Shit just got real...

Carrie3102

In the Carrie3102 household.

If you remember a few weeks back my rant about student loans and how mine were sold and the new company won't honor my payment arrangement that I had.

Well we were going to do a home equity line of credit to help cover the loan payments for two years but there was a 10% payoff penalty if paid off in less than 5 yrs. So our plan was to pay it off in 3,
that was a no go.

So I may have forced Jason to put his truck up on craigslist. He didn't speak to me for three days. Yesterday was better.. but today it sold and now I'm back on "punishment" he hasn't spoken to me since. The guy is here to pick it up now and you guys I think he may cry.

I am betting that he will leave me over this.

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Lelo2006

You gotta do what you gotta do for your family.

Carrie3102

That's what I told him but he's seriously acting like a 2 yr old throwing a tantrum

stephyfaith

I'm sorry! Sounds rough.

Carrie3102

I did yesterday and he straightened up but the thing actually going is well recreating the beast.

valstulas

I'm sorry. That is a no-win situation.

It's not fair. You both work so hard. You should be able to keep your vehicle.

This is not your fault. The debt system is crippling and it is designed that way. I hope that Jason can realize you did what you had to do and that he can get over his disappointment. Be easy on yourself. You are doing your best. >:D<

thegoodpotato

It is really hard to sell something you love. We had to sell my husbands F150 so we could afford my maternity leave. We were both heartbroken, even though it was what was best for us financially. Even though it was a mutual decision, I cried when they took it away, and we didn't talk to each other for three days.

It still hurts. I still love that truck. Hopefully he comes to terms with making the right financial choice. It doesn't make it any easier, but it makes it acceptable......

Carrie3102

Well @somerandomchick I would like to think you are right. Just feels like that may not be the case with all the snide remarks I am getting since he came in... 4 in 2 minutes.

Stina2012

Dude. I want to say he's being a fucktard. I'm pretty conservative when it comes to debt issues. When you have bills, ya pay 'em!

Who gets more attached to a truck than their family? If he leaves over this then he IS a fucktard.

sparkymcgeee

I'm sorry Carrie.

atlvol

I'm sorry. I hope he gets over it quickly. Family is more important than a vehicle.

Stacey099

Sorry you have to go through all this and then DH is acting out. He'll get over it in time.

Carrie3102

He just slammed 6500 bucks on the table and walked out... he's just sitting on the porch.

Look I get disappointment but I never hold what I don't get to do against him. Like laser eye surgery, an SUV, a nice vacation. But I never once tried to make him feel bad about it, infact I try to do the exact opposite.

karen0477

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. Maybe if you give him space for a couple of days he will be able to look at the situation appropriately....and by appropriately I mean like a grown up. You are in a partnership and sometimes these things happen and have to be taken care of.....

MRads

Being forced into a situation is crappy. Especially when it is over something you really love or are attached to. And it's ok to mourn having to make a grown up decision. I hate leaving my kid every morning to go to work for 9 hours. It's ok to mourn.

But it's not ok that he's taking it out on you. I'm sorry. I hope he comes around. Being a grown up plain sucks sometimes.

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I'm sorry. That really, really sucks like really bad.

lancomechica

I'm sorry.

kaylakim

Ugh man, so so sorry you're going through this! Hopefully he gets over it soon and stops taking it out on you. Hugs to you!

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I hope he comes around. I don't think you should feel guilty. You're smart and just making a smart and difficult decision.

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redrocksmama

That really sucks. Hopefully now that it is gone he'll calm down in a day or two. Out of sight, out of mind? I hope things get better!

Dtams13

I'm so sorry your going through this!

lovemyminions

oh...shitty deal. I doubt he will leave you, and he will get over it. It sucks that he is sulking. I would give him some space, and although he is being a d*ck this is probably massively hard on him and being a man he is probably not in a place where he can consider anyone's feelings but his own and you are someone he can vent on. It's not fair but hopefully he smartens up soon and apologizes. If he apologizes you might consider offering up a BJ...that usually cheers my guy up.

giraffeluvspi

I'm sorry, Carrie. I agree with giving him some space. If he is still being a douchecanoe in a week we will load up the nut punch bus and be right over!

Karebear6978

My husband sold his dream car (his choice) so we could by a house and start our life together.... he was so sad and we weren't allowed to talk about it at first but I think he would do it all over again if he had to....he will forgive

valstulas

Carrie3102 said:

He just slammed 6500 bucks on the table and walked out... he's just sitting on the porch.

Look I get disappointment but I never hold what I don't get to do against him. Like laser eye surgery, an SUV, a nice vacation. But I never once tried to make him feel bad about it, infact I try to do the exact opposite.

You're a good wife. I know this is no consolation, but more hugs for you. >:D<

summerchild

Student loans are evil! I'm so sorry that you're going thru this

ljs4117

 I'm sorry Carrie!! I feel that a come to jesus meeting about finances is quickly approaching in our household as well and I'm afraid of this very thing happening... I hope that YH can get over the disappointment quickly and realize that he shouldn't be taking it out on you.

emmanemm

Huge hugs! I'm so sorry you are having to deal with that. Like pp's said, you've got to do what's best for your family.

Carrie3102

Well, after we went to bed we were talking about a job interview he has next week, and a new swing set for the kiddos, and then out of seemingly nowhere he starts spouting off about how he really wants to move home and I'm never going to move and blah blah blah, and I said, look, if you are that miserable, why did you ever agree to move here?  He said, to be with you.  I said, and now I'm no longer enough?  To which he started yelling about how all we ever do is go in circles etc.  I said, look what do you want to do?  You're not happy here, I'd be miserable there, so what do we do?  He said, "whatever you want Carrie." (please read the sarcastic font)  I slept on the couch, I couldn't be around him.

This morning he at least spoke in a civil tone to tell me he didn't care what I said he was stopping at mcdonalds for breakfast.  and said goodbye... it's going to be a long weekend my friends, feels like he may finally be boiling over and ready to "tell me off".

Carrie3102

Thank God for my Zoloft... I think it and my ability to vent to my internet friends are the only reasons I haven't gone off the deep end at him.

danigirl7181

I'm so sorry, i hope this rough patch passes quickly. Hugs!!

fabk

Big hugs!

KikiCohen

Yikes.  I hope everything is okay and that things turn around.

Erinm278

I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. I hope he doesn't value his truck over your relationship.

PrimRoseMama

Oh man. That's rough. He might have to CIO though. Adult decisions suck.

PrimRoseMama

I know that it's hard to give up things you love, but FFS-- it's a car. A car! He's acting like a douche over a car. Ugh.

Also, the moving thing is just something else he can fight about because he's butthurt over the car.

Let him throw his tantrum & hopefully he will realize his family is worth more than a dumb vehicle. JFC. [-(

Carrie3102

You guys do know the kicker right?  This is the 1951 chevy that has been sitting in my garage doing nothing for 2 years...  He's NEVER EVEN DRIVEN IT!!! It doesn't run.  He doesn't have a clue how to fix it, and was never going to... it was just about HAVING it.

He still has his 2010 dodge that we bought brand new and pay 545/mo on... good lord, get a fucking grip dude. 

PrimRoseMama

Carrie3102 said:

You guys do know the kicker right?  This is the 1951 chevy that has been sitting in my garage doing nothing for 2 years...  He's NEVER EVEN DRIVEN IT!!! It doesn't run.  He doesn't have a clue how to fix it, and was never going to... it was just about HAVING it.

He still has his 2010 dodge that we bought brand new and pay 545/mo on... good lord, get a fucking grip dude. 

Omg. My sympathy for your husband ends there. Sweet Jesus!

Carrie3102

Like I've been trying to be understanding, and I get that someday he wanted to have it fixed up and running, but for fuck sake, it wasn't the time for it when he bought it and I told him that... I said just wait until we get some stuff paid off and get into the house we want... then we'll save up and buy one that RUNS... but no.

I'm fed up with having 3 kids...I don't always have 3 kids but when I do the oldest is the worst.

Meme anyone?