In the process of healing

gregsgurl81304 · February 2014

Im so sorry for your loss, but I also wanted to say welcome to June, and sending you and your family my T&P's

nikki0808 · February 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss

jmknox · February 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. It will get better but you will never ever forget her. You will think about her every day. And that is OK. I lost my daddy yesterday 2 years ago after a tragic 2 month battle with stage 4 renal cell carcinoma, he was my best friend.... I feel your pain.... **************************. Here is a poem we have at my dad's grave: (sorry my iPad does not allow spacing for some reason). ******************* We thought of you with love today, But that is nothing new. We thought about you yesterday and days before that too. We think of you in silence, We often speak your name All we have now are memories and your picture in a frame. Your memory is our keepsake with whom we will never part. God has you in His keeping, We have you in our hearts. If love alone could have saved you, You never would have died. In life we loved you dearly, In death we love you still. In our hearts you hold a place, No one else can ever fill It broke our hearts to lose you, But you didn't go alone, For a part of us went with you the day God took you home.

JNYLP · February 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like an amazing person. My dad died when I was 14 of a heart attack while I was at school... I think the shock didn't wear off until 6 months later, then it hit me hard! I had a journal that helped a lot, as well as my Pastors wife who listened to me whenever I needed it! Don't be afraid to lean on a friend when you need it- it helps! We're always here to listen too! I will be keeping you and your husband in my prayers.

SecondTimeinMSU · February 2014

I am so sorry you are going through all this. It was actually a similar reason that brought me to Thebump way back when. Before we got pregnant with DS my MIL was having health issues she broke her hip and she had this bump on her neck. We tried for a couple months to get her to have it checked out but she had a hatred and distrust of doctors that was deep seeded and my FIL is almost as bad so they dragged their heels until basically the doctor did a biopsy before she could say no. We found out it was cancer but I assumed that there was a chance since my own mother had fought and beaten cancer. She continued to stall with the doctors on a diagnosis and in the meantime DH and I found out we were pregnant with our first child (DS #1). It was so exciting but then a couple weeks later she finally was feeling pain and went to the hospital where we finally got answers that she had a month to live, the cancer was pretty much everywhere. She barely ended up making it a week and died when I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I really wish we could've told her it was a boy and we name him Luke. She said that the one thing she was sad about was not getting to see our grandchild but that knowing we were pregnant brought the one spark of joy when everything else was going wrong for her and I am sure his mother felt the same. The doctors told DH that the cancer doesn't usually start in the neck so he's accepted that by the time she saw the lump there wasn't anything that could be done but that is still hard for me to fully accept that she didn't want to get a diagnosis since she planned to refuse chemotherapy anyways. I wanted to see her at least try to fight to be there to see our kids but I know that is selfish of me and it was her life to make choices. Anyways sorry for the long rant but I totally understand the mixture of emotions. Part absolutely deviated over the death of my MIL and part elated to be having our first child. It sucked the joy out of what was supposed to be the happiest time in our lives. Then we had concerns over DS, he had borderline high fluid in his brain at the ultrasound, he was born at 36 weeks, he had a heart murmur at birth from a hole in the heart, all stuff that resolved itself into a super healthy kid these days but I definitely had a huge fear about what if something happened to DS on top of losing his mother..... it would've killed DH but thankfully everything pulled through ok. The pain of losing his mother hasn't gone away but over the last 3 years it has gotten easier as we've gotten over the "first" like the first birthday without her, the first anniversary of her death, first christmas and so on. We work hard to make her a part of DS's memories eventhough he never met her. On his wall is a picture of all his grandparents and he says goodnight and likes to kiss the pictures every night. He actually asked where she was last time we visited so he understands she is still a part of our lives. I joined the bump since I wanted a place to just escape the sadness and enjoy the pregnancy so I hope you can find solace and comfort here too. If you ever need to talk you can PM me. Sorry for my long ramble but I just understand all too well the emotions.

pcourtade · February 2014

I am so so sorry.

FAWKES81 · February 2014

Praying for you and your family.

MissBHaven1024 · February 2014

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending you many prayers for peace and healing.

RedMar · March 2014

Sorry for your loss

roundthree24 · March 2014

I'm so sorry

I know that must be so difficult for you guys. I hope that with time you're able to heal and focus on some of the positives...even though it was such short notice, it was some notice. Being able to be surrounded by family was a special gift and hopefully that can bring a little peace.

mercy0606 · March 2014

I am sorry for your great loss. Praying for you.

Katieluc106 · March 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing with my grandfather while pregnant withDD. I believe everything happens for a reason. Our daughter was born 6 months after and she has truly allowed everyone in the family to start healing. Life works in mysterious ways.

Csouthx · March 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss, she will be watching over you and your precious little boy. She'll be right by your side protecting you both. We're all here to support each other remember. Stay strong xxx

bodvarsson · March 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm keeping your family in my thoughts.

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