Did you REALLY just say that?!

Rannndi · March 2014

Had to share this awesome conversation I just had with a co-worker...

Co-Worker: So what are you guys having?

Me: GIRLS!

Co-Worker: GIRLS?!?! (with a disgusted face) THAT"S NO FUN!!!

Me: Well, we're having fun with it.

Co-Worker: It would have been better if it was one boy and one girl (clearly does not understand what IDENTICAL twins are)

Me: Okay.

Co-Worker: So you're gonna try for more, right?

UMMM....I'll just let you plan my family from here on out...

What are some of the "AWESOME" things you guys have heard?

Rannndi · March 2014

Not one bit @snowflake91011!

It would take more than that!

Rannndi · March 2014

And you got two, @nobadwriting!

After we announced that we were having girls, people have made comments to DH like, "It takes a man to make a man."

My reply, "it took a man to make two...have you done that before?"

Even though the identical twin thing has NOTHING to do with being a man, it's fun to see them scramble

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brookerachelej · March 2014

When we announced to our family over Christmas...my mom's first reaction was "oh, I just thought you'd let yourself go," over just a couple lbs gained. Then after my next ob appt she wanted to know how much weight I'd gained, I finally said, listen my dr. is fine with it and it's none of your business. Gotta love family.

MeganEMcG5 · March 2014

I saw my grandmother for the first time yesterday since I've been showing. She's always harped on me about gaining too much weight while pregnant, especially since I gained 60 with DS.

I saw her yesterday, and she was genuinely surprised by how "good I looked" and was asking me if I was still wearing my old clothes (I am, with a belly band, but maternity tops -- they make my bump look so much cuter!!). So, she says to me in her ever so condescending voice "Well, if it's any motivation for you, I never wore any maternity clothes."

Nope, not motivation, gma...

Valancyy · March 2014

That's horrible, what is wrong with people. At least you're able to laugh about it.

I get the "trying for a girl?" all the time, since we have 2 boys. Like the pp said, we tried for a baby, not a girl. That being said...I do think it would be fun to have a girl to mix things up a little bit.

MC03 · March 2014

I hate the "it takes a man to make a man" comment! It is so rude and also just completely ridiculous - it takes a man to make a baby, of either sex morons. My boss says that all the time and I just roll my eyes and walk away.

ljraff29 · March 2014

People lose all sense when they see pregnant women. I've been asked more times that I can remember if we're finding out (which we're not) and what we 'hope' to have. A healthy human baby is all we're hoping for. You handled it really well and I like your comeback to those that say "it takes a man to make a man". Congrats on the identical little girls

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nthomas1014 · March 2014

I think people just lose a filter when talking to pregnant women! Sorry that happened to you

Wil08 · March 2014

People still tell me I can eat whatever I want...feed the pregnant woman!

mamabear214 · March 2014

My MIL watched my two boys on Friday night and when we got home she said "I sure hope this one is a girl so you'll finally stop having kids"

Bitch I'll have 20 if I want. I hate her though, and she hates me. We are always taking shots at each other, so we don't see her very often.

Sorry you got rude comments. I've just started telling people their stupid is showing.

XpectingTwinnies · March 2014

We just got the news that our twins are two boys.. And all my MIL could come up with is: I'm so relieved!! I'm so relieved!! The last name will go on!! I was so worried!! OMG I wanted to go through the phone and slapped her!! B**h

Rannndi · March 2014

OH MY GOSH! This just confirms---people are idiots! I thought so before I posted this, but some of your guys' stories really confirmed it!

schnookee · March 2014

The co-workers comments were rude enough but seriously with the it takes a man to make a man?! I can't believe someone actually had the nerve to say that! Love your response though. We haven't really had anything rude people are just constantly harassing us about names or finding out what we're having. The more they ask they more I want to stay team green lol. The best with the names is they will ask if we've pick any names and we say no, they then proceed to push more. "Any you're thinking of?" No. "Not at all?" SHUTUP!

Jennicillin · March 2014

Ugh.... people drop all boundaries when you're pregnant. I hate it!

This is our 3rd (when we already have one of each) so apparently we're freaks for wanting more because we already have a "perfect family" Things we've been told include, but are not limited to:

You know what causes it right?

If you get a C-section, it's really easy for them to just tie your tubes while they're in there...

You're husband is getting snipped after this right?

Wow, you'll have your hands full/ you sure are brave/ good luck with that... (and other snide comments about our ability to "handle it")

How will you afford it?

What does your family think (said in a tone that clearly indicates if THEY were our family, they would not approve)

The list goes on.... I hate it >:-(

sandrarodz · March 2014

People are always going to say dumb things lol. The The most annoying thing people would say to me when I had my b/g twins is.. "So your done right? I mean you got your boy and girl" um I don't know?? What if for some crazy reason I want more than two kids no matter what their sex is????

lizztheo · March 2014

After we told our family that we were having another boy, MIL just goes "Oh.." and doesn't even fake excitement. No big hugs and congratulations, she just changes the subject like we didn't even just announce it. I was sort of relieved we were having another boy because she's been driving me nuts with the girl stuff but I thought she could at the very least FAKE happiness because it does not matter what the sex is.

eyaustin · March 2014

I knew people were stupid but some of those comments make me want to tell them they are stupid!

I'm glad my friends all warned me about people saying ANYTHING to a pregnant woman. Also, I'm barely showing (16 weeks 1 day) and they are all about touching me.

I don't like people in general...I really hate people touching me when I have no clue who they are.

I've only had 1 person actually say something to me where I was mean back to him...

I'm a Spinning Instructor but travel a lot for my full-time job, I was gone for a few months from my normal classes and a guy I can't really stand anyway, just said "I can really tell you haven't been working out"...

I looked at him and said "I'm pregnant you ass!" He then asked if I was already 5 months!! I haven't even gained any weight since I got pregnant!!

Luckily my friend pulled me away before I said something to him to get me fired. Then I kicked his ass in class

!

Raclla · March 2014

My DH is hilarious when people ask him stuff like this.

He just says, 'Well, I'm screwed either way, right?'

He thinks having a second daughter will be insane when they're both teenagers. He tells people that's probably what he deserves.

If it's a boy, he says we're screwed because we'll have to buy all new stuff (clothes/bedding).

People just don't even respond to him. I love it.

ungraceful13 · March 2014

I hate people's assumptions. We are getting a lot of "was it planned?" "it's gonna be hard you know," "I'm sure you really want a boy," and "you know where babies come from right?"

shortnsweet65218 · March 2014

shortnsweet65218 · March 2014

Oops! Didn't think that would be so big! People are relentless and I'm not sure why they feel that normal social filters and modes of politeness and conduct don't apply to pregnant women - hopefully you can let it roll off your back and just chalk it up to the stupidity of people in general!

Rannndi · March 2014

If we got a dollar for every time someone reminded us how hard twins are going to be, we could already fund both of their college educations. No shit it's gonna be hard...and you reminding me won't make it any easier! LOL @ungraceful13

Rannndi · March 2014

@sswedborg, it could be bigger and I wouldn't mind! I wish I could say that! I'm sure when I'm not feeling so hot it's going to be harder to bite my tongue! lol

MollyHooper · March 2014

People have asked if we are hoping for a girl. Personally I am exited either way. And if people ask when I am in a particularly snarky mood I just say that I am hoping for a hermaphrodite,

shevaCC · March 2014

I'm still letting most people think I'm just getting fat. Mainly for all the reasons listed above.

kimberlybethh · March 2014

My mil said this one better be a boy to carry on the family name. Secretly, I hope it is a girl out of spite

missmiss307 · March 2014

Last time I was pregnant, I got asked by numerous STRANGERS if I was having twins (I was not). I was nice about it last time; this time around, I have a few prepared responses, if I have the nerve to actually say them.

We've been asked a lot if we are hoping for a girl this time and a few times whether we will try again if this one is a boy. With those questions I just sort of shrug, because while I do hope we have a girl, I also will be 100% happy with another boy, and I can't make a decision now about having another one because I don't know what having two will be like.

Rannndi · March 2014

@missmiss307 that's exactly us!!! I'm like, "you want me to tell you if I'm going to have more when I'm 16 weeks pregnant with twins?! Uhhh....no, I plan on working to get these ones here safe and healthy first." SHEESH!

enigmasara · March 2014

I haven't had one of these moments since I broke the news to my dad. It was Christmas, I gave him a call & when I told him his response was a long pause followed by "was that what you wanted?" in a snarky voice. I'm 36, I've been with my husband for 6 years, living together for 4, & married for 1.5. I think we have a pretty good idea of how to prevent pregnancy at this point, so yes, this is what we wanted.

Sarafar4 · March 2014

Most people have been nothing but nice, but I have had three coworkers comment on the new size of my breasts. Yes, I get that they are bigger, but it is really creepy and inappropriate to have you point it out. I've also put on 12 lbs so far, which I'm self conscious about (I don't think I look pregnant, just wider all over). I told DH how much I weigh now and his reply was "that's only 8 lbs less than me." How is that supposed to make me feel better, idiot? He's too skinny anyway...

haliebabyx3 · March 2014

Besides my grandmas response when I told her I was pregnant being, "I thought you were on birth control for that". I haven't really had too much said to me. My boss keeps smirking when he sees me and when I look confused, he tells me my belly is getting huge. I've only gained like 2 pounds so far or so it was like that the last doctor visit. I just say thanks and walk off usually. You would think he would know what to say and what to do and not to do after his wife has had 4 babies.

Jennicillin · March 2014

Sarafar4 said:

Most people have been nothing but nice, but I have had three coworkers comment on the new size of my breasts. Yes, I get that they are bigger, but it is really creepy and inappropriate to have you point it out. I've also put on 12 lbs so far, which I'm self conscious about (I don't think I look pregnant, just wider all over). I told DH how much I weigh now and his reply was "that's only 8 lbs less than me." How is that supposed to make me feel better, idiot? He's too skinny anyway...

This is so my husband!

He has this weird complex about me always weighing less than him. He wouldn't care if I was 300lbs as long as he was 301... I don't get it!!!

mikescutie7 · March 2014

A coworker who has one boy and one girl herself told me she hopes that I have a girl because "they are more fun" and "she loves her daughter". She said something similar to DH.

I felt horrified for her poor son

TexasGirl81 · March 2014

MC03 said:
I hate the "it takes a man to make a man" comment! It is so rude and also just completely ridiculous - it takes a man to make a baby, of either sex morons. My boss says that all the time and I just roll my eyes and walk away.

Wth? Lol! I'm pretty sure a "man" would never lets those dumb choice of words spill out if his mouth. Pppfffttt!
:-@

Wil08 · March 2014

Today it was

"Oh look you have a bump!" and "How big is your baby now"

happylady07 · March 2014

toratoratori said:
How about this text convo I had with my dad earlier today about a sex reveal announcement? I think he needs to come out of retirement so he doesn't have *quite* so much free time on his hands.

This made me LOL big time and almost wake my kid up. Your dad sounds hilarious. Also, parents being super comfortable with texting and emoticons majorly cracks me up, because I can't even do them half the time.

Jentech84 · March 2014

MeganEMcG5 said:
I saw my grandmother for the first time yesterday since I've been showing. She's always harped on me about gaining too much weight while pregnant, especially since I gained 60 with DS.

I saw her yesterday, and she was genuinely surprised by how "good I looked" and was asking me if I was still wearing my old clothes (I am, with a belly band, but maternity tops -- they make my bump look so much cuter!!). So, she says to me in her ever so condescending voice "Well, if it's any motivation for you, I never wore any maternity clothes."

Nope, not motivation, gma...

All I'd want to say to snarky grandmas like that is something like, "Well babies are born healthier and larger these days due to a better understanding of proper nutrition and medicine, so I'm happy with where I'm at in my pregnancy." There's no need for their disdainful comments.

Lawgrl04 · March 2014

From reading this thread, it seems like grandmas and MILs are the least tactful, with co-workers coming in a close third. When I worked, I hated that the whole office watched you expand and felt free to comment. I even sat at a dinner table at a work function where they discussed which coworkers had gotten "really big" when they were pregnant and which had not. Nice. And these are attorneys - you would think they might be a little more careful with their words (yeah, right!).

When I was pregnant with my daughter, the cashier at the grocery store, who was from a different country where they clearly valued boys way more than girls, asked what I was having. I told him girl and he seemed disappointed; I guess I then mentioned that I had two boys. He then smiled and said something like I was "allowed" to have a girl now since I had two boys already. Um, thanks for that.

Rannndi · March 2014

I think so too, @funnibunni80! Thank you!

Yeah, in-laws are a constant source of the awkward comments; be lucky you're not dealing with that. It's like they think since the babies are their son's as well, they can say anything they want about my body and the way things are progressing...like I'm sorry, my husband's mom doesn't need to comment on the size of my boobs and how he must enjoy that!!! AWKWARD!

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