When to play the "pregnancy card" at work

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• Skeemer member

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  I had to put on my shoes today...

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  I had high hopes that her occupation included actual physical labor. Something that made me think, "wow, that is tough"

  
  

  
  

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• Nichole8787 member

  March 2014

  emy730 said:

  aliletz said:

  
  

  Listen up sugartits, you'll know when I'm making crappy comments.  That was not a crappy comment at all.  It didn't even border on bitchy.  I was being sincere and actually nicer than I would have been had you not said you already shoulder the work of multiple people.
  
  The truth is that people tend to assume that pregnant women are going to be playing "that card" and trying to get out of shit, and IMO, once you start asking for special treatment or functioning at less than your best, you're setting up those down the line for derisive looks.  This is the reason that I've hobbled into work with debilitating migraines, sat at my desk with washcloths over my eyes while doing teleconferences that made my ears bleed, and puked discreetly so no one would know, when I would have just called in sick for the same thing when not pregnant. 
  
  If you're going to wish ill upon me, I will take you one further and say that I hope your twat rips open to your asshole during birth and that someone replaces your peri water with vinegar.  Now do you feel crappy?
  
  Boom.  Aliletz'd.
  

  I really need you to know that I legit LOL'd at that. Sugartits. That's the best thing I've heard all day.

  First I lierally lol at this and second...alieletz I would really hate to have you as an enemy....ripping twat to asshole wowie that is a hell of a burn! Yowza

  

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• tealowl member

  March 2014

  I have ADD and cannot take my Ritalin, so I've been a fucking wreck at work since November. Some days I'm not 100%, but I'm managing. I would never think about asking for a lighter workload. Because that would never happen anyway. Some days I have to work longer is all.

  OP, you're pregnant. Not dying. Get to work.

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• zellatrix member

  March 2014

  I have a shitty desk chair and I missed my lunchtime nap today because they are painting the faculty lounge. I wanna play my pregnancy card to go home early.  (

   

  

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• hcsmiley417 member

  March 2014

  Thanks I hope I get the promotion too! I don't think that I'm a bad ass, more of a bitch and i was before being pregnant. I was a milder bitch when I was pregnant with my girls but this is my first son and he's given such bitchy hormones so I'm worse than usually. I just don't have the time to take or listen to people shit. I applaud you ladies for the jobs that you do. I read some of them and thought no fucking way you could get me to ever do that. See my job fits me. I get angry and I can wrestle it out. Lol.
  Ps the guys on all shifts refer to me as "one of the guys, still." There are a few guys that they give shit to because they bitch and complain and they tell them "she's supposed to be the woman, not you."

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• emw8910 member

  March 2014

  I always get to these posts too late! lol
  
  OP, we all get being tired and exhausted but we all have jobs, other kids, husbands, lives and more. Not sure why you expected to come to a board full of 5-6 month pregnant women and get sympathy for being tired.
  
  I fully expected her to have a seriously hard, laborious job to be posting about getting out of work. I mean, I had to get dressed and take care of my 6 nanny kids under 3, do I get a gold star?

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• acciovino member

  March 2014

  ashleysyn2 said:

  Unless your doctor has given you restrictions, you can't play the "pregnancy card."
  
  Also, does the word camaraderie not look funny to anyone else when the OP typed it?  Like it was C&Ped from Google.
  

  
  I totally thought this too. Like she had to google the spelling.

   

  
  

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

  Come one, come all...Pregnancy Cards for sale! Please register early as I will soon be out of stock!

  

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• katnipeverclean member

  March 2014

  ghostof5letters said:

  SarahVol131 said:

  @alliletz

  sugar tits is going right up there with cunt punt in my book of phrases I must begin using immediately.

   

  OP, put on your big girl panties and deal. I have a kid and a husband and a FT job too. I've been doing my job and the job of the girl who left in November since she left. I've done it through debilitating migrains and while puking 10-15 times per day for 18 weeks straight. You want to know how much time I spent out of office for it, 8 hours, two half days. That's it. Suck it up buttercup.

  Also, stop calling my friends bullies when they are giving you their honest opinion. It makes you look BSC and like a bitch.

   

  SHIT, I completely forgot about my 2.5 year old and my husband too. How do I manage to remember to breathe?

  I don't know you poor thing you!

  

   

   (Seriously though, your travel schedule would kick my ass. Way to be a BAMF!)

  
   

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• likeanoldtimemovie member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Aliletz: Really? Do you seriously think that I am making all pregnant women look bad by being tired? I hope people are making crappy comments to you like this when you post things. I was under the impression that the Bump was meant for camaraderie. People just use it for a way to bash each other. I hope you all feel better for making me feel like crap.

  I just like that you can tell she copied & pasted the word 'carmaraderie' from Google or something.
  
  (For the record, I can't spell it either so I just say FRIENDSHIP.)
  

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• EllaSmella member

  March 2014

  Unless you work in a physical job or one that exposes you to danger, there's no "pregnancy card" unless you have a letter from your doctor. 

  

  

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• zellatrix member

  March 2014

  ghostof5letters said:

  When has the use of a "card" ever been positive?

  strip poker maybe? But, that could lead to the need of another pregnancy card. 

   

  

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• ashleymarie1027 member

  March 2014

  ashleysyn2 said:

  Unless your doctor has given you restrictions, you can't play the "pregnancy card."
  
  Also, does the word camaraderie not look funny to anyone else when the OP typed it?  Like it was C&Ped from Google.
  

  I noticed that too!
  
  Also I think it's ironic this goes up the same day as thd "moms4moms" thread. Asking for special treatment doesn't seem like a good way to "support the cause" in my opinion.
  
  I fully support any decision any parrent makes wrt working (notice I said parrent, not just "mom"). But stick to your decision, if you're gonna work, then do a kickass job of it.
  

  
  

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  Whatever guys, I can't spell it either. LOL

  
  

  
  

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• 1982Babies member

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  I tried playing it today when I met the new boss lady, who had moved all of my personal items off of my desk (I'm part time, temporary).  The other gals and I were joking about how I was going to get "emotional" and "have a pregnancy spaz attack" due to my stuff being gone.
  
  Then I got fired.
  
  So, that was pretty awesome.
  
  (It's a long, stupid story, and it was miscommunicated that I was going to be gone this month instead of next as planned, but fuggem, I'm gone.)
  
  EDIT:  I should've read the comments before commenting.  WTF happened here. lol
  

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• TallMomma29 member

  March 2014

  ashleysyn2 said:

  Unless your doctor has given you restrictions, you can't play the "pregnancy card."
  
  Also, does the word camaraderie not look funny to anyone else when the OP typed it?  Like it was C&Ped from Google.
  

  I'm sure she did copy and paste it (for the record I don't know how to spell that word without looking it up either ;-))!

  
  

  
  

      

  
  
  

  
  

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• Skeemer member

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  LiteraChick said:

  Skeemer said:

  Come one, come all...Pregnancy Cards for sale! Please register early as I will soon be out of stock!

  

  I'll take 2, I have dinner with my in-laws coming up.
  

  Wow, in-laws eh? My price just went up!
  

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• pantherRN member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  
  That's cool. I work in oncology research, where one one of my mistakes could kill someone. You want to continue to play job wars with us, go right ahead. Plenty of us have decribed what we do, we're all in a similar boat and we're all dealing.

  You asked about the playing the pregnancy card. We all told you what we thought about that. I don't think there is a single person here that would tell you that that's a good idea. Do you need a lesson on how the internet works? Because when you post something that the whole world can see, you open yourself up to all of their opinions. If you don't want to hear thos opinions, don't post.  

  
  

  
  

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• likeanoldtimemovie member

  March 2014

  ashleysyn2 said:

  Unless your doctor has given you restrictions, you can't play the "pregnancy card."
  
  Also, does the word camaraderie not look funny to anyone else when the OP typed it?  Like it was C&Ped from Google.
  

  GET OUT OF MY BRAIN. I didn't see your reply until after I posted, ha!

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• argonne member

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  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  
  So??  I work in a high-pressure engineering position and work with lots of big name, demanding, (and sometimes asshole) customers.  I have lots of travel and fast deadlines, too.  You are not the only one that has a demanding job, darling.  I also have a 3 yo at home and a husband that travels more than I do (on a weekly basis or more).  I fucking suck it up, because I'm good at what I do, am up for a sizeable promotion within the next year, and I don't want to be known as "that pregnant lady who uses her pregnancy as an excuse not to do her job".

  I think it's best you get off the Bump.  Now GTFO.

   

  
  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  
  

  

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• katnipeverclean member

  March 2014

  jessa8907 said:

  So do I only get to play this pregnancy card once? Or does it last till I push the baby out?

  
  Once you hit about 37 weeks if you have a male boss who is terrified of any sort of "woman thing" (his words not mine) you can play it multiple times. As in every time I made a face from a contraction he would immediately send me home. It was like he was afraid I was going to deliver a litter of puppies on his doorstep and expect him to care for them. (I'm joking about playing the card but he did send me home all the time when I was that big).

  I did intentionally pull the, "but I am huge and pregnant" card around 35 weeks so that I could bring a balance ball to the office to sit on to keep my hips from exploding, but I still did my job, damn it.

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• argonne member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  
  Honey, no one insulted you until you started slinging the insults.

  Also, you know what is definately against the rules?  Being in love with the flag button, as you seem to be.

  
  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  
  

  

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• zellatrix member

  March 2014

  jessa8907 said:

  Skeemer said:

  Come one, come all...Pregnancy Cards for sale! Please register early as I will soon be out of stock!

  

  I'm probably going to need 5 to get me through this week. I use it on DH often. 

  
  

  (Only in a joking way or when he makes a big deal about doing something I ask him to do. As in "I know, it's so hard to get your pregnant wife a glass of water when you are going to the kitchen anyway.")

  I have NO problem pulling it on DH. He put the baby in there, he can get me water so I don't have to walk up or down stairs to get it (split level house). He thinks it's cute, though, that I am more dependent on him. I milk it for all it's worth. 

   

  

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• tealowl member

  March 2014

  ashleymarie1027 said:

  Unless your doctor has given you restrictions, you can't play the "pregnancy card."
  
  Also, does the word camaraderie not look funny to anyone else when the OP typed it?  Like it was C&Ped from Google.
  

  I noticed that too! Also I think it's ironic this goes up the same day as thd "moms4moms" thread. Asking for special treatment doesn't seem like a good way to "support the cause" in my opinion. I fully support any decision any parrent makes wrt working (notice I said parrent, not just "mom"). But stick to your decision, if you're gonna work, then do a kickass job of it.

  I noticed that too and LOL'd a bit.
  

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• Myanswer true member

  March 2014

  Jeez, I leave you girls alone for 2 hours, and this is what I come back to... why does all the fun stuff happen when I'm AFC?

  And to join in with those people listing what they do, I teach at a high school with a bunch of huge redneck boys that for some reason love to pick fights right in front of me. On my feet all day, blah blah blah. Go home and take a nap.

  

  
  

  

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• mamakiss member

  March 2014

  I work at a very busy starbucks drive thru and am one of 3 pregnant co-workers. The fact that one of them is asking and depending on special treatment from my boss infuriates me. I don't want to say "suck it up" but as someone who is sick of getting babied out of doing things that aren't actually that hard... Suck it up. If you're actually a hard worker, your job performance shouldn't be affected too poorly, at least not yet.
  
  No sympathy here from the one pregnant woman who still works hard at my job. And I have not had an easy pregnancy by any means.

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• TallMomma29 member

  March 2014

  No white knights have popped in here yet... Interesting.  I guess they're all tired too ;-)

      

  
  
  

  
  

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• cuntasaurusrex member

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  TallMomma29 said:

  No white knights have popped in here yet... Interesting.  I guess they're all tired too ;-)

  
  Someone who's never actually posted flagged my sugartits post.. feelin' the love
  

  
  

  
  
  

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• Katieryan13 member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:
  

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  But you have time to read The Bump? 

  
  

  Why not take a couple of days off or call in sick if you are so tired. Some people just need a break every now and then.

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• BPer member

  March 2014

  During my last pregnancy, I had a dual role as Director of Program Management and Business Development at a defense contract manufacturer (basically, I was a much bigger deal than you, OP)

  
  

  No one felt bad for me.

  
  

  I had to travel to Tijuana on the regular. 

  
  

  I should have played "the card", but less because I was tired and more because I was fearful of being abducted by drug cartels, or you know, accidentally ingesting water in Mexico.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• abunai523 member

  March 2014

  Damn, this was a good one! Sorry I missed out on the fun! But as this subject really grinds my gears, and makes all women in the workplace look bad, I'll leave my 2 cents:

  
  

  OP, you're tired. Got it. So am I, so is everyone. Everyone has a story, some might have a sick family member they are taking care of, or 2+ jobs, or working/in school/keeping up a home at the same time, how would it be if everyone who was tired demanded special treatment? That's life, there will always be something. And you wanting to use 'the pregnancy card' because you're not feeling 100% by the end of the week makes you sound like a pretty pretty princess. You tried to call out @aliletz for thinking she was 'better than anyone else', but sister, it's your question that reeks of the very entitlement you're trying to pin on others. So suck it up and do your job or get out of the way for someone who will.

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  It really bothers me when people stop responding bc they don't agree with the truth/reality of the situation. We've had a lot of that lately.

  
  

  
  

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• sxymamakat member

  March 2014

  ghostof5letters said:

  When has the use of a "card" ever been positive?

  I swore I was a rookie and played the "poker virgin card" at my last family poker night.... it was honestly my third time playing poker in my life so I feel like it was legit, and I ended up winning the game.  That said, I think this is the one exception, and you're completely right! 

  
  

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• sxymamakat member

  March 2014

  I'm glad for the entertainment after finishing up grading some shitty ass assignments from my kids today.  That said, this would have gone over VERY differently had she just complained about a particularly tired day on the Monday bitchfest.  THAT will garner sympathy from women in the same boat.  This horseshit?  It's a freaking sideshow! 

  
  

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• dobbyisfree member

  March 2014

  Nobody knew i was pregnant til 16 or 17 weeks. I told everyone when another girl told everyone she was 5 weeks. Shes now refusing to vaccum, lift anything over 5 lbs, or bend down to touch anything on the bottom shelf. She is not high risk. She is getting major, MAJOR side eye from everyone else, especially because Im not being dramatic. The pregnancy card is not going well there at all.

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