Babies Ruin Bodies

111emd · January 2014

If you're feeling anxious about gaining the weight (and trying to lose it later). Read this. Cry. Cry a lot...

https://weseekjoy.blogspot.com/2013/12/babies-ruin-bodies.html?m=1

boymomstrong · January 2014

Saw this on fb ut was so sweet!

momthatlifts · January 2014

Saw this, loved it

AndreaKae27 · January 2014

I may just be in bitch mode but I read like to the first picture and had to stop. This is crap. We know, a baby was in you. You arent special I have one in there too.

Empireceo · January 2014

This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.

Erica314 · January 2014

Empireceo said:

This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.

Rosebean · January 2014

@starscream I'm sorry, what did you say? I was too busy watching your pole dancing bunny!

111emd · January 2014

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

Empireceo · January 2014

111emd said:

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

El oh fucking el.

I never realized how fun the 1st tri board is!

biglewzer · January 2014

car seat said:

And in terms of the article, it's hardly an original thought. I mean, how long has this been floating around the internet?
Not to mention the myriad of other memes just like it.

This is totes what I looked like 48 hours after giving birth.

LollyLawlz · January 2014

111emd said:

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

I know right! You almost have as many love its as abuse points! High five!

TB never forgets so good luck with all that.

Meery82 · January 2014

@biglewzer, DH and I watched We're The Millers last night and now I finally know where the fucked up dude in your siggy came from. LOL! Too funny!

Meery82 · January 2014

Oh and in case anyone cared to know, DS turned me into a god damned striped tiger. FUCK YEAH

Meery82 · January 2014

111emd said:

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

Dude, how is it possible that you haven't been banned yet?

haliebabyx3 · January 2014

Erica314 said:

Empireceo said:

This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.

Not sure if it will quote since I am on my phone, but how nice of her. I would've had to bite my tongue too. Lol. I remember when it was EVERYWHERE on Facebook. I still see it occasionally.

alyssa719 · January 2014

WhoCanItBeNow said:

111emd said:

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

Not going to happen.

The article is fucking atrocious. It's horribly written and is as shitty as all the "thin spo" crap that is out there. It's written by a self absorbed 21 year old that can't grasp how her words hurt other people. Probably why you like it- you have the same selfish "me first, fuck everyone else" immature mentality.

Grow the fuck up and get some serious mental help. Parenting is going to be an awful experience for you or growing up is going to be awful for your child when they realize they are more mature than you at 5.

I was hoping someone was going to point out that this 21 year old knows *soo* much about how all these things change her body... and she has gray hair?!? Seriously?! Wait 'til you're knocked up at 30+ and know that you have little/no chance of regaining your pre-baby body to write about it... Pretty sure the baby in those pics is not 1 year... just sayin.

salsy2012 · January 2014

111emd said:

LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did.

Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it!

I got more love tits from making fun of you yesterday than you've got from posting this thread...just saying...

WashingtonQueen · January 2014

OP is now trying to recruit people into a Facebook group she made. [-(

salsy2012 · January 2014

AFwifelife said:

WashingtonQueen said:

OP is now trying to recruit people into a Facebook group she made. [-(

LINK!!!!

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12218001/pregnant-in-california#latest

firefliesandfjords · January 2014

WashingtonQueen said:

OP is now trying to recruit people into a Facebook group she made. [-(

Oh goodness. Is it called Entitled Pregnancy?

WashingtonQueen · January 2014

She posted one on a local board as well.

firefliesandfjords · January 2014

Whyyyyyyy didn't I come to this board when I was on bed rest last pregnancy? The entertainment never ends.

beachbum4304 · January 2014

Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.

momthatlifts · January 2014

beachbum4304 said:
Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.

I'm pretty sure all types if woman whine about stretch marks. Not just "skinny people"

beachbum4304 · January 2014

car seat said:

beachbum4304 said:

Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.

I'm really sorry about what you've been through, but that doesn't mean that people have to like their stretch marks. As ridiculous as that blog post is, this is a thread about post-baby bodies on a pregnancy board. I imagine my abdomen is going to be a horror show after I have these babies. It took years to achieve this pregnancy and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
But when the pregnancy is over I'm definitely allowed to not like the scars and extra skin. I don't have to love it just because of what I or anyone else has been through.
And beyond that (as much as I do not want to be on the OP's team for anything), the point of the thread is to love your post-baby body because of what it represents. It's a celebration of the life that was created, not a lot of 'skinny girls winning [sp]'.

I'm not saying anyone has to like it. All I can do is look at things from my perspective. And yes that blog post was ridiculous. So sorry but I'm still going to roll my eyes at a blog from a skinny girl talking about loving a few marks on her.

laurakaz13 · January 2014

FFS, this is not an article. It's a blog post. However, I'm a skinny girl and probably have the best body of my life right now. I had a horrible time getting back into shape and hated my post-baby body. It took a lot of work and I was really upset about it for a while. Should I just keep quiet b/c I'm not overweight? NO!!!!! I have every right to bitch about it.

Yes, even thin women have every right to bitch about their post-baby bodies.

Meery82 · January 2014

KimZach2013 said:

I just have to say...I found out at a new year's party from other wives that some skanky hoe who works with our husband's made a comment about us getting pregnant...why would you want to do that, it will ruin your life. Um can you say bitch?!

Good thing she feels that way. It's probably best that she doesn't procreate.

MrsFig85 · January 2014

Erica314 said:

Empireceo said:

This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible. My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.

Whoa, inappropriate much! I probably would have bitten my tongue and broke my fingers in order to not respond to that one.

Meery82 · January 2014

KimZach2013 said:

@meery82 I've yet meet her yet and cant say I'm looking forward to it. Apparently she told my hubby while he was on FTO that the lt probably only let him do 2 days with her because he is good looking. And also willingly tells everyone that the reason she is such a hoe is because she used to be heavy so now she is making up for lost time...needless to say I dont care to.meet her, ever.

Wow. So gross.

thetwinsmama · January 2014

Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.

That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.

OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.

JocelynB0911 · January 2014

AFwifelife said:

Oh @afwifelife, you're telling me that you don't puke rainbows and shit glitter? Am i the only one who feels like we need to coddle the newbies?! What is this world coming to?!!!!!!!!????!?

For serious though, op is an entitled brat. I wish these white knights or as I like to call them, captain save a ho, would quit trying to be the first one to make us see our evil ways and play nice. Ain't gonna happen.

Empireceo · January 2014

thetwinsmama said:

Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.

That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.

OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.

People who talk like this give me the runs.

beemaya83 · January 2014

I was sitting next to my husband as I was reading this...he turned and asked "what's wrong"...I was wiping some tears....love this!

Meery82 · January 2014

thetwinsmama said:
Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.

That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.

OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.

Oh STFU already. Could you possibly be any more annoying and wrong?

Twinkie0612 · January 2014

thetwinsmama said:

Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart.

That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy.

OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity? Promote positivity and cast down negativity.

I think that you are under the impression that support = puking rainbows and farting glitter on everyone. I think being realistic does a lot more good and is much more supportive.

Example: Women that think morning sickness is a free pass to do nothing at work. The women here will tell them to suck it up or take a sick day. I'm sure morning sickness sucks balls (I never made it that far in my one and only pregnancy), but your job pays you to work. I've had to drag my happy ass to work when I felt like crap from the fertility meds, it sucks but you gotta do what it takes to get the job done. Would it be better to give responses like "oh your boss is such a meanie head! How can he expect you to work while growing a new life!" No, because it's better for the poster to get out of lala land and into the real world where everything is not puppies and rainbows.

Now I have stayed out of the "baby ruined my body" "stretch marks are a badge of honor" issue, but here is my two cents. The post was over the top and sounds like the blogger was overcompensating, like she is forcing herself to prove that she loves her body and that the person who told her she would ruin her body was wrong. It's great that she loves her post baby body, but not everyone does. She acts like a baby should make your insecurities about your body better, which for most women it doesn't.

I also didn't like the line about how she grew a baby in her body and not everyone can do that. It makes her sound like she is somehow better than the infertile woman that can't have her own children and is insulting to the infertility community (or at least it is to me).

In the end stretch marks are stretch marks. They suck and if given a choice, I don't know any women that wouldn't get rid of hers in a heartbeat. I have done 2 (working on 3) rounds of IVF since August and have gained a good 20 lbs because if it. This weight gain has resulted in some new stretch marks. Do I walk around calling them "badges of honor in my infertility journey?" No. They are just stretch marks. While I don't regret any of the treatments that gave me the stretch marks, they still suck.

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