September 2013 Moms

--GTKY-- Worst Insult

What is the worst insult anyone has ever "given" you? This can include names that people might have called you, assumptions they made, accusations, etc.

Also include who called/said this and any back story if needed.

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Re: --GTKY-- Worst Insult

  • blondii428blondii428 member
    edited February 2014

    Mine isn't the best but it was definitely the most hurtful.

    I caught my BF cheating on me with his first love from high school--who was married.  Me and her had a few ugly disputes via Facebook, and one time she told me that she "loved my weight gain."  I had put on a few pounds over the last few months, but didn't realize it was that noticeable.  I just  laughed it off and told her it was a nice attempt to make her feel better about herself (she was really overweight). 

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    I was accused of stealing money as a manager at my last job. It really hurt because I busted my ass there and really loved my job.

    The funny thing was when the fired me for the short drawer I wasn't even working that day- someone logged in as me. The girl that they promoted to my position ended up getting caught stealing thousands of dollars and her boyfriend was stealing food when it came from commissary. She's is in jail now.

    I was devastated when I lost my job but it worked out eventually because I came to work for my dad. They apologized to me after the facts all came out.
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  • When I was in fifth grade, my Social Studies teacher called to tell my mom that I  was a lesbian because my best friend hugged me and kissed my cheek on my birthday. She was from Spain and it was the norm with her culture/family. 
  • In middle school someone asked me, "Does your face hurt?" I said, "No, why?" He responded, "Because it's killing me!"  I already had low confidence in middle school and that one stuck with me.  

    I've also been accused of being racist more than once, and even against white people and I'm white.  I realize that it was just parents of students looking for an excuse for their child's actions (you only say that because he/she is **fill in the race**), but it hurt because I do tons of work with my students on equality and appreciating one another as a human, not as a piece/color of skin or a specific belief.
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  • Someone almost ran into my car on my very first Valentine's day where I had a real date. I was out with my date and I flipped the guy off who almost hit us. He followed us all the way to the movie theater to call me a "fat fuck." Really, I wasn't even as heavy as I had been, maybe a size 12, which was good for me there. I was so mortified because I was fucking 17 years old and terribly insecure about my weight, but I still managed to give him a huge earful of colorful words.
  • My SIL told me yesterday I'm a depressed, sullen, bitch and the only reason my husband stays with me is because he is too nice. So there's that.
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  • @JLMcWeeney wtf!?  Ummmm if anyone's a B, I'd say it's her!
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  • @JLMcWeeney I hope you told her all about herself!!
  • @JLMcWeeney I hope you told her all about herself!!

    I try not to say anything too bad back to her because she likes to feel like she is justified in calling me those types of names if I respond. I know this because it is definitely not the first time she has called me names like this.
    I had to block her texts, phone calls and FB yesterday to get her to stop. Unfortunately, I get really hurt by the things she says to me. I am feeling really depressed today because of it. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression since having my baby. It just sucks to have it thrown in my face like I can control it.
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  • Here's the back story before I get to the accusation. I was friends with this girl since kindergarten, we grew up being bestfriends. Growing up she was always kind of rude to me and I would just brush it off because I know that she wasn't raised the best and her mom always treated her like a piece of crap. My parents did so much for her! Just a couple years ago I was living on my own when my boyfriend and I split up and she was telling me how she got evicted from her place (because she's a huge bitch and doesn't know how to respect anyone) so I kindly offered her my second bedroom if she wanted to split the rent (I was struggling working 2 jobs just making my rent so it worked out for both of us)

    Anyways, she had this new boyfriend that was always over and I always had a friend or 2 that were both friends with over. I was always super polite to her boyfriend and wanted to make him feel included and would invite both of them out with us whenever my group of friends would make plans. (She would ALWAYS decline coming out with us whether it was to the bar or just out for supper) It came to a point where anytime I would walk in the door she would say "ok let's go to my room" and sometimes he would just take 5 minutes to finish his drink or whatever it was they were watching on tv.. So she would yell at him and call him a piece of crap and get so upset that he didn't rush off to her room. (I'm sure he just didn't want to be rude when I come in the door and ask what's up and start a conversation)

    She ends up abruptly moving out with him without even letting me know.

    Okay so now fast forward to them having a verbally abusive relationship ( no doubt in my mind it was all her fault cause she was a psychotic B.) but she ends up in jail for domestic violence and breaching her probation because she scratched his car and Yada Yada..

    So anyways I'm 7 months pregnant and I'm offering to get her stuff from her ex boyfriend so she doesn't lose her grandmas ashes and her portfolio she made for college (2 important things that I would feel bad if she lost ) but I was also gonna pack up all her stuff so she had clothes and some furniture when she got out of jail. So we were talking back and forth on the phone from jail so I can ask her what all she had and to get her ex's number blah blah blah. I was totally going out of my way to help her even though she treated me with no respect while living together (didn't add that information at the beginning of the story)

    Holy this is long I'm so sorry! Lol so she sends me a letter one day freaking out on me accusing me of Sleeping with her ex! She's completely dillusional.. Saying "why do you have his number then" (so I can contact him to get her stuff and she knew this we talked about it on the phone) she starts just creating this whole scenario in her head that I was playing with her mind to sleep with her boyfriend. In all reality I don't even talk to this guy and I was 7 -8 months pregnant in a happy relationship..

    I got SO unbelievably offended because I would NEVER 1. Do that to my friends. 2. Cheat on my own relationship. Needless to say I sent her a letter telling her that she can kiss her items goodbye, that I was not helping her one bit and not to come crying to me when her crazy ass gets out of jail.

    Sorry this was so long I didn't intend to write a book but it just happened. I'm actually all irritated just thinking about how crazy this girl is. (You would have to know her to understand)
  • @Happy_Yahoo_Personaler, that's awful I am so sorry that happened to you. Mine isn't for me, my sister told me this as an adult and I feel so guilty. When I was about 9ish (my sister would have been five), I shared a bunk bed with my sister, she was on the bottom bunk, a friend of mine wrote on the bottom slats (which my sister would look at before she went to bed) that my sister was ugly, I saw but I forgot all about it, but my sister went to sleep looking at that for years, I wish she had told me or mum, I feel horrible that she had to look at that every night before she went to sleep, I wish I could make it up to her.

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  • In middle school I sent a friend to tell a boy that I liked him. The boy had no idea who I was but his friend helpfully informed him that I was a "total dog". Yep, that one hurt.


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  • In the 6th, 7th, and 8th grades, I was repeatedly told by many of my peers that I should kill myself.


    That is seriously awful, kids are so freaking mean sometimes.


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  • DH called me a useless mother a few weeks ago after LO had a nuclear meltdown because she was hungry 2 nights in a row while I was in the shower. He told me I needed to plan better and called me a useless mother. We later diiscussed that that was a totally inappropriate thing to say and he apologized profusely for it and things have been great between us since but unbeknownst to him I still cry every time I think about it.
  • When I was in 6th grade a boy I liked sent his friend to tell me that he thought I was cute and wanted to take me to the dance that weekend and to meet him there. I was so excited and told all my friends. When I showed up to the dance I went up to the boy and he and all his friends laughed at me... It was a cruel joke and in front of all his friends he told me he would never like me becaue he doesn't like fat chicks. I was a little over weight but not really fat. I cried for days over that and even now in my adulthood it still bothers me.
  • I had really bad acne growing up and I was made fun of from 6th grade up until I graduated high school. It really killed my self esteem. When I was 19 I finally went to the dermatologist and my face cleared up. I still struggle with the occasional pimple but my acne is under control. I'm still trying to raise my self esteem. I have a hard time looking people in the eyes because growing up I knew they were always looking at my acne and not me. Serving tables for 7 years helped me a little but it's still rough.
  • PS: All of these make me sad and makes me want to hug all you ladies! People are so cruel!

    I totally agree. I think our ladies rock. People are mean and rude.
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  • My mom used to, on multiple occasions, call me "selfish". I knew she was just lashing out but I keep finding myself mentally trying to prove her wrong. Like "How could she think that? I did ____this_____ and _____that_____"

    A part of it that got me was that she raised me (and my dad too!) and they did a damn good job, so how could they doubt their own ability to raise a young woman to be a fabulous person (in general) I never understood that train of thought. You raised me, you molded my morals, attitude and outlook... so how do you suddenly think I became such an evil person? I just don't get it.

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  • CDMay2006CDMay2006 member
    edited February 2014
    This thread is making me too sad to keep reading. I'm sorry for all the awful things people do!
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  • @JLMcWeeney I hope you told her all about herself!!
    I try not to say anything too bad back to her because she likes to feel like she is justified in calling me those types of names if I respond. I know this because it is definitely not the first time she has called me names like this. I had to block her texts, phone calls and FB yesterday to get her to stop. Unfortunately, I get really hurt by the things she says to me. I am feeling really depressed today because of it. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression since having my baby. It just sucks to have it thrown in my face like I can control it.
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  • I've had large breasts the majority of my life. It's bothered me and I've had horrible self-esteem issues because of this. I started getting them in 4th grade. I was already wearing minimizer bras in 6th grade. In high school, when I was 14/15, some guy I didn't know asked me if I was pregnant. I said no, why? He said, "Well..." and looked right at my chest. I blushed and walked away quickly. I'm sure I cried about it.

    I finally got a breast reduction in 2003. I was probably a J cup size or larger with a 34/36 band. It's hereditary. My mom also had a BR in her 20s. I really hope that Emily does not inherit this and gets that gene from her dad's side. His mom and sister have what I consider normal-size boobs. What really sucks is that with pregnancy and breastfeeding, I'm back to a G/H cup. I'll be getting another BR after babies and nursing if they don't return to pre-pregnancy DD (which is still too big for my own comfort).

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  • amelbugamelbug member
    edited February 2014

    When I was in fifth grade, my Social Studies teacher called to tell my mom that I  was a lesbian because my best friend hugged me and kissed my cheek on my birthday. She was from Spain and it was the norm with her culture/family. 

    This happened to me too. My religious studies teacher, in front of my whole class, told my friend and I to stop touching each other under the table. WTF?? Way to make us prime targets for the real "mean girls".

    I think the worst insult was from my Dad, he knows which buttons to press and more than once has said something along the lines of "you think you know everything".

    Edit, I stopped reading to post after pumpkinmomma - just read back through. I am so sorry that you all have had such awful things said to you! We all made awesome little humans so we must be doing something right!!
  • jenny5o5 said:

    When I was in seventh grade I was called down to the guidance office for no particular reason... The guidance counselor asked me multiple questions about my family life, my parents, and how I was treated at home. After about 30 minutes of questioning she showed me part of a picture of a young girls face and asked if it was me (the rest was covered up.) The girl looked very similar to me around the age of 5 so I told them I wasn't sure. At that point the police were called and my parents were brought in for questioning. I didn't understand fully what was going on until my mother demanded to see the rest of the picture. (She knew it wasn't me and could prove it based on my birthmarks and their locations. She was in ER nurse for many years and knew the protocol.) The police and guidance counselor refused to show it to her. After a few hours of questioning, my parents were able to go home and their names were cleared.

    My parents are the most wonderful loving people you could ever imagine. They raised us with love and respect and the occasional spank to prove a point. The fact that anyone had to question them about something so morally wrong still bothers me to this day. The assumption that my parents would commit such a heinous crime towards me is the memory that sticks with me the most from middle school.

    (on a different note, I'm so sorry for all of the harsh words that many of you have experienced in your life. People can be so mean and obnoxious.)

    I had HRS called on me by my daughters kindergarten teacher. She had a bug bite in her back and had scratched it so it turned into a scab.

    He implemented ideas in her head assuming I beat her somehow. It was horrible and I would never injure my child like that.

    Of course I was cleared and everything was fine.
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  • I converted to Judaism when I was 22. My mom (a very observant catholic) told me that my conversion meant that she failed in raising me.
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  • sapphire0228sapphire0228 member
    edited February 2014
    All of these make me so sad.

    For some reason I can think of a book of insults I've received over the years. High school was awful. However, the worst was just recently.

    When we found out we were pregnant I was waiting to tell my family until my first dr appt. Well my very out spoken sister somehow picked up on me not drinking or something and sent me a text. "Are you preggers?". To which I replied "yes, DH and I are having a baby, I am 9 weeks along. Funny how sister intuition works". Apparently, I informed her the wrong way and she didn't speak to me for 3 months because she was "waiting for me to rectify the situation" And then proceeded to tell me I'm making the biggest mistake of my life. And the finally, when I sat my mom down and told her I was pregnant her immediate response was "well, sapphire I think you should have an abortion". And then later pretending like she never said that.

    People are horrible sometimes. I've made the decision to never say one thing that is intended to hurt someone. I used to snap back in spite but I grew out of that. I try to always make my intentions positive and uplifting.
  • Thread distraction:   What would you do if someone ever said these things to your LO? (Refering to those who mentioned a worst insult for preschool, elementary school, middle school or high school)

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  • I got called all kinds of names all throughout elementary and middle school. I don't have one that particularly stands out, but I've been self-conscious my whole life because of it. I always wished that I coud have had "cooler" clothes and things so that I would have fit in better. My best friend was pretty popular and well-liked and I distinctly remember when someone would see me in the morning they would always ask me "Where's -----?" They weren't interested in hanging out with me, just her. It sucked.

    Side-note...reading these madee very sad that people can say such hurtful things to each other. I think all of you are amazingly strong for surviving those hurtful years!
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  • I just want to say I am so sorry for all of you ladies that have gone through such a hard time, people can be so cruel and not realize how much words truly hurt.
    I have suffered from verbal abuse from my dad, and you would think that the pain from the words would have gone away now, now that I am an adult, and have my own family but to this day, anytime my Dad starts yelling or spewing insults I feel like small child filled with fear and a knot in my throat.
    But the good thing is we are stronger and better than yesterday and that although those words may sting and might but a damper in our day, those words do not define or confine us :)
  • blondii428blondii428 member
    edited February 2014
    hmlynch84 said:

    I got called all kinds of names all throughout elementary and middle school. I don't have one that particularly stands out, but I've been self-conscious my whole life because of it. I always wished that I coud have had "cooler" clothes and things so that I would have fit in better. My best friend was pretty popular and well-liked and I distinctly remember when someone would see me in the morning they would always ask me "Where's -----?" They weren't interested in hanging out with me, just her. It sucked.

    Side-note...reading these madee very sad that people can say such hurtful things to each other. I think all of you are amazingly strong for surviving those hurtful years!

    I totally relate to all of this. Especially the last part. Everyone loved my best friend, the neighborhood girls would even come over to my house and ask if she was there. When I would say no they would turn around and leave because they didn't want to play with me, only her. It sucked.

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  • All of these make me so sad.

    For some reason I can think of a book of insults I've received over the years. High school was awful. However, the worst was just recently.

    When we found out we were pregnant I was waiting to tell my family until my first dr appt. Well my very out spoken sister somehow picked up on me not drinking or something and sent me a text. "Are you preggers?". To which I replied "yes, DH and I are having a baby, I am 9 weeks along. Funny how sister intuition works". Apparently, I informed her the wrong way and she didn't speak to me for 3 months because she was "waiting for me to rectify the situation" And then proceeded to tell me I'm making the biggest mistake of my life. And the finally, when I sat my mom down and told her I was pregnant her immediate response was "well, sapphire I think you should have an abortion". And then later pretending like she never said that.

    People are horrible sometimes. I've made the decision to never say one thing that is intended to hurt someone. I used to snap back in spite but I grew out of that. I try to always make my intentions positive and uplifting.

    Dear God woman, that is awful! Hugs @sapphire0228

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  • In elementary school in 4tg grade I distinctively remember being friends with a group of girls in my class who decided at some point they didn't like me anymore for whatever reason and we got to make table groups and they all ousted me and I had to sit with 2 boys that were not cool kids and for lack of a better word nerdy and I felt horrible.

    Then in Hs I was friends with a large variety of people including the class cool girls and the one said within earshot of a girl I knew since 1st grade who was heavy that anyone bigger than a size 6 was a disgusting whale so I decided right there and then I didn't want to be friends with any of them anymore and they proceeded to treat me like a social leper for the last 2 years of Hs. Total bitches.

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  • I was called "SlutElla" by my cousins. They are all currently married to their first and only boyfriend ever, and I on the other hand had many boyfriends through high school and college. So apparently that makes me a slut.

    The worst part about the situation though is that when it came time for me to go on accutane for severe acne, the doctor would only prescribe it if I went on birth control due to the extremely harmful pregnancy side effects. (They put all females on BC who are within the childbirth possibility range). My grandmother, who I lived with at the time, said no because she thought I coerced the doctor in just telling her that just so I can go on BC and sleep around.... I was 15. 
  • I have been married to my husband for 7 years, and during which I have gotten somewhat close to my SIL. She knows that I have a hard time starting/maintaining friendships due to trust issues as a result of being teased so heavily in elementary, middle and high school. During the time I've known SIL, it has come up a few times about how my Grandpa was the Lieutenant-Governor of Manitoba for six years and that he did very well in business. 

    About two years ago my husband lost his job and finances have been a little tight. I had spoken with my SIL about it a few times over the past couple of months, especially after having to drop close to $10,000 in the NICU for DS. So last week I get a call from DH, who had just enjoyed a long lunch with his mother, advising SIL is talking some crazy shit about me behind my back.

    According to SIL, I am inheriting 8 million dollars in an irrevocable trust as soon as my Grandma passes, so she does not understand why I constantly bitch to her (which I don't) about finances. Apparently "I make her sick as a"trust fund baby" counting on money I didn't earn, and that I'm no better than some lazy fat fuck that sits at home every month waiting for their welfare check". WTF?!?! Oh and apparently DH and I are being selfish for wanting to try for another child in June/July of this year b/c DS was born with duodenal atresia and to do that to another child is completely irresponsible. Plus I couldn't possibly fathom how hard having 2 kids under 2 would be (she only has one child). 

    I don't even know how to move forward with the relationship. If I confront her I'm throwing MIL under the bus but I can't hide my feelings from her either. Grrrr I HATE shady people!!

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  • Right before my first deployment to Iraq at age 19 my ex-stepdad, who I have a rocky relationship with, asked me if I had life insurance. When I said yes he said he hoped I was to get KIA so his kids (my siblings) would get my life insurance and support him financially. He's a peach.

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  • Adrd47 said:



    Right before my first deployment to Iraq at age 19 my ex-stepdad, who I have a rocky relationship with, asked me if I had life insurance. When I said yes he said he hoped I was to get KIA so his kids (my siblings) would get my life insurance and support him financially. He's a peach.
    Omg. What a douchecanoe.

    Agreed.

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