My shower invitation design is finalized!

kit0429 · February 2014

I love it!! One of my fabulous BFFs designed it for me as a gift, she is so talented. She is going to design thank you notes to match.

KBowen715 · February 2014

Such great spring colors!

deanna1313 · February 2014

Love it! It looks great:)

kit0429 · February 2014

Thank you!!

sparklingdiamond · February 2014

Cute!

Glitterlicious · February 2014

They look great!
Diaper raffle? Is that a new thing? Never heard of it and I went to 10+showers in the past year and a half!

talkthewholetime · February 2014

It's cute. If it's not the final copy, have them change "and win a great prize" to "for the chance to win a great prize"

I doubt anyone cares, but with that wording, you're guaranteeing a prize for bringing diapers

kit0429 · February 2014

It isn't the final copy and thank you!! That read awkwardly to me but I couldn't put my preggo finger on why. Much appreciated. It's going to print tomorrow.

I wanted to use direct links to my registries but the hostesses want to just list them as amazon.com and tiny tots.com. Which I don't get, why not just use the direct small bitly links I made? But whatever. Super grateful for any support!!

kit0429 · February 2014

The diaper raffle is cute and will be helpful. We are planning on cloth diapering but you never know when disposables may come in handy and as a FTM in an apt, it's anybody's guess what will happen!!

LoveIsAll25 · February 2014

Very cute!

fyafighterwife86 · February 2014

Love the diaper raffle idea!
My mom is doing something similar..in lieu of cards, donate a book for LO's nursery.
I thought it was strange at first but I think it's a fantastic idea!

Cupcakes89 · February 2014

Aww love it!

And I totally agree with everyone else with the diaper raffle, how fun! And useful!

Empireceo · February 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Glitterlicious said:

They look great! Diaper raffle? Is that a new thing? Never heard of it and I went to 10+showers in the past year and a half!

It's a newer thing that's gaining popularity. But it's also considered pretty rude because you're basically giving instructions to your guests on what to bring you/asking for a second gift.

The design of the invites is nice though!

Nice invites. I would reconsider the diaper raffle. As @Kimbus22 said, it is considered rude for multiple reasons.

Divine0chaos · February 2014

Super cute!! Love the raffle idea, I've heard of the diaper raffle as well as a diaper gamble. They do a separate guys only party who buy in with a pack of diapers, and gamble haha

kit0429 · February 2014

I've never heard of it being considered rude by anyone. It's just a fun game that helps the mom to be. It's too bad that anyone would take that kind of a stance with their friends. And how is it different than bringing a book instead of a card? My friends & family would never think I was being greedy & asking for more stuff. That's what a shower is for, to welcome a baby into a community. Plus it wasn't my idea, it was one of the hostess's ideas and they are all moms and have thrown multiple showers. And I only see one potential reason for it to be considered rude (and by whom? Jealous betches? I don't keep those types around) not a multitude of reasons.

Well no matter

I'm in love with the design and look. It matches our nursery decor perfectly. Yes I'm that woman. And proud!

julesf817 · February 2014

Every shower i've been to in the last few years has had a diaper raffle, i think it's a cute idea and we'll be having it at mine, rude or not haha.

AugustGlass · February 2014

kit0429 said:
I've never heard of it being considered rude by anyone. It's just a fun game that helps the mom to be. It's too bad that anyone would that kind of a stance with their friends. And how is it different than bringing a book instead of a card?

Because in addition to bringing a book or whatever you're dictating that everyone has to bring you diapers, as well. That's the part that is rude. It's completely different if people just decide to get you diapers.

kit0429 · February 2014

Well, in this case it isn't in addition to bringing a book - which is the same idea, only books tend to be more expensive than diapers. The whole point is one pack of diapers isn't much but when 30+ people get involved then you are all set. Same as books.

Besides, it isn't mandatory to participate. And I'm not dictating anything, the shower is being hosted as a gift for me also. Maybe people just like being nice and supportive sometimes. Once again not sure how this would be seen as rude.

Helmink0804 · February 2014

Love the invites- so cute! I don't think the diaper raffle is rude- nobody is being forced to bring the diapers. I'm hoping at least one of my showers have it- haha.

Empireceo · February 2014

kit0429 said:

I've never heard of it being considered rude by anyone. It's just a fun game that helps the mom to be. It's too bad that anyone would take that kind of a stance with their friends. And how is it different than bringing a book instead of a card? My friends & family would never think I was being greedy & asking for more stuff. That's what a shower is for, to welcome a baby into a community. Plus it wasn't my idea, it was one of the hostess's ideas and they are all moms and have thrown multiple showers. And I only see one potential reason for it to be considered rude (and by whom? Jealous betches? I don't keep those types around) not a multitude of reasons. Well no matter I'm in love with the design and look. It matches our nursery decor perfectly. Yes I'm that woman. And proud!

Look, you're going to do what you want. Since they hadn't gone out yet, I simply suggested you might want to reconsider the diaper raffle since plenty of people DO consider it rude (books instead of cards too, FYI). You say it's not mandatory but who wants to be the odd man out who doesn't participate? What if I was planning on giving you diapers and a book as a gift? Now you've made me feel like my gift wasn't good enough. That's the point of etiquette, to not make your guests feel uncomfortable. But obviously your need for more gifts is the priority. And LOL at that making me a jealous bitch.

kit0429 · February 2014

Eh, it wasn't my idea - I'm going to score a ton of free diapers thanks to the genius of one of my bffs - and wtf I like presents and I'm a FTM. I think it's a win all the way around. And I didn't say anyone was a jealous betch

kit0429 · February 2014

I guess I should have posted in the baby shower board. I don't use this app much - more so on baby bump bc I hate how this forum scrolls on my iPhone, and baby bump doesn't have a shower specific board - so I didn't realize there was one. Thanks!

Empireceo · February 2014

kitchencolors said:

kit0429 said:

I guess I should have posted in the baby shower board. I don't use this app much - more so on baby bump bc I hate how this forum scrolls on my iPhone, and baby bump doesn't have a shower specific board - so I didn't realize there was one. Thanks!

Oh please do. Please do.

ETA: @Kimbus22 I'm not as nice as you are, apparently.

Seriously, let the BSB at this peach.

ABColeslaw · February 2014

Eh every single shower I've ever been to has had a diaper raffle. LIke every single one of them. I've brought dipes when I've felt like it and half the time I don't, so I don't. I think it is very common in some circles and not in others. Oh well. I think it is up to the host to gauge how the guests will receive an idea like that.

Jillzy86 · February 2014

I would never think that a diaper raffle is rude. Very cute invites! Have fun at your shower!

kit0429 · February 2014

Eh, I've seen it before and I can spot it a mile away. Jealousy is jealousy and ladies, it ain't pretty. Ever. Why on earth would it be considered rude? I haven't read one good reason. If you want to participate, do so. If not, don't. Asking for a book in lieu of a card is way more demanding of a request. If all you want to do is give a book and diapers then you are done. It just really seems to me that the judgement here comes from a place of scarcity and have not feelings. But this is all besides the point.

My whole post was about the AW factor. I'm just loving the design, my friend is so talented and really listened go my feedback. They're perfect.

spacepotatoes · February 2014

Not even touching the whole diaper raffle thing, but regarding your post in ArmyMedic's thread:

kit0429 said:

Very cute. Funny how no one jumped all over you for asking for a book instead of a card. I was told I was being rude for having a diaper raffle which is pretty much the same concept, except books can be more expensive. Whatevs!! I love your invitation.

Funny how you start one thread to AW your invitations to complete strangers, then decide to carry that through into someone else's to make it about you. Classy.

kb2bkk · February 2014

Also you are not requesting diapers you are requesting a specific more expensive type of diaper which takes the tackiness to an even greater level.

I actually run in a circle where a small side item is often requested, I don't consider diapers a small extra. A book, I do. You can get a book for just as cheap as a card. Diapers, let alone chlorine free, not so much.

And no, I am far from jealous, people were way to generous at my shower - my entire registry was cleared out and then some. But the way you talk about getting gifts on here just makes you sound like a gift grabby person.

Empireceo · February 2014

kit0429 said:

Eh, I've seen it before and I can spot it a mile away. Jealousy is jealousy and ladies, it ain't pretty. Ever. Why on earth would it be considered rude? I haven't read one good reason. If you want to participate, do so. If not, don't. Asking for a book in lieu of a card is way more demanding of a request. If all you want to do is give a book and diapers then you are done. It just really seems to me that the judgement here comes from a place of scarcity and have not feelings. But this is all besides the point. My whole post was about the AW factor. I'm just loving the design, my friend is so talented and really listened go my feedback. They're perfect.

Have and have nots? Get a clue. I have enough to provide for my own children without milking my guests for more gifts.

Christinaruth74 · February 2014

I don't wanna go all white knight up in hurr, but I'm having a diaper raffle. And *gasp* it was my idea. I'm going to put together the raffle prize. My invites clearly say that it is completely optional... I don't see anything wrong with it, but I am also well acquainted with those attending and know that they are very familiar with and supportive of the concept.
I say to each his own...

I already know I'm a pwincess.

Christinaruth74 · February 2014

However! I will say it is very presumptuous @kit0429 to call these ladies jealous...
I can guarantee you that no one here is jealous of your invites, your raffle, or of your keen eye that spots such envy from miles away.

lildarling76 · February 2014

Every shower I have ever been too they have said on the invite that there will be a wishing well or diaper stack, so I don't find this greedy or selfish. To each its own!

ABColeslaw · February 2014

for giggles though we could argue that showers themselves are rude. The whole thing is a big "fund raising/ item raising event" They are socially acceptable though so we only consider them rude if the guest of honor is throwing them. I really don't see the difference between "come to this gift giving event with a registry" and "partificpate in a diaper raffle"

But hey.

Now OP you had a couple regulars come in here and try to defend you and look what you did with it. I can't defend you if you're calling people jealous biddies. Just can't. Your defensiveness of the idea is going to lead others to believe that it was your idea and that is where the rude line is drawn for me.

The invite is very cute. I'll call you out for your other behavior though, going into another thread and linking back to this one and all, and you can't call me jealous....I'm getting a sprinkle I can't get out of and the invites are like 3000 times cuter than any invites I've ever seen on here or in person, so not jealous, just calling you out.

ArmyMedic7588 · February 2014

spacepotatoes said:

Not even touching the whole diaper raffle thing, but regarding your post in ArmyMedic's thread:

kit0429 said:

Very cute. Funny how no one jumped all over you for asking for a book instead of a card. I was told I was being rude for having a diaper raffle which is pretty much the same concept, except books can be more expensive. Whatevs!! I love your invitation.

Funny how you start one thread to AW your invitations to complete strangers, then decide to carry that through into someone else's to make it about you. Classy.

Haha I thought that was kinda funny too... Maybe no one said much to me cause there was nothing to be done at that point. I saw my invites after they were already in the mail. And honestly I don't see where you are finding diapers that are anywhere close to the price of a card and chlorine free ones at that! Damn I wanna know where you're shopping! I think that would be the ONLY thing I would be jealous of you for is being able to find chlorine free diapers that are like $3... definitely not jealous of the invite though. Though it's cute I've seen designs of similar sort over and over... mine's pretty original and super cute and personalized (gotta love our family).

...At least books can be cheap. Not asking for a super expensive one! I've found them on Amazon for under $2-3.... I told MIL that I didn't like the diaper idea, anyways what are you gonna do with stacks of sizes that you don't need or brands you don't like?

Eh... just my opinion! But thanks ladies for not flaming me much on my thread! I do see the point to both sides though but I have no choice now! haha

spacepotatoes · February 2014

This one is a peach.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12272359/diaper-raffle-book-in-lieu-of-a-card

AugustGlass · February 2014

spacepotatoes said:
This one is a peach.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12272359/diaper-raffle-book-in-lieu-of-a-card

Looks like everyone on the baby shower board is jealous of her, too.

deanna1313 · February 2014

I don't think it is rude at all. Normally the diaper raffle is for those who want to participate. I don't think it is supposed to be like the book instead of a card or a wishing well where it is expected that you bring those extra things. I can see that maybe wording on the invite insert may be misleading to people who haven't heard of it before.

deanna1313 · February 2014

@ABColeslaw I thought the same thing. Showers in general are pretty much people saying "give me gifts!!!" I'm sure they were considered tacky at some point, too.
I know people who don't like registries, too.

ArmyMedic7588 · February 2014

I guess the board was getting boring and someone had to go all crazy on us... I was wondering when it would happen though! I mean obviously there's been WAY worse, but someone needed to add some drama in my life! haha

Mimaloo · February 2014

As far as I've ever heard, diaper raffles and the book instead of a card thing are only frowned upon here on TB. Personally, I could care less if this was on someone's invite.

And OP, you're right. I'm totes jelly of you. I mean, I can afford to buy my kid's diapers AND a crap ton of books. My lyfe just sucks so can I have yours?

Miles2Go · February 2014

Ima let you finish, but @abcoleslaw had the best shower invite of all time.

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