Ok I just read all the replies. For whoever said something about me spreading my legs I would like for you to know my HUSBAND and I created our child thru making love. I would not use ivf or any other stuff like that to conceive. A true miracle is a child created thru a husband and wifes passion for each other not in a lab. I'm sorry but I do not feel its right.
Hi! Popping in from July14 because news about evil cunts spreads fast! (Hey mods, I'm not calling anyone in PARTICULAR an evil cunt. Just stating that I heard there might be one over on August14).
Anyhoo...@ladyabagail this is usually reserved for BSC posters to say, but I truly do feel sorry for your future child. I hope your SIL is smart enough to keep her beloved child far away from your judgemental, ignorant, narcissistic, evil "values". Let me guess, gays shouldn't get married or have children either, right? Doctors who perform abortions deserve to be blown up? Please share, what other enlightened opinions do you possess?
I hope you enjoyed your brief stay here on TB, because you will never be welcomed on ANY board here ever again. Like I said, shit spreads fast. Also, fuck you.
Another person from Jul-14 saying "Whatup bitches!!"
The "right time" could be when they can afford the THOUSANDS AND THOUSANDS of dollars that it takes to go through IVF, not to mention all the heartache hoping that it sticks (which I think is actually their body not rejecting if I understand correctly).
I'm pretty sure that people don't go to IVF as the first step, so also assuming that they tried very "passionately" multiple times before going to that, and going through something like IVF (no, I haven't) I would think requires a lot of love and sacrifice to be willing to do.
That being said, I'm "totes" sure that your SIL chose to have IVF the same time you decided to have your hus blow his load in you just to steal the spotlight from you.
We all are able to have are on values and beliefs mine happen to be more traditional. I'm not the only person that doesn't agree with artificial pregnancy methods. I may be only 18 but I'm handling this a lot more maturely than many of you who are calling me names and throwing insults. Who needs to grow up now?
Every name you were called you deserve. Right along with a good 'ol throat punch & cunt punt.
Taking sperm from a cup and mixing it with an egg by a lab is not at all the same as a married couple creating a child by making love. Children will come into a marriage when the time is right, you shouldn't bring in stuff that is not supposed to happen like ivf. That is just how I feel nothing anyone says will change that. Children should be created in a marriage naturally .
Oh my. I wonder how you feel about my big ol' lezzzzzzzzzzzzbian ass making a baby through donor sperm and IUI.
I just can't get excited about artificial or ivf pregnancies. My sil did ivf and announced her pregnancy right after we announced. Now the whole family is acting like this is such a blessed miracle. Nope, not a miracle just an act of science. We created our baby thru love and noone seems to care now that sil has her science baby on the way.
Is this real life????? I just can't believe people like this actually exist...
On the off-chance that this isn't MUD, I'd blame it on OP being 18 and too effing young to get knocked up, but my 18-year-old sister would make 100x the mom this peach will be...
Also, OMG, imagine being her SIL... Makes my MIL drama look like kittens crapping rainbows.
BFP #1: EDD 8/29/11, MMC 1/14/11. BFP #2: Damien Isaac born 12/16/11. BFP #3: Rowen Cole born 7/28/14. BFP #4: EDD 9/16/16.
Taking sperm from a cup and mixing it with an egg by a lab is not at all the same as a married couple creating a child by making love. Children will come into a marriage when the time is right, you shouldn't bring in stuff that is not supposed to happen like ivf. That is just how I feel nothing anyone says will change that. Children should be created in a marriage naturally .
So @ladyabagail could you please tell me what you plan to do if something terrible happens with your pregnancy and it would take medical intervention to save the baby? Since you're so against science and all, how do you feel about taking advantage of science if that baby you created through "love" wasn't going to make it? I mean, that would mean the time just wasn't right, is that what you're saying?
Andplusalso, go fuck yourself.
Son: Jackson, 11/02/06, stillborn due to PPROM and IUGR. Over the next ten years we had 9 miscarriages from 8-14 weeks. On May 18, 2016 my daughter, Ridley, was born. We're OADNBC.
Taking sperm from a cup and mixing it with an egg by a lab is not at all the same as a married couple creating a child by making love. Children will come into a marriage when the time is right, you shouldn't bring in stuff that is not supposed to happen like ivf. That is just how I feel nothing anyone says will change that. Children should be created in a marriage naturally .
Rock on, cum dumpster. Your prom night dumpster baby is so much more special than the one they tried for and had to seek help to conceive. Good job, give yourself a pat on the back.
Taking sperm from a cup and mixing it with an egg by a lab is not at all the same as a married couple creating a child by making love. Children will come into a marriage when the time is right, you shouldn't bring in stuff that is not supposed to happen like ivf. That is just how I feel nothing anyone says will change that. Children should be created in a marriage naturally .
The more you talk the more you sound like an ignorant, douchy, selfish asshole. That is just how I feel and nothing you say will change that. Go fuck yourself.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38 Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
I will be praying for you and your "love" child, because this is just pitiful. I'm kind of glad that they are more excited for SIL. Normally, no, I wouldn't be for the bias. But your kind of attitude does not need to be applauded or fueled any more so than what it is. I REALLY REALLY hope you don't require a CS or any other critical medical intervention. You would be totally screwed with that way of thinking. I guarantee you it requires a lot more love and devotion to spend so much time and money on trying and failing to make a baby. Have you even thought about what they must have gone through trying to create this baby? If they have had even the first loss, then I applaud them for getting back on the horse and paying so much money to try again knowing that they could fail.
Please, seriously think about what you are saying and what others are trying to get across to you. Your views and opinions are disgusting to say the least.
We all are able to have are on values and beliefs mine happen to be more traditional. I'm not the only person that doesn't agree with artificial pregnancy methods. I may be only 18 but I'm handling this a lot more maturely than many of you who are calling me names and throwing insults. Who needs to grow up now?
"Traditional" does not exist.
Somewhere, somebody made up that families are made when a husband and wife get married, have boring missonary sex, have 2 children and a white picket fence and a golden retriever.
That has never been a norm, nor will it ever be.
Families are made in hundreds of wonderful different ways.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
Hi! I'm pregnant with my "science baby". Over the years of tears, frustration, pain, and financial strain, I always told myself that I would never wish infertility on my worst enemy.
Starting to rethink that position...
@ladyabagail - grow the fuck up. Yes. You now have to share your spotlight with someone else. Big whoop.
We all are able to have are on values and beliefs mine happen to be more traditional. I'm not the only person that doesn't agree with artificial pregnancy methods. I may be only 18 but I'm handling this a lot more maturely than many of you who are calling me names and throwing insults. Who needs to grow up now?
"Traditional" does not exist.
Somewhere, somebody made up that families are made when a husband and wife get married, have boring missonary sex, have 2 children and a white picket fence and a golden retriever.
That has never been a norm, nor will it ever be.
Families are made in hundreds of wonderful different ways.
ok... so my dog is half golden, and we're missing a white picket fence.... oh shit, am I boring.
*SIGGY* Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19" #2 due Christmas 2016.
I never fall unless I'm trying something stupid (which I will not this year). I refuse to miss an entire year and I think I'm pretty safe when the baby is all tucked away in there.
@coleyj88 good for you! I've been skiing 3 times since the BFP, heading up again on Sunday. I know it's not officially recommended, but I've been skiing since I was 2, raced for 14+ years, and know my limits. I find it really helps with nausea and it's just a good way for me to get exercise. FWIW, I did make the mistake of getting a bit too dehydrated/ overheated my first day, and felt really lousy. I took a break in the lodge, drank a bunch of water, ate a snack and felt much better after that. Have fun (and watch out for all of the crazy out of control skiers/ riders, especially on cat tracks!).
ladyabagail is hurt about having to share her spotlight with her SIL. That's fine, but don't blame it on IVF- your miracle is not any better than hers. Some unsolicited advice- get over your anger about spotlight sharing and embrace the fact that you'll be pregnant together and will have children the same age. My baby will be the youngest (by far) of all the kids in our extended family, which will be fine, but I will say- I'd be so happy if my baby was going to have a cousin the same age.
2) PETA. I got my hands on some PETA propaganda in the 5th grade and it impacted me so much that I became a young vegetarian activist (and definitely drove my parents crazy). While I credit them for shocking me into a bit of awareness at the time, they totally and completely suck now. Did you all read about how they were caught with hundreds of dead cats and dogs they were not able to adopt? Disgusting.
3) Crispin reminds me of this childhood book I adored, Crispin's Crispian. Crispin's Crispian was a dog who belonged to himself. Loved the book, but probably wouldn't name my kid that because of my association with an adorable big shaggy dog.
::lurking the drama on this thread::
@meggyski I just had to say I love you on all three points!
I'm sorry but I just have to believe that @ladyabagail is a joke. She has no other posts except this thread, no avatar, and no siggy. If you've created her for drama's sake, perhaps make that you're FFFC!
Hi from June 14. Just wanted to share my love to you ladies! Keep it up sistas!!!!
Also, to the Traditional Lady Princess, I think you should share that view on some of the other boards.... They're probably more tolerant and "traditional" than this one. Matter of fact, you should try it on our board.... I bet our ladies would LOVE this discussion
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sept 14 board caught wind. run girl. just go run and hide. you don't mess with women whose hormones are at an all time high. i wish you luck.
I'm not hormonal. I'm not even pregnant, I just heard about this shit show through the grape vine. You can still take offense to ignorant minded children with your average non-pregnancy brain.
I'm sorry but I just have to believe that @ladyabagail is a joke. She has no other posts except this thread, no avatar, and no siggy. If you've created her for drama's sake, perhaps make that you're FFFC!
Not true, she introed and has had a few other posts.
I stand corrected! it was too horrible to be believed
Hi from July 14. @ladyabagail- I want to meet your SIL and give her a giant hug to congratulate her not only on her miracle baby, but for having to put up with IF and you.
After being told my whole life that I may never be able to have a child, the first one was conceived by charting, peeing on things all. day. every. day, very scheduled sex, and I can assure you we were in no way making love. My vagina was nothing more than a specimen cup by the time we were able to conceive.
#2? I'm housing a fireball whiskey baby in my ute.
You are one of the biggest pieces of shit I've ever had the displeasure of coming across. Even if you are MUD, the fact that you thought something like that would ever be appropriate to say? Go. Fuck. Yourself (out of love of course).
PS- you spelled your name wrong.
*TW* Losses Mentioned 9.6.12 - Crazy J entered the world 4.30.14 - Sweet Angel Micah John lost to T18 at 7 months pregnant 2.8.16 Miscarriage at 6 weeks 4.30.16 BFP *stick baby stick*
@ladyabagail your telling me if you and dh tried 20+years and still couldn't get pregnant you would just think it wasn't your time yet? No you would go to the doctors crying and beg them to help you. You stupid stupid whore your poor unborn child. I would hate to have an you as a mother. I hope your sister in law knows how much of a bitch you at and never let's you see your niece and nephew. And I hope your inlaws find out how you feel and disown you. How embarrassing. You are a worthless pos. people who get ivf care so much they go through every measure they can to have a baby. Some struggle emotionally as well as take their life savings in order to create that baby. That is love. Love for each other and love for that baby. You honey r just a bitch.
I just can't get excited about artificial or ivf pregnancies. My sil did ivf and announced her pregnancy right after we announced. Now the whole family is acting like this is such a blessed miracle. Nope, not a miracle just an act of science. We created our baby thru love and noone seems to care now that sil has her science baby on the way.
You CAN. NOT. BE. SERIOUS. You sound like an immature, uneducated bitch to me. Go find another board with people with your "values" and leave us and science projects alone.
I had everything all figured out at 18 too...
I can't imagine minimizing the heartache, pain, and struggle that many women have gone through to have a child. A little dose of empathy would've gone a long way around here.
Hi Sep 14 here- just wanna point out that obviously your SIL didn't steal your thunder- it was the other way around...IVF means shes probably been trying for awhile now, so i'm guessing you knew? and started trying as well? and now accuse her of stealing your thunder because you happen to have it easy? you are a disgusting person- obviously you don't know what it is like to struggle to get pregnant since you are EIGHTEEN! I wish your SIL all the H &H these next few months, shes gonna need it.
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
What? This doesn't come close to making logical sense.
ETA: I don't think logical sense is an actual term, but I'm leaving it.
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There is a huuuuuuge difference between being 18, knowing exactly how the world should work, and having your own beliefs...and sharing those beliefs (which I COMPLETELY disagree with) with a board full of women who you must know will be hurt by your beliefs and who will disagree with you. You want your own beliefs? Fine, go for it, you're entitled even if they are awful. However, there is ZERO chance that you had no idea that you would seriously hurt people by posting this. That's worse than your beliefs. Keep your judgmental, awful beliefs to yourself in the future. K?
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
What? This doesn't come close to making logical sense.
ETA: I don't think logical sense is an actual term, but I'm leaving it.
Makes sense to me...but then again we are supposed to confess here. Not all agree.
If that's what you choose to do, good for you. I just think there was something very beautiful about the way people used to meet and get to know each other before they sat behind a computer screen.
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
Wrong and wrong. Online dating is very much like in-person dating except you get their bio online versus from a friend of from their mouth directly.
I'm assuming, of course, that you had no help while dating...no one ever set you up or introduced you to anyone...because well, that would not be hard work either.
Sorry, I just didn't want to find my husband by lurking the local bars and taverns...I am very in much with the man I met online FOUR years ago!
I didn't realize people get married once they find someone online. If that was true I wouldn't have dated my husband for 7.5 years before we got married. I would have just read his college basketball bio.
I'm pretty sure all the "hard work" starts once they meet and decide to date. Just like everyone else.
@ladyabagail: I've spent far too much time trying to figure out what to say to you without getting banned, but it comes down to this. No one ever got pregnant by accident through IUI/IVF. Every single baby conceived that way is a miracle and loved long before it was ever conceived. So, while you're sitting there with your "conceived through love" baby, just know that my husband and I have been trying to get there since you were just learning how to drive. And since I can't just leave it at that - fuck you.
I knew I should have left this thread. @adriennevazquez: You know what, fuck you too. Marriage is hard work and dedication and it took me years - YEARS - to meet my husband online. Your stupid opinion is why people lie about meeting online. Starting a marriage reading a bio online isn't hard? Neither is starting a relationship at a bar with a beer.
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
Okay no idea if this is a joke or not, but after being seriously down over the ivf talk since I am currently pregnant with two science babies, this made me smile, so thank you
I didn't realize people get married once they find someone online. If that was true I wouldn't have dated my husband for 7.5 years before we got married. I would have just read his college basketball bio.
I'm pretty sure all the "hard work" starts once they meet and decide to date. Just like everyone else.
Man, I know. My husband and I wasted a lot of time too! If only I knew this protocol before hand... Duh. Hahahaha... Some people! SMH!
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
Wrong and wrong. Online dating is very much like in-person dating except you get their bio online versus from a friend of from their mouth directly.
I'm assuming, of course, that you had no help while dating...no one ever set you up or introduced you to anyone...because well, that would not be hard work either.
Sorry, I just didn't want to find my husband by lurking the local bars and taverns...I am very in much with the man I met online FOUR years ago!
I didn't find my husband in a bar and I didn't find him from someone setting me up.
I understand the not wanting to find my husband in a bar mentality, have heard it before...then don't look for your husband at a bar. There are plenty other places to find someone.
I think online dating us BULLSHIT. Go out and struggle to get to know someone the hard way instead of reading a Bio and having people do the hard work for you. I am aware that this is an ever growing trend and I just think it's silly.
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
I met my husband pre-online dating days so I have not dog in this fight BUT- I watch my friends who are dating and trying to find that person and online dating has made it FREAKING HARD to meet someone the old school way! She is such a social person but now that people have the ability to read those bios and skip some of the awkward questions face to face.... people like that ability to hide behind the computer screen until they have to get uncomfortable.
So as much as I would say that face to face meeting would be maybe a more ideal way to meet people, now that online dating is around it is extremely hard to do that because the convenience people find in it is there.
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The "right time" could be when they can afford the THOUSANDS AND THOUSANDS of dollars that it takes to go through IVF, not to mention all the heartache hoping that it sticks (which I think is actually their body not rejecting if I understand correctly).
I'm pretty sure that people don't go to IVF as the first step, so also assuming that they tried very "passionately" multiple times before going to that, and going through something like IVF (no, I haven't) I would think requires a lot of love and sacrifice to be willing to do.
That being said, I'm "totes" sure that your SIL chose to have IVF the same time you decided to have your hus blow his load in you just to steal the spotlight from you.
XOXO.
On the off-chance that this isn't MUD, I'd blame it on OP being 18 and too effing young to get knocked up, but my 18-year-old sister would make 100x the mom this peach will be...
Also, OMG, imagine being her SIL... Makes my MIL drama look like kittens crapping rainbows.
Andplusalso, go fuck yourself.
Rock on, cum dumpster. Your prom night dumpster baby is so much more special than the one they tried for and had to seek help to conceive. Good job, give yourself a pat on the back.
The more you talk the more you sound like an ignorant, douchy, selfish asshole. That is just how I feel and nothing you say will change that. Go fuck yourself.
TTC since August 2011, Me = 40, DH = 38
Unexplained IF. Tried Clomid for 3 cycles. All BFNs. BFP 1/6/13. Chemical pregnancy.
Moving on to IVF#1. ER 11/26/13, 16 eggs retreived, 12 mature and all fertilized. 2 blasts transferred on 12/1. All other embies arrested so nothing left to freeze. Beta 12/10 = BFN. IVF #2 March 2014. BFP!!! TEAM BLUE!!!
You go @Salsera29! I knew I loved you!
I will be praying for you and your "love" child, because this is just pitiful. I'm kind of glad that they are more excited for SIL. Normally, no, I wouldn't be for the bias. But your kind of attitude does not need to be applauded or fueled any more so than what it is.
I REALLY REALLY hope you don't require a CS or any other critical medical intervention. You would be totally screwed with that way of thinking. I guarantee you it requires a lot more love and devotion to spend so much time and money on trying and failing to make a baby. Have you even thought about what they must have gone through trying to create this baby? If they have had even the first loss, then I applaud them for getting back on the horse and paying so much money to try again knowing that they could fail.
Please, seriously think about what you are saying and what others are trying to get across to you. Your views and opinions are disgusting to say the least.
"Traditional" does not exist.
Somewhere, somebody made up that families are made when a husband and wife get married, have boring missonary sex, have 2 children and a white picket fence and a golden retriever.
That has never been a norm, nor will it ever be.
Families are made in hundreds of wonderful different ways.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
Also, just curious @ladyabigail - does your SIL have an account on here? I'd love to be her friend!!
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
@meggyski I just had to say I love you on all three points!
*back to reading*
Hiiii! Just lurking from June 14.
Just wanted to pop in and say we are really enjoying this twatwaffle you've got over here. And I thought we had some hateful bitches...
Also, to the Traditional Lady Princess, I think you should share that view on some of the other boards.... They're probably more tolerant and "traditional" than this one. Matter of fact, you should try it on our board.... I bet our ladies would LOVE this discussion
9.6.12 - Crazy J entered the world
4.30.14 - Sweet Angel Micah John lost to T18 at 7 months pregnant
2.8.16 Miscarriage at 6 weeks
4.30.16 BFP *stick baby stick*
BFP 1/4/2014 EDD September 14 2014
Marriage is hard work and dedication. Starting a marriage reading a bio online is not hard and doesn't require any dedication.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Makes sense to me...but then again we are supposed to confess here. Not all agree.
If that's what you choose to do, good for you. I just think there was something very beautiful about the way people used to meet and get to know each other before they sat behind a computer screen.
I'm pretty sure all the "hard work" starts once they meet and decide to date. Just like everyone else.
I knew I should have left this thread.
@adriennevazquez: You know what, fuck you too. Marriage is hard work and dedication and it took me years - YEARS - to meet my husband online. Your stupid opinion is why people lie about meeting online. Starting a marriage reading a bio online isn't hard? Neither is starting a relationship at a bar with a beer.
April 2013: Femara + Trigger + IUI = ???
I didn't find my husband in a bar and I didn't find him from someone setting me up.
I understand the not wanting to find my husband in a bar mentality, have heard it before...then don't look for your husband at a bar. There are plenty other places to find someone.
I watch my friends who are dating and trying to find that person and online dating has made it FREAKING HARD to meet someone the old school way! She is such a social person but now that people have the ability to read those bios and skip some of the awkward questions face to face.... people like that ability to hide behind the computer screen until they have to get uncomfortable.
So as much as I would say that face to face meeting would be maybe a more ideal way to meet people, now that online dating is around it is extremely hard to do that because the convenience people find in it is there.
I COMPLETELY agree with this.