Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
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A few minutes later, he came to my bed looking for FI. I think he understood how upset I was and gave me a hug and apologized (cue sobbing episode all over again).
This made me cry and all those Olympics and mom commercials
This one more waahhh
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The parenthood episode where the couple with the two kids separated. The dad was telling the kids he was moving out and the daughter grabbed him, crying, telling him not to leave. I cried with her and then got ticked that he left anyway.
Loved that one!
-His best friend made him a card that makes me cry everytime I see it or think of it.
-That Blackfish documentary about the orcas and seaworld - cried through the whole thing.
-Macklemore performance at the Grammy's - sobbed through the whole thing.
-Phillip Seymour Hoffman dying.
I'm a mess really!
1. I had to ask DH for help moving a bottle of spray and wash off the floor so I could sweep the floor there. It really hurts to bend over anymore. So I cried.
2. I felt lame because on our anniversary last Friday I kept falling asleep on the couch snoring loudly. Cried again.
3. Saturday we planned to actually go out for our anniversary but I guess I took too hot a shower and had to nap before we left. I was embarrassed so I cried, again.
4. My crotch is swollen and I had to ask DH to get me an ice pack after sexy time. I cried but this one made sense because it was really uncomfortable.
5. As we are out celebrating 2 years and shopping for new sheets my mom tells my DH that one of my little brothers tried killing himself. He tried throwing a toaster into the bathtub and when that failed he tried cutting. I cried because I have no way of contacting him as he did check in to a mental hospital where they won't even let him have a crayon. I also cried because one of my other brothers tried something like this just last year and it scares me to no end. So I guess this one is fair and ligit.
6. Now yesterday I ugly cried because DH constricted me to the couch with my feet elevated. He was scared by how incredibly swollen my feet got after being awake for only an hour and doing some laundry. What made me ugly cry was that he was doing all the laundry that I was trying to do and I felt bad. Who cries because their man is doing housework!? What is wrong with me!
7. I attempted to escape my couch-prison yesterday and so DH slapped the bottom of my foot. I cried so hard because it should not have hurt the way it did.
8. I just teared up thinking about the slap on the bottom of my foot. Why are my feet so stupid!
I feel a lot better sharing and I hope it makes someone out there feel less alone in their crazy pregnancy hormones.
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I feel like I've lost my butt since my hips have spread out more and I haven't been able to keep up with squats. I asked DH if it looked any flatter today and he said yes. So I cried... Over my butt, or I guess the lack thereof!
I'm 37 weeks and I've been having mild irregular contractions all day. Normal pre-labor stuff. I'm not really concerned but I am quite uncomfortable.
So I went to take a warm bath. I go through the work of cleaning the bathtub that we never use and the cats think is a bed which was difficult to do causing me to cry. Then I fill the tub with what felt like warm water when I was filling it. I step into the tub and it's not warm, it's not even quite lukewarm. It's just a little past downright cold. So I try to run some more hot water into the tub and it comes out hot for a second then turns to ice. At this point, I'm cold, cramping, and getting very emotional. I call my husband to help me get out and when he walks in I'm balled up shivering and crying. There are worse times to run out of hot water, but having contractions is definitely a bad one. Just another sucky thing about being 9 months pregnant in the winter.
Don't watch The Cove then. Its so much more difficult to watch. It's an important movie to see though.
I watched during a spout of insomnia so no one could witness my tears. It so sad what they do to them. I hate it and will never go to seaworld again!