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July 2014 Moms
katnipeverclean
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Call this baby a boy one more time!
katnipeverclean
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First, you need to read that in the voice of the ghost writer that they call in from the movie Elf: "Call me elf one more time!"
Ok now that that's out of the way...
My family is driving me insane. I've basically put my foot down that this is our last child. I don't know that I can physically do this a third time. In the words of my OB, "I'm just not built for having babies!" My DH is in total agreement. He has said numerous times that he would be fine with two girls. However the rest of our family cannot get on board.
My MIL is driving me insane. She constantly calls the baby he or by the boy's name we have picked out. She even comes up and pats my belly and says "Now little Harry, you be nice to your momma!". She wants a boy so badly. She's even said she would be a little sad if it's not a boy. She passed this off because DH is the last in his family so the family name would die with him. BS. Still not a good enough reason to be sad that you have a new grandbaby no matter what is between his/her legs. With DD we found out the sex of the baby and even though we were having a girl she bought her a ton of clearly boy stuff and tried to pass it off as gender neutral. I completely don't care about her wearing boy stuff (ie she is OBSESSED with dinosaurs and has a ton of boy shirts and pjs as a result), but I refused to let her wear the stuff my MIL bought on principle.
I've told both my mom and my dad that I really and truly don't care I just want a healthy baby. It would be awesome to have another girl because I love being a girl mom! It would be awesome to have both and experience both and for Evie to have a brother. I grew up with a little brother and I loved it (still love him obviously). They both look at me and say, "But you HOPE it's a boy, right?!" No. I hope it's healthy. Then they both talk like it's for sure a boy. Like my dad found a toy tool set and he was said, "Oh this would be perfect for little Harry!" What if it's not a boy? What about your granddaughter who would LOVE a toy tool set?
Grrr. Thanks for letting me vent!
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Re: Call this baby a boy one more time!
These folks need to get over themselves. If they're so worried about the family name being carried on, tell them they could be "lucky" and one of your daughters could just decide to use her maiden name. Just sayin.
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One and the same and they aren't horrible really. I adore my parents and ILs, but this whole girl vs boy thing is making me insane.
My DH is an only so my MIL wants a boy bc she loved her boy so much, and my parents want a boy because they had a girl then a boy and loved it. It's like they can't fathom loving having two girls.
My FIL, bless him, is just in love with the idea of having another grandbaby. I adore that man!
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This infuriates me to no end & I'm so very sorry you're having to deal with it.
We had a MC in August '13 & I'm now pregnant again. We have a son (2 yrs old) who is totally awesome. People keep saying to me now how we NEED a girl. You know what?! We do not NEED a girl. We need whatever child God gives us & we will be so grateful. If I have 4 boys I'm grateful & if I have 4 girls I'd be grateful.
"Still not a good enough reason to be sad that you have a new grandbaby no matter what is between his/her legs."
^This. This is absolutely perfect in every way. If this child is a boy then it will be special & unique & wonderful. If it's a girl we will have lots of new adventures. So everyone else can shut their pie holes about what we "need".
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I'm very Caucasian, but I'm stealing this saying.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
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"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
there is an accent, hand and head movement that goes with it...looks a lot like this :-)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJDta8WyciE
She's normally pretty cool but I was irked about that comment.
I'm in a similar boat with my FIL. He makes comments about how we're going to have a boy, and if it ends up being a girl he'll just focus on our 'next one' that we apparently are for sure having according to him. We are the last hope for the name to be carried on, too. We aren't sure if we want one kid or two kids, but everyone is going crazy hoping that it's a boy. DH's brother stopped with one girl, and suddenly it's on ME for his glorious grandson that has his last name. Sad part is DH's sister has 3 boys that for some reason aren't 'enough' because they have her married last name.
Sorry your family are being douchenozzles.
The only person who has expressed a desire for a certain sex is my DD. She actually cried when we told her it might be a boy. We had a talk and now she tells people "We don't know if it is a boy or a girl, God gets to decide. But I want a sister."
However...she is 3, not a grown adult. People need to check themselves.
My in-laws and parents have been fine, but DH will not acknowledge the fact that our baby could be a girl. For him it's boy or bust, and it is driving me batshit insane.
OMG that is horrible. They should be grateful about having another beautiful healthy baby. My parents have 4 daughters (me being the oldest) and my madien name will end with my sisters (none of them are married yet). My father was fine with this he ddint' care he always said as long as his children are healthy and happy that is all that mattered. My mother's maiden name was over after my grandfather too so it is what is to those people who truly care about their "family name."
I would decorate my belly pink everytime I see her if I were you LOL