Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
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TTC and miscarriages in 40s
hirska03
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I am 42. I have a daughter who is 24 and a son who is 2. in the past year my husband and I have been TTC again. We have experienced 2 miscarriages, one in Jan 2013, one in Aug 2013 and Just found out last Thursday that my hcg levels are decreasing and I am most likely going to miscarry again soon. I am currently 7 weeks. My husband and I have had genetic testing done after the 2nd mc and was tested for the blood clotting disorder. All came back fine. When I find out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago my OBGYN tested my progesterone levels and that was good as well. Dr can see no other reason than my age as a factor causing the mcs. She wants to refer me to a reproductive specialist. What can the specialist do for me? has anyone over 40 had positive experiences with a RS? Also, these losses have been devastating. I am experiencing a lot of depression and anxiety with this pregnancy. Not sure how to work through all the emotions. I feel I have to hold so much in and go about life like all is good when inside I am hurting tremendously. Any suggestions for coping? Lastly, I don't want to give up trying. I want so much to have one more child so my youngest will have a sibling close in age. I read about the statistics concerning risks and increased numbers of unhealthy eggs after age 40. It is depressing to read and makes me question if I should continue trying??? lots of what ifs. And high chances of more mcs. My husband and I want so much to have another baby. I would like to hear the thoughts and experiences of other women in their 40s in hopes to help me gain better understanding to help us through this difficult journey.
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Re: TTC and miscarriages in 40s
I know a bunch of women who had kids on their own without problems when they were 40, but the averages still aren't great. If you want to message me, I can get into more details about what the RE said they could do, but basically they start with an analysis to check your egg reserve to see if they can even help you. My DH and I haven't decided how we're going to proceed b/c we used to say we didn't want any kind of intervention, but since we don't have any kids yet, it might be our only logical option.
There's also a "TTC after 35" board and a separate check-in there for women over 40. I only recently started lurking there, but it might be a good place for you to go to get some answers about women's experiences with REs/IVF. This is a great board for m/c support, and I encourage you to continue seeking support here, but I'd also cross-post on the other board to get more women in that specific stage. Good luck, and sending "over 40" hugs!
BFP #1: 12/05/2012; EDD 08/09/2013; MC 01/2013 (missed, D&C)
BFP #2: 12/19/2013; EDD 08/25/2014; MC 01/2014 (natural)
I agree with PP about the 35+ board. They are a great group of ladies.
BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010
BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011
BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013
BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy. Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)
BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014