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Re: Unhappy with daycare but unsure what to do...

  • brachysirabrachysira member
    It does seem like your problem is that you don't have a good way to stay connected.  If you could get facebook photos, more descriptive schedules, or something else, that might help you.  I don't agree that 12 month olds just chew on plastic toys and contemplate their toes.  I work weekends and spend most days with my 12 month old, and she needs to mix it up.  She goes absolutely nuts if we stay in the same room all day, and I make sure to give her new things to examine frequently.  Do they go outside or to a gym or something?  Do they do any sensory activities?  This age mostly needs floor time so they can work on walking and independence, and I would not want to see too much time in the high chair or crib.  I would do the check ins and if you aren't horrified but don't think it's great, ask about moving up.  More peer interaction, more scheduled activities, and perhaps more appropriate toys could help.  And if they do have more of a schedule, perhaps seeing that they took a walk at 10, played in the sprinker at 10:30, did finger painting at 11, will make you feel more in the know than just hearing that they worked on animal sounds.
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  • mlee116mlee116 member
    I know you've gotten a ton of responses, but I was in a similar situation so I thought I'd chime in.  DS was in the infant room until he was a little more than 1.  At first he was with another LO was the same age, so it was fine.  But then only 1 space in the toddler room opened up and the other LO moved out, making DS by far the oldest in his class.  It really bothered me bc he couldn't play with the babies, so he'd come home cranky and he also started crying at drop offs.  One day he even started pointing at the other class and saying "Go, go, go!"  

    I called the director and told her about it and she was totally understanding.  She couldn't do it right away, but within a couple of weeks, he was able to move up.  It made such a difference!  He got to do so many things that the little babies weren't doing, like eat at a table instead of high chair, go outside and do crafts.  I noticed a huge jump in his milestones too.  

    You are paying them and you deserve to be happy as long as you're being reasonable (which I think you are).  Tell them your concerns and see what they say.  If you still aren't happy or just have a "gut feeling", then move on from there.  Dropping in to check on him is fine, but I know we don't have time to constantly check that DS is ok.  If you aren't happy, find a place where you have some peace of mind.  
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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member

    I have been known to PM someone regarding a long, debate-y thread that I didn't feel like getting into the middle of, just to offer moral support to the person whose opinion I shared. Maybe a bit cowardly, but it is considered bad nettiquette to not respond to people challenging your post, and I just didn't have the energy for that. I think I actually PM'd @djm31012 for that very reason, regarding another thread on another board awhile back :P

    Also FWIW, I called DS' daycare once a day for the first few weeks after he started at 8 months. I have no regrets about that. I don't still call, and I don't feel a need to, but my situation doesn't mirror OP's, so I can't say "I would never." I think y'all are kinda tripping for no good reason... But whatever :P

     




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    mlee116 said:
    I know you've gotten a ton of responses, but I was in a similar situation so I thought I'd chime in.  DS was in the infant room until he was a little more than 1.  At first he was with another LO was the same age, so it was fine.  But then only 1 space in the toddler room opened up and the other LO moved out, making DS by far the oldest in his class.  It really bothered me bc he couldn't play with the babies, so he'd come home cranky and he also started crying at drop offs.  One day he even started pointing at the other class and saying "Go, go, go!"   

    That is so cute! And he is so smart! :) 



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  • mlee116mlee116 member
    je+suis=fatiguee said:
    mlee116 said:
    I know you've gotten a ton of responses, but I was in a similar situation so I thought I'd chime in.  DS was in the infant room until he was a little more than 1.  At first he was with another LO was the same age, so it was fine.  But then only 1 space in the toddler room opened up and the other LO moved out, making DS by far the oldest in his class.  It really bothered me bc he couldn't play with the babies, so he'd come home cranky and he also started crying at drop offs.  One day he even started pointing at the other class and saying "Go, go, go!"   

    That is so cute! And he is so smart! :) 
    Thank you:)  Although it made me kind of sad at the time!
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