Need hugs :(

Lelo2006 · February 2014

This week has been challenging. When the baby is awake, I need to be touching him or holding him at all times. Otherwise he is full on screaming.

This too shall pass, this too shall pass.

I just thought this would've passed by now

. There have been so many times where I've thought about going back to work because some days I just can't deal with the constant screaming/fussing. He's not hungry, he's not tired, he's not teething, he just wants me to hold him.

Whenever I think about returning to work, I immediately feel terrible because 1) I've always wanted to stay home and 2) I honestly don't know if I could trust anyone to be patient enough to deal with him.

Just need some hugs.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

>:D<

Carrie3102 · February 2014

Sending lots of hugs! You're doing great mommy. Keep your head up. You're right it will pass then you will miss it

Caitable25 · February 2014

sending them your way! Try not to feel terrible - I think what you are feeling is completely normal. Honestly, I don't know if I could be a SAHM for exactly what you are going through. And I feel guilty when I say that but its the truth (for me) so I am not going to beat myself up about it. Being out of the house for a few hours a day saves my sanity. I wish it wasn't FT work, but its my reality right now. Hang in there, and maybe see if you could take a few hours to yourself later if someone can take over for a bit for you?

bumpuser8571475 · February 2014

Hugs!!

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fabk · February 2014

Big hugs!!

Stina2012 · February 2014

Big hugs!

Riley is like that too somedays. Will he tolerate a stroller ride? On the weekend when Riley won't settle down I put her in the stroller. She may fuss for a bit, but the motion eventually calms her. Sometimes she sleeps and sometimes she doesn't. But it gives me a much needed physical contact break!

Also, and I know this is SO much easier to do because I'm not home all day, when I get tired of stuff I try and make it fun. Riley knows how to blow raspberries on my arms now. Maybe try blowing a raspberry on his arm or your arm to make the holding fun?

Again, big hugs. You are not alone and you are a GREAT Mom!

Lelo2006 · February 2014

Stina2012 said:
Big hugs!

Riley is like that too somedays. Will he tolerate a stroller ride? On the weekend when Riley won't settle down I put her in the stroller. She may fuss for a bit, but the motion eventually calms her. Sometimes she sleeps and sometimes she doesn't. But it gives me a much needed physical contact break!

Also, and I know this is SO much easier to do because I'm not home all day, when I get tired of stuff I try and make it fun. Riley knows how to blow raspberries on my arms now. Maybe try blowing a raspberry on his arm or your arm to make the holding fun?

Again, big hugs. You are not alone and you are a GREAT Mom!

Yes! He loves the stroller. I definitely do that if he's super fussy.

The worst part of the day is the stretch before the first nap. I am beginning to realize that he's just not a morning person. He's usually in a better mood once he wakes up from his morning nap. Thanks for the words of encouragement.

redrocksmama · February 2014

I'm sorry! I've had days like that too. And for me, it's easier to deal with when there is a cause behind the screaming (tired, hungry, etc). It can be especially draining when LO just wants constant attention. So big hugs! You're a great mama!

Stina2012 · February 2014

Can you make that time something chill and fun? Story time? Airplane ride time? Hugs and raspberries time?

Being a SAHM is soooooooo draining. Working is hard too, but for me it's hard in a different way. Being "on" all the time as Mom sucks.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

Stina2012 said:
Can you make that time something chill and fun? Story time? Airplane ride time? Hugs and raspberries time?

Being a SAHM is soooooooo draining. Working is hard too, but for me it's hard in a different way. Being "on" all the time as Mom sucks.

Believe me, I pull out all the tricks in my bag during that time

How is Riley doing? Hope bottle taking is going better. Have you tried the level 3 nipple yet?

Karebear6978 · February 2014

Lots of hugs ur way.... just know when he is like this it is cause he loves u so much he doesn't know how to express it so he just wants to b with u!

lancomechica · February 2014

Hugs!!

Married071709 · February 2014

I could have written this post myself. ((((Hugs)))) You're a great mom and you are not alone.

je2161 · February 2014

I've been there. Being a sahm is really tough. Hang in there. It will get better.

atlvol · February 2014

Hugs to you!

Stina2012 · February 2014

Lelo2006 said:

Can you make that time something chill and fun? Story time? Airplane ride time? Hugs and raspberries time? Being a SAHM is soooooooo draining. Working is hard too, but for me it's hard in a different way. Being "on" all the time as Mom sucks.
Believe me, I pull out all the tricks in my bag during that time How is Riley doing? Hope bottle taking is going better. Have you tried the level 3 nipple yet?

Oh hun, I totally sympathize! I am sure you are doing everything to keep some sanity!

RIley's doing better. We tried the level 3 nipple yesterday and it didn't make a bit of a difference. Can you believe it? My little stinker!!! Her top teeth look like they'll pop through at any moment now. Totally nuts.

stephyfaith · February 2014

Lots of hugs!!

grapeskittles4lyfe · February 2014

I'm sure you've tried this already, but would babywearing be an option? You could wear him sideways (at least in the Ergo) which gives you more freedom to be doing other stuff (except for sitting and laying down) while he is close to you.

Lelo2006 · February 2014

amparo1981 said:
I'm sure you've tried this already, but would babywearing be an option? You could wear him sideways (at least in the Ergo) which gives you more freedom to be doing other stuff (except for sitting and laying down) while he is close to you.

I've been meaning to try that hold! Thanks for the reminder

dliz87 · February 2014

Big hugs to you!

giraffeluvspi · February 2014

First, sending tons of hugs! Hopefully he gives you a break soon.

Second, it is good as a working mom to hear how difficult the other side of the fence can be. Thanks.

Third, days like this are baby wearing days. I strap lil dude in the Ergo or Moby so if he has to be touching me I can at least have my hands free.

EagleWife · February 2014

Hugs

Hope he chills out a little for you. Do you guys have a jumperoo or exersaucer?

DenverBride2005 · February 2014

So sorry you are going through a rough patch! Hang in there, you are doing great! Hope you can get some "you" time to relax soon!

Myrrhaj · February 2014

We definitely have those days too. It's no joke that there is no job more difficult than being a good parent (there are some that are AS difficult, but not MORE). I have my moments where I'm resentful of SO because he works outside of the home and has the opportunity to miss our son. That feeling of resentment is typically followed by guilt. *chants* It's all normal. This too shall pass.

((hugs))

WifeyLovesHubs · February 2014

Big Hugs Leslie!! Do you need hugs IRL? We could plan something where we can both hold our fuss pots together??

It will pass, and as miserable as it seems now, you will miss him being this little, and letting you hold him.

Being a SAHM is so hard. Being a working mom has other challenges and guilt. Being a mom is hard, period!

UTQT09 · February 2014

Sending hugs! >:D<

Pink724 · February 2014

Believe me, I know exactly what you mean. During those particularly trying days, I think how much I wish I could go to work and leave her with day care providers. It doesn't make us bad moms for thinking this.

That morning stint for us is the hardest, too. We go out and get coffee and go for a walk when the weather is decent. It's also when I resort to tv. I know you said James won't watch anything for long, but Lillian loves Super Why on PBS. It teaches letters and reading and something about it makes her very content to sit in my lap, chew on Sophie, and watch.

Is there anything you can get involved with that would get you out of the house and have the opportunity to miss him? Even just one night a week or something. When I tutor, even though I just leave her a couple of hours before her bedtime, I feel re-energized and can't wait to see her again.

Anyways, I am sending huge hugs and sympathy! I hope it gets better for you soon.