I was wondering how to tell my kids (1 DS and 1 SS, both about 12 years old) that DH and I are expecting our first child together. On the one hand, I think they will be very excited, but on the other hand, they might be jealous or feel like they will be loved less than this baby. I am trying to figure out what's the best way to tell them (and when's the best time) - has anyone had to deal with something like this with kids as old as mine?
Re: Newly Preg with two teens at home...
In regards to the op, I like the idea of celebrating it at dinner and then following the child's cues. If they are interested, include them in everything. If they are a 12 yr old boy who does not seem to care, keep them in the loop and don't be disappointed... It's natural. Best of luck it'll all work out.
Don't assume that they will be angry or jealous. Celebrate the good news with them when you are ready and treat it as a joyous event for them to share. Yes, they may seem unintrested (and may become jealous), but don't start out assuming the worst. Teens become more about their friends as they get older, so it may not be too big of a competition for attention. It is a different relationship. At the same time, make sure you / H don't push them aside and assume they will understand that the baby will get more attention - you can arrange your schedules, divide and conquor so that the teens get attention too.