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  • AnsleyturnerAnsleyturner member
    Wow.. I thought it was bad that my F plays video games.

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  • kyrstieskyrsties member
    DH doesn't go out with his friends as much as he used to, but I'm jealous of the fact that he can go about and live his life like nothing really happened (while I can't go a second without every thought being about them, and they are permanently attached to me, especially while BFing). He's drinking beer and going to the gym and out riding horses every weekend, while I'm stuck at home. He can't understand where I'm coming from though, and it just resorts in an argument if I ever bring anything up about it. He thinks I'm just insulting him as a parent, but I'm just speaking the truth! ...Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

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    clhathaway said:
    Mine seems to think because i ebf i do everything
    Story of my life. Mine even sleeps on the couch so he isn't woken up. He just disappeared today to go hunting and didn't say anything. He acts like he's a babysitter and I need to ask him to "watch" lo so I can take a shower or whatever. It's annoying, and talking to him about it just makes him mad. Sorry your dh is being a butt op.
    Same here. And, I have to ask him to watch them while I get a shower ...or even try to cook dinner (cause he's tired and just wants a break to relax, where's my relaxation time? lol), and most of the time, I hear one of them crying while I'm in the shower because he has walked away for something. I feel like it's a courtesy to not just walk off and leave him with them, but it's annoying to have to make him aware that it's all him every time. ...And I've always wondered how these men sleep through a baby crying in the middle of the night!

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  • AnsleyturnerAnsleyturner member
    Heaven802002 said:

    I'm sorry but some of you have some fucked up husbands! Mine works 10 hour days and still comes home to help out with the baby. Weekends are about 50/50. Have a talk with him. He made this baby too so it's his responsibility as much as it is yours.

    Exactly. Mine works 12 hour night shifts and still wakes up to help me with diapers or so that I can take a shower, ect. No matter how tired he is. On days he's off he is on sole diaper duty. He has also been helping me clean up somewhat and always watches him while I cook or clean.

    This thread made me realise I'm too hard on him for some of the stuff he does. Yes, it's annoying but at least he helps me out when he can.

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  • KMKaiser07KMKaiser07 member
    edited January 2014
    I wish talking to him made a difference for me. No matter how many times I tell him he needs to take initiative with LO, I have to ask him to take the baby so I can eat or shower etc and he never changes diapers. He got upset with me last night for bringing to light the fact that since LO was born he has been completely selfish.
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  • KFED103KFED103 member
    edited January 2014
    kyrsties said:

    DH doesn't go out with his friends as much as he used to, but I'm jealous of the fact that he can go about and live his life like nothing really happened (while I can't go a second without every thought being about them, and they are permanently attached to me, especially while BFing). He's drinking beer and going to the gym and out riding horses every weekend, while I'm stuck at home. He can't understand where I'm coming from though, and it just resorts in an argument if I ever bring anything up about it. He thinks I'm just insulting him as a parent, but I'm just speaking the truth! ...Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

    Out riding horses?? Wtf. This makes be stabby. Don't you have two under 1? Leaving you home with 2 babies is not cool. Not that a toddler is much easier but still. He needs a major wake up call before you end up with :::god forbid:: 3 under 2 and you have a nervous breakdown.

    ETA: not saying your was the only husband that pissed me off, you are just the lucky one I singled out ;)

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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    The problem I have with mine is he's constantly smoking and will go across the street to his friends house to talk shit and have smoke sessions that will last for 2 hrs. When he's home I'm holding her 95% of the time because he smells like smoke. He washes up but unless he's taking a full shower he's gonna still have that nasty stench. Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
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  • clhathawayclhathaway member
    edited January 2014
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    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    DF's friend Is the same way. He has a 3 month old and will not change a poop diaper because he has to touch her vagina and get the poop off her. It makes me sick to think men actually sexualize that with an infant. He also told DF he's uncomfortable with me breastfeeding our daughter because that's like being a lesbian. WTF?!
    ETA: now I'm curious I he wipes her with a pee diaper.
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  • lollipoppooplollipoppoop member
    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    I find that extremely weird and if it were me I would be worried as hell
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    edited January 2014
    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    Wtf are you implying by does he not trust himself?!?!?! Odd?!?! He isn't the first man I know who doesn't like changing a baby girl and won't be the last I'm sure! He loves his baby girl as just that his baby girl!!!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    He doesn't want to wipe her down and get poop on him he freaks out with the whole process and feels its a woman's job to do. I wish he thought different but I can't change how he feels about that. He doesn't want to change a diaper it's as simple as that & if anyone is making it to be something sexual then get your MF disgusting mind out the gutter!!!
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  • clhathawayclhathaway member
    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    Wtf are you implying by does he not trust himself?!?!?! Odd?!?! He isn't the first man I know who doesn't like changing a baby girl and won't be the last I'm sure! He loves his baby girl as just that his baby girl!!!
    He's sexualizing a diaper change. **thats not odd at all**smh
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    edited January 2014
    clhathaway said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    Wtf are you implying by does he not trust himself?!?!?! Odd?!?! He isn't the first man I know who doesn't like changing a baby girl and won't be the last I'm sure! He loves his baby girl as just that his baby girl!!!
    He's sexualizing a diaper change. **thats not odd at all**smh
    Dont fucking ever come out your face talking shit like that. Disgusting to even write that and for you or anyone else to think like this. It's not sexulizung it's a father not comfortable Changing a diaper! For you to think this way or anyone else first hand makes me wonder about how it really is in your home! That's down right dirty of you!!!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Mapeers3354 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    Wtf are you implying by does he not trust himself?!?!?! Odd?!?! He isn't the first man I know who doesn't like changing a baby girl and won't be the last I'm sure! He loves his baby girl as just that his baby girl!!!
    I would say its a bit immature and/or a really lame excuse to get out of helping out. It's a baby who is helpless and needs to be taken care of. If you have a baby boy in the future are you going to give him all of the diaper duties since it's a boy?
    Immiture and looking for an excuse absolutely, and if it was a boy he probably will feel the same way. He never changed a diaper up until last wk and from what I hear from my daughter he wasted several just to get one on.
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Sunshine5788 said:

    I have to say at first it was an adjustment for us, but when I felt like DH was leaving me with too much I just sat down with him and told him so. Ever since then he's been helping out more. I'm EBF'ing so he helps with diaper changes (Thankfully!), bath time is exclusively his, watches her in the evenings so I can nap, plus he also gets things for me while I'm bf'ing.


    On the topic of diaper changes, my DH will NOT change any other person's little girl, however he is completely comfortable and fine changing ours. I think it's a bit weird that a man wouldn't change his own daughter's diaper. I mean what happens if you aren't around, does your LO just get to sit in a dirty diaper?
    He did when I had to leave last wk for an appt for the first time. He wouldn't leave her wet or pooped up. He had no other choice but to change her.
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    Heaven802002 said:
    He doesn't want to wipe her down and get poop on him he freaks out with the whole process and feels its a woman's job to do. I wish he thought different but I can't change how he feels about that. He doesn't want to change a diaper it's as simple as that & if anyone is making it to be something sexual then get your MF disgusting mind out the gutter!!!
    Ok so he's not a perv just a lazy pos dad?
    That's what I took from it.
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Ktrue85 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    The problem I have with mine is he's constantly smoking and will go across the street to his friends house to talk shit and have smoke sessions that will last for 2 hrs. When he's home I'm holding her 95% of the time because he smells like smoke. He washes up but unless he's taking a full shower he's gonna still have that nasty stench. Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Not changing her because she's a girl? Real good father material right there.

    The ignorance of this is almost more unbelievable than that one time you told people to feed their one month olds rice cereal.
    This coming from a woman who probably neglects her LO since you are always on here talking bs!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    He doesn't want to wipe her down and get poop on him he freaks out with the whole process and feels its a woman's job to do. I wish he thought different but I can't change how he feels about that. He doesn't want to change a diaper it's as simple as that & if anyone is making it to be something sexual then get your MF disgusting mind out the gutter!!!

    Ok so he's not a perv just a lazy pos dad?
    I rather him be lazy than what you have been implying being the dumb ass that you are for even suggesting it!!!!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Cashingn2 said:

    Oh, and I would like to add tha Ktrue is on here often because she's awake nearly all day and night keeping an eye on her son while he sleeps because she's a worried, caring Mom, Pay attention to some of the other posts on here and you'd know that.

    She neglects. Period.
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    Oh and for anyone else who thinks like this and wants to add other stupid comments then go F yourself! Seriously if this wasn't the internet and in person this shit would not be happening!
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    In my opinion I find it normal for a guys to be uncomfortable especially considering that's it's there first child and a new diff experience in general.

    On the lesbian thing that's just dumb.

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  • thebobloblawthebobloblaw member
    gwinnygirl said:

    Also, I just cannot with breastfeeding = lesbian. I am truly dismayed a person like that is influencing a young life. Fucking gross.

    The guy is gay most likely and ashamed by it. Only someone so completely insecure could jump to a conclusion like this IMO. Or not have any brain cells.
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    gwinnygirl said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Cashingn2 said:

    Oh, and I would like to add tha Ktrue is on here often because she's awake nearly all day and night keeping an eye on her son while he sleeps because she's a worried, caring Mom, Pay attention to some of the other posts on here and you'd know that.

    She neglects. Period.
    Says the person whose husband may or may not change dirty diapers.

    Also, how the fuck would you know how often she is on here if you're so omgbusy being supermom?

    I fucking can read and see her damn name all over just the way you are. Yes I'm very busy can you say the same? Doubt it!!!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    edited January 2014
    Ktrue85 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Cashingn2 said:

    Oh, and I would like to add tha Ktrue is on here often because she's awake nearly all day and night keeping an eye on her son while he sleeps because she's a worried, caring Mom, Pay attention to some of the other posts on here and you'd know that.

    She neglects. Period.
    So what's going on with your three kids right now? I've only got one to take care of, with an awesome hands-on father, so I get lots of time to do the things I want. Since your loser of a husband can't trust himself around little girls, seems like you should be super busy taking care of the group you have. I dare say since your daughter was born you've been on here more than I have. At least between this screen name and your AEs.

    Silly woman with a scared boy of a husband. Calm your tits.
    And what about my kids? I take care of all my kids wtf is your dumb ass trying to say? Oh and for that loser of a husband bit you can suck it on that one and pay more attention to the LO you have. God forbid you had anymore kids I feel sorry for all of them!
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  • Supergirl2013Supergirl2013 member
    KateMW said:


    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Heaven802002 said:

    Supergirl2013 said:

    Oh and he refuses to change her since she's a girl. So I understand.

    Wait, what?!
    Exactly that. He's not comfortable changing her diaper or bathing her. His father was exactly the same way but worse. He's only done it twice since she was born and that's because I had an appt.
    Who cares if she's a girl?? Does he not trust himself? This is so weird to me. You don't find it odd??
    Wtf are you implying by does he not trust himself?!?!?! Odd?!?! He isn't the first man I know who doesn't like changing a baby girl and won't be the last I'm sure! He loves his baby girl as just that his baby girl!!!

    Why am I not shocked you would be married to somebody this stupid?

    Why am I not shocked another dumb ass decided to comment against me.
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