. ft. house.  That just seems totally excessive to me.  Even if money was no object, I wouldn't choose that.  I'd build my dream house with all the features, but never that huge.  Just think of the heating, cooling, electrical, etc. costs that come along with it, regardless of the mortgage.  Unless I had 10 kids or lived with extended family, that's just crazy.

    I grew up in a house that was, I think, 2,400 sq. ft.  To this day, there are basically three whole rooms in my parents' house that are never used.  And now two more since my brother and I don't live there anymore.
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  • llybeckllybeck member
    edited March 2014
    I almost don't understand the point of marriage. I want my family to all have the same last name so DD doesn't feel confused or upset about it (my 1/2 sister was adopted by my dad but she always said it was painful before then that she had a different last name), and obviously there are the tax benefits. But why can't just being together be enough?

    And most of you know, I'm engaged and planning on marriage this September. I hate planning this. Everything is falling apart and our families won't leave us alone. I don't like my fiance's mom or sister and now he's incredibly hurt. I honestly don't understand any of this or why everyone needs to be involved and hype this up so much. It's just one day, aren't all the years and memories we make together what should be important? Not this one day that's costing me $15k and causing nothing but drama. FTR, I never wanted to get married in my life until after I was pregnant. I'm guessing it was the hormones...
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    HBirdie said:
    coraggiosa said:
    I disagree about the books instead of cards. A registry is just a list of suggestions, whereas the book instead of cards thing is pretty much a request/demand.
    This. I've had two friends put this request in their invite and I side-eyed the crap out of them, even though I love them. The first who did it, it was for her daughter's first birthday party. The second, it was for her baby shower, and the hostess actually had the nerve to text everyone a few days before the party and say something like, "Hi guys! Just wanted to remind everyone that T's shower is in a few days! Hope you can make it! Also, she's really, really excited about getting books instead of cards, so make sure you don't forget that! No cards! LOL!"

    Um, no.

    Also, from a practicality standpoint, people sign the books. Which means they're un-returnable. And I don't feel like having three copies of Goodnight Moon or The Very Hungry Caterpillar.
    The worst part of that text is the LOL. It doesn't make your demand for books okay because you write LOL after it. That is so freaking tacky. 

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    charpe said:
    @sabrinakurtz‌, I hate JP... But I do enjoy that your opinion truly is a UO. My UO is that I think Vera Bradley anything is hideous.
    YES YES YES. Vera Bradley bags are so ugly. I don't get the appeal at all.
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    munchkinsmama said:



    my UO, I don't want a big house. I love smaller homes. I get really offended when people tell me my current home is a great starter home. I like the closeness that my home offers. I know there will be times when we will wish it was bigger, but I just think of all the financial freedom my smaller home offers and it's worth the trade off.

    I feel this way about cost of home, as well. We just got preapproved for $100k over what we want to spend, and someone mentioned that our house would be "so much nicer" if we spent more. But my life wouldn't be so much nicer with limited spending money and having to buy furniture for and clean a big house. I feel like it keeps your possessions/materialism/clutter in check with a smaller place.

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    @jdoud77, Not me. But I think it's an awesome idea. The stress of big weddings is overrated. Perhaps, that's my UO.
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    I think pictures of babies eating are gross. Even the thought of an infant covered in pureed peas turns my tummy. 
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    @Brennadaun he was just "being honest"... if she didn't want him to think of her has a sexual object, she shouldn't have given it up to him when he was dating other women! 


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  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
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    Bamgal25 said:

    I just thought of my UO for the day. This seems like a UO for this board at least- I think putting babies to bed for the night at 6:00 (or even 7:00) is crazy. That just seems like such an early bedtime to me.


    We start bedtime routine at 7 but really it's because poor dd has to get up between 5:30 and 6 every morning. Maybe when summer rolls around (both dh and I teach elementary school) we'll work on keeping her up later but now it's what works for us.

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    jdoud77 said:
    There was someone on S'13 who eloped in Vegas after trying to plan a wedding. @mistyflame was that you? I recall beautiful wedding pics being posted.

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    I think it was @sugarellie ... or @sugarkissed ? Dang it, I can't remember.
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    Legitsince86 said:
    coraggiosa said:
    I disagree about the books instead of cards. A registry is just a list of suggestions, whereas the book instead of cards thing is pretty much a request/demand.
    This. I've had two friends put this request in their invite and I side-eyed the crap out of them, even though I love them. The first who did it, it was for her daughter's first birthday party. The second, it was for her baby shower, and the hostess actually had the nerve to text everyone a few days before the party and say something like, "Hi guys! Just wanted to remind everyone that T's shower is in a few days! Hope you can make it! Also, she's really, really excited about getting books instead of cards, so make sure you don't forget that! No cards! LOL!"

    Um, no.

    Also, from a practicality standpoint, people sign the books. Which means they're un-returnable. And I don't feel like having three copies of Goodnight Moon or The Very Hungry Caterpillar.
    Man, that friend has some huge cojones to even text a reminder especially with lol at the end. I can only imagine what the response was for people who disobeyed that text!
    Uh, yeah. The kicker is, I didn't even know the person. She was the mom's brother's girlfriend. She and the mom-to-be's mom hosted, and they were sooooo rude to most of the guests (we were all work friends). Even though they were the ones hosting, they sat at their own little table and gossiped and laughed really loud and were really unfriendly to all of us. It was awkward.

    And I love my friend, but she opened the gifts really fast and didn't say thank you to most of them... which kinda made me wish I hadn't come at all. Most of her comments were like, "Oh, look at the shark towel. That was on my list, I remember that." -set it aside, open the next gift- "Hey, sippy cups. Hope he'll drink out of sippy cups since some kids don't." -next gift- "Oh hey, the crib sheets we wanted!" No thank yous, no acknowledging who each gift was from, nothing. It was the worst.
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    drey1028 said:

    jojo1112 said:


    Bamgal25 said:

    I just thought of my UO for the day. This seems like a UO for this board at least- I think putting babies to bed for the night at 6:00 (or even 7:00) is crazy. That just seems like such an early bedtime to me.



    I guess I don't see where it's crazy. Most babies should get 10-11 hours of sleep at night. No matter when we put DS to bed he's up between 6 & 6:30 so we put him to bed around 7 to make sure he gets his rest. If he's had horrible naps that day sometimes even sooner. It's crazy only to me that we get an hour with him after work and before bed but having a well rested, happy baby is more important to me. I also love the couple hours I get each night to do stuff around the house or spend time with DH.
    I was just coming back thinking I should explain my response better but you did it for me! I agree with everything, especially what you said about the weekdays after work. Yes it stinks to have limited time with her but she needs the sleep and we need that time to get the dishes done ( dinner and daycare/pumping crap) maybe throw in some laundry and whatever else. We also eat after she goes to bed ( hate eating so late but it is what works for now)



    Well I guess I shouldnt say its crazy. If it works for you then thats good. I guess I should be glad my DD doesnt wake up too early so I dont feel the need to put her to bed early either.
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  • LelaDenneyLelaDenney member
    I know in going to get slaughtered for this but I'm 2 glasses in on wine. I believe in the traditional family as in the wife takes care of the husband, house, kids and the husband makes the living. I was raised in a home like this and also it goes along with my religious beliefs. I feel this is the reason the divorce rate is so high is because women aren't allowing men to be the man in the house. Now I am a teacher and taught before giving birth and plan to go back one day. Working is totally great for women and I definetly think women should work if they want or need too but I feel a man should still be treated like the head of the house at home.
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    edited March 2014
    VitaLuna said:

    LelaDenney said:

    [...] I believe in the traditional family as in the wife takes care of the husband, house, kids and the husband makes the living. [...] I feel this is the reason the divorce rate is so high is because women aren't allowing men to be the man in the house. [...] I feel a man should still be treated like the head of the house at home.

    Haha.. Ha.. Ha! You would just love to know, then, that I'm listed as head of household on our taxes, manage all our accounts, pay the bills, etc. Oh the horror! I may end up as the only lender on our future mortgage, too. Thank goodness my husband believes in supporting a successful/responsible wife. The situation you describe would be far more likely to cause divorce in my case than being treated as ::gasp:: an equal.
    I pay the bills, manage the accounts, do the budgets but I think I was obvousily not clear on what I meant. Bottom line I don't feel women respect their husbands nowadays. And unless you marry a douchebag they all should treat their wives as an equal as my husband does. He does not take advantage of my beliefs (which had I married a douche-I could see men nowadays take full advantage of the "man is the head of house" mindset) and always respects me in return. I just treat my husband with respect and try to do what I feel fits my family best. Good for you for all that you do I think that's great! I understand my way of thinking is old fashion and some might say "outdated" but it has blessed me with a beautiful life and husband who cherishes me. It's obviously not everyone's cup of tea or kettle of tea for that matter.

    I was raised and live in the South and I know this is an uncommon way of thinking among this group of ladies but in my friends and family IRL this is the norm.

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    VitaLuna said:
    Respecting your husband and treating him as "head of household" and the "man of the house" are two COMPLETELY different things.
    I'm the leader of our house, for sure.  DH would never make an executive decision without me.  I don't make more money, but I'm definitely in charge.  It's just my personality.

    I married a guy who's laid back and cool with that, and it totally works for us.  Maybe I'm not "in my place" as a woman, but seriously, this is 2014 FFS.
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  • Salemkitty13Salemkitty13 member
    edited March 2014
    I had a Guinness but it wasn't enough apparently. Just no.
     I respect my DH and he respects me. I also do what I feel is best for my family. That is as far as I can agree with you.
    I hope you continue to be happy.
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    Hey! I'm from the South and this kind of crap that makes us look bad! Not all us think this way.
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  • LelaDenneyLelaDenney member
    eyris said:


    VitaLuna said:

    Respecting your husband and treating him as "head of household" and the "man of the house" are two COMPLETELY different things.

    I'm the leader of our house, for sure.  DH would never make an executive decision without me.  I don't make more money, but I'm definitely in charge.  It's just my personality.

    I married a guy who's laid back and cool with that, and it totally works for us.  Maybe I'm not "in my place" as a woman, but seriously, this is 2014 FFS.


    My husband consults me with every decision whether it be buying an item over X amount of $ or what he should do in a job situation and 95% of the time does exactly what I advise. That's part of the whole respect aspect.

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  • LelaDenneyLelaDenney member
    edited March 2014
    Salemkitty13 said:

    I had a Guinness but it wasn't enough apparently. Just no.

     I respect my DH and he respects me. I also do what I feel is best for my family. That is as far as I can agree with you.
    I hope you continue to be happy.
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    Hey! I'm from the South and this kind of crap that makes us look bad! Not all us think this way.

    The last thing I want to do is "make the South look bad" but I feel literally every woman I know believes the same way I do. Maybe I should delete the South part. I guess birds of a feather flock together thing. Do you honestly think it has nothing to do with the culture of southern homes? I am not trying to be defensive just truly wonder what your thoughts are. It could be it has nothing to do with the south and it's just who I naturally befriend.
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  • Salemkitty13Salemkitty13 member
    I don't feel it has to do with the culture of southern homes in general. I was raised in a family with a strong matriarch. There was not a males are head of household idea in our home. My parents were married for 33 years, until my father passed away.
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    Salemkitty13 said:

    I don't feel it has to do with the culture of southern homes in general. I was raised in a family with a strong matriarch. There was not a males are head of household idea in our home. My parents were married for 33 years, until my father passed away.

    Oh see I am wrong about the South comment. :) I'm sorry about your loss.
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