Update**Lost support from family - Leaving DSs dad

hupp0013 · January 2014

I'm so sorry your family is not bring supportive. Good for you for getting out. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I wish you the best of luck with everything!

reils500 · January 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. There are organizations that work to help women & kids in your situation get back on their feet. Reach out & see if you can find help & support outside of your family.
Hugs!

V1981 · January 2014

So proud you're doing what's best for you and your kids. I'm sure it's extremely hard, but you are doing the right thing no matter how little support you're getting. Big hugs. Stay strong.

acciovino · January 2014

You are a strong lady and you are doing the right thing. I hope that you are able to get out with no issues. Big hugs!

SweetTamale38 · January 2014

I was wondering about how you were doing and your situation. I am glad you are getting out, and I am wishing you a smooth move without any altercations. I am sending thoughts and prayers for your safety and that hopefully your family will come around, realize how serious this is, and lend a hand to you in your transition. Please be careful. Hugs.

AllisonLaurenn · January 2014

You and your boys (dog and son) deserve better ...from your SO and your fam. I'm sorry you're going through it in the first place and on top of that fam isn't supporting you. Just do what you know is right for you so that you can feel happy and safe. I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you!!

BW1088 · January 2014

Though there's nothing I can physically do to help, you and your children (furry one included) will be in my thoughts and prayers! I'm so sorry to hear about this situation and hope that you can get settled somewhere safe and secure ASAP! For what it's worth, I think you're doing the right thing, even though your family is not being supportive of your decison. Hopefully they'll come around soon!

Salsera29 · January 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

jensavicci · January 2014

I'm sorry things didn't work out but I'm happy as hell you got out and stood up for yourself! Good for you! I hope things get better and that you stay strong. Lots of hugs and support from me!

zellatrix · February 2014

When my mom left my stepdad 16 years ago, our family told her, "you made your bed, now you have to lie in it". When they finally saw what a colossal asshole he was, they regretted it. My only advice is be pissed at them but try not to hold a grudge for the long term. I'm sorry this happened to you, but good for standing up for yourself.

Jennik30 · February 2014

I'm so sorry your family is being like that at a time when you need them the most. My mom and I went through the same thing during her divorce from my father.

I'm glad you're getting you and your babies out of that situation and you have a friend to help you out like that. Sometimes, as my mom and I found out, friends make better family than our true family.

Stay strong and my thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

shanaynerz · February 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this and your family isn't being supportive. It sounds like you did the right thing. *hugs*

glitterclaws · February 2014

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You are so strong and you have to make the decisions that are right for you. Stay safe!! ::hugs::

cuntasaurusrex · February 2014

@bullybutt I'm worried that you haven't been back, hope everything is okay.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

aliletz said:
@bullybutt I'm worried that you haven't been back, hope everything is okay.

Same here. Please check in.

purpleXdandelion · February 2014

ghostof5letters said:

aliletz said:
@bullybutt I'm worried that you haven't been back, hope everything is okay.
Same here. Please check in.

I was thinking this too. Every time there is a couple new comments, I check the thread hoping one is a response from you.

BoraBoraBaby · February 2014

Hopefully at the moment you are safely making your exit. If there's one thing I'm praying for it's that you don't second guess yourself and that you are actually getting the hell outing there. That man is not a safe haven for you now and he never will be, and shame on anyone who might prefer you try to fix things. Plesse check in even with a quick "I'm ok, update later."

BoraBoraBaby · February 2014

Says OP has been active so if no updates I'll at least take that as a good sign.

bullybutt · February 2014

Holy hell...sorry guys! I got called Friday at work because DS had a 102 ° temp. I completely forgot about my post and run.

We got out of the house and are settling in just fine at my friends house. She is never there, so it's a good temporary fix. "J" never bothered calling or anything until Sunday. He said that he had strep throat but wanted to see DS. I told him no way in hell. I'm going through the court today to see if I can establish an emergency custody order without an attorney.

"J" sent me a text after I told him that he needed to do what had to be done to get me off the mortgage so that DS and I could have a permanent place to live. He said that he was going to make all the decisions for DS and #2 from here on out. He was the man of the relationship and was going to be running things now. If I want off of the mortgage than I can pay $20K in taxes (wherever that came from?) or I can pay him money to finish the house and sell it. Any profit will go to DS and #2. He doesn't give a shit what I think about anything that I need to deal with my own issues...yada yada yada. If I don't like it than I can take him to court.

See you in court MF'er!

bullybutt · February 2014

Also, my family still acts like nothing is really going on. My mom did swap me vehicles since I have about an hour commute each way now. My dad is glad that I left and my mom is "sorry that I'm going through this". That's about the most that I've gotten out of them.

INmommy871278 · February 2014

So glad you got out and are settling in well! Hope DS feels better soon and you can get emergency custody taken care of without a lawyer!

rattlecanqueen · February 2014

So glad that you are settling inand your father is somewhat supportive of you. Keeping you and your lo s in my prayers!

ghostof5letters · February 2014

Good luck dealing with the courts today!

Ylvelill · February 2014

I am not sure where you live but looking into a place for domestic violence might be a good idea. They would have resources for you and your son.

Keeping my fingers crossed that you can work this out and be safe. You are doing the right thing!

purpleXdandelion · February 2014

Glad you are safely out of there. Good luck with your upcoming court battle and I really hope you can get that emergency custody order NOW.

mcvgal · February 2014

I am so glad you are out of there. Good luck with the courts today. I will keep you in my prayers.

cuntasaurusrex · February 2014

What a douchestick. I'm glad you're out- keep us updated!

acciovino · February 2014

Glad you got out safely. I'm sure you know this but document, document, document. Keep any voicemails he leaves you and any text messages he send you. Also make ure that you don't say or do anything that could compromise yourself or stoop down to his level. I'm sure your attorney will tell you all of this. I hope you are able to get out of this as soon as possible, however it sounds like he's going to make this whole thing difficult. Stay strong and know that we are here for you!

andyandrachel · February 2014

Good luck at court today. Glad you got out safely.

V1981 · February 2014

Glad you're out!! Stay strong through this. You'll come out feeling fantastic in the end, even if the middle is bumpy.

Knbh · February 2014

Thanks for the update, you've been on my mind.

Your DH (Douchebag, not Dear) is in his own fantasy world. I hope you and an awesome lawyer burst his bubble.

My money is on him trying to find a way to be the "victim" in all of this too. Reading about him makes me want to kick him in the crotch.

hupp0013 · February 2014

Good luck to day! I'm glad you are out and settling in at your friend's house well!

TugboatSheila · February 2014

It sounds like he is trying to shock you into not seeking legal or appropriate action judging by the words he used.

It sounds like you are not letting him bully you and that is fantastic. I would consider an order of protection too. Hitting people and animals all at once is the sign that this guy needs some mental health and legal intervention.

shamyfowler · February 2014

Glad you are all safe! I think you've got a good strong attitude. I'm thinking he's talking all these big words to keep you from getting lawyers involved. As someone else said, document every single thing. I bet when you start getting into all the legal stuff he's gonna be a pansy. He sounds pretty lazy so this might be more than he wants to deal with. Stick it to him! Stay safe! Keep us updated!

emy730 · February 2014

I am so glad that you have a safe place to stay! I hope things go well with court and trying to get emergency custody. Good luck to you!

fmb2011 · February 2014

Glad you and your LO are outta there! Good luck in court! If your state is anything like MD they typically favor the mothers when the fathers are being obvious douchebags.

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