It is the dumbest purchase- but I remember when DD I didn't do it bc I was all " that's a dumb idea to spend money on a hospital gown, even though I kind of really want to do it" and then afterwards i remember wish I had bought one (no good reason behind it)
My FFFC: I just had a major panic session after digging through my giant purse for a piece of chocolate I swear was in there, and coming up empty-handed.
I could give a shit less on if there is a clique. Or what people think/say about me. It's the internet. Plus, I didn't care in high school. Why care now at 25 when I'm supposed to be an adult.
Point is, if you think it's too much like a clique, don't read it. Or put on some big girl panties.
So long as we're discussing pregnancy boobs, BFing, and deflation: I'm seriously considering having my boobs put back in place and re-inflated (to pre-pregnancy proportion) when I'm done BFing.
If I could FF this baby, like I did with ds, without upsetting dh or feeling guilty about the cost I would do it. I am committed to trying to BF and to stick it out for at least 6 weeks to give it an honest chance, but I have no desire to at all.
I've already been flamed by dh's family and friends for this, so don't bother. There's not much I haven't heard
I loved FFing with DS. I'm also committed to BF this baby, but I'm also dreading it. It sounds so hard. So so hard. Hopefully when the upsides come I feel like it's worth it but right now it just feels like a major chore and I'm dreading it.
I can't fall asleep without some sort of noise like radio or tv and I'm worried that on top of not being able to sleep because of baby, when she gets here, that when I do have time to sleep, I'll be too worried to turn on any sounds and not be able to get to sleep!
We room shared with our DS and he slept better with a noise machine. He preferes a noise similar to a heartbeat. I was quickly able to get used to the noise machine and also to know when he made his tiny newborn noises. We BF and I'd be sort of awake then I'd hear his first waking up noises. I think it will be ok and your baby probably will sleep better with the noise machine since he/she will have heard it from inside. Sorry if I'm repeating other people.
@jennypenny1014 I didn't even know naked was an option. Wow.
I'm serious. I'm a FTM and never knew that was an option in a hospital.
Haha yeah, you can do whatever the hell you want in the midst of birthing a baby. Per my midwife "bring some comfortable clothes to labor in, but a lot of people by the end just don't want to bother with clothes!"
@jennypenny1014 I didn't even know naked was an option. Wow.
I'm serious. I'm a FTM and never knew that was an option in a hospital.
OK! Yea, they don't have a problem with it...I'm sure they've seen worse. heh I actually had labored some in the shower, so when I got out, I just chose not to redress myself...I would assume that this freedom is only as long as you stay in your room. I would think they'd take issue if you're wandering around the halls in your birthday suit.
I bitch/complain/argue/disagree/whatever in whatever thread, and then I also bitch in RTT. I feel that's acceptable and not like, "behind the back" because I've already said it "to their face". There are plenty of regulars who never post in the RTT either. ::shrugs::
This. Also, RTT IS public. Anyone can read it. It's not like anyone is hiding, making some Mean Girls burn book.
AND it's completely open to posters. It's not like we post a sign on the clubhouse door saying "you must have thiiiiis many posts to enter." I love how on boards people always say some group or other is "high school" and "cliquey." You know what is very high school? Watching the "cool kids" (your words, not ours) having fun and getting to know each other, never trying to join in, and complaining about the exclusivity of the group. I saw SO MANY people do this in high school out of fear or whatever, but no one ever batted an eye when I'd plop down with any "clique" and start talking. And the RTT isn't even a clique! We're not exclusive! It's the easiest cool kids club to join ever, because anyone, ANYONE can post! If you pop on and read our words and don't like it, join in and change the conversation, but don't complain that we're exclusive. Don't believe me? Post something. Go ahead. It's not like it's hard, we're not super focused and highly suggestible to food.
Fell in Love: January 2003
Married: May 2006
Baby Girl Born: April 2014 If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
My FFFC: it has been a year since my son saw his great-grandparents and 2 years since my husband saw them. They are wonderful people in their mid-80's who happen to live in our "home state" where it has been EXTREAMLY cold this winter. DH needs to take some vacation time this Feb/March. We've talked about going to see them or going to the gulf coast. I feel terrible that I don't want to deal with weather that cold while pregnant. I do want to see them but I don't want to go to the Midwest!
I'm really angry at my MIL for being so sick, and I feel like a terrible person. People say I'm not, but it doesn't make me feel better. She was shocked, SHOCKED, that there was something wrong with her heart. What does she think? She's a morbidly obese woman who is wider than she is tall, has high cholesterol, adult onset diabetes, and a looong history of stroke, cancer, and heart disease in her family. Since she retired over a year and a half ago, all she's done is lie on the couch. The only activity she gets is going to church and the grocery store once a week. And she's surprised that she's sick?!? And I've had to watch my poor husband, for as long as I've known him, have to live with the knowledge that his mom would probably die at a young age. And now he's worried about whether or not she'll get to see the birth of her first grandchild. It's stress he doesn't need, and I just feel like it is completely selfish on her part to have given up on life so completely. All of this is so preventable! Get some moderate exercise! Don't sit on your butt all day! Don't eat a stick of butter with every meal! Eat a vegetable once in a while! Her health has been declining for years, and she's done nothing about it. Even though her son has begged her to, her doctors have begged her to, and now she's surprised that her heart is failing. It makes me incredibly sad, and incredibly angry, and I'm a horrible person. Flame if need be, I deserve it, and could probably use the different perspective. But that's my confession.
Fell in Love: January 2003
Married: May 2006
Baby Girl Born: April 2014 If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Going off my previous post, be prepared for MAJOR lack of sleep in some cases, not all. I'm not talking once you get home. I mean in the recovery room on the maternity ward if you deliver in a hospital. They will wake you up regardless of what time of day/night it is for questions/testing, and it's usually every few hours, so between nurses and the baby, you're screwed for sleep.
This was a lot like my experience though I assumed some of mine had to do with trying to nurse and having my son in the NICU. We had people in every 2 hours day/ night without fail to ask us questions or mess with me somehow. We ended up telling our nurse we NEEDED some sleep so our nurse put a note on our door saying please do not disturb us (except for medical needs of course.) I couldn't wait to get home just to get some rest.
I'm really angry at my MIL for being so sick, and I feel like a terrible person. People say I'm not, but it doesn't make me feel better. She was shocked, SHOCKED, that there was something wrong with her heart. What does she think? She's a morbidly obese woman who is wider than she is tall, has high cholesterol, adult onset diabetes, and a loool history of stroke, cancer, and heart disease in her family. Since she retired over a year and a half ago, all she's done is lie on the couch. The only activity she gets is going to church and the grocery store once a week. And she's surprised that she's sick?!? And I've had to watch my poor husband, for as long as I've known him, have to live with the knowledge that his mom would probably die at a young age. And now he's worried about whether or not she'll get to see the birth of her first grandchild. It's stress he doesn't need, and I just feel like it is completely selfish on her part to have given up on life so completely. All of this is so preventable! Get some moderate exercise! Don't sit on your butt all day! Don't eat a stick of butter with every meal! Eat a vegetable once in a while! Her health has been declining for years, and she's done nothing about it. Even though her son has begged her to, her doctors have begged her to, and now she's surprised that her heart is failing. It makes me incredibly sad, and incredibly angry, and I'm a horrible person. Flame if need be, I deserve it, that could probably use the different perspective. But that's my confession.
Ugh I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. My dad was recently hospitalized for a second heart attack (his first gave him 4 stints and informed him one was 100% blocked and others almost as bad), I had family come up and apologize to me and I had to say, "why? It's his choice not to get healthy." He hasn't started exercising or eating right and it's been a year. You think he would feel he has a lot to live for.
My daughter wasn't breastfed for various reasons which I won't bore you with lol. I would have like to but it didn't end up that way. In the end she is a very healthy and smart 20 month old and I have no regrets. However, I get why people feel they have to defend themselves. I did feel judged even though I know what I did was best for us under the circumstances. Anyways, I guess my confession is that I am planning on breastfeeding/pumping this time around mostly because I don't want to buy 2x the formula for the twins.
@BiggerinRealLife I wouldn't flame you for that at all. I have people in my life like that, it hurts to see them slowly killing themselves. They don't realize that they are not only hurting themselves, they are hurting their loved ones. I believe there usually has to be some kind of depression happening there. I wish I had an answer to change things. My decision was that my children and husband come first, and to distance myself (mentally) from the toxic situation. There's not enough time in my day to stay up worrying about fully capable adults making bad decisions. Good luck, I do hope your MIL gets better.
I can see what you mean BIRL. This is going to make me sound like a cold hearted bitch so I guess this is my FFFC but when I was in RN school and was doing clinicals on the med/surg floor, I had a hard time feeling sorry for some of the patients that were in there because most of the time it was something that could have been prevented had they taken care of themselves. Pediatrics? No way, I cried every day almost but when grown adults go in there because of what they did to their bodies, I find it a difficult pity them.
With that being said, I was never rude to anyone or anything. I still took care of everyone like I would want to be taken care of. These were just thoughts that ran through my head.
I'm really angry at my MIL for being so sick, and I feel like a terrible person. People say I'm not, but it doesn't make me feel better.
She was shocked, SHOCKED, that there was something wrong with her heart. What does she think? She's a morbidly obese woman who is wider than she is tall, has high cholesterol, adult onset diabetes, and a looong history of stroke, cancer, and heart disease in her family. Since she retired over a year and a half ago, all she's done is lie on the couch. The only activity she gets is going to church and the grocery store once a week. And she's surprised that she's sick?!? And I've had to watch my poor husband, for as long as I've known him, have to live with the knowledge that his mom would probably die at a young age. And now he's worried about whether or not she'll get to see the birth of her first grandchild. It's stress he doesn't need, and I just feel like it is completely selfish on her part to have given up on life so completely. All of this is so preventable! Get some moderate exercise! Don't sit on your butt all day! Don't eat a stick of butter with every meal! Eat a vegetable once in a while! Her health has been declining for years, and she's done nothing about it. Even though her son has begged her to, her doctors have begged her to, and now she's surprised that her heart is failing. It makes me incredibly sad, and incredibly angry, and I'm a horrible person. Flame if need be, I deserve it, and could probably use the different perspective. But that's my confession.
At risk of sounding like a cold hearted bitch I see what you mean. My dad's girlfriend has breast cancer and felt a lump in her breast for over a year before she went to the doc about it. A year! And she has family history of breast cancer. I just feel like she needs to set a better example for her young daughters. It hard not be angry at people who don't bother helping themselves.
Re the breast cancer: That is very sad and I can understand how frustrating it might be to stand by and watch that all play out--but to play devil's advocate: Sometimes that stuff can be terrifying to face and people's coping mechanisms end up being akin to sticking their heads in the sand. Not flaming, just offering perspective.
I'm really angry at my MIL for being so sick, and I feel like a terrible person. People say I'm not, but it doesn't make me feel better.
She was shocked, SHOCKED, that there was something wrong with her heart. What does she think? She's a morbidly obese woman who is wider than she is tall, has high cholesterol, adult onset diabetes, and a looong history of stroke, cancer, and heart disease in her family. Since she retired over a year and a half ago, all she's done is lie on the couch. The only activity she gets is going to church and the grocery store once a week. And she's surprised that she's sick?!? And I've had to watch my poor husband, for as long as I've known him, have to live with the knowledge that his mom would probably die at a young age. And now he's worried about whether or not she'll get to see the birth of her first grandchild. It's stress he doesn't need, and I just feel like it is completely selfish on her part to have given up on life so completely. All of this is so preventable! Get some moderate exercise! Don't sit on your butt all day! Don't eat a stick of butter with every meal! Eat a vegetable once in a while! Her health has been declining for years, and she's done nothing about it. Even though her son has begged her to, her doctors have begged her to, and now she's surprised that her heart is failing. It makes me incredibly sad, and incredibly angry, and I'm a horrible person. Flame if need be, I deserve it, and could probably use the different perspective. But that's my confession.
At risk of sounding like a cold hearted bitch I see what you mean. My dad's girlfriend has breast cancer and felt a lump in her breast for over a year before she went to the doc about it. A year! And she has family history of breast cancer. I just feel like she needs to set a better example for her young daughters. It hard not be angry at people who don't bother helping themselves.
Re the breast cancer: That is very sad and I can understand how frustrating it might be to stand by and watch that all play out--but to play devil's advocate: Sometimes that stuff can be terrifying to face and people's coping mechanisms end up being akin to sticking their heads in the sand. Not flaming, just offering perspective.
I understand what you're saying, but it's always been hard for me to empathize with people that use denial as a coping mechanism. Not to say it's not a legit thing - I'm sure in some cases it is - but, like in this case, you feel the lump. You are saying the lump is there. You are acknowledging it - why would you wait a year to deal with it? Pretending it's not there doesn't make it magically disappear, it's going to get worse. I would think even if you are a denial-person you would see that. I don't know, maybe I just don't get it.
My FFFC: I poop in all the places. I never understood how people can hold it until they get home? There's no holding this. When I gotta go, I gotta go.
@acaawkard want to compare obsessive meal planning?
I fill out this every Friday for the next week I admit I am type A to a fault.
I use the second printable on this link (The Project Girl)! I plan on Saturday and we grocery shop for the week on Sunday! I also keep a list on the fridge of expiration dates so I can plan meals around things that are about to expire.
It's probably more impressive than it sounds it's more for things like sour cream or heavy cream or feta that I only use half a small carton for one or two particular recipes and then it will grow mold if I don't remember to make something else with it in a few weeks! Things like milk and eggs are regular purchases and don't really need to be written down!
I am totally both of you!! I have found my bump sisters....I am a planner for a living, and the crazy planning of mine doesn't stop at my desk with my clients, it's everywhere in my house. Life is so much easier that way!
FFFC: I judge the hell out of pregnant women who don't take the time to educate themselves about the birth process. I give zero fucks about what you decide is best for you, but for the love, find a book. (There's a chick at work due next month and I swear she's clueless by choice... That's what brought this on.)
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
This may be more of an UO here, but... I don't like Annie's Mac n cheese. I keep trying it and I still don't like it. I think the pasta is hard and chewy and the cheese is not as good. I'll take kraft or velveeta any day!
After responding to a post on my old BMB, I realized I finally have a confession: DH was an online long-distance rebound and I put out within an hour of meeting him in person. Yes, that is the relationship that worked.
March 2017 September Siggy Challenge: Favorite Fall Things
Along those lines: I never expected to see SO after the wedding we met at. Even when we did keep seeing each other for another year, I thought we would break up once I was done with my undergrad work. Now I have him for 18 years
Why do my boobs look so good? Then I peed on a stick...
@CalinAZ, nothing to be ashamed about! I have a teddy bear I've had for 18 years!!! He only survived this long because I'd go ape shit when my mom put him in the wash when I was in school. His bow tie fell off but he's in perfect condition. He has 9 names Brandon Zachary Jesse Andrew NAHBK. When I was little I added a name on every year til I settled on abbreviating all the Backstreet Boy's initials towards the end I'm 26 now! I'm passing him on to my child Oh forgot to add I am not afraid to wash him now LOL cuz that'd just be nasty.
Re: FFFC
I loved FFing with DS. I'm also committed to BF this baby, but I'm also dreading it. It sounds so hard. So so hard. Hopefully when the upsides come I feel like it's worth it but right now it just feels like a major chore and I'm dreading it.
I think it will be ok and your baby probably will sleep better with the noise machine since he/she will have heard it from inside. Sorry if I'm repeating other people.
DS born 4/06/14
MC #2 August 2015
CP November 2015
MC#3 January 2016
BFP 5/11/16 EDD 1/19/17
I'm serious. I'm a FTM and never knew that was an option in a hospital.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
DH needs to take some vacation time this Feb/March. We've talked about going to see them or going to the gulf coast. I feel terrible that I don't want to deal with weather that cold while pregnant. I do want to see them but I don't want to go to the Midwest!
She was shocked, SHOCKED, that there was something wrong with her heart. What does she think? She's a morbidly obese woman who is wider than she is tall, has high cholesterol, adult onset diabetes, and a looong history of stroke, cancer, and heart disease in her family. Since she retired over a year and a half ago, all she's done is lie on the couch. The only activity she gets is going to church and the grocery store once a week. And she's surprised that she's sick?!? And I've had to watch my poor husband, for as long as I've known him, have to live with the knowledge that his mom would probably die at a young age. And now he's worried about whether or not she'll get to see the birth of her first grandchild. It's stress he doesn't need, and I just feel like it is completely selfish on her part to have given up on life so completely. All of this is so preventable! Get some moderate exercise! Don't sit on your butt all day! Don't eat a stick of butter with every meal! Eat a vegetable once in a while! Her health has been declining for years, and she's done nothing about it. Even though her son has begged her to, her doctors have begged her to, and now she's surprised that her heart is failing. It makes me incredibly sad, and incredibly angry, and I'm a horrible person. Flame if need be, I deserve it, and could probably use the different perspective. But that's my confession.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Anyways, I guess my confession is that I am planning on breastfeeding/pumping this time around mostly because I don't want to buy 2x the formula for the twins.
I am totally both of you!! I have found my bump sisters....I am a planner for a living, and the crazy planning of mine doesn't stop at my desk with my clients, it's everywhere in my house. Life is so much easier that way!
(There's a chick at work due next month and I swear she's clueless by choice... That's what brought this on.)
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
Then I peed on a stick...