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BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

baileymama3 said:
@BiggerinRealLife so OVER it. That address envelope raffle really killed the baby shower topic for me.

This makes me happy. I feel like A14 is growing. :x

Mamamonzo · February 2014

I watch The Peoples Court every day. When I rule the same as the judge I feel superior and extra smart! I've also learned a lot from that show and take pictures and make notes on everything I sign. DH thinks I'm a nut, I think one of these days he's going to be kissing the ground I walk on because I pay attention!

MegJ17 · February 2014

@biggerinreallife that's why it's a fffc. Most people look forward to theirs. Not me. Not wanting to be a drama maker

Serenla · February 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

baileymama3 said:
@BiggerinRealLife so OVER it. That address envelope raffle really killed the baby shower topic for me.

This makes me happy. I feel like A14 is growing. :x

Or we are all just too third tri tired to deal with it lol.

baileymama3 · February 2014

amhah09 said:
I've eaten an entire box of cocoa krispies today.

Totally normal! I bought a jumbo bag of cheese balls at the grocery store and ate half while standing in my kitchen

cause if you stand it doesn't count!

sweetmelissa0707 · February 2014

Two confessions today.
1. Sometimes, when all of my readings are good for my blood sugar ( low eighties/ nineties) I cheat on my second snack of the day ( coolatta today).

2. I enjoy baking/ making things for my kids to bring to preschool. Would my cupcakes win awards? Probably not. But it makes my kids happy to have something to share with their friends, so I'm happy to do it. One day they probably won't want me within 50 yards of their friends/ teachers/ classroom, so I'm getting it in as much as possible now.

MegJ17 · February 2014

@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

MegJ17 said:
@biggerinreallife that's why it's a fffc. Most people look forward to theirs. Not me. Not wanting to be a drama maker

@MegJ17 I'm sorry for posting, especially if it upset you. I have no cares to give over shower etiquette, shower rules, what "should" and "shouldn't" be done, etc. I was just saying it because we have people on here and on The Bump in general that are very passionate about shower rules, and I was surprised that no one bit on your post. Because, as we've seen, FFFC are rarely, if ever, actually flame-free. Looking back now I wish I hadn't drawn attention to it because I honestly think you should feel however you feel about your shower, and I'm sorry your shower isn't going to be a good experience for you. And I especially wish I hadn't posted now, knowing there's backstory were not getting. I didn't mean any harm, but now think my post was very stir-the-pot-ish on a topic I'm VERY HAPPY to see we're all getting over, and I really didn't intend to stir the pot on.

So apologies, and I hope your shower is more fun than you think it will be.

Ashleypixie · February 2014

Now I want to know the back story. Hearing about showers makes me sad, especially when the mom isn't looking forward to it. This is my third baby so I'm not getting one, even though my last baby was born nine years ago and we didn't keep anything. It'd be nice to get a head start on the things we need, but I'm mostly sad that I don't have very many people near me that could come! Even if there were no gifts at all I'd be happy that others were also happy to celebrate with me!

MegJ17 · February 2014

@biggerinreallife just posted the back story. Your post didn't upset me. I'm the same way when it comes to shower etiquette. Whatever works for you but having someone offer to throw you a shower that you pay for boggles my mind.

ETA: I'm sure it will be nice but knowing what I paid for makes me bitter.

sking72 · February 2014

My sisters are throwing me a shower and we invited over 60 people, I knew there were at least 20 that were more to be polite invitations. My poor sister is freaking out because before yesterday only 7 family members RSVPed. I tried to reassure her I was happy no matter who came and more cake for us! Baby shower stuff gets crazy....

More of a confession: I have three chips ahoy left... I ate the rest of the box today.

AcaAwkward · February 2014

Acers said:

MegJ17 said:

@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

Oh hell no.

Why is your husband paying if your sisters offered to host? That is horse shit. Now that I know the backstory, I'm sure I'd be disgruntled too!

Mamamonzo · February 2014

MegJ17 said:
@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

Holy shit 100 people and you don't know most!?!? Awkward!! Hopefully you get some awesome things and you'll be good to go!

abbeylanecb · February 2014

thomas930 said:

Confession: I didn't get anything for my kids for Valentines Day and I don't feel guilty for it.

This! From looking at my Facebook you would think it was Christmas. My kids do not need more candy and toys.

Stace0616 · February 2014

My dad was always the one to do the cards/gifts for Valentine's Day in my family. He worked a lot, so they'd always be downstairs at our kitchen table for his three girls (mom, sister and I) when we woke up. I remember thinking he loved us more than my mom sometimes because she never got us candy for Valentine's Day.

Then, when I went away to college, I finally realized that she was the one making the heart-shaped waffles, special Vday lunch boxes, and dinner for all of us. FFFC: I was an ungrateful daughter

Ashleypixie · February 2014

AcaAwkward said:

MegJ17 said:

@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

Oh hell no.
Why is your husband paying if your sisters offered to host? That is horse shit. Now that I know the backstory, I'm sure I'd be disgruntled too!

This is just tacky as hell, who invites 100 people to a baby shower? Especially when you don't know most of them well? How on earth did the sisters get you guys to pay for this? Are they chipping in for anything?

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

MegJ17 said:
@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

Oooh, wait, I remember that now. Yeah, hon, that sucks. I'm sorry it's left you unhappy about your shower. Should like those SILS just wanted an excuse to throw a party.

avidkeo · February 2014

maelic said:
Re: the boobs.

I was a D cup to begin with, now I'm a fucking F cup. F!!

My husband is not a boob man even, so they weird him out almost as much as they weird me out. They sit on my belly when I bend over, eeriest feeling ever.

This!! Omg I thought I was the only one!! I hate feeling like im suffocating by my boobs when I try to sleep!

jgreig83 · February 2014

My confession: I hate Valentine's Day. Maybe it is the feminist in me, but I would rather receive flowers or chocolates on a day that he doesn't feel like he "has to"! I know people are going to bash me for this one, but my stance is firm.

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

I have two huge moulded chocolate mousse cups topped with fruit in the fridge at home for Valentine's Day. (We are not doing anything big, test driving cars and getting takeout. But I thought a nice dessert would be sweet.)

Confession: if DH doesn't get home exactly when he said he would be, I may eat both myself. It's noon and my mouth is watering thinking of them. If I do? He will never, ever know.

MegJ17 · February 2014

Ashleypixie said:

AcaAwkward said:

Acers said:

MegJ17 said:

@acers I'm just as confused as you are. His sisters asked if they could throw a shower for us and he said yes. Next thing they are making the guest list and inviting Their coworkers and friends that I have never even met. The guest list is well over 100 (I have maybe 20 people total coming) people so a person's house is out. DH had to pay for the church we are having it at and then we went shopping for supplies for the shower and DH paid $140 at SAMs and then he went shopping for desserts and soda and I'm sure he paid for that. Then he went and ordered food and cake. I have no idea on what he spent but I'm sure I could have gotten what we needed for the baby for that amount. We don't have a ton of money just sitting around so it really pisses me off. Not how we do things in my family.

Oh hell no.
Why is your husband paying if your sisters offered to host? That is horse shit. Now that I know the backstory, I'm sure I'd be disgruntled too!

This is just tacky as hell, who invites 100 people to a baby shower? Especially when you don't know most of them well? How on earth did the sisters get you guys to pay for this? Are they chipping in for anything?

I agree with you 100%. I'd rather not have one then to have to deal with this crap! I'd rather have my girlfriends over for wine after the babies were born. If I knew it was going to be like this I would have said no and had them be disappointed. I didn't agree to any of it but DH just goes along with whatever they say. Ugh.

deidremaria · February 2014

@Stace0616 aaannnnddd that's why I don't want daughters..... Totally kidding. I mean it, I'm kidding. It's good that at some point you recognized that you were a little ungrateful. The fact that you realized it makes up for it

TallaB · February 2014

I just ate a gigantic Jimmy Johns sub. Now I want to go to the OTHER Jimmy Johns across town and get another one.

Ashleypixie · February 2014

MegJ17 said:

AcaAwkward said:
Oh hell no.
Why is your husband paying if your sisters offered to host? That is horse shit. Now that I know the backstory, I'm sure I'd be disgruntled too!

This is just tacky as hell, who invites 100 people to a baby shower? Especially when you don't know most of them well? How on earth did the sisters get you guys to pay for this? Are they chipping in for anything? I agree with you 100%. I'd rather not have one then to have to deal with this crap! I'd rather have my girlfriends over for wine after the babies were born. If I knew it was going to be like this I would have said no and had them be disappointed. I didn't agree to any of it but DH just goes along with whatever they say. Ugh.
And you are having twins? No. You have twice the stuff to buy, this shower should cost you nothing. Hopefully you'll have a good time with the people you DO want there. And it wouldn't hurt to get a lot of stuff. Especially $$$ and gift cards, maybe after all is said and done you'll come out ahead! And make 80 new friends!

MegJ17 · February 2014

@ashleypixie thanks for making me laugh about it!

maelic · February 2014

Speaking of showers:

Mine's the first weekend in March. I didn't want one, we're not registering for anything, we'd rather just buy what we need when we need it. I'm European, it's just not how we do things and my husband is completely on board with that.

MIL and SIL are throwing me one anyway and I appreciate that they love me and want to celebrate but it makes me uncomfortable. So I asked for no gifts, just a yay baby! kinda thing, or that if guests really wanted to bring something they could get a book for LO because those are cheap and awesome. SIL is awesome and gets it, MIL... doesn't.

Apparently we have big pieces of furniture? Stuff? Swings? Boxes and boxes of new clothes and toys and SHIT WE DON'T NEED OR WANT that will be given to me "before the shower" by MIL and her sisters and nieces. MIL sounded so fucking pleased with herself that she found a way around the "please no gifts" thing. She told me. To my face. Why, I'm not getting a baby shower! I'm just getting a ton of expensive crap from her family in the half hour before the official start of the party.

So, not to be ungrateful, but when I say no gifts please I actually mean NO FUCKING GIFTS. I always thought throwing people parties was about making them happy, not about making them uncomfortable.

KatieGummow · February 2014

jgreig83 said:
My confession: I hate Valentine's Day. Maybe it is the feminist in me, but I would rather receive flowers or chocolates on a day that he doesn't feel like he "has to"! I know people are going to bash me for this one, but my stance is firm.

I actually think you're in the majority with this hate of Valentine's day. I love Valentine's day (not the bears, flowers, balloons...) though. We just do cards and take out cheese cake factory.

tamaraaaa · February 2014

My DH got a bottle of Welch's sparkling non-alcoholic grape juice and I'm putting it all in my biggest wine glass and pretending I can feel the buzz...

Also, he is sitting over on the other side of the room trying to study and I have farted a minimum of 40 times in the past few hours. He's said nothing, and this is why I shall keep him forever.

JoelleOK · February 2014

In the past 24 hours 3 different people have referred to my son as a girl. I confess I don't understand why it's happening.

Teresa1896 · February 2014

ColleenSwerb said:

I swear on my life I will teach my son to USE HIS EYEBALLS AND LOOK for something before asking where it is.

Teach my DH while you're at it. Oh dear sweet baby Jesus this drives me crazy!!

Teresa1896 · February 2014

I am counting the minutes until DH gets home and we can have some wine and giant steaks. Really, I'm just waiting for the wine.

baileymama3 · February 2014

If you want something, order it. I can't stand when someone says they don't want something or aren't hungry and then eat yours. (Best example: fries)

Overheard at Starbucks today:
Guy:"I will have a grande latte" turns to girlfriend "what would you like?"
Girl: "nothing I will just share yours!"
(At least she admitted it)

So annoying. No one wants to share their coffee... AND it was buy one get one free.

JBellacqua84 · February 2014

I know it's been said but I also do not like Valentine's day. We have never celebrated it. What makes me dislike it the most is all the people on facebook with their "Look at how much my husband/boyfriend loves me! He got me flowers/chocolates/whatever! Thanks for being so wonderful!"

No... they love you everyday.... they sent those because they don't want you to be pissed off at them for the next month.

Just my thoughts!

sking72 · February 2014

baileymama3 said:
If you want something, order it. I can't stand when someone says they don't want something or aren't hungry and then eat yours. (Best example: fries)

Overheard at Starbucks today:
Guy:"I will have a grande latte" turns to girlfriend "what would you like?"
Girl: "nothing I will just share yours!"
(At least she admitted it)

So annoying. No one wants to share their coffee... AND it was buy one get one free.

I make sure SO knows when we go eat if he wants a bite of my cake or a French fry to get his own. I don't share food (insert Joey tribiani gif)

I had dated a guy who would insist he didn't even like chocolate cake and would take a bite of mine when we got home. I started just ordering two pieces because I wasn't dealing with that shit, and if he didnt eat it, I got two!

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

@dani+California I don't think you're selfish. That's a hard position to be in if you already had plans, but you're a good friend, so you go. No shame in being sad about the evening you could have had, especially since your friend, for all that she "wants to forget about it," is probably still processing. You're doing the noble thing, but that can be hard to help a friend through. I hope you and your man can have a make up day sometime soon.

cgoldian · February 2014

I am totally planning on being THAT mom who hand makes valentines, bakes ridiculous things for my LO's class and birthday parties. I blame this on the fact that I was a pastry chef and always have the need to create! (I am even making the favors for my own baby shower)

ksulli · February 2014

JBellacqua84 said:

I know it's been said but I also do not like Valentine's day. We have never celebrated it. What makes me dislike it the most is all the people on facebook with their "Look at how much my husband/boyfriend loves me! He got me flowers/chocolates/whatever! Thanks for being so wonderful!"

No... they love you everyday.... they sent those because they don't want you to be pissed off at them for the next month.

Just my thoughts!

you know what DH got? I let him get sausage on our pizza tonight. That's love. He got me Oreos. I'm thrilled. Really.

chucko326 · February 2014

I have a good friend that frequently calls me on her commute home to chat. I love talking to her, but if I pick up, it means that I am committing to a 1+ hour long phone conversation. I pretend I am in a meeting and can't answer more often than I should...

BabyBsMommy · February 2014

jellysparkles said:

nicole mackenzie said:

jellysparkles said:
DH will cry and pitch a fit, but I give no fucks. There will be a breast reduction in my future. Give me Cs!
I have wanted a reduction since high school but figured they'd just grow again when I got pregnant. My mom had actually offered to look into if her insurance would cover it! Sweet mum. She knew how depressed and self conscious they made me.

I'm typically a DD (5'6") and at the moment I'm DDD! DH thinks its wonderful. But when I'm done having babies and I can afford it I'm getting a reduction!

Ugh yes. G going into this pregnancy, who knows what BFing will bring. As soon as we confirm we've had our last kid, I'm putting money away for it.

Back when I was pregnant with DS I started commenting on boob related back pain ro my doctor for insurance purposes. F cup here hoping for some C's or D's after BFing....so sorry DH!

Serenla · February 2014

ColleenSwerb said:
Sometimes I'm in such a shitty mood that when I read threads like "I should loofa my nipples, right?" I hope that they actually do just for being stupid.

I call that Darwinism.

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