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nikki912 · March 2014

Going off the tattoo thing- In general i dont mind them (i have one) but I think the ones that pay tribute to a dead relative or friend that are huge and impossible not to notice are tacky. Perhaps its because I'm not the type to literally wear my most personal of emotions on my sleeve, but to me it's an attention seeking move.

olenkapdx · March 2014

P&B715 said:

I will not give money to a person on the street, but I donate to churches/Salvation Army. If I can sit and work for 9 hours a day they can do that too.

I'll admit to having these thoughts but the reality is a looooot more complex than that. Are they out there because of mental issues? Disabled? Abused at home and got kicked out?

I agree that *some* street people could be working but they choose not to. I live in Portland and work downtown, which is teeming with homeless people already, and the population seems to double in the summer time, since the crusty street kids from wherever roll through town and hang out for a few months. Those kids annoy the shit out of me, especially as they can be aggressive. I generally don't give anyone on the street money, but donate when I can to a shelter.

michaelad3 · March 2014

Ok I'll touch the money to the homeless/if I can work they can too. As a social worker, I see desperate need every day. I see where life has failed people. I see where people slip through the cracks. Yes, some homeless/jobless people choose that life, but many are stuck in a cycle that is hard to escape. Mental illness plagues roughly 75% and many are coupled with the dual diagnosis of addiction as well. However, people to not need your pity or your "handouts" they need compassion and understanding. If my life circumstances were different, that could be me. I give not out of obligation, but because I have been blessed. Everything I have is a gift, and I am not more worthy than another. I don't always give money. I try to keep gallon bags with water, snacks, socks, gloves, etc. in my car to give to those in need. Sometimes I have nothing to give, but I make eye contact and smile. I acknowledge that a person has value.

Sorry for the super long response and lack of paragraphs. I have issues with mobile.

snmetz7 · March 2014

I tend not to give homeless people money, I'm much more likely to buy them food or give them an old blanket.

Lindsay808 · March 2014

mummyofsix said:
Clearly I have been a USMC wife way too long- men without tattoos just look weird to me. Like..... not yet finished.

I am thankful that my husband joined the marines and got all inked up before they cracked down on sleeves. Yum.

This exactly. Military brat and DH is prior military. I love his sleeve.
The only tattoos I'm against are the ones that are on the hands or on the neck.

However, I also think tattoos that are meant to be for comical purposes are also dumb. I lost my virginity to a guy who had "your name" tattooed on his ass.
Ugh, the shame. X_X

snowclouds · March 2014

michaelad3 said:

Ok I'll touch the money to the homeless/if I can work they can too. As a social worker, I see desperate need every day. I see where life has failed people. I see where people slip through the cracks. Yes, some homeless/jobless people choose that life, but many are stuck in a cycle that is hard to escape. Mental illness plagues roughly 75% and many are coupled with the dual diagnosis of addiction as well. However, people to not need your pity or your "handouts" they need compassion and understanding. If my life circumstances were different, that could be me. I give not out of obligation, but because I have been blessed. Everything I have is a gift, and I am not more worthy than another. I don't always give money. I try to keep gallon bags with water, snacks, socks, gloves, etc. in my car to give to those in need. Sometimes I have nothing to give, but I make eye contact and smile. I acknowledge that a person has value. Sorry for the super long response and lack of paragraphs. I have issues with mobile.

This! It's a great reminder to me not to immediately judge with my first impression because I have no idea what these people's life circumstances are like and why they are where they are.

sugarrush · March 2014

This may not be UO, but i effing love the parenting fail gifs in peoples signatures, I find myself laughing at the same ones over and over.

Oh, and I had a grande white chocolate mocha from starbucks this morning and its put me in such a great mood. I think I need coffee back in my life again on a daily basis to function at the rate I was pre-pregnancy (mood and production wise).

MrsZ0811 · March 2014

mummyofsix said:

My UO for the day: I have a friend who has a child that I really don't like. I know lots of people don't enjoy any kids other than their own (myself included) but this has now graduated to a true angry dislike for this child. I am kind of ashamed at myself that as a 30-something woman I can feel this way about an 8year old. She is so, so, so obnoxious and annoying though. The way she speaks to adults is shocking to me. I wish she would move away. Sigh

I feel you! I LOVE children. I have worked as a nanny for years and volunteer with kids anywhere I can but I refuse to babysit for my cousins. They are spoiled brats and are just down right mean. One gave my DH a black eye when we watched them for a weekend. I outright dread family get togethers with them and I refuse to babysit for them and tell my friends not to watch them as well.

Stace0616 · March 2014

Open marriages make my skin crawl. I'm attending a wedding soon for a couple who is unabashedly non-monogamous and doesn't plan to have children. To me, marriage is between two people, not two people plus random sex partners, and especially does not involve one spouse getting a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side. It's hard to get excited for this couple's wedding.

nikki912 · March 2014

Stace0616 said:
Open marriages make my skin crawl. I'm attending a wedding soon for a couple who is unabashedly non-monogamous and doesn't plan to have children. To me, marriage is between two people, not two people plus random sex partners, and especially does not involve one spouse getting a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side. It's hard to get excited for this couple's wedding.

I don't understand this either. Tax benefits? It's bullshit.

AmberLiz99 · March 2014

Stace0616 said:
Open marriages make my skin crawl. I'm attending a wedding soon for a couple who is unabashedly non-monogamous and doesn't plan to have children. To me, marriage is between two people, not two people plus random sex partners, and especially does not involve one spouse getting a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side. It's hard to get excited for this couple's wedding.

Why on earth are they getting married? I don't get it

maelic · March 2014

Stace0616 said:

Open marriages make my skin crawl. I'm attending a wedding soon for a couple who is unabashedly non-monogamous and doesn't plan to have children. To me, marriage is between two people, not two people plus random sex partners, and especially does not involve one spouse getting a boyfriend or girlfriend on the side. It's hard to get excited for this couple's wedding.

Meh. Consenting adults can do whatever (and whoever!) the fuck they want.

If they want to get married and sleep with other people and it works for them, hooray! More happiness for everyone! You should probably not attend their wedding if they make your skin crawl.

Ashleypixie · March 2014

Wth? I'm sorry, but when two people end up naked in bed together, especially after a night of drinking, they ALWAYS touch each other. What bothers me more than cheating and open marriages, is people who are either too stupid to know or can't accept that they are being cheated on! I swear 90% of my clients are either sleeping around or getting cheated on. Everybody, just get your shots and wash your bits, this world is an icky, icky place.

fourthnlast · March 2014

snowclouds said:

fourthnlast said:

maelic said:

This concern about the state of affairs in pubic hair land is baffling to me. I'm about to have a baby, why would anybody care whether I waxed, shaved, trimmed, or let it run wild for the past six months? Is there a photo shoot planned for my lady bits that I don't know about?

I did shave the lady bits last weekend because it was to the point that it was really bugging me and I couldn't take it anymore. Will I be doing it again anytime soon? Nope.

I couldn't even see my lady bits when I did it a couple weeks ago. I told DH he'd have to do it when it gets out of control again. Trying to see around my belly and then using a mirror was just not sexy and way more of a workout than I need.

I had to do it blind. There was blood involved, missed spots happened and somehow I shaved part of my middle fingernail.

strawberrytree · March 2014

This was part of the 'lazy homeless need to work' post and got passed over, so I'll just say I agree with this bit- I hate when people clutter my newsfeed or pimp out their local business on local FB mom groups. I don't care if today is the last day for Avon/ Scentsy/It Works/whatever orders to be in! If I see more than 3 posts like that from you, you get hidden from my newsfeed.

Rogue237 · March 2014

Wow, ladies, we're getting started early today! Let's see...

- I have three tattoos and I love them, but you'd never know I had them unless you saw me naked. I was careful to make sure they were discreet and in spots that would age gracefully. I don't get people that get "on a whim" tattoos or don't put thought into them. They're on you FOREVER.

- Everything @Serenla said about the homeless comment. She is my spirit animal.

- I want a wax before delivery just so after-care is easier. I don't care what the nurse thinks about my vulva, but I feel like with all the blood, stitches, etc that you're looking at postpartum, being bald down there would make for a much easier clean up, and a wax would ensure you're not having irritating grow back too soon.

snmetz7 · March 2014

LuckySquare said:

I hate seeing day specific threads (UO/FFFC/etc.) being updated after the "special" day has passed. I get why it happens, it just annoys me.

I won't open them after their specified day haha

Rogue237 · March 2014

ColleenSwerb said:

I shave for myself, no one else. I HATE being hairy. My water broke with my first and my dr told me to take my time coming and go take a shower if I wanted to. I did, and I shaved, and it was the best ever because I wasn't all itchy from hair OR dealing with messy bloody hair post partum.

Me too - DH doesn't really care, but I do. I would imagine with shaving though that you'd be growing hair back right as you're still healing and that would be irritating - was it not?

JWest07 · March 2014

Jessieann1020 said:
I don't think David Beckham is attractive at all. He is too small. I like big men. Linebackers.

Something like this! I like big, hairy, rugged men that look like they eat more than I do, weigh more than I do, and primp less than I do.

Serenla · March 2014

A little late but @Relish1025 I love a woman who researches charities

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Serenla · March 2014

AprilMay9 said:

Rogue237 said:
- I want a wax before delivery just so after-care is easier. I don't care what the nurse thinks about my vulva, but I feel like with all the blood, stitches, etc that you're looking at postpartum, being bald down there would make for a much easier clean up, and a wax would ensure you're not having irritating grow back too soon.

Yes to this!!! The thought of having blood crusted pubic hair tangled together makes me want to hurl.

The period from hell.

BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

Our educational systems (particularly in California) make me want to cry with how sad they are, and my UO is that I think No Child Left Behind was one of the worst things to ever happen to our schools.

knotty-girl · March 2014

I haven't announced or spoken of my pregnancy of facebook. I will not post photos of my child on facebook. Between crazy people (some woman stole photos of another woman's children and basically was catfishing with the other woman's motherhood), people like Hunter Moore, and companies stealing baby photos as if they are stock images they can use for advertising, I just have no intention of subjecting my child to the possibilities of victimization the internet provides.

in response to some other UO's: @Mamafantastic I disagree about slouchy ankle boots. They are a pregnant woman with swollen cankles best friends! I personally hate the fitted booties that cut off the leg line and give you the appearance of stubby legs and "hooves" unless you are a model or have legs for days (neither of which I am nor have).

Tattoos: I agree that 90% are tacky. That's because 90% of people are not artistic and have bad taste. This is the basis of pop culture, a large population of idiots and why stupid crap like "Who Let The Dogs Out" and planking get big. I've said this before, but I've found that generally, bigger commitment pieces are more likely to be appreciated by me and better looking than the tiny sticker size tattoos of kanji, butterflies, and yin yangs that scream "I'm a receptionist at a dental office and I got this ankle tattoo beneath my pantyhose on my senior trip to cancun in the 90s. Tribal tattoos are always a bad idea unless you are a member of a tribe. Thank you.

BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

Relish1025 said:
The only real issue I had with this was the "If I can sit for 9 hours a day they can do that too."

There's just so much wrong with that statement that I'm kind of flabbergasted that no one else said anything about it. I figure with people talking so much about politics and the economy, that most would be a bit more compassionate to those less fortunate than them. There are thousands of people with legitimate college degrees who can't find work, never mind those who were financially/circumstantially unable to attend higher education. Yes, there are many panhandlers, or people who would not use money given to them in a conducive manner, but there are so many others who need a little extra help. If you don't feel comfortable giving someone cash, then offer to buy them a meal. If they really need it, they'll accept.

In addition, the Salvation Army is EXTREMELY against gays, and personally, I don't feel comfortable supporting an organization who feels that way. Also, the actual Salvation Army store charges near-retail prices, so the locals who are trying to find an affordable alternative are kind of out of luck. Yes, SA helps out with big disasters, etc. but they don't help out the common person in need as much as you may think. As for donating to churches, you also have to be careful as to who you donate to, because often times those churches use their funds to help their own cause as opposed to donating to the community. Just a simple question of "Where is my money going?" could clear up a lot of confusion.

Finally, I suggest that if you really want to help out those less fortunate, volunteer. If you have older kids, bring them with you. It's a great feeling knowing that you're directly helping someone, and seeing the gratitude on the beneficiary's face is heart warming. Even just spending a lazy weekend afternoon serving at the soup kitchen may help a lot more than throwing a few pennies in a SA bucket. Overall, I think any form of donating/aiding to those less fortunate is admirable; I just think that people should be doing out of empathy rather than pity, or a sense of obligation. We're all just people on a planet with too few resources being provided, leaving us to fight over every scrap of meat we see out of fear of starvation. We're all human, and I think it's about time everyone gets treated like one.

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@Relish1025 YEEEES!!! I was just about to get into it, but you said everything I was going to! As a Christian who DOESNT hate gays, the SA thing really chaps my hide. But I'm that way about all organizations I donate to/volunteer for. Know where it goes, people!

And as for my two cents on the very horrible "no sympathy for the homeless" thing, I'd quote the Bible at y'all, but think I need to save something for FFFC.

Sisimama10 · March 2014

Rogue237 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

I shave for myself, no one else. I HATE being hairy. My water broke with my first and my dr told me to take my time coming and go take a shower if I wanted to. I did, and I shaved, and it was the best ever because I wasn't all itchy from hair OR dealing with messy bloody hair post partum.

Me too - DH doesn't really care, but I do. I would imagine with shaving though that you'd be growing hair back right as you're still healing and that would be irritating - was it not?

The hair growing back was a zero on the uncomfortable scale with everything else that was going on down there. Never even felt it.

AcaAwkward · March 2014

I waxed before my CS with DD at the advice of my OB, and, even though it hurt way worse than waxing when not pregnant, I was SO glad I did. The nurses will shave you for a CS anyway and I really didn't want a half-ass shave job. I plan on waxing closer to my EDD, too, in case of VBAC, because, as others have said, I think it will make keeping everything clean much easier!

BiggerinRealLife · March 2014

If @Serenla is @Rogue237's spirit animal, than @Rogue237 is my patronus.

snowclouds · March 2014

AcaAwkward said:

I waxed before my CS with DD at the advice of my OB, and, even though it hurt way worse than waxing when not pregnant, I was SO glad I did. The nurses will shave you for a CS anyway and I really didn't want a half-ass shave job. I plan on waxing closer to my EDD, too, in case of VBAC, because, as others have said, I think it will make keeping everything clean much easier!

Interesting. I shaved really close too and nurses did not shave me for my c-section. My incision is right where the hair starts.

AcaAwkward · March 2014

snowclouds said:

AcaAwkward said:

I waxed before my CS with DD at the advice of my OB, and, even though it hurt way worse than waxing when not pregnant, I was SO glad I did. The nurses will shave you for a CS anyway and I really didn't want a half-ass shave job. I plan on waxing closer to my EDD, too, in case of VBAC, because, as others have said, I think it will make keeping everything clean much easier!

Interesting. I shaved really close too and nurses did not shave me for my c-section. My incision is right where the hair starts.

Maybe I have a huge bush

My incision is a bit below my hairline!

Serenla · March 2014

Are we going to compare bush sizes now?

Rogue237 · March 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

If @Serenla is @Rogue237's spirit animal, than @Rogue237 is my patronus.

@BiggerinRealLife:

Rogue237 · March 2014

Serenla said:

Are we going to compare bush sizes now?

Dammit, I haven't had one for over a decade. I don't remember!

isamaraguirre · March 2014

sking72 said:
<"Hey, if you guys really cared about your government and the outcomes of elections, I would see these statuses every year at election time rather than every four. Did you forget fourth grade social studies where this government works on checks and balances? Want something changed? Pay attention to who you're electing for congress because when it comes down to it, the president does not have all the power"<br>Ugh so mad.

Amen!
So happy that someone other than me, paid attention in school. I have been saying this to people for years!

snowclouds · March 2014

AcaAwkward said:

AcaAwkward said:

I waxed before my CS with DD at the advice of my OB, and, even though it hurt way worse than waxing when not pregnant, I was SO glad I did. The nurses will shave you for a CS anyway and I really didn't want a half-ass shave job. I plan on waxing closer to my EDD, too, in case of VBAC, because, as others have said, I think it will make keeping everything clean much easier!

Interesting. I shaved really close too and nurses did not shave me for my c-section. My incision is right where the hair starts.
Maybe I have a huge bush My incision is a bit below my hairline!

Now I feel the need to go inspect where mine is, but I can't even see it with the belly so that'll have to wait until I'm home:-)

fireflygirl12 · March 2014

mummyofsix said:

I get waxing done non-pregnant and the pain is fine, but does it hurt enormously more when you're hugely pregnant? I have just never considered it before, but it sounds like a good idea with all the PP stuff going on... but with the swelling and pressure going on down there it sounds bloody painful!

I thought the pain during was pretty much the same as non-pregnant, but afterwards hurts a little more. My vag is just a little tender for about a day, which makes me not want a wax right before delivery. A few days before would be ideal if I could predict something like that

I imagine it could be a bit more painful if you haven't gone in awhile though since they'll have to do a lot more.

reillyea · March 2014

lajohnso1982 said:
Speaking of hating movies...I hated Gravity. I have never ever wanted a movie to end so quickly before. So much flailing around and grabbing on to things. The entire movie was Sandra Bullock saying, "no no no no no no!" and "Ahhhhhhh" Why did everyone I talk to recommend it?

I didn't see this movie because this is what i got from the previews. Thank you for confirming what i thought about it.

michaelad3 · March 2014

I've never been drug tested and I work for the state. Also, I work with elderly welfare recipients. Drug testing them seems like a serious waste of resources

snmetz7 · March 2014

michaelad3 said:

I've never been drug tested and I work for the state.

ditto

rockstarlaw · March 2014

Not only did I have to take a drug test for my employment, but they CUT MY HAIR to test it - big up step from the pee test. Ludicrous. I work in an office - it's not like I operate heavy machinery or anything!

katieharpiceland · March 2014

Hehe, I kind of giggle when thinking of them trying to drug test in my field. Good luck with that one! Then again, no one was ever injured during a concert by a stoned violinist.

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