I really looked for someone talking about this particular issue and I hope no one is mad I started a new topic!
So I have a name in mind that popped into my head when I peed on a stick December 20th and I have shared it with people now that I am 13 weeks pregnant.
The other night two girls from my bookclub took me out to dinner...thinking that after 2 mcs and a long time trying to conceive including a fertility dr that they were going to congratulate me and want to hear about the baby...I went. When I got their they brought up the topic right away of names and I said I had one in mind and then one of the girls who is further along then me said that that was her name and that I can't have it. Further she has a few names still not one and I can't have any of them. After that they both proceeded to make up silly unusable names I could have and even the non pregnant one told me her names so i would be sure not to use them. It was awful...they talked about other girls they have un-friended because of this issue and basically told each other they would never take each other's names in front of me. The whole thing made me feel sick.
I have been trying to be more mature about things I politely mentions that they both had very common names and that many babies would have the same name...and I said I wasn't feeling well and left.
What do I do? Drop these bitches or is this a legitimate concern of there's? Can you call names? Honestly at this point it's not the names but the grade school like bullying that took place that makes me mad...we are all in our late 20s and early 30s here.
Re: Name stealing and friends
And yes I agree with you they are acting dumb.
Edit: damn autocorrect
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In your situation, those friends were being stupid. You should use your name and forget about what they said.
You should name your child whatever you want to name your child.
But trying to reserve names for kids not born yet? HELL NO. Use any of 'their' names you want, and if they get pissed then you have an easy way to drop a couple of assholes as friends.
I say it's up to you and YH on whether your comfortable using a pretty popular name but would not be upset losing these "friends"
Moral of the story: Bitches be crazy. Name your baby whatever you want.
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Feel better!
She doesn't sound like a close friend, so use your name. If she has a problem with that, too bad.
I did tell my SIL that she wasn't allowed to use my girl name, but it was my grandmother's name and I was much closer to her than my brother was. Plus, he didn't even know how to spell it correctly.
Seriously thanks! I needed some stress relief as I'm trying to be nice and calm for baby!
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DD: 9/22/2014
But seriously. It's a gorgeous name I picked in the shower and I get so many compliments on it and you should totally have a precious baby girl and name her Camille.
You sound just as dreadful as the disgusting women OP had to deal with.
This isn't exactly the same, but when I got engaged, I was surprised by the reactions of some of my friends at the time. Instead of being happy for me, some of them got outright pissed (one of them said to me, why are you wearing a ring on THAT finger? In a tone of voice like she was asking me why I'd shoved her or something). That attitude continued, so I dropped them and was much happier for it. Really, you don't need toxic people in your life, and these two obviously are. I mean, if they took you out to dinner and tag teamed you to talk about this, they've obviously been obsessing about it and planning how to come at you with it. Ridiculous.
You name your child whatever the hell you want. I agree with posters above that it's nice to avoid using the names of children your friends may have lost, or maybe names of close family. Though I have a couple of first cousins who named their kids the same names, and they see each other a lot. Doesn't bother anyone. My cousin also mentioned to me that she had been considering my daughter's name (Lilia) for her little girl who is about 6 months younger (she went with a diff name), and it didn't bother me. I was flattered that she liked the name so much.
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