Am I the only one NOT having sex?

klillis13 · March 2014

I feel so bad for DH, but I just haven't remotely felt like it. First of all I dont feel sexy, and have this horrible fear I will just look grotesque to him and not turn him on like I used to...I should preface this with my DH works like CRAZY and we often go for weeks without seeing much of each other because we work opposite shifts or one of us is so exhausted (usually me) that I am asleep by the time he gets home. Anyway.....am I the only one?!?! AsI am laying here in bed while he is snoring....contemplating if I should wake him up and take advantage of him...lol. these hormones are really f'in with my mojo here.....

marsalisails · March 2014

Nope. My DH and I just went 6 weeks without having sex. That's long, even for us!

netsirk2013 · March 2014

I'm horny but once in the act I get the gross feeling too. I try covering up with the blankets or pillow over my belly. 8 lb gain but it feels & looks like so much more. Plus its starting to get uncomfortable. You are not alone! I keep it going because yes there are perks but its nowhere near as enjoyable as itwas bbefore.

Kristen0705 · March 2014

I was put on pelvic rest at 20 weeks, and we will recheck at 28 weeks. But before that, I just did not feel like doing it. We only had sex a handful of times in the first 20 weeks. Poor DH...

littlemissmarla · March 2014

We usually go 2-3 weeks between, I just can't get into it.. Id rather Hand jobs + BJS... Lol

July15Mama · March 2014

I know what you mean about the not feeling sexy part! Also I'm starting to find sex is a little more uncomfortable now but still good! Try making your room really dark or yeah wake him up so he's halfway out of it till you feel comfortable!

DH felt the baby for the first time today. His exact words, "We can't have sex anymore there's a baby in there."

Ummm I'm 21 weeks where has he been?

July15Mama · March 2014

@littlemissmarla I'm with you minus the bjs. Anyone else pretending like they are really gaggy since the pregnancy

hehe

AMcLaws · March 2014

Whose pretending?? Hahaha I always have a sensitive gag reflex though, so DH doesn't get BJ's often

I'm always too afraid I'll puke on him lol.
As far as sex goes, my libido takes a serious dive when I'm pregnant. So I think we've done it like, 3 times since I became pregnant. Poor guy.

INmommy871278 · March 2014

DH and I went from sex 2-3 times a week to once a month if he is lucky. The past two times he has initiated, turned me on, then I stopped it because I just wasn't in it. DH is cool about it, but bummed out.

ghostof5letters · March 2014

I'm with you guys.

MstoMrstoMom851214 · March 2014

Glad to hear I'm not the only one! I've been on pelvic rest on and off, plus the couple of times we've tried it's been very uncomfortable. If I happen to be in the mood (every week or two), we'll just fool around. No BJs though because I will puke on him!

beff12 · March 2014

We've been having issues there too. And by we I mean me...it's getting pretty uncomfortable! Poor DH

abunai523 · March 2014

Yeah, haven't been super into it lately. I feel so bad for DH, he's always pawing at me and I just cannot get in the mood

I've been trying though, it just seems all weird and uncomfortable right now.

iris427 · March 2014

You're definitely not the only one.

email2ash · March 2014

You are not alone! I don't feel like me at all either. I have forced myself at least once every other week. I'm keeping track that's how bad it is lol. At least DH is very understanding.

rach1285 · March 2014

Pelvic rest here too...oh the joys of pregnancy...

emy730 · March 2014

Not the only one by a long shot. We've maybe had sex 3-4 times since getting pregnant. For me, I don't have much of a libido and when I do, it hurts. It sucks!

AutumnBonfire · March 2014

I haven't had sex since my BFP *hangs head in shame*. I've been getting recurring yeast infections (or maybe just the same one that doesn't go away) and we've had small windows of time where sex could have happened, but life situations didn't make it happen. I was on pelvic rest for a few days because of bleeding, so that shut us down. I felt so horrible all first trimester, sex was the last thing I cared about. Once we tried when I thought the yeast infection was gone, but foreplay hurt, so apparently it wasn't and we stopped. My libido also took a nose dive a few weeks ago. I'm disappointed; it was pretty high last pregnancy. Right now I'm yeast free, but life circumstances have pushed sex to the back burner (MIL is in the hospital). Its like the universe is against us doing it.

SuperTinkerham · March 2014

I had so much bleeding 1st trimester (with and without sex) I've declared myself a no fly zone. Poor mister.

TwizzyG · March 2014

You aren't alone! I try to go along with it when DH initiates it, but after a little while, it gets really uncomfortable (sometimes even painful). DH knows it does and now it gets in his head that he is going to hurt me. I feel bad, but I just have NO sex drive right now and with how uncomfortable it is, I have no desire to participate.

aldonovan · March 2014

Definitely not alone. We have had sex once since the BFP. I feel fat and undesirable, with zero sex drive.

gallifreygirl · March 2014

Because our schedules are so different we've only had sex a few times since BFP. It seems like the times when I've felt like it he's having to get ready for work or is too exhausted and visa versa.

jamboree jess · March 2014

We maybe get it on once a week. I feel pretty bad, but I guess it's probably better than nothing :S

helloblueeyes · March 2014

We finally had sex a day or so ago after over a 6 week hiatus.

I am in no hurry to do it again. It's super uncomfortable and I just don't enjoy it right now. It's all for DH.

We actually are going on vacation in 2 weeks and I know he'll want more so I'm trying to figure out ways to make it better for me.

ichamommy · March 2014

No sex since Nov 24th when stbxh used a condom, even though he already knew I was KU. Good thing though considering he was already screwing someone else.

I "diddled" once, in January I think, just to get past the emotional stigma of attaching orgasms to him. Since then, nothing. So yeah, one orgasm in over three months. I put myself in the "not feeling sexy" category with the rest of you.

And as far as a blow job... Oh hell no... What my gag reflex used to be able to handle would cause an instant pukathon now. No. Way.

ahjahbaba · March 2014

Right there with you. It just doesn't feel the same right now and he agrees... Occasionally other activities are just fine for now.

littlemissmarla · March 2014

hahah i should clarify... i avoid BJs for the most part... but if i had to choose.. i'd pick them over sex...

I am also SO paranoid about bleeding after sex- that the entire time.. i'm just thinking about if this is gonna cause any issues - so theres no way mentally i can get into it

HairBossMama · March 2014

I have had sex maybe 3 times since getting pregnant. I do not feel horny at all. I am the one who has initiated sexy time all three times because I feel bad I'm not giving it up as often. He takes really good care of me and doesn't complain too much. Lol

ksuRN09 · March 2014

We've only had sex twice since finding out I was pregnant. And there were several weeks in between those two times. Just can't get into it. Or, when I am feeling it, DH is at work. Poor guy.

drunkenhandstand · March 2014

** raises hand** Only a few times since BFP.

acciovino · March 2014

Only 2 times since BFP. It's a lot harder when you have a little person in your house that can hear everything. She comes in our room every night and we don't see each other during the day. I'm sure it's going to be super awesome once little guy gets here. We didn't have sex until 6 months PP, because I was fat and gross and DH had no drive. Blerg

mhooks23 · March 2014

There must be something wrong with me... At this point I would rather have sex than get our of bed or eat sweets. I masterbate almost everyday.

redhotmama7 · March 2014

I too am the opposite we had sex 4times within 24 hours last weekend... My drive comes and goes but overall has been so much higher than before we got pregnant... Plus hubby loves my pregnant belly so that makes me feel good about myself.

I don't think we've gone more than a week since we were given the clear from pelvic rest after first tri...

Some "old trusty" positions don't work now but we just make up new ones that are great... (I'm sure we didn't make them up but we've never used them before) also lots of lube on the bedside table

lynjae2004 · March 2014

I'm glad I'm not the only one... My SO makes me feel so incredibly guilty, and is actually mean and hateful about our non-existent sex life right now, but I cannot help it.
I have NO sex drive whatsoever. I feel gross- I've gone from 130lb to 164lb (I blame part of the weight gain on stopping my ADD & anxiety meds as soon as we found out I was expecting). I am tired all of the time and worried 24/7 about losing baby... I know a lot of my worries are irrational, but after being told I'd never conceive naturally and now making it to nearly 20 weeks- I am terrified of anything happening.
I just wish there was a way to make SO understand. He keeps telling me about the supposed 2nd trimester super libido- well I'm happy for those of you its happened to- but I'm not one of them.
I'm fat, tired, miserable and DON'T want sex!
Wah. I've been feeling down all day today and seeing this thread after SO started yet another fight about sex helped a little.
Sorry for the whine ladies! I needed to let it out!

Klv123 · March 2014

Thanks for posting this because I really thought I was one of the only ones not doing it! We've had sex maybe 4 times since getting pregnant and I can't say I've loved it. Last time I initiated it, DH stated he felt weird about it now that the baby is getting bigger. Definately didn't hurt my feelings though considering I only offered because I felt bad it had been so long.

mamatomp · March 2014

I guess I'm on what I'll call "modified" pelvic rest. Dr says orgasm is okay-- just no actual intercourse or inserting anything inside... That being said I've felt pretty blah, but DH has been SUPER into me. I've definitely enjoyed general fooling around and handjobs, etc. a lot more than I think I would enjoy actual intercourse, so we've remained pretty regular, with a few dry spells here and there.

AllisonLaurenn · March 2014

I guess I feel better, we have sex maybe once a week on average. Usually on the weekend ... He makes me feel sexy

so that's not a problem

jensavicci · March 2014

Well.....for a while we had a dry spell but we've been getting it on quite a lot since valentines day. I got some last night haha. I've just been really hot and bothered lately and pawing at her like a cat in heat. Haha she says she's sleepy but....eff that.

mamakiss · March 2014

I have no sex drive. I think we've done it 3 times (maaaaybe 4) since BFP. But I had a rough first trimester so it was out of the question... And even though I'm not feeling it lately, it's also a busy semester for me and busy season at work for SO, so we'd probably hit a wall for a little bit either way.

Ylvelill · March 2014

I am having fine sex

jmc1110 · March 2014

maybe 1x week. and that doesn't mean I want it, it means I feel bad. after sex I feel like I cant walk (even when it's slow and easy) I hate this...I thought 2nd tri was supposed to be the good stage!

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