UO

Schell2013 · January 2014

Shantxtell said:
I don't see the point of a SN change if it's not your whole name. Even then...

Except when I googled my old SN (which was my name) all my posts came up. I don't want ppl able to look me up.

Schell2013 · January 2014

NailQueen said:

2010Bride2be said:

My UO is that I am totally buying one of these for DS for when we take trips to large places with a lot of people. Some people hate them or think that it's cruel...I just want my kid to be safe.
Note...I used to be one of those people that thought these were cruel. DS= changed mind.

Note: this is not pointed directly to you -its a general "you"
Leashes belong on dogs. You want to put one on your cat, ferret, hamster etc Id probably side eye you. You want to put it on your child?? Putting a leash on your child shows others that you cant control your child outside of your home. I think if you cant control your children, you shouldnt have any and definitely not bring them out in public areas where you would need one. Putting a leash on a child is just wrong.

I would rather leash my child and not being calling the police because they ran off while I was paying and I looked away for a second to enter my pin. I don't care if some think its wrong, it sure better than some wacko taking my kid. It has nothing to do with teaching them to stay by you, kids are fast and don't always listen. Using a harness does not make you a bad parent IMO.

jedimindtrick · January 2014

missk0411 said:

NailQueen said:

2010Bride2be said:

My UO is that I am totally buying one of these for DS for when we take trips to large places with a lot of people. Some people hate them or think that it's cruel...I just want my kid to be safe.
Note...I used to be one of those people that thought these were cruel. DS= changed mind.

Note: this is not pointed directly to you -its a general "you"
Leashes belong on dogs. You want to put one on your cat, ferret, hamster etc Id probably side eye you. You want to put it on your child?? Putting a leash on your child shows others that you cant control your child outside of your home. I think if you cant control your children, you shouldnt have any and definitely not bring them out in public areas where you would need one. Putting a leash on a child is just wrong.

I think I'll reserve judgement until I've walked a mile in the shoes of a parent whose kid just won't listen. Maybe they can't control their kid. Maybe the kid has a developmental issue that makes impulse control really really hard. If a leash keeps the kid from running in front of a bus, bless that leash.

Join me in a round of kumbaya!

Good backtracking.

I am not fond of these things persay, but I take major issue with moms thinking they know everything about kids and judging other moms for their choices.

If everyone just worried about their own damn kids and stopped judging other moms we'd be much better off.

You tether your kids ladies. Rock on.

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

K so I'm a dog owner and I leash my dogs every time we leave the house.

Why?

Because my dogs are too fucking stupid to stay out of the roads or not run across the street to get that squirrel that looks like fun and because I don't think it's appropriate for my dog to be running all over the side walk. They will never have the intelligence to understand the dangerous potential of cars and roads and whatever.

So that being said if my child is similarly unaware of danger why not put a tether on them. I mean fuck I'm not going to be using it when she's 10,it's for toddlers that like dogs don't understand the danger that exists. Will I try my bestcto teach her of course! Am I a bad parent because my child can walk but doesn't have the comprehension to understand that running into the street isn't safe...fuck no! And trust me if you think you are a faster than your 18month old you are so wrong! It takes a second for a baby to get away from you so if my child's physical abilities such as walking develops faster than her reasoning and logic then I will be parading her all Over the damn place with a giant blingy fucking leash. Judge away!!!

CNJ4EVA · January 2014

I think Shakira is awful, just awful.

That is all.

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Also as a flight attendant I see these harnesses all the time and nine times out of ten they kids sit quietly and are well behaved on the plane. So it has nothing to with control over their child or their parenting skills. We use the tools available to us to teach our children to be safe. I would be careful saying people shouldn't have kids if they can't control them.

Kashy · January 2014

cromie713 said:

My UO is that I don't give 2 craps about most of the various reasons people cloth diaper (environment, better for their skin, no chemicals etc). The only reason we're doing it is because it ended up being cheaper for us with 2u2. I hate the holier than thou attitude that some moms I know IRL have about CDing. It makes me hesitant to even tell people we use cloth, because I feel like there's this big stigma attached to it

Edited to fix wording

I agree. I don't care why people choose cloth. For us I originally wanted to do cloth from the beginning to save money. DH was all "no way". He eventually changed his mind so at 4 months we started with cloth. But now my reasons are because a fluffy butt is just so darn cute!! lol

like seriously, is this not the cutest bum ever??

jedimindtrick · January 2014

missk0411 said:

NJAZgirl said:

2010Bride2be said:

My UO is that I am totally buying one of these for DS for when we take trips to large places with a lot of people. Some people hate them or think that it's cruel...I just want my kid to be safe.
Note...I used to be one of those people that thought these were cruel. DS= changed mind.

Note: this is not pointed directly to you -its a general "you"
Leashes belong on dogs. You want to put one on your cat, ferret, hamster etc Id probably side eye you. You want to put it on your child?? Putting a leash on your child shows others that you cant control your child outside of your home. I think if you cant control your children, you shouldnt have any and definitely not bring them out in public areas where you would need one. Putting a leash on a child is just wrong.
I think I'll reserve judgement until I've walked a mile in the shoes of a parent whose kid just won't listen. Maybe they can't control their kid. Maybe the kid has a developmental issue that makes impulse control really really hard. If a leash keeps the kid from running in front of a bus, bless that leash. Join me in a round of kumbaya!
Good backtracking. I am not fond of these things persay, but I take major issue with moms thinking they know everything about kids and judging other moms for their choices. If everyone just worried about their own damn kids and stopped judging other moms we'd be much better off. You tether your kids ladies. Rock on.

I'm not backtracking--I fully support parents doing what they think is the right thing for their kids. I would never assume that someone using a tether is a bad/lazy parent, and neither should the OP.

Damn. I'm sorry. That was a major quote fail on my part, I thought that was OP saying that. So in that case, I agree with you!

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Fuck all this leash talk made me forget to post my UO.

And I have to warn that this is an opinion!

I think saving yourself til marriage is admirable and sweet, but also potentially disappointing. For one thing it puts so much pressure on when you finally do it. (Teehee do it) and also what if you have different sexual appetites or likes/dislikes or hell what if there isn't chemistry in bed. I realise that my complete ignorance on this subject is why I am making these assumptions and welcome a healthy debate, however IMO I wouldn't want to wait until marriage. Wait til you find someone uber special, wait til engagement sure but wait til you are legally bound to this person meh not my cup of tea.

Oh sorry religious reasons aside cause obviously if you did it for religious reasons that's a whole other ball game.

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Good point^

1and1is3 · January 2014

For LaxMOM's uo, I look at it this way. Sex can always get better through communication and education. A douche will always be a douche. In other words sex just wasn't a factor in who I married. I can see your point though but for me, even if the sex would have been the worst I've ever experienced I would still have married him.

Edit: It's funny you should mention this because my sister and I just had this discussion. It really makes you think that's for sure!

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

nonniedee said:
I was a virgin bride (religious reasons), and in our faith we have marriage contracts. I put in it that if he was bad then it was grounds for annulment.

You're my hero!

Best.religion.ever

Lolalipsy · January 2014

Shantxtell said:
I wouldn't want one flavor of ice cream my whole life.

And I wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first.

All joking aside I waited until I married my ex before we DTD. Two whole years of anticipation. I thought he was being a gentleman by waiting but he just had no sex drive. Not exactly what I had hoped for. In the end I think the lack of intimacy didn't help our relationship.

I vowed never to do that again. I don't think sex is the be all and end all of a relationship but I do think it's important.

ordinary1 · January 2014

Re leashing: Before being a parent, I felt leashes were for dogs and cruel to put on children. Now that I am a parent, I realized I didn't know shit about parenthood. I popped my judging eyes back in and decided that right now, I am against leashes for my family. That may change, it may not. Bottom line is, it is up to my family. If someone else disagrees, that's fine, practice it in their family. The effects it has on me are zero.

Re note on door: I have seen the note. Honestly, I think punishment is about knowing your child. My dad would lock me out of the house if I missed curfew, but I knew that my punishment would be worse if I left the porch so I never did. On the other hand, I know people that would have left the house and would have gone back to where ever they came from. The thing I hate about this notes and other pictures is that some think that it will work for every child.

My UO: I don't get why everyone lusts over the Hemsworth brothers.

jedimindtrick · January 2014

cromie713 said:
My UO is that I don't give 2 craps about most of the various reasons people cloth diaper (environment, better for their skin, no chemicals etc). The only reason we're doing it is because it ended up being cheaper for us with 2u2. I hate the holier than thou attitude that some moms I know IRL have about CDing. It makes me hesitant to even tell people we use cloth, because I feel like there's this big stigma attached to it

Edited to fix wording

We CD mostly too. And I do have to say that the environmental impact did weigh in as part of my decision. The disposables like never biodegrade and I just felt bad creating that much waste. However, as you said, cost was #1 in the decision process. Once I got a few and tried them, my #1 reason became just how well we liked them. Mainly because all our poop explosions ended. And we were having tons. I have yet to have a leak, pee or poop in my cloth. And the smell. I hated the way the disposables smelled when wet. DH will only use the cloth too. And you are right. They are so cute!

jedimindtrick · January 2014

Kashy said:

cromie713 said:

My UO is that I don't give 2 craps about most of the various reasons people cloth diaper (environment, better for their skin, no chemicals etc). The only reason we're doing it is because it ended up being cheaper for us with 2u2. I hate the holier than thou attitude that some moms I know IRL have about CDing. It makes me hesitant to even tell people we use cloth, because I feel like there's this big stigma attached to it

Edited to fix wording

I agree. I don't care why people choose cloth. For us I originally wanted to do cloth from the beginning to save money. DH was all "no way". He eventually changed his mind so at 4 months we started with cloth. But now my reasons are because a fluffy butt is just so darn cute!! lol

like seriously, is this not the cutest bum ever??

Where did you get this adorable diaper?'!?!?

Kashy · January 2014

NJAZgirl said:

Kashy said:

cromie713 said:

My UO is that I don't give 2 craps about most of the various reasons people cloth diaper (environment, better for their skin, no chemicals etc). The only reason we're doing it is because it ended up being cheaper for us with 2u2. I hate the holier than thou attitude that some moms I know IRL have about CDing. It makes me hesitant to even tell people we use cloth, because I feel like there's this big stigma attached to it

Edited to fix wording

I agree. I don't care why people choose cloth. For us I originally wanted to do cloth from the beginning to save money. DH was all "no way". He eventually changed his mind so at 4 months we started with cloth. But now my reasons are because a fluffy butt is just so darn cute!! lol

like seriously, is this not the cutest bum ever??

Where did you get this adorable diaper?'!?!?

It is a Twinkie Tush fitted. I just love it!

SpanFran · January 2014

I think the "no boning before marriage" thing encourages very new and young couples to get married, more or less for the sole purpose of being able to bang. I had a few friends who were into that, got married at 18 years, and divorced 5 minutes later.

Obviously, this isn't what happened to all virgin brides (SUP NONNIE AND HER HOT POON HUSBAND) but I feel like it happens a lot.

snowgirl427 · January 2014

Along the sex before marriage thing - I think it's good to live with your SO before marriage. You can really learn a lot about someone when you live together and don't have separate places to escape to.

smg2302 · January 2014

I wouldn't want one flavor of ice cream my whole life.

Clearly you have not tried Talenti Gelato Banana Chocolate Swirl. I would give up all food for it.

smg2302 · January 2014

beaubecca said:

Lolalipsy said:

I wouldn't want one flavor of ice cream my whole life.
And I wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first. All joking aside I waited until I married my ex before we DTD. Two whole years of anticipation. I thought he was being a gentleman by waiting but he just had no sex drive. Not exactly what I had hoped for. In the end I think the lack of intimacy didn't help our relationship. I vowed never to do that again. I don't think sex is the be all and end all of a relationship but I do think it's important.

Not to make light, but that totally reminds me of Trey and Charlotte on SATC. Annnd now everyone knows I watch too much tv when I work at home.

Or Carrie and Berger.

Lolalipsy · January 2014

beaubecca said:

Lolalipsy said:

Shantxtell said:
I wouldn't want one flavor of ice cream my whole life.
And I wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first.

All joking aside I waited until I married my ex before we DTD. Two whole years of anticipation. I thought he was being a gentleman by waiting but he just had no sex drive. Not exactly what I had hoped for. In the end I think the lack of intimacy didn't help our relationship.

I vowed never to do that again. I don't think sex is the be all and end all of a relationship but I do think it's important.

Not to make light, but that totally reminds me of Trey and Charlotte on SATC. Annnd now everyone knows I watch too much tv when I work at home.

That's exactly what it was like lol.

lizziebooper · January 2014

My thoughts on the sex before marriage thing is to each their own. But think that if it is your first time how would you really know if it is good, bad or otherwise. It may be terrible but you think it is good because it is all you know.

emmy236 · January 2014

I have a slightly unique take on sex before marriage. DH was my "first" because we met in high school. We broke up like all teenagers do twice, once when DH left for college and then after my sophomore year so we have been with other people. I'm kinda thankful we did that. 1) I'm not wondering what else is out there. 2) I learned how to "train" him in what I like. 3) he learned he wasn't going to get anything better. We got back together my senior year of college and have been together ever since. I have several other friends whom their spouse is their one and only but I feel bad for them. I'm friends with mainly the guys and I know now that they wish they had seen what else is out there. I'm glad a had a few wild years.

DH and I have also lived together since we were 21-22 and thank god we did. We were able to get our finances together and we learned how to co-exist in a 400sq ft NYC apartment. At least for me, the day after we go married I had this epiphany like "omg we can't just break up" so all our disagreements that first year seemed so scary. If I had to deal with that and the fact that he will throw his dirty underwear anywhere in the house or how he thought the due date on bills was just a suggestion, we may not have made it.

jayro10 · January 2014

emmy236 said:
2) I learned how to "train" him in what I like. 3) he learned he wasn't going to get anything better.

Are you for real?

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Omg the clitoris!

emmy236 · January 2014

@jayro10 just meant I was comfortable and knowledgable enough to tell him what I liked. 22 year old college guys aren't exactly Casanovas in the bedroom. If he had only been the only guy I had ever been with, I'm not sure we would have been able to work on that part of our relationship so well. Is that an acceptable answer? I've said that to him jokingly and he isn't offended by it so not sure why you are.

jedimindtrick · January 2014

jayro10 said:

emmy236 said:
2) I learned how to "train" him in what I like. 3) he learned he wasn't going to get anything better.
Are you for real?

Christie Brinkley's husband cheated on her. Sometimes it's not about better. Just different.

huzzahuzza · January 2014

emmy236 said:

@jayro10 just meant I was comfortable and knowledgable enough to tell him what I liked. 22 year old college guys aren't exactly Casanovas in the bedroom. If he had only been the only guy I had ever been with, I'm not sure we would have been able to work on that part of our relationship so well. Is that an acceptable answer? I've said that to him jokingly and he isn't offended by it so not sure why you are.

Yeah, sorry, I laughed out loud at the "He's not going to get any better." I took it as a funny statement not a "OMG I'M THE BEST!" statement. I'm glad you are comfortable enough in your sexual relationship with your husband to not think "was she better than me?"

huzzahuzza · January 2014

Also, I would like to add in there that just because you had sex before marriage doesn't mean that the sex with that same person won't change. I'm pretty certain that my husband wishes he had the old horny me from when we first met. I could've done it anywhere/anytime at that stage in my life and now I'm no place/no time.

emmy236 · January 2014

@huzzahuzza exactly it was meant to be funny, not to be taken literally. But yeah when someone is your first and you break up and they date other people there is a ton of mental comparison and I spent way too much time being paranoid. Being open and blunt with each other was how I got through that hang up and it made our relationship great.

About Christie Brinkley's husband cheating on her... didn't he come out as a sex addict who kept ridiculous and borderline illegal porn on their family's computer? Yeah I guess that was different.

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Ummm I don't know your relationship but no man on earth is dumb enough to say an ex was better even if that is the truth. Fuck ain't no way I'm telling H about the sex god I used to date...mmmm that guy. Jut saying. Anyways if you guys have awesome sex good for you! You'd have to be pretty good to keep a professional athlete from straying.

jayro10 · January 2014

I'm not offended. It's just that 99% of your posts are about how amazing you find yourself. It's old.

LaxMOM44 · January 2014

Also Halle fucking Berry was cheated on....Halle Berry!

jedimindtrick · January 2014

^^ exactly. That's the point in trying to make. I know you were trying to say "hey I'm good in bed." Go 'head sister. Rock on. But it did come across a little cocky and that shit will get you in trouble. The most beautiful women in the world (and prob some good in bed) get cheated on. Especially when they think they are untouchable.

If I thought I was the best thing my husband could get, that would turn me off. I like to think he could get anyone he wants, and he chose me.

emmy236 · January 2014

Yikes, I'm sorry ladies I really didn't mean to come off that way. I honestly don't mean to at all. I have a pretty dry sense of humor and I know I can come off as cold or cocky and I'm really not. I do sincerely apologize if I offended or alienated anyone

jedimindtrick · January 2014

emmy236 said:
Yikes, I'm sorry ladies I really didn't mean to come off that way. I honestly don't mean to at all. I have a pretty dry sense of humor and I know I can come off as cold or cocky and I'm really not. I do sincerely apologize if I offended or alienated anyone

Not offended, no need to apologize. Just clarifying how it came off.

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