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V1981 · January 2014

Isn't last call usually for the leftover drunks and ugly girls that nobody took home? LOL Not really the bat signal of a friendship call.

alyssa719 · January 2014

lkf041 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

What a close-knit group of non-snarky ladies they are. What great support.

How in the world are you a mod. If you've read any of my posts you'd know I'm not mean or snarky. Now the other comments on here prove you all are.

If you want my opinion (I'm sure you do since you're posting on an online message board that I'm an active member of), since you have about 2000 posts, and 40 love tits, I'd say you're not really anything - so not really supportive enough to have people agree with you (or disagree with you), not snarky enough, or maybe too judgemental in your snark, etc. Basically it says you don't really have that much of a personality either way, sounds like a lot of fun, sign me up!!

lkf041 · January 2014

Now I have 41 love its

coybig · January 2014

btw, anyone from the FB group can answer my previous question. it isn't rhetorical.

I'm in a FB group from a previous BMB with over 100 as well, and I joined fairly late in their game. I'm a male, and yet I'd say I'm close to many of them. I care about their stories, and I recognize all of them from the group. I've met close to a dozen of them already.

yet, because I'm not ready 12 weeks in, I'm not allowed in for the future?

V1981 · January 2014

@alyssa719 how does one get 40 love tits?? Sounds like a party!

ChristyChae' · January 2014

kleMcK said:

ChristyChae' said:

Luckynumbers81 said:

I asked this question on the last FB post and it wasn't answered, so I'm going to try again…

OP, how do you think people in your FB group would react if someone joined, participated and then began recruiting for a separate group for pregnant women?

Not orginal poster but I feel like I can answer since there isn't an "owner" of our group. I don't think we would care. People are free to visit any site that they like. We aren't an exclusive group that says you can't find any information about your pregnancy or connect with people anywhere else.

I am on both sites and visit others occasionally and they treat me just fine!

You're not exclusive, just a private secret group and this is our very last chance to join. I see...

Secret from FB so if you haven't announced yet no one will know you are typing.

Last call because you ladies eat us alive for even trying to be nice and invite people

Private because it would be weird to be an open FB group that anyone could see in the world...

mrscurlygurl · January 2014

LuluPMW · January 2014

Gack. I already have real life friends. TB just supplements that so I don't drive them crazy constantly talking about baby baby baby! I'm not so sure how I feel about getting any closer to people I meet online yet. Thanks for the opportunity to join your group but I'll pass and reconsider later if another group is created. TB works for me!

alyssa719 · January 2014

V1981 said:

@alyssa719 how does one get 40 love tits?? Sounds like a party!

@v1981 - Apparently *41* now... it sounds like a great time, right?! Much better than saggy tits for sure.

ChristyChae' · January 2014

bunny0711 said:

ChristyChae' said:

bunny0711 said:

ChristyChae' said:

January Bride said:

Just curious...why would it be "last call"?

I think because it doesn't go over well when it is posted here. The group wants to give everyone a chance to join but some of the ladies on here don't like us asking if people want to join. (which is completely their opinion and allowed )

OP, we've seen your posts, we know who you are. If we want to join your Facebook group we will PM you. As someone else suggested in the LAST post about this, you could add it to your signature so we can avoid these posts.

Actually, I didn't post this. And each time it is posted it is someone else. But like I said.... you are allowed your own opinion. If it isn't for you that is great. Someone else might have missed it and would like to join.

You're all in cahoots. Doesn't matter if you or lkf041 posted it, my sentiment remains the same. We told you all last week why it's weird to be posting this here. And to use your signatures if you feel the need to identify yourselves. Is there a Bump recruitment day in your group? Is it someone else's turn each week?

that is just weird and I think you are just reaching now.... why do have such a HUGE opinion on if we post here? couldn't you just move past? there are a lot of things I see that I don't agree with that I just either don't read or don't respond.

I mean it's cool if you want to give your opinion but this is getting a little intense for some people just trying to invite some girls looking for a completely different outlet from the bump to communicate. They are not the same thing at all. That is why I am on both and will stay on both.

Cbair711 · January 2014

uws22 said:

Cbair711 said:

We posted again to recruit more because obviously we ourselves were on here at one point so there are probably still more on here that are wanting to join too. (there have been 4 ladies request to join since this post was started, fyi). I never even posted on here but was waiting for the fbook group to start. I'm part of my Nov 11 fbook group that came over from thebump (100 members and still super active) and love how much closer we all were on there than we had been on thebump. We just want to give everyone the chance. It's no biggie. If it's not for you, scroll past.

so you have 100 people in another BMB, and it's super active, and you're all close.... then why are the doors shutting to this one right now? are there 100 in this group already? what's the magic number before you are all no longer "super close?"

Because that's how many joined right away. Yes, we are all very close. As in, know every single person's occupation, husband's names, details about their personal life.. I've even met in 30+ in person at get togethers.(I'm talking about my other mom's group from 2011) I'm not knocking thebump, I'm just saying it's more possible to form closer relationships with people there than here. We're not trying to be rude or anything, but there comes a point when anyone else joining would feel out of place anyway.

lkf041 · January 2014

42 love its. Man, I had no idea you had stats on here that made you "cool"

ghostof5letters · January 2014

Cbair711 said:

uws22 said:

Cbair711 said:

We posted again to recruit more because obviously we ourselves were on here at one point so there are probably still more on here that are wanting to join too. (there have been 4 ladies request to join since this post was started, fyi). I never even posted on here but was waiting for the fbook group to start. I'm part of my Nov 11 fbook group that came over from thebump (100 members and still super active) and love how much closer we all were on there than we had been on thebump. We just want to give everyone the chance. It's no biggie. If it's not for you, scroll past.

so you have 100 people in another BMB, and it's super active, and you're all close.... then why are the doors shutting to this one right now? are there 100 in this group already? what's the magic number before you are all no longer "super close?"

Because that's how many joined right away. Yes, we are all very close. As in, know every single person's occupation, husband's names, details about their personal life.. I've even met in 30+ in person at get togethers. I'm not knocking thebump, I'm just saying it's more possible to form closer relationships with people there than here. We're not trying to be rude or anything, but there comes a point when anyone else joining would feel out of place anyway.

Please, for the love of God, just close your group and stop recruiting here. Holy fuck. We get it, you're close. Yay!!! *golf clap* I'm glad you found like minded friends. Clearly, the posts aren't appreciated.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

mrscurlygurl said:

DanRad looks so intense dancing.

ghostof5letters · January 2014

alyssa719 said:

lkf041 said:

LoisLayn23 said:

What a close-knit group of non-snarky ladies they are. What great support.

How in the world are you a mod. If you've read any of my posts you'd know I'm not mean or snarky. Now the other comments on here prove you all are.

If you want my opinion (I'm sure you do since you're posting on an online message board that I'm an active member of), since you have about 2000 posts, and 40 love tits, I'd say you're not really anything - so not really supportive enough to have people agree with you (or disagree with you), not snarky enough, or maybe too judgemental in your snark, etc. Basically it says you don't really have that much of a personality either way, sounds like a lot of fun, sign me up!!

coybig · January 2014

Cbair711 said:

Because that's how many joined right away. Yes, we are all very close. As in, know every single person's occupation, husband's names, details about their personal life.. I've even met in 30+ in person at get togethers.(I'm talking about my other mom's group from 2011) I'm not knocking thebump, I'm just saying it's more possible to form closer relationships with people there than here. We're not trying to be rude or anything, but there comes a point when anyone else joining would feel out of place anyway.

you still didn't answer the questions.

ghostof5letters · January 2014

milestrellas said:

ChristyChae' said:

bunny0711 said:

ChristyChae' said:

bunny0711 said:

ChristyChae' said:

January Bride said:

Just curious...why would it be "last call"?

I think because it doesn't go over well when it is posted here. The group wants to give everyone a chance to join but some of the ladies on here don't like us asking if people want to join. (which is completely their opinion and allowed )

OP, we've seen your posts, we know who you are. If we want to join your Facebook group we will PM you. As someone else suggested in the LAST post about this, you could add it to your signature so we can avoid these posts.

Actually, I didn't post this. And each time it is posted it is someone else. But like I said.... you are allowed your own opinion. If it isn't for you that is great. Someone else might have missed it and would like to join.

You're all in cahoots. Doesn't matter if you or lkf041 posted it, my sentiment remains the same. We told you all last week why it's weird to be posting this here. And to use your signatures if you feel the need to identify yourselves. Is there a Bump recruitment day in your group? Is it someone else's turn each week?

that is just weird and I think you are just reaching now.... why do have such a HUGE opinion on if we post here? couldn't you just move past? there are a lot of things I see that I don't agree with that I just either don't read or don't respond.

I mean it's cool if you want to give your opinion but this is getting a little intense for some people just trying to invite some girls looking for a completely different outlet from the bump to communicate. They are not the same thing at all. That is why I am on both and will stay on both.

Because what you guys are doing is basically going into a restaurant to hand out fliers for a different restaurant. It's just rude, especially since you've been constantly told how rude it is and yet continue to do it in spite of every frequent poster asking you to stop.

You have no respect for this forum and no respect for the posters here if you're basically stomping in every week and trying to take people to a different place.

Why is this such a hard concept for them to wrap their minds around?

yurmom · January 2014

Guys I really don't see how you don't get this. It's just rude to recruit to another forum. So if I was in say a grief support group you guys think it would be cool for a couple people to come in and say "Hey! We're a grief support group too...and we meet at the same time down the hall...we're all super close! Come join us!" ? No that would be rude and people would look at you funny if they had any common decency.

And for the love of God stop bragging that people are still joining your group. No one cares...we just want you to keep it out of here for reasons we've said numerous times. Simple.

yurmom · January 2014

Ok I just basically said what @milestrellas said...damn you for typing faster

alyssa719 · January 2014

Plusalsoand they even agreed to stop with the posts and just leave it in their siggies (which, it's true, are never seen, except on these posts). I hate liars.

tealowl · January 2014

lkf041 said:

We are all getting to know each better so we are going to make it a closed group soon. It would be weird for us to become closer "friends" and then have a new person just join in. kwim.

YOU CANT SIT WITH US

sraexx · January 2014

I don't know why people get bend out of shape, there are ALWAYS FB spin offs that usually do end up sticking around and getting closer. These boards expire don't they? Like after 2 or 3 years...

TurtleMonsters · January 2014

OMG this is just so RUDE (does TB ban these ppl after a while?). why don't you get it...and why don't you GTFO TB if you hate it here so much. STOP POSTING THIS, we all get it, we don't care. The point is to continue on after babies are born...not to form a splitters group of ppl that never wanted to be HERE in the first place.

How about in baby terms...you're having your shower, your preg SIL come over and tells all your guests to come to her so-called better shower, right now...How would you feel?

You're not a white knight because your saving the less vocal ppl of TB. You Just DON"T get it. WHO cares if you "know" the ppl there because you know some details- ppl an find out details about others very easily in life, and not KNOW them. And if you think you "KNOW" a bunch of ppl you've been talking to for a couple of months online, just because you know their SO's name, you're a crazy cakes.

pantherRN · January 2014

LOLOLOLOLOLOL this just made the last 15 minutes of my work day entertaining.

The more you post about your non-secret, non-exclusive but secret exclusive FB, the less I want to join.

Besides, I'm sure it's going to self-combust in a few months anyway. And then you'll really have no fake internet friends. A lot of us who don't want to join have been around TB long enough to know what happens with these kinds of groups. The drama always makes its way back here anyway.

Peace!

purpleXdandelion · January 2014

On top of the fact that it's rude to come on TB and recruit people for your group, I also find it a little creepy. Other groups I'm in on Facebook (cloth diapers and babywearing) have had issues with pedophiles lurking around in there becoming "friends" with the other mamas. It's sick and disturbing and makes me leery of joining one where I'd be sharing information and pictures (not just asking a babywearing question or two) with strangers. Which is why I, like every other person has said, prefer the anonymity of TB and want to hold off on a fb group till I'm comfortable with people. Not jumping in a car with a stranger cuz you offered candy.

So seriously, GTFO.

alyssa719 · January 2014

mmm... candy.

hgtvmom · January 2014

Ok, I have zero interest in a FB group. And I am amused by all the snark and bickering these posts evoke. But, now I kinda wanna join, just so I can see the FB snark talking about all the anti-FB'ers here and how "mean" they are. Equally entertaining, no doubt.

purpleXdandelion · January 2014

alyssa719 said:
mmm... candy.

Candy being "awesome and snark free!!11!!!1!"

jnnfrrose6 · January 2014

Can someone explain to me how one can become "close" with around 100 people they met online, remember what each of these 100 people does, and who their S/Os are? Sorry, sounds a little creepy to me.

I also don't understand why you would have to close a private group on FB so that you don't have people "coming and going" as you get "closer" to the ones that are on there. If it's private, how exactly are these people coming since they need your invitation to join.

Lastly, (hope this doesn't sound too creepy on my part), but there are people who post on TB that entertain the hell out of me. I look forward to seeing what they will post (usually in response to shit like this) and I suspect that in a different world, we'd get along perfectly IRL and I'd probably enjoy being in a FB group with them. For now, however, I will keep any "relationship" I have with them to the semi-anonymity I can get here.

tealowl · January 2014

tealowl said:

lkf041 said:

We are all getting to know each better so we are going to make it a closed group soon. It would be weird for us to become closer "friends" and then have a new person just join in. kwim.

YOU CANT SIT WITH US

Do you act like this IRL? Like, have you had the same friends your whole life because it was just be TOO WEIRD to become friends with someone else down the road?

Are you a fucking 10 year old? Because I think I did that shit when I was 10.

tealowl · January 2014

ashleysyn2 said:

I actually really want to join this group now.

Do it. Get weird.

yurmom · January 2014

ashleysyn2 said:
I actually really want to join this group now.

DO IT...bar closes at midnight

jjess1201 · January 2014

Why does everyone get so up in arms when people offer that there is a FB page? Some excuses are that others in the group would have access to your personal information, that is not true. If you have your profile set to private, people cannot see your personal info. I've been part of closed groups before so I just keep my profile private.Some of you had mentioned putting the FB info in their signature, that info wouldn't get to everyone because if you're using mobile on TB, you cant see any signatures. This would also be why some people may want a FB group, its easier to use on mobile that TB. This topic and people's nasty responses has really made me disappoints in this setting, this is supposed to be a supportive and informative place for mom. Just because its something you dont agree with does not give you a reason to rip someone up one side and down the other. Just don't read the thread and move on. Life's too short to make a big effing deal about someone saying there is a FB group. FYI, I am not part of the FB group but I wanted to defend the ones that are on the group or want to become part of it.

ghostof5letters · January 2014

jjess1201 said:

Why does everyone get so up in arms when people offer that there is a FB page?

Did you bother to read the responses? There are at least 15 reasons why these rude posts aren't appreciated.

Great job. Thanks for contributing.

cuntasaurusrex · January 2014

I can't wait to have this conversation next week. Because I definitely recall them saying this was the last post of this kind at least twice before.

TurtleMonsters · January 2014

jjess1201 said:

Why does everyone get so up in arms when people offer that there is a FB page? Some excuses are that others in the group would have access to your personal information, that is not true. If you have your profile set to private, people cannot see your personal info. I've been part of closed groups before so I just keep my profile private.Some of you had mentioned putting the FB info in their signature, that info wouldn't get to everyone because if you're using mobile on TB, you cant see any signatures. This would also be why some people may want a FB group, its easier to use on mobile that TB. This topic and people's nasty responses has really made me disappoints in this setting, this is supposed to be a supportive and informative place for mom. Just because its something you dont agree with does not give you a reason to rip someone up one side and down the other. Just don't read the thread and move on. Life's too short to make a big effing deal about someone saying there is a FB group. FYI, I am not part of the FB group but I wanted to defend the ones that are on the group or want to become part of it.

Honey, it's not disagreeing and being mean to you....WHAT YOU/THEY - all the FB ppl- You You YOU ARE DOING IS RUDE to TB July '14...so why are you all offended ppl are being rude to your FB group?? Ask a stupid (or rude) question...get RUDE answers. Go enjoy your creepy puppies and rainbows. Do this on a P&R site and THEY WILL SHUT YOU DOWN. they don't ALLOW this because it's R U D E.

Why is this so hard to comprehend, seriously I want to know, what aren't y'all getting? It sad and hilarious all in the same post.

all that said, this is quite an entertaining weekly thread. mmmmm rice krispie squares....

acciovino · January 2014

I have many close friends that I have met IRL that started on TB. That being said, we didn't even start the FB group until after our babies were born. There's around 40 of us left and we are all pretty close. Even 9 months of "knowing" someone isn't enough. A lot of people showed their asses or started unnecessary drama and many people left because of it. (right @ashleysyn2?)

Anyway, not that anyone cares, but my point is that we hardly know each other and I certainly don't want anyone to know my real name, DH's name and all the entails of my life right off the bat. We need to court each other before jumping straight into bed with each other. That's how you get herpes.

ETA: words are hard

BoraBoraBaby · January 2014

This hasn't gotten heated enough for me to start taking about food yet. I'll give it a little time.
OP are you typically the type to show up to parties and try recruiting for a more intimate party that will involve no fun whatsoever?
ETA: I feel the need to add the word "ballsack." Just to summarize my opinion of the original post.

TugboatSheila · January 2014

symphony4586 said:

kmb7964 said:
Here's the thing..join if you want...if you don't...that's fine too. But there are SO many ladies on here that it's hard to get to know everyone. Not to mention its an intimidating forum for gals who may not be as outspoken or as bold as others. I for one feel more comfortable posting in a group where I am familiar with people's faces and their stories. I just find the bump hard to connect on. I'm not sure why there's so much attitude towards this subject..if it's not relevant to you..move on. and ps..I'm the least "snarky" person you will meet..
Honestly at this point after at least 3 posts I've seen you should know *exactly* why there is the attitude there is towards this subject. You've been told over, and over, and over, and over again.

You don't like it here? Cool. Go hide in your little SS facebook group, "close" it if you want, no one here cares. But there's no point in continuing to come here and recruit when you obviously know the type of answer you're going to get.

Being someone who speaks German, my first thought when seeing "SS Facebook group" was that you were comparing the group to the Stadts Sicherheit (The Stasi, German police during WW2) because their symbol is SS. Then I realized that was a ridiculous thought. And that, my friends, is all I have to contribute.

alyssa719 · January 2014

@caitlinrj - umm.. how about you and me go out for some slurpees and crispy chicken one night??

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