TTC a Rainbow Sibling Check-in

rmpar29 · March 2014

First, I'd like to send a big thank you to the ladies of PAL for letting us move our check-in over here. Your warm welcomes are greatly appreciated! If everyone wouldn't mind, could you post a couple sentence intro on where you are in your journey, just so the ladies on PAL can get to know us?

Welcome to the TTC a Rainbow Sibling check-in. This check-in is a for TTCAL-ers with living children to talk about the issues of TTCAL while you have a living child. Living children and pictures of living children are welcome here, however if your pictured child is an infant (< a year old), please do place a warning at the beginning of your post to alert ladies who are having a hard day. You do not have to be active on the PAL board in order to be a member of this check-in, however, if you plan on posting on the main board please post an intro there.

All are welcome to join us! Please give us an intro with the following information if you wish: name(s)/age(s) of your child(ren), EDD(s) and where you are in your TTC journey.

If you get a BFP please send rmpar29 and morethansparrows08 a private PM so we can add you to our graduates list.

No special hugs this week.

Current Member List:
almostamissus - Kennedy: 8, EDDs: 7/19/2014, 8/28/2014
anglndsguse44 - Connor : 2, EDD: 9/3/14
dpalczer - Ryker : 5, EDD:?
fallfever - Nathan : 8, Colin : 5, Liam : 3, EDDs: 6/25/2014, 9/5/2014
Frenchteachermama - DD1: 5.5, DD2: almost 3, EDD: 3/30/2014
jenwashington - Lexi: 18, Jayden, 15, EDD: 7/7/2014
kj808 - DS (J) : 6, DD (K) : 3, EDDs: 6/24/2010, 9/17/2013, 10/21/2013, 8/25/2014
mara005 - Fynn: 4, EDDs: 11/4/2013, 8/27/2014
morethansparrows08 - Micah: 7, Elijah: 5, EDD: 8/3/14
Neary2011 - Kendall Rose: 15M, EDDs: 4/18/2014, 9/18/2014
Noeliav - Amelia: 15M, EDD: 8/23/2014
polevaultRN - Timothy: 2, EDD: 10/1/2014
rmpar29 - Dawson and Devin: 2.5, EDD: 6/26/2013
RN536- Richie: 4, Lizzie: 2, EDDs: 10/15/12, 9/5/13, 6/20/14
sergeantb44 - Noah : 11, Owen : 9, Natalie : 7, EDD: 8/4/2014
SharkFarts - DD1: 3.5, DD2: 15 months, EDD:?
srcr2011 - Caleb: 3, EDDs: 11/21/2010, 5/2/2014, 6/11/2014
sunnydaysarehere - DD: 2.5, EDDs: 7/16/2013, 1/25/2014, 6/19/2014 and 10/18/2014
Tappin2B - Emily: 6, Abigail: 3, EDD: 2/21/2014
thumper7912 - Emma: 19M, EDD: 4/2014
trizzie - Hudson: 5; Harper: 3, EDDs:9/1/2010, 11/28/2013, 1/28/2014, 8/16/2014

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@almostamissus - Have you heard from the surgeon? What testing did you have done?

@anglndsguse44 - Have you had a confirmed O? Are you having a theme party for Connor?

@dpalczer - Welcome to the check-in! Can you give us a quick intro?

@fallfever - How did your appointment go with the new doc? Are you trying this cycle?

@Frenchteachermama - FX that your HSG tomorrow goes well! Have you gotten any results from the b/w and u/s?

@kj808 - Any signs of AF?

@mara005 - That's quite the rocky chart! Any idea why your temps are all over the place?

@morethansparrows08 - I'm glad that the chiro was able to help you. How are you feeling now? I'm also glad you and DH got on the same page and are taking TTC month-to-month.

@Neary2011 - Any sign of AF yet? Sorry, I feel like a broken record asking the same question every week. Have you started temping?

@Noeliav - Welcome! Could you give us a quick intro?

@polevaultRN - Welcome! Could you give us a quick intro?

@RN536 - When do you expect to O?

@SharkFarts - Do you think you O'd earlier this week? Are you trying this cycle?

@srcr2011 - How are things going this week?

@sunnydaysarehere - Are you betas going down? How are you feeling?

@thumper7912 - Welcome to the check-in! Can you give us a quick intro?

@trizzie - Have you O'd yet? How's the detox diet going?

@jenwashington, @sergeantb44 and @Tappin2B - we missed you ladies last week and would love to hear how you are.

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QOTW: Just a GTKY for our first week here, where are you from and where do you live now?

rmpar29 · March 2014

Hi ladies! Quick intro: my name's Robin. I have twin boys that will be 3 in May. Lost my DD at 22 weeks due to T21, AV Septal Defect and brain cysts. I've been TTC since April and am back with an RE.

I'm on CD2 and I go for my baseline b/w and u/s tomorrow. We are going straight to injectables and IUI this cycle, assuming that annoying cyst is gone.

QOTW: I've lived in NY all my life. Grew up in a small town south of Buffalo and now live south of Syracuse. I always wanted to move somewhere warmer, but all of my family is here and I just can't leave them!

dpalczer · March 2014

Hey everyone! My husband and i have a wonderful 5 year old son, who started kindergarten this year. We have been TTC since July '13. I had my first miscarriage about a month ago was scheduled for C section 9/5/14.
I am approaching my 1st cycle, i do charting on FF. I haven't figured out how to link my charts yet. Im currently benched 2/3 cycles.
My husband works on drilling rigs, 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. so our chances of him being home is 50/50.
I look forward to meeting and chatting with everyone. Thanks for the invite!

mara005 · March 2014

Hello, Ashley here. I'm 27 years old, DH is 39, and we have a 4 year old boy. I had a mm/c in April '13 and a ruptured ectopic (with tube loss) in January '14. I am a SAHM who does craft fairs selling home made crocheted items and canned goods - jelly/salsa/apple sauce/etc.

Mara005 - That's quite the rocky chart! Any idea why your temps are all over the place?
I'm so depressed by this chart, I'm not doing anything differently! :-< *TMI warning* I had bloody EWCM for 2 or 3 days before my +opk and 2 days of +opks, both things have never happened before. I'm kinda over this whole cycle right now.

QOTW:We live on Long Island, but I'm from New Hampshire and DH is from the UK.

Missa_g · March 2014

Hi everyone! I was on TTCAL in 2011 after experiencing an early miscarriage with our first pregnancy, EDD 9/10/11. After a diagnosis of DOR, endometriosis, and LP defect I conceived my twin boys using Femara and injectables. My boys were born at 29w4d and will be 2 next month. In November of this last year we amazingly conceived on our own. After a limbo filled month our baby no longer had a heartbeat at 8w and I had a D&C on 12/31/13. Our boy passed away due to triploidy XXY and his EDD was 8/8/14.

I have been lurking on TTCAL since I conceived my boys, but especially since this last loss. I hope this doesn't come off as creepy but I feel like I "know" a lot of you already. I look forward to getting to know you for real now. As much as TTCAL was my home and place of comfort three years ago I haven't felt comfortable posting again. My boys are so much a part of me and this journey, I can't hide them.

I'm really struggling to be a good parent after this loss. I had so much hope after having my rainbows and now I'm back to feeling like my body is a failure. It seems to just suck at every stage of pregnancy. I did meet with a new OB yesterday and we have a plan for if I'm able to conceive a healthy baby. The OB and my RE both want us to do meds again but they honestly terrify me. I would love to have twins again if I knew I could carry to term, but since there is no way to know that the idea terrifies me. So no meds for now. I'm not sure if or when we will reach that point again. AF arrived yesterday so for now we are TTC on our own. I have charted and used OPKs in the past but plan to try to take it easy on them for now.

QOTW: I'm a Texan. Always have been and always will be!

rmpar29 · March 2014

@dpalczer - I'm glad that you are joining us. I can't imagine having DH gone for 2 weeks at a time. You are a strong women to be able to be a single parent while he's gone!

@mara005 - I'm so sorry that your temps are not cooperating. Have you had any testing done?

@Missa_g - Welcome! I understand your reluctance to post on the TTCAL board and I'm glad that we can include you over here. I can't even imagine how scary the birth of your twins must've been. I was in constant fear my whole pregnancy that my boys would come too early. I'm glad that they are turning 2 next month!!! I'm so sorry for your losses, many (((((HUGS))))). I totally understand what you mean about not wanting to go the meds route. I was/am in the same boat! I held out for 8 months before going back to the RE because I really, really didn't want to do meds again. I'm glad that you've found a new OB that you like!

mara005 · March 2014

At my follow up appointment in Jan. the RN basically just said, "we'll see you when you're pregnant again." But I should have my annual in May or June so I can ask some questions then I guess.

rmpar29 · March 2014

mara005 said:

At my follow up appointment in Jan. the RN basically just said, "we'll see you when you're pregnant again." But I should have my annual in May or June so I can ask some questions then I guess.

I don't know hon, your cycles really are all over the place. You seem to ovulate late, if at all and your LP's aren't consistent either. I'm guessing your just seeing an OB? Maybe it's time to get a second opinion?

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

Good morning ladies! Thanks again to PAL for being so welcoming of us moving our check-in over here!

My name is Dina, I'm 27 and DH is 28. We have two awesomely energetic boys - 7 and 5. We started TTC #3 in August 2013, and experienced our first loss, twins, on 12/10/13 at 6w3d. We are benched for this cycle, but are free to TTC after that, though we have decided to take it month-by-month due to lots of changes going on right now for us.

ETA: AFM: I'm still kind of stiff, so I'm sure DH and I will be seeing the chiro a few more times. I just realized that, in order for my insurance to pay off our car loan, I have to send in some signed paperwork. I printed it off last week, and then just completely forgot I needed to sign and send it back. UGH...

QOTW: I'm a Texan, through and through. Born in Houston, raised just outside of San Antonio.

mara005 · March 2014

rmpar29 said:

mara005 said:

At my follow up appointment in Jan. the RN basically just said, "we'll see you when you're pregnant again." But I should have my annual in May or June so I can ask some questions then I guess.

I don't know hon, your cycles really are all over the place. You seem to ovulate late, if at all and your LP's aren't consistent either. I'm guessing your just seeing an OB? Maybe it's time to get a second opinion?

I will talk to my OB in May, and if she doesn't seem helpful, I will ask to see someone else, it's a very big practice.

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@rmpar29 Thanks for running the check-in this week! You're awesome!

@dpalczer So sorry for your loss. ((hugs)) and welcome to the check-in. My youngest is 5, but he won't start kindergarten until next year because of where his birthday falls.

@mara005 I had no idea you did all those crafts!! I crochet, too, though I haven't picked it up in a while because life has just been so crazy. ((hugs)) that your chart is wonky this cycle

@missa_g I am so sorry for your loss. I struggled to be a good parent after my loss, too. ((hugs)) I don't know much about medicated cycles, but I do know about how awesome us Texans are!

Mom2anAngel2 · March 2014

@Frenchteachermama: good luck with your HSG tomorrow.

Hi ladies. I am really happy that you are posting this check-in here, as I feel there are quite a few of us who could really use it.

DH and I struggled for 2 years to conceive. I had countless testing and too femara and progesterone. I finally gave in and has a HSG, lap and hysteroscopt done (all at once) which showed stage 4 endo, a cervical polyp and high pressure in both tubes. We conceived naturally the very next month. Unfortunately, we found out at our A/S that he no longer had a heartbeat after weeks of feeling movement.
Our rainbow was conceived 3 months later, and Liam was born on 1/4/13. When AF returned we decided to NTNP and conceived in October 2013. We had an u/s at 7 weeks that showed a heathy baby with a heartbeat, but a small sac. By 10 weeks there was no heartbeat. I miscarried naturally on Christmas Eve. I have really struggled since then and have even stepped away from the Bump at times. While I am trilled for all of the PAL mommas who are pregnant again, like @missa_g stated, it makes me feel like my body has failed me once again. We will be cleared to TTCAL again next cycle. Right now I am 4 dpo.

QOTW: I was born and raised in NJ but currently live in MA.

Mom2anAngel2 · March 2014

@mara005 : where were you from in NH? I lived in Londonderry for a few years and my parents still live in Chester.

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@mom2anAngel2 So sorry for your losses. ((hugs)) Welcome to the check-in.

rmpar29 · March 2014

@morethansparrows08 - I'm glad that you are feeling better and I hope in another week you will be back to 100%. I hope that the car situation gets cleared up soon!

@Mom2anAngel2 - I'm so very sorry for your losses. I'm glad that we can be here to support you as you go through this. I completely understand the feeling that your body is failing you. I also know the feeling of being left behind. Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk or vent! (((((HUGS))))))

BootsOrHearts · March 2014

Hi! Can I play?

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Here are my babies:
Harrison Grey, EDD 10/6/12, born sleeping at 18w6d on 5/11/12, my perfect little boy
"Little Ish", EDD 10/29/13, c/p confirmed 2/25/13
My rainbow baby! Isaac Finley, EDD 12/21/13, born 11/23/13

Right now we are TTA, I think we will need to wait 3 more months before we can try. We are meeting today with our RE to make sure the babymaking equipment is all still in order. We have 2 frozen embryos we plan to use, but we also want to try one our own so as soon as we get the all clear I will start charting again as that is how we conceived both Harrison and Isaac.

NoeliaV · March 2014

:: wave ::

Hi, y'all! Thank you @rmpar29 for the check-in.

A quick intro: me, 34; DH, 44; DD, 15months. When did that happen? We got our BFP shortly after DD's 1st b-day, and the news that it was not a viable pregnancy for me at 8w5d (baby measured exactly a week behind and the heartbeat had ceased). Scheduled a D&C, but passed the baby naturally at 9weeks exactly.

We're sort of on the bench. We have the okay from our OB/MW team to TTC when we're ready, but DH wanted to wait one more cycle (this one). I'm waiting to O and, after the last one being a picture perfect cycle, this one is looking annovulatory. I'm so discouraged at the moment.

Non-TTCAL info: I'm still breastfeeding DD, and we bedshare partially because she doesn't STTN and mama needs sleeeeeep.

I look forward to chatting with y'all and giving support through our journeys together.

ETA: QOTW (can you tell that someone had a wakeful night and I still haven't made it through my coffee yet?)
I'm originally from S. Florida, and now live in Austin, TX

almostamissus · March 2014

Hi all! Thanks to the Pal for letting us set this up here.
I have my dd8 (from xh). Dh and I have been ttc since dec '12. We have had two back to back mc in nov and jan. I have left hydrosalpinx diagnosed via u/s. I'm waiting to hear from a surgeon to have it removed and I just started seeing an RE in early feb.

@rmpar29 I haven't heard from the surgeon yet. Who knows when that will be! The bloodwork was standard cd3 and also a genetic panel. I'm not sure why, but I have found it crazy hard to deal with!! I have to keep reminding myself that if they find something, it is better to know. But it doesn't stop me from feeling panicky.
I had a weird af this month. It was really only normal flow for 12-24 hours. And then super light spotting for a couple of days. I'm used to a light flow but nothing like this! I also started soy isoflavones on Monday and that's going well. I have no idea if it helps, but I don't think it can hurt so fx!

@frenchteachermama I am hoping you get great results from your hsg. And I'm really glad that things with your dr seem to be working themselves out. Please keep us posted!
@mara005 I didn't know that you were ttc with one tube! I will be in the same situation soon (well, Sort of I am already) I wish you luck!
@mom2anAngel2 welcome aboard!! I'm pretty new here, but I think these ladies are awesome. Hoping your stay is short and sweet!

GTKY: I'm an East Coast Canadian. Born and raised small town country girl. And dh too. We have both lived here all our lives and even though I like to dream of it, we won't be moving. Dh has a very established business here so we're in it for the long haul.

mara005 · March 2014

Mom2anAngel2 said:

@mara005 : where were you from in NH? I lived in Londonderry for a few years and my parents still live in Chester.

I grew up in Alton, I've been through Chester countless time, that is how we would get to Concord.

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@bootsorhearts So very sorry for your losses. Welcome to the check in. Little Isaac is such a cutie!

@noeliaV I had no idea you were from Austin!! DH and I are going to be moving to that area soon (Kyle/Buda)! We need to have a GTG!

@almostamissus Wonky AF's always make me feel on edge - like I'm missing something. FX you don't hear anything about the bloodwork, and that you do hear from the surgeon soon. Waiting can make you completely crazy sometimes!

Frenchteachermama · March 2014

Good morning ladies! I'm so excited to get to do the check in over here!! Yay!!

My name is Vicky, I have two DD, 3 and almost 6. I had my first loss 9/13 at 8 weeks and a second in Feb at 5 weeks (might have been a chemical pregnancy but they aren't sure...) I hate my current doctor and am switching to a new practice at the end of the month!

@rmpar29 FX that this is the cycle for you!!! I can't remember if you did the injectibles with the boys...I'm seeing your RE on 3/25!!

dpalczer Welcome to the check in! I'm so sorry for your loss. Your DH's job must put an added stress on the TTC process! I hope we can be the support you need!!

@mara005 I have to tell you that I have had bloody ewcm ever since my d&c in September! Sometimes it's really dark and sometimes light. I'm entering my FW soon and am interested to see if it's going to be bloody again this month.

Missa_g I am so sorry for you loss. I can totally relate to the feeling about being a good parent after the loss. I just have to remind myself that I'm doing the best that I can and that my girls hopefully won't remember this "dark period" in our lives. Mommy has had "a lot of things in her eyes" and "belly aches" since my first loss in September

@MoreThanSparrow08 just sending you hugs!!

NoeliaV sorry your body is being uncooperative this cycle! ((HUGS))

@almostamissus I agree with you about the anxiety all of this testing is causing! I know it's better to know too if something is wrong, but it doesn't stop me from being so nervous!!

AFM:

I had an ultrasound yesterday to look at the cysts that are on my ovaries and the nurse who did the ultrasound said everything looks better. The weird thing is she kept talking about new "cysts" on my ovaries but I'm thinking she meant follicles because she kept talking about how they were measuring 1.2mm and by the looks of things I'll O around CD 10. She also passed my some "matter" which she said could be part of my lining not cleared from my period or maybe signs of endometriosis! WTF??? My husband who is a GI doc and my family friend who is the OB were so angry. You can't tell those kids of things from a regular ultrasound and all she did was scare the shit out of me. That's why techs aren't supposed to discuss their findings with you. Thankfully I'm having the HSG tomorrow so we should know more of what's going on right now.

All of my blood work has come back totally normal EXCEPT my progesterone was only 5.4 on CD 19 last cycle. So if everything looks good on the HSG I'm assuming my doctor will give me progesterone starting 7dpo...who knows! I'm really nervous but excited about tomorrow. I have to go alone which sucks!

QOTW: I'm originally from Chicago but currently live in upstate NY

almostamissus · March 2014

@morethansparrows08
Waiting is the worst!!! And I have some pretty serious anxiety issues anyway. If definitely seems as though we are always waiting during ttc- waiting for tests, results, doctors appt, af, o... You name it!! I guess good things come to those who wait? If that is so, we all have some seriously great thing coming

Missa_g · March 2014

@MoreThanSparrows08 and @noeliaV I'm in Austin, about ten minutes from Buda!

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@mkc5869 So sorry for your losses, but welcome to the check-in. I know how you feel when you say sometimes you're not sure you can handle another LO. With two boys at home,a full-time job, and my own photography business, I regularly question myself on whether or not I can handle a third. But then I get those sweet moments with my boys where I couldn't imagine not adding 1 more to complete our family. ((hugs))

rmpar29 · March 2014

@BootsorHearts - Welcome! Congrats on your baby boy!

@NoeliaV - I just took a look at your chart (and sent you a friend request on FF) and it looks like you O'd around CD18 last month, so I wouldn't declare it anovulatory yet. I hope to see the temp rise soon!

@almostamissus - I'm sorry that the testing is stressful. Every time I go for b/w or an u/s I'm impatiently awaiting the results. I hope that you hear from the surgeon soon!

@mkc5869 - I'm so sorry for your losses and your struggles. I'm glad that you and Madelyn are OK after your scare at 25 weeks. I am completely unable to put down my BBT, so I understand having to chart again. I am sorry for your BFN and I've sent you a friend request on FF. I have to tell you that as a mother of twins I was at a complete loss as to how I was going to handle two kids, but you just do. You figure out a new norm and you go with it. It's not easy, but I'm sure you will figure it out!

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

No way!! @Missa_g We totally need to plan a GTG! Maybe @mkc5869 could drive down from Ft. Worth and join us! Y'all message me if you're interested!

Frenchteachermama · March 2014

@mkc5869 welcome to the check in! I hear you on being so nervous about another pregnancy, I'm so worried I'm going to have to go through all of this all over again. FX none of us have to.

rmpar29 · March 2014

@frenchteachermama - I'm so glad that you are switching docs! Every experience that you have with this one just gives you even justification to switch. Yes, I was on injectables with the boys. Last month, I was on a higher dosage than I needed 3 years ago and still nothing grew. So, I'm hoping this cycle goes better and that I only get 1-2 follies! With the boys, I had 3 mature and a 4th that might've been mature by the time they did the IUI. I went alone to my HSG too and it wasn't bad.

MJM3108 · March 2014

Hi, ladies! My name is Jessica, I'm 30, DH (Danny) is 31. Our children are: Grace, who we lost at 18 weeks in July 2010 after PpROM due to IC and ultimately placental abruption. I had an emergency D&E on 7/18/10. Ben is our rainbow, born 2/13/13. We just celebrated his 1st birthday, which was awesome! He is just the most amazing thing ever, and brings so much joy to our lives!

We are just now starting our TTCAL journey for our second rainbow. We are NTNP right now, and I keep telling myself that I am going to be relaxed about this, but I am already fighting the urge to temp and chart and POAS, so I may as well just reactivate my FF account, lol! My PgAL anxiety never really went away with Ben, having had a second tri loss. I was closely monitored by MFM with bi-weekly cervix checks beginning around 16 weeks, and then weekly throughout my 3rd tri.

I am so glad you ladies have come to join us, and I look forward to being a part of this check-in! Hoping we all get our BFP's soon!

QOTW: I was born in NJ, and my family moved to PA when I was about 5. I still live in PA, and dream of moving elsewhere, but couldn't stand to be so far from my family!

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@mrsjessicamitchell So sorry for the loss of Grace, but welcome to the check-in. Before we got our BFP in November, we were NTNP, but since the m/c, I've been charting/temping, just so I have a better idea of what my cycles are normally like. I had somewhat irregular cycles prior to the loss, so it's interesting to see how the loss affected them. ((hugs))

srcr2011 · March 2014

Good morning, I'm late to the check in, but I am sooooo excited it's on PAL and we can do this openly!!! I look forward to "knowing" you all!!! I just want to say thanks again to @rmpar29 and @morethansparrows08 for putting this together! You are the BEST!!!

For those that don't know....My name is Stephanie. I am 29 (OMG I will be 30 on Apr 13th and I am freaking out, I don't know why) and MH is 31 (almost 32). Our son just turned 3. As my siggy shows, I had a total of 3 losses and had my son in between. I had back to back losses with no AF between as well and my last loss was a BO and needed a D&C. The other losses were NMC at home. I did see a specialist and got 12 vials of blood in December. Everything came back normal except low Vit D. We declined genetic testing as of now. I don't think I can deal with TTC while knowing (IF) we had something wrong.

I KNOW my family is not complete, and I get upset with MH when he tells me that if we only have Caleb, he will be ok with that. THAT IS NOT an option for me. I know he wants more kids too and that is just his way of dealing with our losses, but it really annoys me when he says that. Right now we are TTA until May/June not due to anything medical but more for our convenience and being able to stay home with a new baby past the 12 weeks ( I dont work in the summer).

I currently do not temp and chart. I have tried and half the time it drove me crazy and I was always wondering and questioning. The other half of the time, I forgot. I need to be a little more proactive and start again.

@mara005 and @morethansparrows08 I know we are not allowed to promote our sites for profit and things like that, but if I had the talent to make something out of yarn, I would have an etsy shop!!!! I was just wondering if you had one? That would be awesome!

Sparrow- I hope the insurance stuff gets cleared up soon!!! Bummer!

@Frenchteachermama Good luck tomorrow!!! I"m sorry you have to go alone! ((HUGS))

@almostamissus ((HUGS)) I hope you find some peace and are able to relax a little. I know testing and waiting is stressful! Hopefully you hear from the surgeon soon!

QOTD: I am from northern New Mexico, born and raised. I lived waaaay down south while I was in college at NMSU, but came back home....I don't think I can ever leave this place!

MoreThanSparrows08 · March 2014

@srcr2011 I think men just handle losses differently. MY wanted to wait a full year before trying again before we actually talked about the reality of that and the age difference it would create between our boys and #3. I opened an etsy shop, but I've never listed or sold anything through it. I think if I crocheted more regularly, I would be listing and selling stuff.

Frenchteachermama · March 2014

MoreThanSparrows08 said:

@srcr2011 I think men just handle losses differently. MY wanted to wait a full year before trying again before we actually talked about the reality of that and the age difference it would create between our boys and #3. I opened an etsy shop, but I've never listed or sold anything through it. I think if I crocheted more regularly, I would be listing and selling stuff.

I used to have an etsy shop for my sewing but the problem is that no one wants to pay what I think my time is worth. It's tough working a full time job and having two little kids! Now my treasures just go to my friends

Frenchteachermama · March 2014

@srcr2011 I don't remember if I told you we turned down most of the genetic testing for now too since we have two healthy girls my doctor didn't think that was the first place to look...

rmpar29 · March 2014

@mrsjessicamitchell - Welcome to the check-in! I'm so sorry for your loss. Good luck to you on the NTNP. I know I wouldn't be able to not chart, but that's just me.

@srcr2011 - Have they re-checked your Vit D levels? As Sparrow said, men just handle loss differently and I think they try to down play it because they think it will be easier on us. I know that my DH didn't even acknowledge our loss date and when I blew up at him about it, he said that he didn't want to remind me if I hadn't remembered. Yeah right, like I wouldn't remember. Anyway, my point is that maybe he's just saying that to try to make you feel better about it.

Neary2011 · March 2014

I got my first period after m/c, Feb. 27 and just ended yesterday. I didn't start temping this month but hoping to next month.

I am from Baltimore Maryland and I love in VA now.

fallfever · March 2014

Hi ladies!

My name is Jess. I'm a SAHM to 3 boys. Been married for almost 13 years. We decided in July '13 we wanted to try for our last baby. Had a first miscarriage on Halloween. Second miscarriage on New Year's Day. It has been a difficult time but we are happy to be moving forward and hoping for the best.

After being devastated that my OB left my practice, I saw a new OB on a Monday. She was amazing! She spent an hour talking with me. I went ahead with the thrombo panel for peace of mind. We were cleared to TTC and I'm a couple DPO right now.

Looking forward to getting to know you all!

QOTW- I'm from a small town in VA and live in a slightly larger area now.

MJM3108 · March 2014

mkc5869 said:

@mrsjessicamitchell Welcome to the crazy TTC train! I knew you had talked about possibly starting soon but I hadn't seen an update.

I didn't update since we haven't actually started started, YKWIM? But since this awesome check in started, I figured I'd play along. I'll be switching to DH's insurance eff 4/1/14, so technically if we conceived this month (I doubt that will happen) I would be safe, but I will feel better if I'm on his plan before I go into full fledged TTC mode. I can get a little cray cray about temping.... 8-}

rmpar29 · March 2014

@Neary2011 - I'm glad that AF showed up.

@fallfever - I'm glad that you like the new OB. When do you expect results?

fallfever · March 2014

@rmpar29 I didn't even ask but she said she would call in the next week or two. She is actually 37 weeks pregnsnt and starting leave soon but felt like she would have results before she left. I'm anxious to hear although she felt like they wouldn't find anything. She did question my luteal phase and feels like progesterone will be a good thing.

srcr2011 · March 2014

@morethansparrows08, I always see things on etsy and wish I had some talent lol. I would love to bake biscochitos and sell them. My MIL told me my cookies were the BEST she's ever had lol (I really flattered hearing it come from here. She is like the mother from Everybody Loves Raymond...says snarky things under her breath that her son's don't realize, plays dumb, but knows just exactly what she is doing/saying...) but I still get nervous and I don't think anyone would buy them.

@frenchteachermama People doen't realize how long it takes to make something nice, esp handmade!!! A friend of mine and her mom started making scarfs just for fun and to spend time together. Well turned out everyone wanted one. They ended up selling a bunch and needed to make more. With the money they made, the went out and bought winter clothes and jackets for needy children with 100% percent of the profit they made. It was really to neat to see them do that.

We declined the genetic testing for that reason as well. The Dr said, we can test, but even if something came back funky, we know the chromosomes can still line up to have a healthy baby since we are both the biological parents to our son. It's so weird, even with our first loss, I was nervous, and when I was pregnant with Caleb, again, I did have some nervous moments, but I was pretty much carefree. Now that I see my history, I'm more nervous TTC than ever.

@rmpar29 I have not re-checked my Vit D levels. I should though. The first thing I asked was if a low Vit D had a role in the MC and they assured me not. They wanted me to start supplements and I held off out of forgetfulness. This is so vain, but I read that a low Vit D level lowers metabolism. So anything I can take to speed it up I will do. Do I decided to get on board with all the vitamins. I take Vit D 3, prenatals with DHA, gummy fish oil, and biotin pretty much everyday when I remember ( I am sooo bad with taking meds/vitamins I always forget!). They said I was slightly low, so I"m sure I"m better now, but I would like it black and white on paper.

Sometimes I wish husbands could read our minds. Sometimes they say things in hopes to make us feel better and it ends up being worse. But I agree, it's his was way trying to not make me feel bad.

This is NTTCR but I have a pimple between my nose and lip off to the side. Yesterday, out of the blue, MH said "Hi Marilyn". I was like WTHECK?!? He then went on to say that that is the perfect place for a pimple and it doesn't look bad, and he meant it with nothing but good intentions (whatever, I think he was just trying to save himself at that point.) I rolled my eyes. He should have just not said anything.

@mkc5869 What a small world!! We were there at the same time then. I graduated HS in '02 and went straight to State. I was there for 2 years and came home. I followed my BF at the time. I wanna say he was doing Civil engineering as well. We broke up and I stayed for a while, but then came home and finished at our local college. Did you do the Thursday's "drink til you drown" in Juarez?

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