Wife is currently 35 weeks pregnant with twins. He was officially cut off 3 weeks ago for good reason. He hinted a survey should be set up to predict when "it" will happen again. So here it is. Today is February 21st.
Will gOnnabeadad ever have sex again? 127 votes
Sometime before the babies are born
Before 6 weeks after birth
Before 7 weeks after birth
Before 8 weeks after birth
Before 10 weeks after birth
After 10 weeks after birth
Re: When will gOnnabeadad have sex again?
Said this over on the other thread:
It will be a long time, but he won't care as much as he thinks he will right now. They will both be too tired to care, and depending on the healing time, she certainly will not let him near her with that "thing".
Two things I remember about post-delivery wife (Graphic):
1) The big ass pad she had to wear like a diaper for a few weeks. That was soooooooooo nasty!
2) My son tearing those nipples up while the two of them learned to breast feed. That looked real painful from here.
Sleep deprevation is very real. That alone is a boner killer.
I'm thinking it will be before 6 weeks after they're born. Not much sooner then that.
Be very careful with that thinking. It's highly recommended to wait because of infection and stuff. Your wife is still healing. C-section might be different though.
Tread lightly with that thought process, dude.
A girlfriend of my wife had a real asshole as a husband. He was basically forcing her to have sex with him a week or two after their baby came.
Total jerk. Why would you even want to try that? It's like soup down there. Needless to say, they are no longer married.
My wife would have had nothing to do with that. She would have been taking my son to her parent's house before it got to that point.
After that it will be 3 months after the baby is born.
And yeah, I wasn't even that motivated in the first month or two. Turns out if I'm tired enough I want sleep more than sex!
It was at least 6 weeks after my son was born that I got any. It still hurts my wife at times when we are in certain positions and our son is almost 3.
Actually, between both of us working overtime and taking care of the baby, we both just want to sleep.
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Misery does love company.
12 Months really seems to be the point a lot of women turn the corner and actually start feeling "normal" again.
bye bye old life..... it was awesome while it lasted! Hello new life!
With the boy at 1 1/2 years now, frequency is at about 3-4 times a month.
To follow up on the soup comment, often times there are stitches down there too. that leaves scar tissue sometimes, which can cause discomfort.
There are a lot of things going on down there after birth, and all of them are boner killers.
Light at the end of the tunnel is in the form of hand jobs and BJ's. My wife seems relieved at times if I just ask for one of those instead of sex.
But we are about to start on number two here real soon, so it is about to get like a porn shoot around here!
My wife would FAR rather have sex than give a BJ. She's ok with it as part of foreplay if she's feeling like sex. But just a random BJ for being such a good husband and father? Noooope.
Especially after a few years of trying when my wife started getting depressed and anxious about not being able to carry a child, the whole act just started to become sad.
It is work when conception doesn't happen right away. She feels like a failure and we feel like the pressure is fucking with our stroke, so to speak.
The two times my wife and I have conceived, we were on vacation. That day to day grind of the work week takes a lot out of us, and sometimes getting away during ovulation can remove a lot of that stress, and bring it back to something more special than just humping to bust that nut.
It was like chastity but not in a fun BDSM way
when I got off of work at the end of last season and we still hadnt conceived we decided to take a trip for this exact reason (and we are travel junkies). I had found out the day before that I was getting 5 weeks off and we didnt have a lot of money so we decided to go to Baja for a month.
We literally packed up the bike the next day and left.
We didnt get pregnant on the trip but we got pregnant the month after! ..... and it was one hell of a trip
For me and MW, it doesn't help us that our son goes to bed around the same time as we do so we don't get a lot of couple time.
As for being torn up down there, it took the Dr a full hour to sew my wife back up after our son was born. I was more than willing to wait until after she was healed up.
Completely agree that when your ttc the sex isn't very exciting and becomes all work... Although it was never as bad as no lovin'.
It's very unlikely that my wife will provide much assistance when we aren't having sex. It is close to rare and I often need to ask 4 or 5 times before anything happens, although I won't be asking when she's this uncomfortable. I've reminded her that 5-10 minutes of her time will go a long way, not that I don't do everything for her that I can do.
@ratpasta - That's rough. We actually felt like we got a chance every month at least. I forget the name but my wife had low progesterone and her cycle was messed up. We went to see a fertility specialist and he wrote out a pretty solid plan for us. The month before it started we didn't really try like we had. I think we did it once during the "window". Guess what. Got her pregnant.
@wulfgar - Not alone at all. Our son goes to bed at the same time as us too. That's why it felt like work. Sometimes it would be 11 and we'd have to have sex even though we can barely keep our eyes open. Or I'd set my alarm clock to get up an extra 30 minutes early. Have you talked to a fertility doctor?
@ladyjenna13 - Yup, same with us. Honeymoon baby, and basically the month we didn't try.
Yup, I've always hear stories about people who say they got pregnant right after they stopped trying. I always thought it was coincidence because you normally don't announce that unless it happens. We're one of those people now.
It's crazy you spend your whole high school / college trying to avoid it, you'd think it was a lot easier then it really is.