DH and I live 1500 miles from our families. We had an online shower for our family members, but our adopted family and friends here want us to have a shower also. We were thinking about having a co-ed "meet the baby" get together after his arrival at the local bar and grill rather than a formal shower since we already technically had one. My parents are flying out to see the little man about 2 weeks after our due date, so we were thinking about having it while they are in town so they can meet all of our friends. In lieu of gifts we were thinking of asking for diapers and wipes. Will this work? Has anyone done anything like this? What should I expect?
My two Angel Babies
Ectopic Pgcy 10/1/11
MC 11/8/12
Re: Shower after his arrival?
AKA gifts should not be assumed, therefore you should not dictate what gifts people give you at your non gift giving event -- not that you should ever dictate what people can give.
I think the meet the baby party is a splendid idea if it's just that. And sure, people will bring gifts if they want to, but it shouldn't be a requirement. You could even have a second shower with your local family, if someone offers.
I can't believe I didn't pick up on this. My bump hiatus took a toll on my ability to spot bullsh!t.
My two Angel Babies
Ectopic Pgcy 10/1/11
MC 11/8/12
OP, the other ladies are correct- it is fine to throw a Meet the Baby party if you like, but there should be absolutely NO mention of gifts, especially a directive on what they should give you.
And, OP, if you are planning to hold the party at a bar and grille, please tell me you were planning on paying for everybody's meal....
I just wanted to mention that first babies are often late, so I would not plan anything for 2weeks after your due date. Honestly I was not up for being at any large gathering of people until at least 3 weeks after baby was born, and I was more than a week late.
I think a meet the baby party is a good idea, but if you are hosting the gathering, don't ask for anything.
Most people will bring you a little something. Exchange/ re-gift/ donate whatever you don't want.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12