GTKY: How many kids

trinitrotoluene · February 2014

I can't remember if this has been done before, so how many kids would you have in an ideal world?

CarolinaGirl83 · February 2014

I would like to be "1 and Done", but DH would like 3. I chose 2 since thats what we'll likely agree on.

kaimee27 · February 2014

I would like 2 or 3, DH wants 2. We joke and say that after having 2, I'll probably want to be done and he'll want another.

ksz_3 · February 2014

DH wants 5. I don't think that will happen. I've always said 2 is perfect, 3 is okay but no more than that.

soccer4us2013 · February 2014

I've always only wanted 1. DH has 2 from his 1st marriage, tho, so really, we'll have 3 if we have one of our own.

militiger · February 2014

don't think there will be time for more than 2, unless the second one is twins

mmb248 · February 2014

We would like 2 or 3 but h wants to be done at 40. That's less than 2 years away!

nlfrease · February 2014

2-- but IF we ever get to that, considering not even to 1 yet-- we would evaluate and possibly have 3. Fx for 1 currently

divinemsbee · February 2014

I still say 4, even though logically that might not be feasible for us anymore. We agreed at 3-4 before we got married. (Debbie Downer: I thought we'd be TTC a second by now)

I realize that I'm not old, I just turned 30, but if I get pregnant and stay pregnant when we're cleared again, that baby won't come until after I'm 31. And then we have to see if after the first it changes how long it takes us to TTC another. Originally I wanted to be done having kids at 35. I've moved that to 37 based on how long it's taking us, but I don't know how this will play out. But, in an ideal world, 4.

trinitrotoluene · February 2014

I really want 4 kids. We're leaving the door open to see what happens though, because I know there's no way to guarantee anything.

DLpanda08 · February 2014

In an ideal world we would have 6. I have always wanted a large family but not Duggar large. Six seems like a nice number.

I will admit that odd numbers freak me out so the thought of "one and done" doesn't sit well with me personally.

brownmouse · March 2014

I want three, DH wants two. But we agreed to stop once I turn 30 so if we still only have 1 then that is what we will have. I have three years which sens like a long time but seeing add we are going on month 8 (9 including a NTNP month) teeing for #2, who knows. ..

DLpanda08 · March 2014

SassyMommaC said:

DLpanda08 said:

In an ideal world we would have 6. I have always wanted a large family but not Duggar large. Six seems like a nice number.

I will admit that odd numbers freak me out so the thought of "one and done" doesn't sit well with me personally.

I wanted 5, and DH is freaked out by odd numbers, so we agreed on 6! How funny! I get a lot of side-eyes for wanting such a big family, and a lot of people saying "You're nuts, you'll change your mind."

I get that reaction from people who don't know me very well, but most of our friends either come from large families or are surrounded by large families (we are Catholic, sort of comes with the territory lol). It's always classmates or non-Catholic friends who look at us like we are crazy when we mention wanting a big family.

MAdams728 · March 2014

Two, in this world. Four, in a dream world.

JamieK1882 · March 2014

I answered 3, but I think it will depend on how long it takes us to get pregnant. Right now just TTC #1

missnacholover · March 2014

I want 2, but DH is Mr. "Let's have 1 and see how it goes." I think he's afraid pregnancy will be really hard since I'll be high risk, but I'm determined to prove him wrong.

Gizmo36 · March 2014

We've always wanted more than 1, but at the rate we're going (cycle 22 started today), we will be thrilled to just have 1.

SquirrelFace · March 2014

LindsRockies said:

I would pop out as many kids as H would let me (Michelle Duggar style), but 4 is a far more realistic number.

I am with you there! I am a little freaked out by it honestly, but yeah, I am totally going to keep going until the Man says stop (if we are lucky enough to get this thing started with 1!) I think that will end up being 3-4 but we will see....

WolFox · March 2014

2 and then think about it. The two people in my family who had three kids told us to stop at 2 haha, But if our family isn't complete we'll keep going.

PS: I was watching Parenthood on the DVR tonight and there was a great moment between the four siblings. It made me all warm and fuzzy...

mockingjay1 · March 2014

I don't think we really know yet, though I voted 2. I think we'll see how the first one goes and go from there.

mommy2C · March 2014

I chose 2 although I would have 3 if DH was on board but he definitely isn't...so much so that he is considering a vasectomy once we finally have the second one. After dd was born I swore I would never have another child but that viewpoint quickly changed after I got through the postpartum depression and colic!!

WinningColors · March 2014

We would be thrilled if we could have 1.

MrsG713 · March 2014

H wants 3 I always thought 2. Not sure how it will all play out.

katietopaz · March 2014

Ideally for me, two. DH wants three, but who knows how we'll feel if/when we get to the point of making that decision.

MrsP924 · March 2014

At this point because it just seems like it's taking so long for us I just want one at this point. But hey having twins would be cool a boy and a girl. It would be like one and done but a two for one special lol

JNCPro3130 · March 2014

I'd like to have 2; however, I'm wondering if DH and I can afford 2 in daycare, so I guess after 1 we'll have to see. Kids are expensive!

icaughtfire · March 2014

I only want 2 and luckily H feels the same. The only way we'd have 3 is if we got twins this time, and to be completely honest, the thought of twins terrifies me. I felt overwhelmed a lot when my daughter was a newborn, I couldn't imagine having two newborns.

MusicFanatic · March 2014

Voted 2, that's what we've always wanted

GoaliesWife123 · March 2014

1 for us unless we have twins. We may not be trying much longer, so it might be 1 dog.

BananaPancakes02 · March 2014

I'll be happy with one at all, but ideally, I'd like two.

letsgox · March 2014

I voted 4. DH is one of five so that's what he envisions. I am one of 4 so that's what we are going with, though if I could be KU all the time I would definitely have more. I just don't think it would be financially feasible.

nina&bill · March 2014

I put for what I plan to give birth to, 3 when we adopt one!

Twinkie0612 · March 2014

I chose three, but we don't live in an ideal world so right now we will be happy with one.

BabyCowbell · March 2014

I voted 4 but my husband says 2, so we'll see how that turns out. We could average it at 3, but then there's a few studies that say 3 is the most stressful number, and its actually less stressful to have more, so might as well go for 4, right?

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/07/three-children-is-most-st_n_3229032.html

Considering I"m not pregnant yet, the youngest I could be for #1 is 32, so I'm not sure how realistic 4 really is but a girl can dream.

RAHENOS · March 2014

2, we would like 2

EDIT: very sorry ladies

that was an opinion worth keeping to myself

icaughtfire · March 2014

RAHENOS said:
I most definitely do not want an 'only child' because every one of those I've ever met, I've pretty much disliked with a passion. 3 would be fantastic if we could afford it, without me having to work, but alas that probably won't ever happen. So we've settled on 2. My sister and brother both have 2 each and the kids are little buddies, I want that.

Ouch! I'm sorry the fact that my mom didn't feel like popping out more babies would make you hate me with a passion..

mmb248 · March 2014

RAHENOS said:

I most definitely do not want an 'only child' because every one of those I've ever met, I've pretty much disliked with a passion. 3 would be fantastic if we could afford it, without me having to work, but alas that probably won't ever happen. So we've settled on 2. My sister and brother both have 2 each and the kids are little buddies, I want that.

@RAHENOS, I definitely don't want to start (or add to) a pile on here, but in addition to offending the ladies who are only children; you just read through a list of people who stated that due to fertility struggles, they'll probably be one and done (myself included). Proclaiming that only children are people you dislike with a passion is a pretty asshole thing to do.

RAHENOS · March 2014

Woaaaaah, it wasn't meant as an afront to anyone on here. The question was how many we ourselves would like and I am simply stating that the people who I know personally that are only children are not people I have liked. I didn't say I hate every only child ever. And I don't know any of you personally, so it wasn't directed at any of you, at all.. It's simply my personal preference that I would like to try to have more than one.

I honestly wasn't trying to offend anyone by stating my personal opinion. I apologize!

Volsfan210 · March 2014

1. If I happen to get pregnant again we'll probably try to have a third.

MrsZ1891 · March 2014

I'd love 4 but DH says 2 is good. Maybe 3 and definitely not 4. lol

princessnikkipants · March 2014

I'd love to have a big family and originally wanted to have 4 but we have agreed that practically and financially we can afford 2 so its going to be 2... (or 3 if we have twins second time round :P )

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