Gender/Sex Reveal Parties... Do Other People (Besides Parents) Actually Enjoy Them?

TallMomma29 · January 2014

I've seen endless pictures on Facebook from people who have had these parties (and threads here from people who are planning them), and I wonder if the people who attend the parties (who are not the parents or grandparents) actually enjoy going? I get why it can be exciting for the parents and grandparents... but is it fun/exciting for anyone else?

ETA: Basically I'm wondering: have you been to a gender reveal party where you were not the parent and enjoyed it? The fact that your family members/friends told you they enjoyed the party isn't really helpful. People say things like that to be nice sometimes ;-)

TRS48 · January 2014

No. I enjoy finding out what my friends are having but do I want to spend a day to go sit around and be surrounded by a bunch of their extended family while we eat blue & pink covered strawberries making awkward conversations? Not really.

LyndseylovesHugh · January 2014

I've never been to one but I think I would enjoy going to one if it was my best friend or a close family member. A regular friend I probably wouldn't want to take hours out of my day to go to one. Now if a friend just happened to be having a dinner party or BBQ and announced the sex with dessert I would be fine with that, but in that instance the point if the party would not be to reveal the sex.

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TRS48 · January 2014

^ agreed with @lyndseyloveshugh & @bliss+berry

TallMomma29 · January 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

TRS48 said:

No. I enjoy finding out what my friends are having but do I want to spend a day to go sit around and be surrounded by a bunch of their extended family while we eat blue & pink covered strawberries making awkward conversations? Not really.

This. No. Especially not if I'm expected to go a baby shower as well. We don't need an endless amount of parties because we are procreating. Christ.

This is how I feel too! But some people really like any excuse for a themed party so I figured maybe some people actually enjoy these things.

Honestly, I even feel awkward about having a baby shower but my mom really wants to throw me one. I've honestly contemplated still playing up crazy morning sickness to avoid having to fly home for one

(... still contemplating....)

MonkeyJD · January 2014

I went to one last weekend that was nice. It was basically a normal party, good food & booze, with the addition of cake.

Big+Lil · January 2014

I do, because I like to support my friends when something is important to them.

I also like booze and cake.

January Bride · January 2014

Big+Lil said:

I do, because I like to support my friends when something is important to them. I also like booze and cake.

Ditto. I'm not going to go or enjoy it because I can't wait to find out the sex of their baby. I'd go solely to support my friends because it is important to them and to enjoy hanging out with them. We're not having a sex reveal party for this reason (I don't think anyone but our parents would care), but if my friends had a sex reveal party, I would definitely support them.

cuntasaurusrex · January 2014

I got annoyed when my fringe friend kept AWing leading up to hers, and even moreso when she texted me a picture of a half eaten cupcake. I'd have been more excited for her if she'd just told me.

yurmom · January 2014

MEEEEEE!!!! No need to bring a gift, free food, dessert, drinks, and friends. Sounds like a good time to me.

tourqeyes · January 2014

Why would you go to a reveal party if you didn't think you would enjoy it? What a waste of time that would be.

With that said, never been to one. Don't think I would go to one though unless it was family and a small gathering.

honeybee434 · January 2014

My SIL had one and it was fun. But, we basically had a cookout with immediate family and a few close family friends so it was basically just an excuse to get together, drink (for everyone but the mom to be), and have a good time and then find out if I was having a niece or nephew. This kind of sex reveal I will always go to And this is what DH and I are doing this weekend with his fam. Anything shower-like I don't know if I would enjoy.

cakebatter27 · January 2014

I would enjoy it. Especially if booze and cake would be involved.

TallMomma29 · January 2014

tourqeyes said:

Why would you go to a reveal party if you didn't think you would enjoy it? What a waste of time that would be. With that said, never been to one. Don't think I would go to one though unless it was family and a small gathering.

I can imagine someone going because they feel obligated to go or want to be supportive, but then feeling like the whole thing is awkward or AWish. It sounds like some people genuinely enjoy going though when there is food and booze involved (and no gift obligation)! That's really what I was wondering... None of my friends who live where I do have had one, so I haven't had the chance to go to one and see what it's really like. So I just sit around being judgy from the outside ;-)

yurmom · January 2014

BPaws said:

@tourqeyes When I was invited to the reveal party, it was done AT the baby shower. The mother to be was taking a head count on who was going to be there as people left the baby shower. It was awkward (and tacky) and I definitely felt obligated to say "of course! We will be there"!

WUT? That is tacky.

SuperTinkerham · January 2014

I wouldn't attend. SIL sent gender reveal cards and MIL ruined the surprised on FB and I laughed and laughed. <----- bitter infertile <----------------thinks reveal parties are dumb as hell

mrscurlygurl · January 2014

BPaws said:

@tourqeyes When I was invited to the reveal party, it was done AT the baby shower. The mother to be was taking a head count on who was going to be there as people left the baby shower. It was awkward (and tacky) and I definitely felt obligated to say "of course! We will be there"!

I don't understand having a reveal party after a shower? Was she really far along at that point? That's weird. But if you're having a party several months before your shower...and you're throwing the party versus a shower being thrown for you I see no problem with it. I only know one person IRL who's had an actual party but we weren't able to go, so I don't have first hand experience.

I like parties, and themes, and cake...so why not?

ETA: because it's party not part...and dammit, I thought I fixed that the first time.

mrscurlygurl · January 2014

Yeah...that is very strange. Why not just combine it as part of the shower? Perplexing.

eortman · January 2014

Yes, I've been to one and I think it is really not enjoyable, nor party worthy. I don't get the whole thing. Just tell or don't.

tourqeyes · January 2014

TallMomma29 said:

tourqeyes said:

Why would you go to a reveal party if you didn't think you would enjoy it? What a waste of time that would be.

With that said, never been to one. Don't think I would go to one though unless it was family and a small gathering.

I can imagine someone going because they feel obligated to go or want to be supportive, but then feeling like the whole thing is awkward or AWish. It sounds like some people genuinely enjoy going though when there is food and booze involved (and no gift obligation)! That's really what I was wondering... None of my friends who live where I do have had one, so I haven't had the chance to go to one and see what it's really like. So I just sit around being judgy from the outside ;-)

I'm an asshole because if I really didn't want to go Id straight up say: Nope. Nope....nope.

tourqeyes · January 2014

BPaws said:
@tourqeyes
When I was invited to the reveal party, it was done AT the baby shower. The mother to be was taking a head count on who was going to be there as people left the baby shower. It was awkward (and tacky) and I definitely felt obligated to say "of course! We will be there"!

"Bpaws is in high demand, I'll need to check my calendar" lol. But yeah that is tacky as hell.

Kristen0705 · January 2014

My sister had one and I enjoyed it (I know, it's my family). She just did a dinner with the extended family and opened a box of balloons outside to reveal the sex. I think I enjoyed it more because she didn't know the sex until she opened the box so it was fun for everyone. Then I had a friend who did a baby shower/reveal and it wasn't fun because her and her husband had known for 2+ months what they were having. But then again, I despise going to baby showers.

MrsLele · January 2014

We went to one where the mom was disappointed she was having a girl as her second child. "girls are sluts" I believe she said. Therefore, I have a bad taste in my mouth about gender reveals.

mrscurlygurl · January 2014

MrsLele said:

We went to one where the mom was disappointed she was having a girl as her second child. "girls are sluts" I believe she said. Therefore, I have a bad taste in my mouth about gender reveals.

Someone already said it...but why the HELL would you have a party like this if you are going to be that disappointed about something that has a 50/50 probability?!?

flajewel · January 2014

I do

avacek1 · January 2014

I love going to gender reveal parties! I Enjoy the fun guessing games and the excitement of the announcement.

MstoMrstoMom851214 · January 2014

I have never been to one, but I would be excited to go to one if invited. I love any excuse to get together with my friends or family, we always make everything a good time. If it was for my in-laws however, I would dread it....but that's true of any event!

strmbreez · January 2014

New here... due date just got changed to July 24th.

Never been to a reveal party, but I can't imagine going to one unless it was family. However, my friend did do something that I loved that we're doing, where she had the cake made but only had her and his parents over. Cooked them dinner and had the cake afterwards. I'm definitely doing this.

ksuRN09 · January 2014

My best friend had one but it was just a cook out where they revealed and then we ate and played cornhole and cards all evening. It was just like any other cookout our group does, just with some exciting news attached.

I'm going to have our parents over for dinner and do a reveal. It's not going to be a big thing because I don't really think anyone cares that much besides us and our parents.

rheard3582 · January 2014

Nope. I have never gone to one of I was invited. I love my friends and family but I just personally see no point in them. I will be at your baby shower. Just call or text me the gender.

rheard3582 · January 2014

ksuRN09 said:
My best friend had one but it was just a cook out where they revealed and then we ate and played cornhole and cards all evening. It was just like any other cookout our group does, just with some exciting news attached.

I'm going to have our parents over for dinner and do a reveal. It's not going to be a big thing because I don't really think anyone cares that much besides us and our parents.

Now this idea I like...

allardr · January 2014

I would love to go to one for one of my close friends or a family member.

Either way I'd prefer it more as a tag along to a family cookout or something, like a dessert reveal. The whole themed, long event seems a little overkill.

emy730 · January 2014

MrsLele said:

We went to one where the mom was disappointed she was having a girl as her second child. "girls are sluts" I believe she said. Therefore, I have a bad taste in my mouth about gender reveals.

My jaw just hit the floor. What in the fuck is wrong with people?

emy730 · January 2014

I've been invited to one and I refused to go. I think they are AW-ish and weird.

coffee89 · January 2014

I still can't believe this is a thing. It seems so "look a me, give me attention because I managed to get pregnant. yay, I'm so freaking special" and then you follow up with a shower which makes you look extra attention whore. I don't think I would enjoy it, just find a cute way of telling people if the usual "we are having a blank!" sentence isn't enough.

But I hate engagement parties as well so maybe I'm just weird.

ashcross · January 2014

I've been to one and I thought it was nice. I mean I don't really understand the reason of them especially when you are going to have a baby shower too but hey if someone throws one for a friend or family member I love and care about, then why not indulge them and go. Free cake!

hokiemom86 · January 2014

I actually think they are a cute idea, PARTICULARLY for STM+... It's not common to do a baby shower around here about baby #1, so this is a fun way to share a pregnancy/ new baby and celebrate with friends and family. I don't want gifts, just to have a good time with family and friends. However, we are always looking for a reason to get together. DH has a big family and we have close friends who will come support DH and drink beer and eat food.

Do I think you should invite all of your co-workers, FB friends and the guy online at the supermarket behind you... No. But if you have a decent group of friends they are going to be excited FOR you and there to SUPPORT you, even if they don't care if it's a boy or girl.

hokiemom86 · January 2014

However, Grandma-to-be parties REALLY annoy me. Really. They are just wrong.

ksuRN09 · January 2014

allardr said:
I would love to go to one for one of my close friends or a family member.

Either way I'd prefer it more as a tag along to a family cookout or something, like a dessert reveal. The whole themed, long event seems a little overkill.

Yes! This exactly. The themed games and such are ridiculous, IMO. Just have the one little AW moment and then back to a normal get together.

Big+Lil · January 2014

hokiemom86 said:

However, Grandma-to-be parties REALLY annoy me. Really. They are just wrong.

I've never heard of this! I must not subscribe to the Tacky Grandma board on Pinterest.

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