UO?

LelaDenney

jenny5o5 said:

LelaDenney said:

I know in going to get slaughtered for this but I'm 2 glasses in on wine. I believe in the traditional family as in the wife takes care of the husband, house, kids and the husband makes the living. I was raised in a home like this and also it goes along with my religious beliefs. I feel this is the reason the divorce rate is so high is because women aren't allowing men to be the man in the house. Now I am a teacher and taught before giving birth and plan to go back one day. Working is totally great for women and I definetly think women should work if they want or need too but I feel a man should still be treated like the head of the house at home.

I don't know where to even start with this...

It's not the 1950s.

More women are entering college than men.

If the "man of the house" can't handle being married to an equal, he is not a man.

I went to college and have a degree in education. Currently doing a masters program for when I return to work. And I'm an equal in my relationship we just have different roles in the home.

Nevermind I see what you meant by more women attending college than men. Drinking and bumping causes word vomit in my case.

eyris

We should probably all just follow these instructions...

kennazebrowsky

We are an eqaul team in our house. Both in charge.

RoosterWrangler

My family is from the South and I come from a long line of stubborn, feisty women who were the heads of their households. My great great great aunt Lena was so angry when her husband decided to buy a Cadillac without her consent that she set it on fire in front of their house. He was mysteriously poisoned a short time later...

LelaDenney

Alright ladies well I'm off to churn my butter. I thought atleast one mom would agree with my UO but apparently not.

RoosterWrangler

LelaDenney said:

Alright ladies well I'm off to churn my butter. I thought atleast one mom would agree with my OU but apparently not.

Thank you for your unpopular opinion.

VitaLuna

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HBirdie

Eh, I guess I'm with you to a point. I also believe my husband is the head of the household. We're equals and neither of us make decisions without the other, and we don't always subscribe to traditional roles (he cooks 95% of our meals, he cleans more, etc.), but spiritually, I believe he is the leader of our household. 

I strongly disagree that couples who don't believe this are headed for divorce.

Burrberrymum

HBirdie said:

Eh, I guess I'm with you to a point. I also believe my husband is the head of the household. We're equals and neither of us make decisions without the other, and we don't always subscribe to traditional roles (he cooks 95% of our meals, he cleans more, etc.), but spiritually, I believe he is the leader of our household. 

I strongly disagree that couples who don't believe this are headed for divorce.

This exactly.

Took me all day to remember my UO I thought of the other day. I think everyone who posts their "fitness" pictures regularly are annoying. I enjoy seeing people make progress, that's great, it really is but I don't want to see "gym selfies" of you every day. We get it, you go to the gym. Now come back in 6months with a before and after photo. Not a sweaty photo of the day.

LelaDenney

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Salemkitty13

RoosterWrangler said:

My family is from the South and I come from a long line of stubborn, feisty women who were the heads of their households. My great great great aunt Lena was so angry when her husband decided to buy a Cadillac without her consent that she set it on fire in front of their house. He was mysteriously poisoned a short time later...

Are we related?

RoosterWrangler

Maybe, cuz!

VitaLuna

Pssssttt..... You should be glad you have a "real" UO. People rarely do.

Af1004

I see baby showers as a way to celebrate the child instead of the mother. I know on TB it is widely viewed the other way around but I had NEVER considered it this way until I came on here. I do however think they are a gift and shouldn't be thrown by the mother to be.

charpe

I'm really fascinated by the head of household debate. I disagree with it in that it would never fly in my house... Where I am definitely in charge.
That said, I don't believe that not living like this would contribute to divorce. I think the problems come in when one spouse believes he (or she) should be the head/breadwinner, and the other is not in the same page.

If you and your husband agree that those are your values, then you found someone who is perfect for you.

JLMcWeeney

drey1028 said:

@LelaDenney - I have a lot of thoughts on your UO but I'm mobile and can't type them all out this way.

So I'll just point this out about the higher rate of divorce - can we just remember that a lot of women used to stay in very unhappy and unhealthy marriages due to religous beliefs and the social stigma it used to have. I'm sure we would still be alittle higher today - people are getting married to quickly and giving up even quicker instead of trying to work things out. Shows like the Bachelor/Bachlorette aren't helping the divorce rate but let's not think that marriages were so much happier when men were treated like the head of the house. It makes me think of the TV show Mad Men and all those men are pigs. No thanks.

OMG! I was totally thinking mad men the whole conversation. especially at the "how to be a good wife" picture. Yeah work is hard, but kids can be freaking crazy and hard to raise.
I do feel like it is my job to take care of the house, cook, and do the majority of caring for my son, but I am a SAHM. I have the time for it. I enjoy it. I think of it as my job since I don't work.
When DH get home, he helps with the baby, and is compassionate if I have had a rough day. He would never complain if I didn't clean the house even if I just don't feel like cleaning that day.
I guess what I'm saying is, you can slightly fall into the roll of the "typical housewife" but not have to treat your husband like he is a god that can do no wrong because he is head of household and you need to respect that.

sugarellie

HBirdie said:

jdoud77 said:

There was someone on S'13 who eloped in Vegas after trying to plan a wedding. @mistyflame was that you? I recall beautiful wedding pics being posted.

---------------TRAPPED IN BOX---------------------

I think it was @sugarellie ... or @sugarkissed ? Dang it, I can't remember.

It was me  :-*

sugarellie

llybeck said:

I almost don't understand the point of marriage. I want my family to all have the same last name so DD doesn't feel confused or upset about it (my 1/2 sister was adopted by my dad but she always said it was painful before then that she had a different last name), and obviously there are the tax benefits. But why can't just being together be enough? And most of you know, I'm engaged and planning on marriage this September. I hate planning this. Everything is falling apart and our families won't leave us alone. I don't like my fiance's mom or sister and now he's incredibly hurt. I honestly don't understand any of this or why everyone needs to be involved and hype this up so much. It's just one day, aren't all the years and memories we make together what should be important? Not this one day that's costing me $15k and causing nothing but drama. FTR, I never wanted to get married in my life until after I was pregnant. I'm guessing it was the hormones...

Me and DH eloped in Vegas 6 weeks ago, after our huge wedding starting getting WAY out of hand. Honestly , it was one of the best decisions we have ever made! I would do it again in a heartbeat! It was so much fun, so intimate and I am in love with our pictures!! Little did we know that right after we got back, DH would get laid off, so us cancelling our big wedding and eloping was a huge blessing in disguise. Since we were married I was able to put him on my insurance, had we not eloped we would have had a lot of issues with that and other things due to him being laid off. We are telling our families this weekend so wish us luck !!!  :x