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AW-We got our first permanent placements!!!

As some of you know we are licensed foster parents and have been waiting for kids to come into our home.  We wanted to stay with young children since we are having a child of our own and wanted them all close in age.  We got the call Friday asking if we would take a placement of a 2 year old and a 5 month old, both little girls.  We jumped at the opportunity and said yes right away!  The case worker did warn us that the family was very transient and was going to be difficult to locate, so we hoped for the best.  We spent Saturday running errands, picking up diapers, formula and a few odds and ends stuff that we didn't already have.  Then we waited, and waited.  We got a phone call from the Country Children Services at 10:30pm the girls were at the intake center and being evaluated by a social worker and nurse.  We were told to pick them up around midnight.  We arrived very nervous and excited for the journey to come.  We had to wait a little while, but we finally got to meet both girls.  They are bi-racial, beautiful little girls.  Both are good weights and don't appear to be malnourished.  The toddler took to me right away and has become my little buddy.  The baby is super good and is a chunker!  We got them home and in bed around 2am.  Considering they were just taken out of their home and with total strangers the night went perfect.  We read a few stories, then tucked them in and both went to sleep pretty easily.  The baby woke around 530 am, drank a bottle and went right back to sleep.  I got up with her, fed her downstairs and slept on the couch while she slept in the pack n play.  I let my wife sleep until 930 when the baby woke up again.  I woke up the toddler so she didn't sleep all day and we are hoping to get her to take a good nap this afternoon.  We really couldn't ask for an easier 12 first hours.  My wife cooked us a yummy breakfast of eggs, bacon (I was totally craving it) and toast.  As we sat at the table with the toddler (while the baby was sleeping) we just looked at one another and smiled.  We asked the toddler if she liked the food and she said yes and "thank you".  We both teared up and realized that our dreams have come true.  We both have dreamed of being parents, made the decision to become foster parents and it has all come true for us.  
We have a ton of arranging and organizing to get done today.  Talk about instant family!  We are just elated and a little scared.  So if you all wouldn't mind sending positive vibes our way.  This is not going to be easy, but we are up for the challenge.  
T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
HSG 12/12/12        
#1 ICI 12/15/12              BFN on 12/29/12
#2 ICI  1/11/13                BFN 1/28/13                       
#3 ICI 2/11/13                 BFN
               
#4 ICI August 2013,  Clomid 100mg    BFN on 8/30/13 
#5 ICI September-Clomid 100,  mg ICI 8/15 and 8/16,  BFN on 9/3
#6 ICI October-Clomid 150 mg for 5 days   BFN 10/27
uterine laparoscopy on 11/14-no endo or cysts
#7 IUI December-Clomid 150mg    BFP 12/21
12/23 Beta 51     12/26 Beta 209!
First ultrasound on January 8th 2014-great healthy heartbeat
Second Ultrasound January 23 (8 weeks) we got to see and hear the heartbeat
Third Ultrasound Feb 4th(10 weeks), then will  released to OBGYN'
It's a GIRL!
We welcomed Adalyn Cooper Elizabeth on 8/29/14
She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long

Proud foster parents to two little girls ages 2.5 yrs old, M,  and 1 year old, K



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  • This brought tears to my eyes! What a happy time for you guys. Congrats and enjoy those little ones. How exciting and I can't believe how quickly everything must have changed at your house.
    Same sex couple, Married 8/6/11
    Baby Oliver born 11/27/13

    TTC stats with donor sperm...
    IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
    IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
    IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13
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  • This is just wonderful. I'm so thrilled for you! I want to send you some burp cloths if you need them :) Homemade with love! 

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • Mega congrats! What lucky little girls to land with you two!
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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  • Congratulations - this is amazing news! You both are going to be amazing parents. I can't wait to hear more about your journey with your new family. :)

    Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012

    5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN

    Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer!

     

         *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581

     

    *********William George born June 4, 2014*********

  • Oh, I'm so happy that you and your wife are able to provide these children a home for a while. That's so special and amazing. Looking forward to hearing more.
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  • Awwwww - Trisholio :-) what a beautiful way to spend the first morning with your family. Those little girls are super lucky to have two awesome moms. I'll be sending you good thoughts for a smooth transition :-)

  • So exciting!
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
    *Everyone welcome*

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  • What an amazing thread :) I'm so happy for you and even happier for those girls!
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  • Very exciting. Best of luck!!!!!
    ****loss discussed*****

    We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.

    Our IUIs
    with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.

    Our IVFs:
    IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response

    IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
    BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
    2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
    BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
    1st ultrasound (3/6  6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm. 

    ***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***

    FET #1 December 2014
    Intralipid infusion on Dec 10. Transfer of 1 day 3 nine-cell embryo into my uterus on Dec. 19. (acupuncture immediately before and after)
    BFP on Dec. 27; Beta 1 Jan 2 (14dp3dt): 665, Beta 2 Jan 4 (16dp3dt): 1859, Beta 3 Jan 6 (18dp3dt): 4449, Beta 4 Jan 10 (22dp3dt): 12,251.



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  • Thank you all for the encouraging words.  Your support and love made me cry.  

    GoaliesWife123 I would love burp cloths!  I was just telling my mom that you make them.  I would be happy to pay you for them.  My mom is also interested in purchasing them from you for my sisters little boy.

    Thank you all again.  I am going to take these few minutes that both of them are asleep and relax with my wife.  Enjoy the rest of your weekend :-)
    T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
    HSG 12/12/12        
    #1 ICI 12/15/12              BFN on 12/29/12
    #2 ICI  1/11/13                BFN 1/28/13                       
    #3 ICI 2/11/13                 BFN
                   
    #4 ICI August 2013,  Clomid 100mg    BFN on 8/30/13 
    #5 ICI September-Clomid 100,  mg ICI 8/15 and 8/16,  BFN on 9/3
    #6 ICI October-Clomid 150 mg for 5 days   BFN 10/27
    uterine laparoscopy on 11/14-no endo or cysts
    #7 IUI December-Clomid 150mg    BFP 12/21
    12/23 Beta 51     12/26 Beta 209!
    First ultrasound on January 8th 2014-great healthy heartbeat
    Second Ultrasound January 23 (8 weeks) we got to see and hear the heartbeat
    Third Ultrasound Feb 4th(10 weeks), then will  released to OBGYN'
    It's a GIRL!
    We welcomed Adalyn Cooper Elizabeth on 8/29/14
    She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long

    Proud foster parents to two little girls ages 2.5 yrs old, M,  and 1 year old, K



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  • Thank you for sharing that with us! I'm so happy for you both. Those little girls have been placed in a wonderful home. I look forward to hearing about how things go.

    Me: 30  DW (aka C): 29

    Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12

    ***CP mentioned***

    We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm.  8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy.  We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET.  I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013. 

    11/14/14 -  Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good. 

    12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2

    12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)

    1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2

     ****All Welcome!****

    We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.

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  • Congrats! That is so exciting and must be so terrifying at the same time. I hope everything goes smoothly for you. Those little girls are so lucky to have you!

    Me: 28 DW: 28

    Together since 5/30/02. Married since 8/31/08

    IUI#1 - 12/13/13 = BFN

    IUI#2 - 1/22/14 = BFN

    IUI#3 - 2/21/14 = BFN

    IUI#4 - 3/23/14

  • winstan1 not a stupid question at all.  Permanent placement just means that it is not respite (which is specifically short term, less than two weeks).  This is the first time these children have been placed in the foster care system, so if the parents get their act together they could get them back in 6 months.  The process of the parental ties being severed usually takes around 2-3 years, and that is if that parents are not actively trying to do what they need to do to improve their lives.
    This placement wasn't exactly an emergency placement.  They called us Friday afternoon and asked if we would take them.  But at that point they hadn't located this kids.  The family has been pretty transient and the mother could have known they were being taken and was hiding.  It took the investigators around 24 hours to locate the family and remove the children.  That is why it was so late when we got the call.  The investigators and caseworkers were out trying to locate the kids.  So we knew a day ahead of time, which was great!  
    I told my wife about all the responses on here and she read the thread and cried.  Thank you for all of your kind words.  
    Here is a little update-the kids are still doing well.  The toddler M, had a rough night last night.  She didn't go to bed as easily (not surprised).  She cried a lot and asked to go to her mama's house.  It broke my heart, but I understood.  I went in her room multiple times and reassured her and would remind her of all the fun things we do at our house.  She finally fell asleep around 11pm.  The baby K woke up around 2am, ate and then went back to sleep.  She is still snoozing away.  Right now I have agreed to take the night feedings, but that might change.  
    This is going to be our new normal for awhile, we are still on wobbly legs, but we will get a routine and some normalcy in no time.  :-)
    T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
    HSG 12/12/12        
    #1 ICI 12/15/12              BFN on 12/29/12
    #2 ICI  1/11/13                BFN 1/28/13                       
    #3 ICI 2/11/13                 BFN
                   
    #4 ICI August 2013,  Clomid 100mg    BFN on 8/30/13 
    #5 ICI September-Clomid 100,  mg ICI 8/15 and 8/16,  BFN on 9/3
    #6 ICI October-Clomid 150 mg for 5 days   BFN 10/27
    uterine laparoscopy on 11/14-no endo or cysts
    #7 IUI December-Clomid 150mg    BFP 12/21
    12/23 Beta 51     12/26 Beta 209!
    First ultrasound on January 8th 2014-great healthy heartbeat
    Second Ultrasound January 23 (8 weeks) we got to see and hear the heartbeat
    Third Ultrasound Feb 4th(10 weeks), then will  released to OBGYN'
    It's a GIRL!
    We welcomed Adalyn Cooper Elizabeth on 8/29/14
    She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long

    Proud foster parents to two little girls ages 2.5 yrs old, M,  and 1 year old, K



    GoaliesWife123
  • @trisholio, send me an e-mail on facebook and I'll get some out to you. They are all neutral colors :)

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • Congrats!!

    Married in September 2010, started TTC journey November 2012

    Me-

    7 IUI- 2 CP- 2 BFN

    RPL blood work 12/27, showed a balance translocation in chromosome 11;22  

    Spouse-

    PCOS 4 IUI-4 BFN

    New Plan: Reciprocal IVF, me as carrier wife's eggs. Just went through insurance and received partial approval, so my part will go through my IVF benefits and wife's part will be out of pocket. Now just finalizing finance plans to cover the oop costs. Doctors office is in process of moving to a new building so there are no IVF start ups until March/April 2015. 



     

     

     

     

  • what an amazing experience! this brought tears to my eyes and an overwhelming sense of pride. thank you and got wife for all you are doing!!
    Me: 32  DW: 26 - married in october 2013!
    TTC baby #1 at-home AIs with frozen donor sperm through cryobank, no meds

    #1 early december 2013: 1 vial ICI/IVI at 8 hours past +OPK, likely a chemical loss at 9dpo
    #2 late december 2013: 1 vial IUI, timing was way off, BFN
    #3 took a month off and trying again mid-february... would love TWW buddies!
  • How exciting! Sending encouraging and positive thoughts your way.


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  • Big love to all of you! What a wonderful difference you will make in these girls lives! :) I hope things calm down for all of you soon.
    IUI #1 - 10 April 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #2 - 05 May 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #3 - 05 July 2012 unmonitored and unmedicated with RE 
    IUI #4 - 30 August 2012 medicated and monitoredLetrozole and Ovidrel Trigger 
    IUI #5 - 27 September 2012 Letrozole 
    BFP! 9 October 2012 Betas:- 12DPO 16; 16DPO 96; 18DPO 315

    Baby Alarico born on 28 June 2013!!


  • winstan1 I am happy to answer questions, some I am not able to answer though.  In this situation it looks like we will have them a minimum of 6 months.  They will get visitations with the mother, if she agrees to show up and is sober.  We will have direct interaction with the parents, in this case probably just the mother.  Each situation is different, so in this case we will probably meet at the county children services location or the foster agency for visitations to begin with and from there could meet for an outing at a park, and so on.  Just depending on if the mother does what she needs to do to get sober, get a job and acquire housing.  All of these things she is offered assistance with thru the county.
    T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
    HSG 12/12/12        
    #1 ICI 12/15/12              BFN on 12/29/12
    #2 ICI  1/11/13                BFN 1/28/13                       
    #3 ICI 2/11/13                 BFN
                   
    #4 ICI August 2013,  Clomid 100mg    BFN on 8/30/13 
    #5 ICI September-Clomid 100,  mg ICI 8/15 and 8/16,  BFN on 9/3
    #6 ICI October-Clomid 150 mg for 5 days   BFN 10/27
    uterine laparoscopy on 11/14-no endo or cysts
    #7 IUI December-Clomid 150mg    BFP 12/21
    12/23 Beta 51     12/26 Beta 209!
    First ultrasound on January 8th 2014-great healthy heartbeat
    Second Ultrasound January 23 (8 weeks) we got to see and hear the heartbeat
    Third Ultrasound Feb 4th(10 weeks), then will  released to OBGYN'
    It's a GIRL!
    We welcomed Adalyn Cooper Elizabeth on 8/29/14
    She was 7lbs 11oz and 19.6 inches long

    Proud foster parents to two little girls ages 2.5 yrs old, M,  and 1 year old, K



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