Wow. Just, oh man what an arse he is being!! I get the car/ truck thing- DH 's hobby is rebuilding Porsches and Audis. HOWEVER, that all came to a hault when he also wanted to have a child. He gripes here and there but he knows my response and doesn't want to hear it.
Dude I'm so sorry you're dealing with this and having tension that really isn't warranted.
Kudos to you for being the responsible adult in this situation. He needs to get over it. Hang in there and keep us posted. Sending you a hug!
Ugh, just saw the update that it's not even a vehicle that he drives or knows how to fix!!! TP to your H. Hope he gets over this FAST because his family is way more important. Hugs to you, I know how it is to go around and around about issues that keep coming up in arguments (ie, his moving issue). Hang in there, mama.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this level of immaturity on his behalf. To have $6500 sitting in the garage when they are needed for a legitimate financial reason is kind of a no-brainer decision.
Hopefully he will get over it as best as he can and realize that life is too short to care about the crap no one uses in the garage. He's choosing to be miserable over this. You have no control over that.
He is now posting pictures of it to facebook like a dead friend... the one is with Josephine in her infant carrier (same age as Parker) sitting on the passenger side... Seriously I don't think he'd be this upset if something happened to me... good grief.
He is now posting pictures of it to facebook like a dead friend... the one is with Josephine in her infant carrier (same age as Parker) sitting on the passenger side... Seriously I don't think he'd be this upset if something happened to me... good grief.
You should comment on it: "RIP, Chevy. May you find a home where you are actually driven."
Have you talked to him about counseling? The manipulation over nursing, the tantrum over the damn truck and his general behavior are reasons that I ask.
Btw, no fucking wonder you are on Zoloft girl! I'd be depressed dealing with that shit too.
He is now posting pictures of it to facebook like a dead friend... the one is with Josephine in her infant carrier (same age as Parker) sitting on the passenger side... Seriously I don't think he'd be this upset if something happened to me... good grief.
There is no saying that eventually you will emerge from the financial situation that you are struggling with and he can't have that car again.
How old is he? 30? There is a lot of life left to live. Last year husband gave up his sporty Acura for an SUV type Acura. He was sad but realized it was the thing we had to do. It was nothing like the situation you are experiencing but sacrifice would be called something else if it was easy. Vent away...but I think counseling is imminent and I would start soon before more feelings are hurt beyond repair.
You guise... He brought home pizza and flowers. Said that he was sorry for taking his disappointment out on me.
I told him I was sorry he was so upset but that I appreciate that he did it and was willing to listen if he wanted to vent as long as he doesn't place blame on me.
He said he just saw that as yet another dream gone... I explained to him that there is still plenty of time for a truck. He's just afraid we're going to end up like our parents. Scraping by forever.
He forgets that this is all a part of operation debt elimination so we don't have to scrape by.
I get it but I think he does too. He seems truly sorry.
Glad he came around I had a hard time selling my first car. It wasnt for the same reason but we just didnt need it anymore/replaced it. But it was MINE. I paid for it myself...it was my first "big girl" purchase. And since I was more SAHM by the time we got another vehicle...to me...they dont feel like mine, but DHs since he makes the money. I did get a nice 2 day girls trip out of it And we sold it to a friends dad...so I still get to see it
Glad it's better now! Counseling could still help with communication issues. I'm dealing with those issues with DH now too and we've discussed counseling.
Re: Shit just got real...
Dude I'm so sorry you're dealing with this and having tension that really isn't warranted.
Kudos to you for being the responsible adult in this situation. He needs to get over it. Hang in there and keep us posted. Sending you a hug!
He is now posting pictures of it to facebook like a dead friend... the one is with Josephine in her infant carrier (same age as Parker) sitting on the passenger side... Seriously I don't think he'd be this upset if something happened to me... good grief.
Print this out and put it on his bathroom mirror
Btw, no fucking wonder you are on Zoloft girl! I'd be depressed dealing with that shit too.
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How old is he? 30? There is a lot of life left to live.
Last year husband gave up his sporty Acura for an SUV type Acura. He was sad but realized it was the thing we had to do.
It was nothing like the situation you are experiencing but sacrifice would be called something else if it was easy.
Vent away...but I think counseling is imminent and I would start soon before more feelings are hurt beyond repair.
I told him I was sorry he was so upset but that I appreciate that he did it and was willing to listen if he wanted to vent as long as he doesn't place blame on me.
He said he just saw that as yet another dream gone... I explained to him that there is still plenty of time for a truck. He's just afraid we're going to end up like our parents. Scraping by forever.
He forgets that this is all a part of operation debt elimination so we don't have to scrape by.
I get it but I think he does too. He seems truly sorry.