I'm big, I get it!

jessierye · February 2014

If one more person says I look further along than 6 1/2 months or that I look like I'm "almost there" or asks if I'm having twins, I'm gonna get real hormonal on that a$$! I get it, I'm big. I'm 5'2" and my torson is super short giving baby nowhere to go but OUT. But, SHUT UP! It's just as rude to tell a pregnant person they look further along than they are as it is to ask a non pregnant person if they are pregnant. OK, rant over.

celticbiohazard · February 2014

Preach.

WoodsSeltzer09 · February 2014

I completely agree- I am so tired of it. People are just rude!!

Rschmuker · February 2014

Lol I'm 5'2 as well...and have the same problem. Baby has outwards to go and that's it, due to my short torso. I am getting all the same comments as you in a daily basis..., so far my favorite has been..."aren't you worried how big your gonna get with 4 months left?!" And this one was classic as I was walking "...Dont fall over!"

Csouthx · February 2014

I know the feeling ladies, makes me soo mad. I now respond with "I'm having a baby but whats your excuse?" Then give a lovely sarcastic smile.

MrsP419 · February 2014

I AM having twins and it still gets old when people comment on how much bigger I will get, or when they look at me waddling, realize I am only 5 months, and shake their heads and offer their pity. Thankfully it is not too bad this time. With DD, there was a woman at work who told me every single Monday that I had popped over the weekend. She also told me she could tell I was pregnant because my butt got bigger. I said "no, I have always had a big ass."

lest12 · February 2014

MrsP419 said:

I AM having twins and it still gets old when people comment on how much bigger I will get, or when they look at me waddling, realize I am only 5 months, and shake their heads and offer their pity. Thankfully it is not too bad this time. With DD, there was a woman at work who told me every single Monday that I had popped over the weekend. She also told me she could tell I was pregnant because my butt got bigger. I said "no, I have always had a big ass."

Our office cleaning lady told me my butt was getting bigger sometime around the beginning of 2nd tri. I flat-out told her it was rude to say that, and now she doesn't talk to me anymore. Oh well!

kymirandar · February 2014

Preach it sister!

temursgirl · February 2014

*sigh* I'm also petite, so obviously there's nowhere to go but out. And everyone has an opinion on it. The "are you sure it's not twins?" and "you better pace yourself if you're that big already" are bad enough, but the worst might be my aunt who constantly mentions that so-and-so's daughter was at the pool two weeks after giving birth and totally has her figure back, hint hint hint.

Runningmomfam · February 2014

I'm. 5"2 and work at home this pregnancy. With my last pregnancy I worked at a busy hospital and got at least 5 annoying comments a day. It's so nice not hearing them I forget I'm pregnant some days.

Mowill59 · February 2014

Seriously, I don't understand why people think its okay to say things like that.
I haven't received too many rude comments so far, but when I was pregnant with DS I did. My coworker would always comment on how my belly was bigger after lunch and things like that. My friend told me after I had DS that my face got bigger when I was pregnant and now it's back to normal. Ummm okay thanks?? What are you even supposed to say to that?

Cherylwang · February 2014

My last two babies were big. My belly gets pretty big. I'm not the kind of person that stays small while pregnant. I hate when people say things about it or compare you to someone who is further along. Ugh! It's so annoying. Even my own husband has said wow you're starting to look big. When I give him a look he tries to fix it by saying I mean you look good but your looking pregnant. Thanks!

TheMrs820 · February 2014

How funny I just told DH that the next person that said something was gonna get punched in the face! I am just under 5'2" and DH is 6'4"....I know I'm big shut the F up!

jshrop · February 2014

Along these same lines-- and I'm only going to admit this here because you all understand but I don't want to hear everyone else laughing and saying "I told you so."-- anyway.... Remember when I used to say "I wish I looked pregnant instead of just fat?" Yeah. All the pressure of the soccer ball uterus is starting to take it's toll. I can barely breathe and I'm full in about 5 bites. I'm over it. I almost wish I had the blump back.

temursgirl · February 2014

@yellowbird219 yeah, but I have a really thin face, so I thought that one might actually be complimentary.

MSUMands · February 2014

Since when is it EVER OK to comment on a woman's physical appearance!? Just STFU already, mmmkay? This really infuriates me. Here are some GIFs of appropriate responses to these inappropriate comments.

Happydance80 · February 2014

I am so over it! It's EVERY SINGLE DAY! I feel like "are you SURE" it's not twins is such a stupid question!!!! Im like ummm after 15 ultrasounds I'm pretty fucking sure! I cannot go into my office without non stop comments! I am really tired of it! It doesn't make me feel "bad" necessarily. Just really grates on my nerves!

Hgual · February 2014

I will hit whoever asks me next if I'm sure it's not twins. And stop asking me for bump shots so you can continuously ask this.

Happydance80 · February 2014

I might bitch slap the next person who finds appropriate to comment on my belly! Also, people have taken to rubbing My belly now as well! I'm REALLY uncomfortable with being touched and I'm so tired of it already!

CherSomething · February 2014

Yesterday someone asked me, "Its twins, right?"

This was me:

Dude? NO! My bump isn't even big. I don't even know where he got that from.

People are dumb.

tnd1218 · February 2014

With DS I got those comments every time I walked my daughter across the cross walk for school. This time I am getting I didn't know you were pregnant! Oh wow you're 6 months really, are you sure? You can't even tell, shouldn't you be waddling! Ugh it's so frustrating. I have a very obvious bump and it makes me want to throat punch them. I wasn't small before this pregnancy but I also didn't have a pretruding belly. How is my pregnancy not obvious? Annoying!

dimitjm1 · February 2014

I have had people commenting on how I'm "really getting big", and "when's that baby coming out?". I tell them I'm supposed to be getting bigger...it's normal. Also, this time around one nurse at work has told me repeatedly "you're not going to make it it to your due date. Your lips already have that swollen look." Wtf does that mean? Thanks a lot lady. I told I probably won't make it as my son was early, but FFS I'm only 25 weeks. When people at work started to realize I was pregnant a male nurse told me he had been wondering because of my increased acne. I hate people commenting about any part of my body, but I'm almost wish they would go back to only commenting on by belly. Don't people understand how difficult it is to watch your body change so much (even for a good reason) and have so little control over it?

ricecakes1216 · February 2014

I hear you. I'm big and I'm carrying low, I get it!

ashquack · February 2014

Never ok to say anything like this to someone....
Ughhhh people are dumb.

galittlewave · February 2014

I'm 5'2, and the same shit happens to me daily. Where do they think the baby should show??? In my ass cheeks?
I mean! Really!!!
I could write a book about the inappropriate shit people say to me.

emandjp · February 2014

DH's family says the same damn thing to me! I'm almost 5'8" but with both of my pregnancies I grow straight out! When I was pregnant with DD1, people would say, "wow that's a big baby" and I would just give them a blank stare...she weighed 7lbs 3oz!! I wish I could give them a snarky reply but now when they make comments about my belly growing I just say, "that's the idea" or "that's how this works". Body changes are difficult to watch, it sucks to have people acknowledge it in a borderline negative way!!

Edited to fix wording.

Ashes92813 · February 2014

Ohhhh after last night I can add to this thread. We went out to dinner for my birthday and the waitress told me that I "look big for 6 months" and then insisted "I was having twins." I'm a normal size for 23-24 weeks dammit. Grrrrrr.

If it happens again I won't be as nice. I just think it's rude. Do I comment on your belly? Noooooo.

FAWKES81 · February 2014

I'm of a similar build to the OP but instead of having a big round belly my butt is getting bigger. It was big to begin with. I've always had plenty of junk in my trunk but I'm sick and tired of people telling me I'm carrying him in my butt. 8-| I think a poster on another board sorry I don't remember who said that the only thing people should say to a pregnant woman is "You are beautiful". I agree with this 100%.

gmc222 · February 2014

My MIL makes these comments all the time. At the beginning it was some comment about how I don't have a belly yet so shouldn't be wearing maternity clothes, then instantly it was 'you're going to have a big baby!'. Like others I'm only 5'1" and since this is my 2nd my belly suddenly popped.

My favorite was when my MIL looked at my 18wk ultrasound picture, which was a close-up of his face, and proclaimed that he already looks really big. How the hell can you tell from an u/s pic?! She can go f&ck herself.

zg49 · February 2014

This week I've had a wide variety of comments! Every day I see my mom she comments on how big I am and how much my clothing accentuates the bump. I also posted my bump photo to FB and a friend said "you're too tiny if you only have 13 weeks left...." Thanks?

I'm also part of a pregnancy group that meets on Thursdays and one of the ladies is due in 6 weeks and I made the comment that I'm bigger than her with 13 weeks to go and she whispered that she sucks it in. (I may have side-eyed her, I know - I feel bad for even saying anything. I hate it when it happens to me and then I went and did it)

I think if you can't say "Wow you look great!" you shouldn't say anything at all.

Mike&Teresa · February 2014

This is something I can totally relate to! I hear it daily from the ladies at work "are you sure you're not having twins", when someone walks past me the say " there isn't enough room for the three of us", "you're going to need a lift to get out of your chair soon". It really sucks that we all have to hear this, pregnancy is tough enough. We don't need their unsolicited comments too!

Sprinkles86 · February 2014

I totally agree! Yesss!
Soooo beyond fustrating i need to start answering vack because even complete strangers comment on my bumb which i love! Im 6 1/2 months and i dont consider myself bigger or smaller i just consider myself PREGNANT !!! Uugggh people are so rude its so obnoxious even family does unless you want to tell me im glowing fabulous then dont comment on my bump! Im not having twins...i know im gonna get bigger...(which im ok with) my bump may have been bigger than yours but guess what im not you blaahhh...

Celebrate your bump all diffrent shapes sizes its beautiful that pregnancy is different for all women dont put me in a mold

Kittylove72 · February 2014

see, I have a bit of the opposite problem. I'm plus size to begin with, and have a fairly big belly anyway. I was afraid I'd be 8 months along and still not showing, but happy now that I'm finally begining to see a difference (I'm almost 26 weeks) and my pants are finally too small. I'm happy to have a soccer ball in there making things look more round.

so yeah.... There was a woman I see every day when I drop my son off at school who said yesterday "I just heard you were pregnant... congrats! I just thought you had gained even more weight over the winter". I just opened my mouth and stared at her. RUDE.

Mike&Teresa · February 2014

@rachel5130 When I tell my DH what these woman say he can't understand it because he doesn't think that I look big at all. Either do I for that matter until I hear a few comments and then think to myself, well maybe I am big! DH always tells me how beautiful I look and never once said anything about my weight/bump being big. I guess these people that bump shame try to start conversation but don't realize what they are saying is hurtful and not funny? I can't figure it out.

deedee830 · February 2014

Rachel5130 said:

I'm curious to those of you that are getting shamed for your weight, "harmless" or not... Do your SO's say anything?

@rachel5130, unfortunately he's the one contributing to the issue. I really haven't had anyone say anything bad to me except for him. It's unintentional, but it sucks.

The lastest one was as I was lamenting how big I felt. Extra bloaty day, just feeling heavy and blah and so I say "I feel huge.". His response: "You are.". Thanks. X(

deedee830 · February 2014

Yeah, I wasn't in a good mood after that one at all. We've been disconnected lately, things are off, but I thought that one was just wrong.

jshrop · February 2014

@deedee830 my hubs is the ass too... Sorta. Every time I say I'm fat he says "you're pregnant, there's a difference." However, he keeps saying my boobs are too big and they need to stop, or he questions what I eat "you sure you want that?" YES!!! I DO!!

deedee830 · February 2014

@jshrop, hell hath no fury like a pregnant women denied food. Especially yummy food. I've started to try and ignore it, I'm just too tired to get into it.

BTW, your boobs will just get bigger. Maybe you should remind him of that.

flojo973 · February 2014

I'm really starting to lose my patience with this kind of crap! I usually don't even bother responding to the person if they make a comment on my size and I just change the subject. But I'm starting to not care anymore and really want to say something rude back!

theamandapanda · February 2014

People suck!
Cat shooting a machine gun

FAWKES81 · February 2014

Kittylove72 said:

see, I have a bit of the opposite problem. I'm plus size to begin with, and have a fairly big belly anyway. I was afraid I'd be 8 months along and still not showing, but happy now that I'm finally begining to see a difference (I'm almost 26 weeks) and my pants are finally too small. I'm happy to have a soccer ball in there making things look more round.

so yeah.... There was a woman I see every day when I drop my son off at school who said yesterday "I just heard you were pregnant... congrats! I just thought you had gained even more weight over the winter". I just opened my mouth and stared at her. RUDE.

WTF - I was plus-size pre-pregnancy too. If someone would have said this to me I would have flipped my shit (I think) and blamed it on the pregnancy hormones when the police showed up. WOW...I can't fathom someone being so rude. I understand people have probably thought the same thing about me until I "came out" but actually saying it?! Where do you live...I might know a guy.
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