Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses.... All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!
I may just be in bitch mode but I read like to the first picture and had to stop. This is crap. We know, a baby was in you. You arent special I have one in there too.
27 y/o - Dx with PCOS 7/10/13 - Started on Metformin 8/26/13.
This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
I know right! You almost have as many love its as abuse points! High five!
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
Dude, how is it possible that you haven't been banned yet?
This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.
Not sure if it will quote since I am on my phone, but how nice of her. I would've had to bite my tongue too. Lol. I remember when it was EVERYWHERE on Facebook. I still see it occasionally.
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
Not going to happen.
The article is fucking atrocious. It's horribly written and is as shitty as all the "thin spo" crap that is out there. It's written by a self absorbed 21 year old that can't grasp how her words hurt other people. Probably why you like it- you have the same selfish "me first, fuck everyone else" immature mentality.
Grow the fuck up and get some serious mental help. Parenting is going to be an awful experience for you or growing up is going to be awful for your child when they realize they are more mature than you at 5.
I was hoping someone was going to point out that this 21 year old knows *soo* much about how all these things change her body... and she has gray hair?!? Seriously?! Wait 'til you're knocked up at 30+ and know that you have little/no chance of regaining your pre-baby body to write about it... Pretty sure the baby in those pics is not 1 year... just sayin.
LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.
Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!
I got more love tits from making fun of you yesterday than you've got from posting this thread...just saying...
Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.
BFP 4/4/12 CP 4/10/12
9/20/2013 Came home with our little miracle from the Philippines
Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.
I'm pretty sure all types if woman whine about stretch marks. Not just "skinny people"
Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.
I'm really sorry about what you've been through, but that doesn't mean that people have to like their stretch marks. As ridiculous as that blog post is, this is a thread about post-baby bodies on a pregnancy board. I imagine my abdomen is going to be a horror show after I have these babies. It took years to achieve this pregnancy and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
But when the pregnancy is over I'm definitely allowed to not like the scars and extra skin. I don't have to love it just because of what I or anyone else has been through.
And beyond that (as much as I do not want to be on the OP's team for anything), the point of the thread is to love your post-baby body because of what it represents. It's a celebration of the life that was created, not a lot of 'skinny girls winning [sp]'.
I'm not saying anyone has to like it. All I can do is look at things from my perspective. And yes that blog post was ridiculous. So sorry but I'm still going to roll my eyes at a blog from a skinny girl talking about loving a few marks on her.
BFP 4/4/12 CP 4/10/12
9/20/2013 Came home with our little miracle from the Philippines
FFS, this is not an article. It's a blog post. However, I'm a skinny girl and probably have the best body of my life right now. I had a horrible time getting back into shape and hated my post-baby body. It took a lot of work and I was really upset about it for a while. Should I just keep quiet b/c I'm not overweight? NO!!!!! I have every right to bitch about it.
Yes, even thin women have every right to bitch about their post-baby bodies.
I just have to say...I found out at a new year's party from other wives that some skanky hoe who works with our husband's made a comment about us getting pregnant...why would you want to do that, it will ruin your life. Um can you say bitch?!
Good thing she feels that way. It's probably best that she doesn't procreate.
This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.
Whoa, inappropriate much! I probably would have bitten my tongue and broke my fingers in order to not respond to that one.
@meery82 I've yet meet her yet and cant say I'm looking forward to it. Apparently she told my hubby while he was on FTO that the lt probably only let him do 2 days with her because he is good looking. And also willingly tells everyone that the reason she is such a hoe is because she used to be heavy so now she is making up for lost time...needless to say I dont care to.meet her, ever.
Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.
That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.
OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.
All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.
Oh @afwifelife, you're telling me that you don't puke rainbows and shit glitter? Am i the only one who feels like we need to coddle the newbies?! What is this world coming to?!!!!!!!!????!?
For serious though, op is an entitled brat. I wish these white knights or as I like to call them, captain save a ho, would quit trying to be the first one to make us see our evil ways and play nice. Ain't gonna happen.
Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.
That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.
OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.
All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.
Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.
That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.
OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.
All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.
Oh STFU already. Could you possibly be any more annoying and wrong?
Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.
That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.
OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.
All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.
I think that you are under the impression that support = puking rainbows and farting glitter on everyone. I think being realistic does a lot more good and is much more supportive.
Example: Women that think morning sickness is a free pass to do nothing at work. The women here will tell them to suck it up or take a sick day. I'm sure morning sickness sucks balls (I never made it that far in my one and only pregnancy), but your job pays you to work. I've had to drag my happy ass to work when I felt like crap from the fertility meds, it sucks but you gotta do what it takes to get the job done. Would it be better to give responses like "oh your boss is such a meanie head! How can he expect you to work while growing a new life!" No, because it's better for the poster to get out of lala land and into the real world where everything is not puppies and rainbows.
Now I have stayed out of the "baby ruined my body" "stretch marks are a badge of honor" issue, but here is my two cents. The post was over the top and sounds like the blogger was overcompensating, like she is forcing herself to prove that she loves her body and that the person who told her she would ruin her body was wrong. It's great that she loves her post baby body, but not everyone does. She acts like a baby should make your insecurities about your body better, which for most women it doesn't.
I also didn't like the line about how she grew a baby in her body and not everyone can do that. It makes her sound like she is somehow better than the infertile woman that can't have her own children and is insulting to the infertility community (or at least it is to me).
In the end stretch marks are stretch marks. They suck and if given a choice, I don't know any women that wouldn't get rid of hers in a heartbeat. I have done 2 (working on 3) rounds of IVF since August and have gained a good 20 lbs because if it. This weight gain has resulted in some new stretch marks. Do I walk around calling them "badges of honor in my infertility journey?" No. They are just stretch marks. While I don't regret any of the treatments that gave me the stretch marks, they still suck.
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
Re: Babies Ruin Bodies
Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses....
All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!
Baby Dust To All!!!
27 y/o - Dx with PCOS 7/10/13 - Started on Metformin 8/26/13.
BFP - 11/19/13 EDD - 7/18/14
Baby #1 due June 5th, 2014
I know right! You almost have as many love its as abuse points! High five!
TB never forgets so good luck with all that.
Dude, how is it possible that you haven't been banned yet?
Not sure if it will quote since I am on my phone, but how nice of her. I would've had to bite my tongue too. Lol. I remember when it was EVERYWHERE on Facebook. I still see it occasionally.
Oh goodness. Is it called Entitled Pregnancy?
BFP 4/4/12 CP 4/10/12
9/20/2013 Came home with our little miracle from the Philippines
11/26/2013 Surprise!!! BFP!
I'm not saying anyone has to like it. All I can do is look at things from my perspective. And yes that blog post was ridiculous. So sorry but I'm still going to roll my eyes at a blog from a skinny girl talking about loving a few marks on her.
BFP 4/4/12 CP 4/10/12
9/20/2013 Came home with our little miracle from the Philippines
11/26/2013 Surprise!!! BFP!
FFS, this is not an article. It's a blog post. However, I'm a skinny girl and probably have the best body of my life right now. I had a horrible time getting back into shape and hated my post-baby body. It took a lot of work and I was really upset about it for a while. Should I just keep quiet b/c I'm not overweight? NO!!!!! I have every right to bitch about it.
Yes, even thin women have every right to bitch about their post-baby bodies.
Good thing she feels that way. It's probably best that she doesn't procreate.
Wow. So gross.
For serious though, op is an entitled brat. I wish these white knights or as I like to call them, captain save a ho, would quit trying to be the first one to make us see our evil ways and play nice. Ain't gonna happen.
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
TTC #1 since August 2011
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September 2012: Start IF testing
DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low progesterone, hostile CM, carrier for CF, Moderately high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA
October 2012-May 2014: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, and 1 failed FETw/donor embryos
November 2014: IVF w/ICSI #4 Agonist/Antagonist with EPP and Prednisone, Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, and IVIG for immune issues. Converted to freeze all due to lining issues. 2 blasts frozen on day 6!
January 2015: FET #2 Cancelled due to lining issues
April 2015: FET #2.1
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