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CNJ4EVA · January 2014

beaubecca said:
Am I the only one who is not super creeped out? Don't get me wrong I feel for Shank. But without knowing details (maybe some of you know more than I do? Work is busy lately so I have a hard time keeping up) it could be just random crazy that like BridetoBe said could happen anywhere to anyone.

Bottom line is if you all are really as "creeped out or scared" as you say then perhaps a message board isn't for you. Not that I'm advocating getting rid of you!!! I love our board, but I guess my confession is I am kind of side-eyeing the reaction to Shank's warning considering we don't have a lot of detail. Flame away.

I'm with you.

bhjones1980 · January 2014

scormier123 said:

beaubecca said:

Am I the only one who is not super creeped out? Don't get me wrong I feel for Shank. But without knowing details (maybe some of you know more than I do? Work is busy lately so I have a hard time keeping up) it could be just random crazy that like BridetoBe said could happen anywhere to anyone.

Bottom line is if you all are really as "creeped out or scared" as you say then perhaps a message board isn't for you. Not that I'm advocating getting rid of you!!! I love our board, but I guess my confession is I am kind of side-eyeing the reaction to Shank's warning considering we don't have a lot of detail. Flame away.

I dunno...I think knowing that someone took this outside of the internet by using personal information she posted here to be enough details to creep me the eff out.

I don't know what they did either, but messing with someone IRL which could possibly involve her family...VS. someone pretending to be someone they aren't on TB? I don't think there's any over reaction.

I think Beaubecca is also suggesting that it is not proven this whole situation is even from TB, it could just be a random crazy.

CarolineEmma · January 2014

@beaubecca I feel the same way. There was so much reaction when we actually have no idea at all what happened. I just can't personally feel so freaked out with no details. I've been messed with by a few creepy internet peopled. it did weird me out but I think most of that stuff is just people with way too much time on their hands trying to get a rise out of people

delino · January 2014

beaubecca said:
Am I the only one who is not super creeped out? Don't get me wrong I feel for Shank. But without knowing details (maybe some of you know more than I do? Work is busy lately so I have a hard time keeping up) it could be just random crazy that like BridetoBe said could happen anywhere to anyone.

Bottom line is if you all are really as "creeped out or scared" as you say then perhaps a message board isn't for you. Not that I'm advocating getting rid of you!!! I love our board, but I guess my confession is I am kind of side-eyeing the reaction to Shank's warning considering we don't have a lot of detail. Flame away.

I'm with you on not being creeped out only because I've always known this as a possibility being on the internet. Hence why I don't post pictures or personal details. I do feel bad for shank...no one deserves that to happen. I'm glad she posted the warning as some probably don't realize how stuff like that can happen.

watuzzigal · January 2014

I don't mind being side-eyed/flamed for being creeped out and finding it scary. That this kind of stuff happens online doesn't make these things *not* creepy.

Also my being creeped out and my posting on a board are not mutually exclusive. I find support and fun here; I don't need a side of stalker.

babyo52 · January 2014

Maybe I am alone in feeling this way but, maybe this is a good reminder that those who have been "called out" or bullied on here for what some think are ridiculous opinions may retaliate. I have no idea if this is what happened and I hope that is not that case and hope that it never happens again to anyone, but you never know. I love this board and have found it very helpful and feel for shank. But maybe if we don't like someone's opinion we leave it be and go on.

bhjones1980 · January 2014

nonniedee said:

lilash2426 said:

Maybe I am alone in feeling this way but, maybe this is a good reminder that those who have been "called out" or bullied on here for what some think are ridiculous opinions may retaliate. I have no idea if this is what happened and I hope that is not that case and hope that it never happens again to anyone, but you never know. I love this board and have found it very helpful and feel for shank. But maybe if we don't like someone's opinion we leave it be and go on.

Um no sorry, this shit is optional. If someone doesn't like what's being said, leave. You don't get to be a crazed stalker because someone hurt your feelings on the net. Please don't make excuses for that shit.

That isnt how I took lilash's post. I think she was saying more that there are some crazies out there and you never know how they might react to negative feedback, so just tread carefully on the interwebz...

sort of like how I tell my DH to watch his road rage because you never know (even if they deserved to be flipped off) when some crazy is going to pull out a gun!

MrsM1111 · January 2014

Um that's what I got from lilash... And beaubecca seemed to say that it was made up or shank was overreacting by relating it to our board.

bhjones1980 · January 2014

MrsM1111 said:

Um that's what I got from lilash... And beaubecca seemed to say that it was made up or shank was overreacting by relating it to our board.

nope, Beaubecca said people on the board were over reacting a little (not Shank) and saying how "freaked out" they were, because it wasn't even determined where the crazy came from, etc.

it wasn't negative towards Shank or her situation, which everyone is in 100% agreement is messed up!

fancefpp · January 2014

Yeah, I think lilash is just saying that there are a lot of crazy people out there and you never know who you are really dealing with over the internet. No one deserves to have their family involved though, totally crossing the line. Some people are unstable though, we just don't know who they are.

kmcd23 · January 2014

To me, what Lilash said is a more benign version of telling a girl not to wear a short skirt or else she 's asking for it.
(A whole different level, granted, but the same principle.)

And FTR, I don' think anyone has been bullied on this board .

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

wow just wow....i get that maybe some people wouldn't have the same reaction as me or the other moms who are disturbed by this but implying that it was something Shank should have expected given her "calling out" of people is beyond me. I mean thats like saying that girls shouldn't wear short skirts because rapists exist, extreme comparison yes, but equally ridiculous logic.

watuzzigal · January 2014

Don't blame the victim.

ETA Posted too early.

Anyone else conjuring ideas right now about WHY Shank was targeted takes the focus off the stalking/stalker. Stalking is NOT ok. Period. That's it.

Consider that a reminder not to stalk.

bhjones1980 · January 2014

kmcd23 said:

To me, what Lilash said is a more benign version of telling a girl not to wear a short skirt or else she 's asking for it. (A whole different level, granted, but the same principle.) And FTR, I don' think anyone has been bullied on this board .

completely separate from this whole Shank situation, but seriously you do not thing ANY bullying has every gone down on this board?

WOW!

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

kmcd23 said:

To me, what Lilash said is a more benign version of telling a girl not to wear a short skirt or else she 's asking for it. (A whole different level, granted, but the same principle.) And FTR, I don' think anyone has been bullied on this board .

kmcd23 you are a clever bush...i had the same thought 2 minutes later. xo

kmcd23 · January 2014

bhjones1980 said:

kmcd23 said:

To me, what Lilash said is a more benign version of telling a girl not to wear a short skirt or else she 's asking for it.
(A whole different level, granted, but the same principle.)

And FTR, I don' think anyone has been bullied on this board .

completely separate from this whole Shank situation, but seriously you do not thing ANY bullying has every gone down on this board?

WOW!

Well, not since we had the babies. Pre babies, with a different group, yes. But recent months, no.

ETA- I should have said pre-babies MAYBE, because I really can't remember well that far back, but I think the flamings were far more intense then, so maybe. But still, not in 8 months, no way.

jedimindtrick · January 2014

Whoa, whoa whoa, whether you feel creeped out by what happened to Shank or not, who cares, that's your call... But my hair goes up when the word bullying gets tossed out. WTF? Bullying is a serious flucking deal and I have seen none of that here. Never from shank or anyone else. Flaming is not bullying. Hell, we've been told to all go eat each other out before, and that's not even bullying. Bullying is targeting and belittling someone based off of an observable quality. Not just "being mean." I guarantee you if anyone was bullying on this board the claws would come out quickly. I think @kateRN08 hit it on the head. Erica was dumb. We got duped. This is someone taking info from here and maliciously going after someone's family to hurt them. Yea, we don't know the whole story, and we shouldn't. I think shank was trying to warn, not AW her shit, and I'm glad she did. I think a lot of people took it seriously because I've seen the changes in profiles (pics and stuff). I hate that people discredit it because they didn't get all the scoop. Again, if it doesn't creep you out, fine. But I could see how these comments could be hurtful. And the insinuating that Shank makes "bullying comments" and don't say you weren't, how else did we make the leap from shank's predicament to " a reminder to not make bullying comments" occur, is BS. Plain and simple.

Boo0512 · January 2014

I think moral of this story is be aware that some people will go to great lengths to hurt you (whether that is emotionally, mentally or physically). Be careful what you post about your personal life because it isn't hard to piece things together.

Whether anyone thinks shank is a bully or not is a moot point in this situation. Reaching out to someone in a negative manner IRL is way messed up and terrifying.

Lilash I hope that your comment didn't come across the way you intended.

Bottom line: if your feelings are hurt on a web forum either get over it or log the eff off and stay off. There is NO excuse for going to the extent of finding out where people live etc.

lizziebooper · January 2014

I have been reading these posts and I have to say I am sorry Shank has had to deal with this. I look forward to coming on here everyday and have to say some of the MIL Mondays, WTFs and the other conversations have given me some good laughs not to mention the good advice here. I hope this group is able to continue even if it means less pics of our cuties.

blush64 · January 2014

I am not surprised people find the situation creepy. I do not think finding it creepy means you need to think about staying off the internet. Saying it is creepy or makes you think more about what is online does not equal going overboard in my opinion.

Some people get creeped out easier than others. I tend to be one of those people.

Also, I agree with PP. There are no bullies on the board and regardless of that, there is no excuse for reaching out off the boards or stalking or any crazy stuff.

Lolalipsy · January 2014

kmcd23 said:
To me, what Lilash said is a more benign version of telling a girl not to wear a short skirt or else she 's asking for it.
(A whole different level, granted, but the same principle.)

And FTR, I don' think anyone has been bullied on this board .

My thoughts exactly!

blush64 · January 2014

To be honest, I limit pictures because I wouldn't want them stolen but it started because I didn't want someone in real life to find me. My avatar used to be my wedding picture. I open up on GTKY posts as long as they don't require a real name. I love GTKY posts.

I have wanted to post a pic of A forever but I just can't do it yet. I fully admit I tend to be nervous about things like that. I know people in real life who have been stalked, someone else who has had their identity stolen to the point he ended up in court several times.

I agree if you want to participate fully it is hard to not include pics and some personal info.

CNJ4EVA · January 2014

Just to further clarify my opinion as I agreed with beaubecca.....

I totally get exercising additional caution and trying to be as anonymous as possible in light of recent events.

It's the "I don't know if I want to post AT ALL anymore" that I find to be an overreaction. I realize that others opinions differ, but that's mine.

fancefpp · January 2014

Just to be clear, I don't think Shank is a bully at all, and I agree that flaming isn't bullying. No one brings being stalked upon themselves by posting stuff on an internet board. But, we all have to agree that there is no way to know who is really out there reading this stuff and what they are capable of. Posting on these boards invites a whole lot of people into your life and you have to be careful. Sometimes it's easy to forget how many people can read this stuff because only a small group of people post.

babyo52 · January 2014

Shantxtell said:

Maybe I am alone in feeling this way but, maybe this is a good reminder that those who have been "called out" or bullied on here for what some think are ridiculous opinions may retaliate. I have no idea if this is what happened and I hope that is not that case and hope that it never happens again to anyone, but you never know. I love this board and have found it very helpful and feel for shank. But maybe if we don't like someone's opinion we leave it be and go on.
Fuck you, dude. My FAMiLY was involved in this. You are basically saying I brought this upon myself for flaming someone. Eta again: re- reading @beaubecca post I did take that the wrong way. I apologize for saying that to you.

I just want to be clear. I NEVER said that shank was a bully or brought this on her self, because I do not believe that at all. No one should have to go thru what shank is dealing with. It was a general statement for all of our real lives and on the board. You never know who the crazies are and who is going to truly get offended by something.

coffeeandbooks · January 2014

beaubecca
But the surprise or "wow I'm going to limit my participation now" is what I am questioning.

so I was surprised and yeah I am going to curb myself a bit. So maybe I am just dumb or naive....or just a person who thinks people are for the most part good but I kind of just didn't get why people were extra cautious about posting stuff. I thought to myself I am a person who has a real life and an online presence..people can find me online in lots of other places...what is the big deal?
But, while I don't know what happened to Shank...her post made a light bulb off in my mind and then all of a sudden I started thinking about the possibilities...and how I could be affected. I am going to be more cautious going forward. Someone once told me never to write anything online that you wouldn't want published in a newspaper someday. I think I am going to have to take that advice.
In any case...this whole thing whatever it is...is kind of a buzz kill...

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Alright I'm taking this thread back to what it was, I have three FFFC and if you can sit through the first boring two, I promise #3 is my usual over share.

1) on Friday nights I get in the bath with LO and we play with bath toys. I love it and if ya'll think I'm weird I don't give a fluck.

2) LO is now asleep at 6pm and I literally have nothing to do, nothing on the pvr, dinner has been eaten so I am contemplating going to bed...at 6? On a Friday? WTF?

3) I can't find my rasor so I have been using DH's. Anyways te other day he flat out asked me " do you use my rasor to shave your pits?" Shocked I told him "yes I might have....but why did you ask just the pits". He then told me that when he was about to shave right under his nose he smelled B.O. On his rasor and couldn't figure out why. Apparently I am a dirty fucking stanky ass bish.

Thanks for reading!

Edited: ain't nobody got time for autocorrect.

MrsM1111 · January 2014

@lazmom44 I can't read anything you comment on anymore. At least while I'm next to a napping baby... I wake her up each time I snort in laughter!

PumpkinAndThePeanut · January 2014

@Laxmom44, we get in the tub for all of E's and V's baths. We stopped using the infant tub really early on and we just get in the big tub with them. So much easier. And they love love love bath time.

fancefpp · January 2014

@laxmom44 I don't remember the last time I put on deodorant. I'm probably a stanky bish too

CNJ4EVA · January 2014

Lax inspired me, I'll post a regular confession, too.

We have floor vent heating and I just asked H if he could hear me in the living room speaking through our bedroom vent. He could.

So I proceeded to fart over the vent and follow up with a spoken "That's for you".

A vision of class ladies....that's me.

Oohgurl · January 2014

I hate when people wear perfume. Especially that Victoria's Secret fruit juice smelling shit. Thanks for forcing me to smell you.

kyliensc · January 2014

I wasnt gunna post mine at first bc everyone was being all serious, but now it seems appropriate.
After a few glasses of wine i sent dh a picture of my boobs. I realized how drastically bigger one is than the other, and now im all self conscious.

1and1is3 · January 2014

Whoa! Wtf is going on?!! I have been absent for a few days. I'm going to be catching up most of the evening. From what I gather in this thread, I'm really sorry you have a crazy stalker, Shank.

kmcd23 · January 2014

I took a bath with G for the first time the other day. Too bad I was crying because he had shit all over me right after I got out of the shower, and then peed in my lap after I stripped him down for a bath. :-D

blush64 · January 2014

KateRN08 said:
I bath with my baby all the time.

Me too. She loves bath time.

TundraGirl · January 2014

Lax inspired me as well.

I can't remember the last time I shaved my legs. I've become a yeti but at least I'm warm. It's cold on the tundra, yo.

PumpkinAndThePeanut · January 2014

^ you sound like my H. He's growing this awful beard and refuses to shave. He's starting to resemble the Unabomber.

I half-heartedly complain but I don't mind too much I guess. I'd be more attracted to him if he shaved, but he'd probably be more attracted to me if I stopped shoving Oreos down my throat. So I guess we're even.

watuzzigal · January 2014

I don't know where else to put this, but it's potentially flammable depending on how you vote:

Batman is working late tonight. We visited him for dinner so he could see H awake today. I'm exhausted, but he mentioned the sex before we left. I promised the sex tomorrow but didnt say no to tonight. Do I

a. Drink the wine. Make myself stay up for the sex. Get to eat the fro yo.

b. Drink the wine. Go to sleep. Miss out on the fro yo.

c. Drink the wine. Eat the fro yo. Go to sleep.

Boo0512 · January 2014

^^ b.

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