When to play the "pregnancy card" at work

Re: When to play the "pregnancy card" at work

• emineminem member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  I was trying to QFP but you ladies are so on top of it today, so I'll just say...Squela was here!

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• alyssa719 member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  I didn't ask to be insulted. A simple yes or no would have sufficed. I guess I was looking to be told that I wasn't worthy of being pregnant. I guess I was looking for a little pat on the back and a you can do it. Instead I was told that I am creating pregnancy discrimination for others. Get over yourselves. You are no better than anyone else.

  You're looking to be told you're not worthy of being pregnant?  Okay!  I don't know why you think that your initial post would instigate people to give you a "pat on the back" when you're thinking you should tell your job that pregnant people can't manage their lives??  Not all of us are you, and some of us want to be promoted in the future! 
  
  You asked whether we thought you should "pull the pregnancy card" and it would seem like the answer is No.
  
  Maybe it sucks now, going home and being exhausted sucks, but then I'm not sure what you expected to happen when you got knocked up?
  

           
  

   

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• cuntasaurusrex member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  aliletz said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  I didn't ask to be insulted. A simple yes or no would have sufficed. I guess I was looking to be told that I wasn't worthy of being pregnant. I guess I was looking for a little pat on the back and a you can do it. Instead I was told that I am creating pregnancy discrimination for others. Get over yourselves. You are no better than anyone else.

  
  Aww you didn't get the answer you wanted.  I guess you should invest in a mirror.
  

  You're still no better than anyone else aliletz. Sorry. Being more and more awful doesn't buy you a tiara in my book.

  
  
  Where did I say I was better than anyone else? 
  

  
  

  
  
  

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• cospringswm65 member

  March 2014

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Oh my God! What is wrong with you people? You are bullies!

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  March 2014

  Well at least I have something entertaining to read while stuck at home with a sinus infection.
  
  Right on to all the PP's. Last thing we need is pregnant women having a rap for being unable to perform job duties. Pregnancy isn't a disability. If you can't be pregnant and do your job then quit or ask for a leave of absence.

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• lowerygirl member

  March 2014

  OP, you need to remove all of the "flags" on the posts just because you don't like what they say. Nobody has violated any rules except for you by excessive flagging. That will get you banned from the site.

  

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• cospringswm65 member

  March 2014

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

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• emy730 member

  March 2014

  aliletz said:

  
  

  Listen up sugartits, you'll know when I'm making crappy comments.  That was not a crappy comment at all.  It didn't even border on bitchy.  I was being sincere and actually nicer than I would have been had you not said you already shoulder the work of multiple people.
  
  The truth is that people tend to assume that pregnant women are going to be playing "that card" and trying to get out of shit, and IMO, once you start asking for special treatment or functioning at less than your best, you're setting up those down the line for derisive looks.  This is the reason that I've hobbled into work with debilitating migraines, sat at my desk with washcloths over my eyes while doing teleconferences that made my ears bleed, and puked discreetly so no one would know, when I would have just called in sick for the same thing when not pregnant. 
  
  If you're going to wish ill upon me, I will take you one further and say that I hope your twat rips open to your asshole during birth and that someone replaces your peri water with vinegar.  Now do you feel crappy?
  
  Boom.  Aliletz'd.
  

  I really need you to know that I legit LOL'd at that. Sugartits. That's the best thing I've heard all day.

  

  
  

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• hcsmiley417 member

  March 2014

  We all should post what we do. I am an officer for a huge hospital. I work with psych, incarcerated, drunk, & unruly patients and the families. I get called for alot of restraining, wrestling, talking down, threats, you name it. Let's get physical, physical!
  
  @aliletz you crack me up.

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• runrinserepeat member

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  Pass the sheet cake.
  
  

  

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  
  

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• cospringswm65 member

  March 2014

  shanicenicolle said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  Nope sure as hell isn't.

  Sorry. I didn't realize that those two things were perfectly okay. I'm done. You all successfully made me feel like shit and I won't come back sorry for being your "entertainment" for the day,
  

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  
  You called the people in this thread bullies. How is that not an insult?

   

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• lowerygirl member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  
  Sure isn't. Maybe you should go read the thread "Read Me First" before you start flagging jut because people have you honest opinions; which, you asked for! You can reverse those flags you made by going and "loving" all of those posts you flagged. Simple. Plus, I didn't see any insults from anyone but you.
  

  

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• cuntasaurusrex member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  Nope!  Feel free to read the flagging guidelines in the conveniently stickied thread at the top of the page.
  

  
  

  
  
  

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  shanicenicolle said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  Nope sure as hell isn't.

  Sorry. I didn't realize that those two things were perfectly okay. I'm done. You all successfully made me feel like shit and I won't come back sorry for being your "entertainment" for the day,
  

  No need to use quotations here. Where's my puncutuation posse to back me up or set "me" straight?
  

  
  

      

  
  

  
  

  
  

   

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• acciovino member

  March 2014

  Pregnancy is not a disability. You asked for it. Suck it up like the rest of us. If you can't handle it, then talk to your boss, but be careful how you approach it. Especially if you work with mostly men.

   

  
  

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  Hey, so you're in sales like me. Guess what, I leave the house 3-4 days a week between 4-6am to catch flights all over the east coast. I'm sitting in an airport restaurant right now on layover. I have lots of deadlines, lots of business to develop, and over 100 accounts to maintain. Last week, I was on 4 flights and drove just shy of 1,000 miles. 

  
  

  This week, I'll be in NJ, NY, PA, and CT all before Friday. I'd love to compare frequent flyer miles with you. This flight I'm getting ready to board is my 17th trip of 2014 so far. 
  

  
  

  Suck it up, you sit at a desk all day and type emails comparatively. 

  
  

  
  

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• ashleymarie1027 member

  March 2014

  How will women ever get equal treatment in the work place when a terminology like "the pregnancy card" even exists. The thought just hurts my brain.
  
  I work in engineering, a very male dominated field, and I would never think of asking for special treatment. I'm very appreciative of all the working moms who beat down the door for me so I DO get equal treatment.
  
  So please, don't ask something like "when us it ok to use the pregnancy card?"... The answer is never (unless it's a safety issue like one pp mentioned)
  
  I've never chimed in on the snarky posts, but this one struck a nerve. I'm home sick today (so extra crabby) but, no worries, won't be loggibg any time off, cause oh yeah, I worked all last weekend. Ok end of rant.

  
  

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• TallMomma29 member

  March 2014

  I'm on my iphone and can't see the flags. Did I get flagged?! That would be awesome!!
  
  I work about 50-70 hours per week on average (sometimes as big of a range as 20-100 per week) as an attorney at a large law firm. I have to be available to answer emails at all times, and often have to work as late as 2 or 3 a.m. and then wake back up at 6 or 7. I also commute 75 miles each way to work, and currently have to manage all the household stuff myself because my husband is deployed. All while preeeeeegnant. Everyone please pat me on the back.

      

  
  
  

  
  

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

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• tourqeyes member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  ghostof5letters said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  Hey, so you're in sales like me. Guess what, I leave the house 3-4 days a week between 4-6am to catch flights all over the east coast. I'm sitting in an airport restaurant right now on layover. I have lots of deadlines, lots of business to develop, and over 100 accounts to maintain. Last week, I was on 4 flights and drove just shy of 1,000 miles. 

  
  

  This week, I'll be in NJ, NY, PA, and CT all before Friday. I'd love to compare frequent flyer miles with you. This flight I'm getting ready to board is my 17th trip of 2014 so far. 
  

  
  

  Suck it up, you sit at a desk all day and type emails comparatively. 

  Preach, BL! I immediately thought of you when I saw this one start whining.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• katnipeverclean member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  @alliletz

  sugar tits is going right up there with cunt punt in my book of phrases I must begin using immediately.

   

  OP, put on your big girl panties and deal. I have a kid and a husband and a FT job too. I've been doing my job and the job of the girl who left in November since she left. I've done it through debilitating migraines and while puking 10-15 times per day for 18 weeks straight. You want to know how much time I spent out of office for it, 8 hours, two half days. That's it. Suck it up buttercup.

  Also, stop calling my friends bullies when they are giving you their honest opinion. It makes you look BSC and like a bitch.

   

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  When has the use of a "card" ever been positive?

  
  

  
  

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• cuntasaurusrex member

  March 2014

  ghostof5letters said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  Hey, so you're in sales like me. Guess what, I leave the house 3-4 days a week between 4-6am to catch flights all over the east coast. I'm sitting in an airport restaurant right now on layover. I have lots of deadlines, lots of business to develop, and over 100 accounts to maintain. Last week, I was on 4 flights and drove just shy of 1,000 miles. 

  
  

  This week, I'll be in NJ, NY, PA, and CT all before Friday. I'd love to compare frequent flyer miles with you. This flight I'm getting ready to board is my 17th trip of 2014 so far. 
  

  
  

  Suck it up, you sit at a desk all day and type emails comparatively. 

  
  Don't forget that you have a toddler.
  
  I'm still looking for all of the support that @cospringswm65 seems to think she's given. 
  
  

  
  

  
  
  

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  SarahVol131 said:

  @alliletz

  sugar tits is going right up there with cunt punt in my book of phrases I must begin using immediately.

   

  OP, put on your big girl panties and deal. I have a kid and a husband and a FT job too. I've been doing my job and the job of the girl who left in November since she left. I've done it through debilitating migrains and while puking 10-15 times per day for 18 weeks straight. You want to know how much time I spent out of office for it, 8 hours, two half days. That's it. Suck it up buttercup.

  Also, stop calling my friends bullies when they are giving you their honest opinion. It makes you look BSC and like a bitch.

   

  SHIT, I completely forgot about my 2.5 year old and my husband too. How do I manage to remember to breathe?

  
  

  
  

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• hab83 member

  March 2014

  1. You may feel like a weenie because you're totally being a weenie. I understand having a rough day or week or whatever and venting, but seriously considering asking for a lighter workload because you're pregnant is ridiculous. You are pregnant, not disabled.
  
  2. Lots of us have other kids, high pressure jobs, medical issues, etc we are managing in addition to being pregnant. It's called life.
  
  Suck it up, buttercup!

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• abundancenow member

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  I know NJ just updated laws for pregnant women to be sure employers are making accommodations to maintain a healthy pregnancy. Check out your state laws and keep your dr updated regarding your physical responses to your work day. In NJ a dr can request accommodations, including placing a worker in a less physically demanding role, and employers must provide reasonable accommodations. Check out your laws and work policy regarding this. If you need to check out going out on early disability, but you will need des documentation.

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• Nichole8787 member

  March 2014

  aliletz said:

  I actually think she attacked me first, no?

  Oh definitely. She pulled out a whole lot of bitch before anyone was rude.

  

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• ghostof5letters member

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  aliletz said:

  ghostof5letters said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  I work in a high-pressure business development position with a large defense contractor. There is a lot of travel and fast deadlines. Sorry that I am not as good as all of you. No worries. I will not be using the Bump anymore or replying with positive messages of encouragement to all of your posts anymore. Thanks for nothing.

  Hey, so you're in sales like me. Guess what, I leave the house 3-4 days a week between 4-6am to catch flights all over the east coast. I'm sitting in an airport restaurant right now on layover. I have lots of deadlines, lots of business to develop, and over 100 accounts to maintain. Last week, I was on 4 flights and drove just shy of 1,000 miles. 

  
  

  This week, I'll be in NJ, NY, PA, and CT all before Friday. I'd love to compare frequent flyer miles with you. This flight I'm getting ready to board is my 17th trip of 2014 so far. 
  

  
  

  Suck it up, you sit at a desk all day and type emails comparatively. 

  
  Don't forget that you have a toddler.
  
  I'm still looking for all of the support that @cospringswm65 seems to think she's given. 
  
  

  Crap! That damn toddler. I actually did forget. I'm missing swim lessons tonight while I'm flying home at 7:30pm.

  
  

  
  

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• lindslalala member

  March 2014

  cospringswm65 said:

  shanicenicolle said:

  cospringswm65 said:

  Insults and foul language aren't against the rules?

  Nope sure as hell isn't.

  Sorry. I didn't realize that those two things were perfectly okay. I'm done. You all successfully made me feel like shit and I won't come back sorry for being your "entertainment" for the day,
  

  Never apologize for being entertaining. DS's nap time was just made a lot more interesting. 

  

  DS born 3.12 

  DD born 7.14

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• hcsmiley417 member

  March 2014

  @shanicenicolle it is rough. It is so draining but there's a promotion like I mentioned before I want and I am giving them 0 excuses to say no. I have hyperemesis gravidarum so I'm a great puker and never feel good, I go throw up, brush my teeth, take a zofran amd go back at it. I'd do want to cry from lack of sleep because sometimes I go back to work after not getting any sleep. To be honest I find a conference room when on rounds and I let out a cry, wipe my face and continue working. But I love my job and I'm doing it to provide for my kids. And the least thing I want to do after working 12-16 almost everyday is take care of 3 young kids while preggers but oh well.
  @tallmomma29 yup. I couldn't do that job. Nope. Never. More power to you. Ugh. And the added stress of spousal deployment. Good job momma.

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• Skeemer member

  March 2014

  

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• ghostof5letters member

  March 2014

  hcsmiley417 said:

  @shanicenicolle it is rough. It is so draining but there's a promotion like I mentioned before I want and I am giving them 0 excuses to say no. I have hyperemesis gravidarum so I'm a great puker and never feel good, I go throw up, brush my teeth, take a zofran amd go back at it. I'd do want to cry from lack of sleep because sometimes I go back to work after not getting any sleep. To be honest I find a conference room when on rounds and I let out a cry, wipe my face and continue working. But I love my job and I'm doing it to provide for my kids. And the least thing I want to do after working 12-16 almost everyday is take care of 3 young kids while preggers but oh well. @tallmomma29 yup. I couldn't do that job. Nope. Never. More power to you. Ugh. And the added stress of spousal deployment. Good job momma.

  I bow down to you. You are badass!

  
  

  
  

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